- 69 years old
- Date of birth: Jan 12, 1943
- Place of birth:
Oakland, California, United States
- Date of passing: Oct 8, 2012
- Place of passing:
Santa Rosa, California, United States
|~ Now Jerry is finally free for limitless travel ~|
**We finally have made copies of Jerry's Journey DVD!***This movie was made by Kevin Hoy for our Celebration of Jerry's life, October, 2012. He used some of Jerry's writings, photos and favorite music. Please send your mailing address if you'd like to receive a copy from Susan @ firstname.lastname@example.org
Jerry Hoy, a lifelong world traveler, began his last journey surrounded by a circle of friends and family and left at sunset on October 8th, 2012.
* One year later dedication to Jerry from his good friend-Nancy (just added)
* Please visit 'his life' for a special tribute, composed by his sister, Susan.*
Still miss you.. Terrace Dr. is not the same without you. I do see your house once in a while - Beverly is taking good care of it. But just not the same...
You are still in my thoughts and forever missed,"
Miss you so much. Would love to see your "little face". My love is with you and I know yours with me. A big hug.
"Four years and so present among us. Jerry you are a very special person for your relatives, for your friends. On July 23th 2012 I had the chance to save one of your voice message on my computer which I listen often. This is my little candy from you for ever. Love"
"Four years later and I still have to remind myself sometimes that you're gone. Although, I subconsciously feel that you've never left. You continue to protect our family and work your magic in mysterious ways from the great beyond. I will never truly let you go. This life is but a temporary train stop in the grand scheme of things. One day, I will arrive at your station and that will certainly be a very joyous occasion.
Love always and forever, Your Bitsy"
"A big HELLO to all of Jerry's friends. Sure wish I could have met you and shared good times."
"Thinking about you at impromptu moments: a spreading sunset, the quiet of walking alone in the woods, the smell of summer as it basks in sunshine. Our one season too short made such an impression so very, very long ago. Why does it not disappear from memory? Things that are golden are not supposed to last."
I miss you so much! Since you have been gone I take no vacations. I have built up over 400 hours! If I can't go with my buddy, I don't go."
"A candle for your birthday today on my window so you can see it among all the candles in Paris.. The flame is still as vivid as during all these years we spend exchanging by phone or meeting places. I miss my Leader . Love, Andrée"
Sure do miss you. So many times I want to call and speak with you. You are, however, in my heart forever and hope you are smiling down on all of us whose lives you touched.
All my love, Lo"
"Our dearest friend, happy 73rd birthday! Here Dan and I are in Puerto Vallarto, talking about you a lot. Tonight we're going to your and our favorite restaurant Barcelona and sing happy birthday to you because we know you love that. Wish you were here so Dan would have someone to play scrabble and cards with and you could yell at me to get out of your kitchen. Oh how we miss you."
"You are always in my heart and especially on a special day I listen to the songs, read the tributes and the memory is even so much clearer to me. I love you Jerry with all my heart and am forever grateful that I met you on that Ferry crossing to Isla Mujeres so many years ago. R.I.P. Jerry Hoy!"
Remembering you today. Rest in Peace.
"Hi Jerry, late to send a sign; thinking so much about you, you are so present for me. Besitos"
"Thank you my dear friend for giving me so many wonderful memories. I love and miss you so much. You are truly one of my best friends that I know loved me unconditionally. Hope you are having a great journey my Jerrycherry!"
"Remembering you today Jerry, and your spectacular send off at sunset.
You were surrounded by loving friends and family. I was rushing back to the hospital from Sacramento, Suddenly I felt your presence and peace which stopped my crying. Jerry, you were with me in that moment and you let me know you were fine. Then I felt your unconditional love beside me. Together we drove into a spectacular sunset as we crossed the bridge into Sonoma county. Jerry, it's been three years but you remain close in my heart and happiest memories. Much love always,"
You are still so vivid in my mind and I miss your "little voice". Hope you are happy and watching over your family and friends who love you so much.
"Jerry's constant and abiding gift to others is to ALWAYS make them feel welcomed and the center of attention. His interest and compassion is such a huge blessing in my life. His life travels have blessed him with a clear understanding of himself, so he is entirely comfortable in his own skin. This in turn, allows all of us to connect so deeply with him; never a hint of fences or barriers. The kindness of your huge bonsai plant gift has kept you close, my friend; when i am near it i can hear your sweet words, and it seems you hear mine. You never really left, Jer .............whoopeeee!!"
"My travel buddy....miss you so much!"
It's just not the same without you - i still miss our mornings in your warm room drinking my tea and visiting with you. You were one of my few best friends -
Miss you always,
"Jerry--I miss you so much. You were my traveling buddy. Haven't traveled much since you left my friend. Love you!"
"Few days ago I thought to drop a comic wink like "if you were overhere Jerry, I would treat you with a huge cake like in Zacatecas with lots of goodies over for your birthday and then the sky got clouded here and I lost some time my train of thought, but I will never forget you mon ami whatever happen."
Hope where you are you are celebrating your new life. I miss you with all my heart. Looking forward to spending time with Susan and family tomorrow and reminiscing about our times together with you. Loving you forever. Lo"
"His family is celebrating Jerry's birthday together in San Francisco.
Jerry loved this city and introduced us to his favorite restaurants here
in the city. Jerry was often traveling to warmer places on
his birthday. But when he was in country we'd celebrate
together and gather the family at one of his favorite
places in SF. Today we'll remember and share our memories
of our brother, uncle, uncle in law, great uncle and unforgettable friend."
"Mr. Tom James put things quite stupendously!
Seeing these tributes gives me an amazing perspective as to the depth that Jerry enriched the lives of those around him and in his inner circle. Jerry truly was and still is an inspiration for aspiration.
Jerry inspired me personally to expand upon myself and evolve. Every time we came to visit him in the fog among the trees, I felt at home, welcomed and loved.
I, along with countless others miss him greatly. I too hope to see him when its my turn to ascend."
"January 12, 1971 was an eventful day for me. It was the moment that my newly acquired roommate, Ike McDonald, introduced me to the Fell Street family. Jerry met me at the top of the stairs with a warm hug. I remember he smelled of patchouli scented soap and was wearing a soft flannel shirt with a beaded necklace around his neck. His long brown hair felt nice on the side of my face and as he stood back to evaluate me, I was captivated by his soft, shy, brown eyes, especially the way they turned into little smiles when he chuckled. He made the comment that I was his birthday present, and this unexpected testimonial put me at ease and made me feel welcome and special. Over the course of 11 months we shared countless wonderful experiences on a landscape colored with the vistas of RCA Beach, (my first mescaline), Amsterdam, Barcelona, Formentara and Tenerife, Canary Islands. My life was forever changed by the love and gentle guidance that Jerry so graciously gave, and that love -- though obscured by the lens of time -- has never diminished, never failed, and it is my hope that when I am called to step through the door I will find him there waiting for me."
"My dear friend; I miss you so much. You were the best traveling companion I have had in my lifetime. Rest in peace my wonderful friend."
Yesterday morning I scattered some of your ashes in a small redwood grove above our road. So part of you will always be here on Terrace Dr. and always in my heart.
I miss you!
"Thinking about you this evening on the anniversary of your passing and wishing you were still with us, as usual. We love you dearly and know you're spirit still lingers from time to time. Your charm, wit, and amazing sense of humor is forever ingrained in my life and in the lives of many others..
With love your,
"Jerry, my friend, the 'little voice' as you always call me is whispering how much missing you are. Love for ever. Today your bell rang."
"Hey, Ger, it's Lo. I miss you all the time my dear friend. No one can fill the space you hold in my heart and always will. I can still hear you saying, "Hey, Lo".... Sure hope wherever you are you are traveling with Michael and other friends and are happy. Love you forever, Lo"
"Our lunch at The Tides (Sandpiper) was a really special treat. Never thought I'd see Bodega Bay, but you made it happen. Now, when I watch The Birds I remember that day and can see you at the table sipping wine with your grilled salmon. Sure wish there could have been more dinners like that one."
"longtime friends of Jerry, Philip and I were traveling in the footsteps of Jerry last October in Sicily. A Agrigento, Taormina and Mount Etna we lit candles to honor this love of travel that has instilled in us and brings us back to him at every moment. this January 12th is a very special day with much love from us."
"Still travelin' with you each and every day, Jer. One thing we still need to do is catch a ride north on one of those boxcars roll thru town. Just us two hobos. Looking forward to that. In the meantime, rest well my Sweet Prince. And HAPPY BIRTHDAY, you little rascal. Your friends forever, Jake & Cuong"
Thinking of you today. Wishing so much you were here as I miss you sooo much, especially since I won't hear your "little voice" in person again. I hear it in my mind, though. What a beautiful day on Mt. Tam with Susan, Mike, Linda, Byron and Nancy. Loving you always, Lo"
"I still miss my dear friend so much. We traveled together extensively throughout the world. Jerry was the best traveling companion I ever had in my lifetime. Jerry--I haven't traveled much since you left us. Rest in peach dear friend."
"Missing you, knowing the telephone rings silent because you are not here physically to call me. Yet, you remain in my heart as you have always since the day we met crossing on the ferry to Isla Mujeres. Love you Jerry forever."
"I still miss Jerry's e-mail's and pictures he used to send me here in the U.K. I can;t believe it is a whole year since his passing, wished I had got to know him better, I know he had a good sense of humour which was evident on the tour of California with him with Titan tours. He volunteered me to sing at a saloon and even had a poster made about it which he posted on the window of the bus"
"1 year ago, I lost the most precious man in my life (besides my husband).I added the song 'Silent Lucidity' to Jer's profile because it accurately reflects what this past year was like without him.He's for sure with us all,but it's still incredibly painful. I must APOLOGIZE to all of his amazing friends.I have neglected you from my own need to deny his passing.Please forgive me-Love, Bitsy"
"Jerry, almost a year already passed and you, still so present with us all. Tuesday your friend Philip and I will light a candle in Rome under the Great Cesar statue, just where you like to show on your picture when you travelled
As you always told us " I wish you were here ".
"I remember taking a trip to NYC with Jerry. He was in a wheel chair and didn't want to go. I talked him into it. It was the best vacation I ever had. I would wheel my dear friend through the streets of New York screaming "Fat Lady coming through" My dear friend that memory will be with me forever!"
"Jerry my friend . We have know each other since Fell and Gough St. in San Francisco. I will miss our conversations through the years . My Ole Friend ..... Farewell , but always in my thoughts... Rest now ."
"I am from the U.K. and I met Jerry in 2004 on a Titan tour of California which was one of the best holidays I had been on. This was down to Jerry who was very friendly, full of fun and a wicked sense of humour. As a result we became friends and exchanged e-mail addresses so we could keep in touch. I wish we could have met up again. I miss his friendship and send my love to a lovely man."
"Dear Cousin Jerry: We had so many conversations over the years, each October just before the Family Cousin Reunion, I would call to encourage you to come to our reunion. In 2009, you chose to come to the one in Mojave, CA! Ironically it was to memorialize your own Uncle George Rutan. At last we met as adults. My father insisted that we had met as young children! You were/are so sweet!"
"My sweet Uncle Jer (Eggs), It's incredibly difficult to come to terms with the fact that you're gone.You never had children of your own & as a young child I didn't have a dad,so we filled voids in each others lives. Thank you for gifting us, your family, with your wonderful array of friends-I can't wait to learn more about you through them. I'll love you forever & will miss you for always!"
"Oh Jerry, you said so often ""I wish you were here"",
today I'm way too far but so much in spirit with your Family and your so loving Friends. Hope to meet you again in Heaven and until then, rest in peace. Love"
"My wonderful, memorable big brother, you have left many memories with me, so many fun times over all the years. Riding horses as kids, even once in more recent years, the trips down the river, and the family reunions. I know you continue to be surrounded by loved ones, on both sides of life, and know you are enjoying your journey."
"One of the fondest and most adventurous memories that I have ever had in my life was with Jerry. My brother, Lee, and the rest of the Hoy family drove down to Panama in Jerry’s VW bus in the 60’s. We had so many exciting experiences on the way down and also on the way back when we came back to California on a Japanese Freighter Ship. Jerry was the catalyst that helped provide this first opport"
"I dreamed of Jerry last night! He was serving all of us a delicious dinner. He looked young and sexy- just like he was when I first met him. He told me that he felt like a million dollars! So I know he's okay! What a blessing to have 30+ years with such a rich sparkling vibrant gem of a rascal! A truer friend can never be found! Love you Jerry 0x0x"
"Jerry, you are with me every day, in my speech patterns (how rude!) (Well I never!) I will miss your teasing, you jokes, your amazing understanding. I am typing through my tears because we are all being cheated of more years of your presence. But on a higher plane angels are laughing at your outrageous jokes. Repose in pacem, Jerry"
"When I think of Jerry, I think of the 60's, of civil rights demonstrations, of youth, and of a bunch of young people piling into his volkswagon bus for adventures around So Cal and into Baja.
Jerry, your youthful spirit, which you always kept, will be greatly missed."
"From our week-end together in Fresno back in '66, to the last time I saw you, this past January at Susan & Randy's P.S. rental, you've been THE GUY. A radiant heart, a true friend, and a wonderful storyteller. What a combination. I'll see you on the other side, my sardonic friend."
"This is from Dan Clark:
Another best friend gone. We met in the late 70's via Terry Deklotz. We traveled well together, usually with other people. Probably 15 times - Brazil, Thailand, Mexico, France, India, . . . others? We had some great times. Thanks for you friendship Jerry."
"My husband, Haig Agigian and I adored Jerry. In the early ‘90s, we three traveled to Thailand together. World-class tour guide that he was, Jerry found a superb outfit to trek us among primitive hill tribes. He joked my fears away, chatted amiably during 12-mile slogs through sizzling bamboo forests, played endless multiple solitaire. He was the world’s best travel companion."
"Some of the best laughs I've had in this life have been with Jerry and friends. Just Lucky."
"From his Uncle Jack (as I am 99 days older) who always took grief during those days that Jerry was so much younger. We met in 1992 when a mutual friend was dying of AIDS and have been close friends ever since. Many great trips together, many zany nights spent in his enchanted hillside home. Now I'm truly grieving a great loss. Jerry, I guess you've found 'the answer.' Love always."
"My dear sweet fellow capricorney Jerr. You will be so missed and forever in my heart. He was always so delighted to hear from me. He had that special ability to make us all feel cherished. I knew Jerry from work and play for 30 years, and what a lot of laughs we had.he just did life so well. The world was a better place when Jerr was with us, and what a blessing to know him. Love you Jerr"
"I volunteered with Jerry for fifteen years giving out food to people in need. We shared an unshockable sensibility and both strove to cross the line whenever possible! I will miss his openness, his smiling face and his erotic tales from exotic locations. Jerry's departure from this world first will at best make our own demise less excruciating."
"ah, dear jerry...one of my favorite food faeries from the food bank...our paths had crossed in the 70's between the fell street 2020 commune and hunga dunga and our love of travel connected us even more...you will be missed, dear gentle soul...save a spot on the beach for me, jerry..see you on the other side..with great love and hugs, linda xoxox"
"I have only known Jerry for a few years, but I treasure those memories. He was a kind and gentle man, but ruthless when it came to playing our games: Upwords, Scrabble and Words with Friends. I am missing him so much."
"RIP Jerry! My tears are flowing because I've learned of the death of a friend who friendship I've cherished since we (as strangers) together took the only room left at The Perla (Isla Mujeres). We then traveled together throughout the Yucatan. There was an accident so Jerry went home but we've been friends ever since. I loved him as a true friend and I'll miss hearing his voice."
"My smiling gental traveler cosin Jerry. He was happy to go to and happy to be back from his travels to every corner imaginable. I always wonder what he was looking for or at, when he traveled, and when he got back did he see all off us differently. He lived and he let live and he did it well, he was a good example to all of us that knew him. Thanks. I wish him a happy trip see you soon."
"As his neice Carmel's husband, I've known Jerry for 14 years. From the moment I met him at his home, gently nestled in the redwood trees, I felt welcome and comfortable.
His kindness, open heart and adventurous stories never failed to leave a smile on my face. Although he has found peace, he is and will remain greatly missed."
"Jerry was my friend for almost 50 years. He lived life on it's own terms and accepted people as we were. I wonder what he is doing now. I imagine he continues to be amused by what he encounters and I hope he is with his loved ones who have passed. I hope to see him again. I love him finally for who he is."
"When I met Jerry, he swept me off my feet, and the world opened up to unbelievable possibilities. I was set free forever. Thank you deeply Jerry. You will always be a part of me you beautiful shining light."
"I always loved that you used to feign shock, even though you were unshockable! Thanks for all the great memories my sweet Jerry Cherry and your unconditional love. Your Polly Wolly.
Jerry was a working and traveling partner, close friend and confidant. We feel very lucky to have shared in his stories and unsurpassed sense of humor. Love you,Don"
"A few days ago thinking about Jerry and how much I admired him and was so grateful for his constant friendship - I realized how much he reminded me of my dad.... and the epitaph I put on my dads stone summed up what I feel about Jerry.
"A kind and giving man loved by all."
It's Lo. I am already missing you so much. Our 40-year relationship was one of the most important ones in my life. You taught me what unconditional love is, something I had not experienced until I met you and Michael. I will always carry you in my heart. I can still hear you saying, "It's good to hear your little voice". Hugs."
"Jerry brought nothing but joy to my life for the past 30 plus years. Working together, traveling together, dining together was always fun. I could sit for hours and listen to his stories, slightly embellished and always with a touch of naughtiness. Never knew what "mile high club" was before I met Jer. So blessed to have been his friend. xoxo"
"15th years of true friendship!
Jerry bring me so much thru our tours,our long phone calls, our mutual understanding. He opened me a new way of life, taugh me independance, introduce me to family and friends
I will never be thanking enough such Gentleman.
Aurevoir mon inoubliable ami."
"Ever a smile on his craggy face and in good cheer, Jerry is unique in my curmudgeon life. He made it seem easier…even in his last days when he would talk frankly about his pain and his end. He seemed to have no fear. He is a good model for me and I would imagine for us all ... in patience and in bravery. He lives in us all."
"Dearest Jerry, Thank you for being you, always sharing your cheerfulness and joy, it is a blessing to be in your company. I will always treasure the short but wonderful vacation that I had in New York thanks to your pleasant and jovial personality. Repose en paix mon cher ami."
"a gentle, mellow guy...will be missed by many."
"Jerry was a very special friend. we are so sorry he had such a sad short end to a terrific life."
"Jerry was a special friend. Sorry he had such a sad end to life full of adventure."
""We are all crosses of our parents and hippies in a tent". I never met Jerry's mother, but it's so obvious that she lived everyday in and through Jerry, to us. Their charm, zest, heartfelt deep love for others, and life itself, is a constant and abiding blessing to me. I am immensely proud to have you in my life, my friend."
"Jerry and I traveled extensively throughout the world. We had so much fun playing cards, laughing, visiting different places and so much more. What I wouldn't give for one more trip with Jerry. Rest in peace my dear friend. I miss you so much."
"Jerry- one of my first gay mentors, and a friendship that endured through the years. A truly, inspiring, amazingly generous spirit, who lived life to the fullest. Big Sur to Bombay to Bali - you embraced the world, thrived in culture. So many laughs, so many memories. Happy Trails my friend. Condolences and blessings to his family and friends. Your little Rascal, rosario!"
"My dear sweet Jerry. I will miss you so much. I cherish our times together through the many years from when I first met you and Michael on Fell Street, the Blake house, the redwood cabin, and up to the end. My love is with you always. Until we meet again. Love you."
"In 1971 Jerry & I became roommates, along with a joyous collection of life's adventurers, in an old San Francisco house built by an Italian immigrant family. We all became family and I count myself fortunate to have known him then, and to have reconnected with him in recent years. He's now free for limitless travel, and I send my love for his journey."
"The first time I met 'Uncle Jerry', I felt the most amazing light and acceptance his beautiful soul possessed. He made me feel like family; if Carmel loved me, it was all he needed to love me too. In the few times I spent time with Uncle Jerry, I walked away knowing this world was beautiful because of people like Gerald Hoy. Rest In Peace Dear Prince. I love you forevermore. <3 XO8• <3"
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