Greg at Aaron's Baptism Dinner
Greg McVay
  • 32 years old
  • Date of birth: Oct 15, 1953
  • Place of birth:
    Oskaloosa, Iowa, United States
  • Date of passing: Mar 2, 1986
  • Place of passing:
    Oskaloosa, Iowa, United States
"To live in hearts we leave behind, is not to die.
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Greg McVay, 32, born on October 15, 1953 and passed away on March 2, 1986. We will remember him forever.
Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 15th October 2016

"Happy 63rd Greg.  I am thinking of you today and missing you as always, but knowing that your spirit lives on inside those who loved you and who you loved.  I wish I could give you a card today that would make us both laugh.  Big hug to my big brother on his Birthday.  Somehow you still live in my world.  And that makes it easier."

This tribute was added by Elizabeth Fischinger on 3rd March 2016

"So many warm memories are flooding back to me!   I hope that your
journey home was a good journey.   We have missed you dear cousin, Greg.... Say hello to Sam & Marty AND my mom & dad..... see you
when it is my turn to walk that journey too.  I love you.... Beth"

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 2nd March 2016

"30 years.  I cannot believe it's been that long that you've been gone.  

I treasure every memory of you still.  
I think of your helping hands when things need repair.
I struggle for your steady nature when life is crazy.
I ponder your day to day life if you were still here.
I hang onto you when I feel life is too big.
I rest my head on your chest when I need family.
I remember your loving teasing when I feel alone.
I channel the feeling a gift from you gave.
I seek to reflect you when I catch myself failing.
I sense your calm in the midst of frenzy.
I center myself when your eyes see me.
I strive for your sense of friendship.
I keep in me your generosity.
I fill up from the love you still give.
I grieve for the moments missed.
I gleam with your humor and laugh.
I redeem myself reaching for your character.
I breathe in the earth and sky and stars and think of you.

I hold you in my heart forever.... still.

You affect me, teach me and guide me....still.
Thank you big brother.  I miss you... but mostly I remember you...still."

This tribute was added by Aaron McVay on 2nd March 2016

"I just realized (or maybe realized again) that I'm the same age as my dad when he passed away. That's pretty crazy."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 15th October 2015

"Happy Birthday Greg.   To celebrate, my first installment of old photos of you have been uploaded with more to come.   I'm digging through Mom and Dad's to dig up what I can find to add this's going to be 30 years that you've been gone soon and part of me can't believe it's been that long ago that I took my last photo of you out in the back yard at Mom and Dad's holding Aaron and watching the horses...just to give him some special time even though the rest of us were inside having family time. were out there spending a special moment with your son.   One of the many times you put your kids first, giving them what they needed to have the best 'life start'.   I watched you leave the house with him and followed you capture that moment....that decision...that part of who you were.  

And part of me aches because it's been so long since I have heard your voice, laughed with you, had 'Greg' Pizza with you....  But today, I celebrate your birth.  You were born and you lived and lived well.  And I won't forget you big brother.  You are in my heart and there you'll stay."

This tribute was added by Linda Smith on 15th October 2015

"Big brothers. They teach us so much. And while they might transform and leave us physically, they are always with us. We know they are here, not a big brother anymore, but still a protective guiding force in our lives. We will always be together. When my form changes, our two energies will continue to connect and recharge, side-by-side, leading and following in turn, the only permanence being love."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 23rd September 2015

"Thanks for sharing Aaron.  This is an excellent reminder to everyone who spent time with Greg that they can add photos anytime to this page.  Take those old paper photos out, take a picture of it with your digital camera and put it up here where we can all see it.  Greg's Birthday is coming up.  Let's see if we can add some more memories."

This tribute was added by Aaron McVay on 22nd September 2015

"Just thinking of Dad and wanted to browse the page again and say thanks to everyone who has visited and posted. I don't remember my dad at all so all I really have are memories that others have of him.
Thank you"

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 2nd March 2015

"Thank you Linda, my dear friend, for taking time to post this and  remember my brother today and for the kind comment.  It is always a time to reflect when the 2nd of March approaches.  I should probably remember Greg's Birthday more, but in truth, the day of his death is truly a celebration of his life for me.  I try not to dwell on the sadness of missing him, but on the great memories of him and the great gift of love that he gave to his wife, extended family, friends and most of all, his two sons.  I know that he would be so proud of both of them.  

Unconditional love.  I think in many ways I took that phrase for granted until so much of it left this earth for me.  Now, I can only cherish it and try not to live in regret.  ....and have the same unconditional love for those who are still here.  

Greg, you lived.  I won't let the memory of you die.  I promise."

This tribute was added by Linda Smith on 2nd March 2015

"My great friend Julie is in part the wonderful person she is because she had a big brother who loved her unconditionally. Julie, I wish you peace in your heart and the growing sense of Greg's presence there."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 2nd March 2014

"I am remembering you today Greg.  I remember you every day, but March 2nd is always a tough one.  It approaches with gathering malaise, each day in February draws this day more near.  I don't dread it, I don't wish it away....I only hold it shrouded like an old keepsake that only a few other people would ever be interested in.  Like a flurry of memory and sensation, the day comes and purges the bits of the day 28 years ago into my mind...what my will allows anyway.   It's passing brings this wistful bit of pain, but in so doing, brings your 'dash' of life to the forefront of my inner thoughts.  So, for this twinge, I trade the photographs in my mind...the glimpses of your smile, your laugh, your pride, your happiness and your love.  While I long for another time, I am grateful to remember them.   You live in my heart big brother."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 15th October 2013

"Happy Birthday Greg! The big 6-0!  Can't believe it.  I am getting older and I really wish you were here to see me age. I could poke fun of how you are still riding 4 wheelers and skiing at your age. Miss you Brother...Miss you.  I hope somehow you can hear me talk to you when I do.  It makes me feel better thinking that you can.  If you can, tell Mom and Dad I love them and miss them too."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 15th October 2012

"Happy Birthday Big Brother.  Remembering you today....and every day."

This tribute was added by tom walling on 6th March 2012

"Julie, your family was a large part of ours and I miss Greg and your folks alot, and I think of them often.  we will all seem them sooner than we relize, Tom."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 2nd March 2012

"It never gets easier to bear this day each year.  I know I should try to remember all of the good times we had and how much you meant to me and how we loved each other....but sometimes all I can think of is how much I wish you were here.  Feeling sorry for myself I guess.....but I miss you Greg.   Even more now that Mom and Dad are gone.   Every day.  I SO wish you were here big brother."

This tribute was added by Shannon De Penning on 2nd March 2012

"Julie, I just wanted to say that I am thinking of you and your family today--Greg will be in your hearts forever.  Peace and love."

This tribute was added by adam mcvay on 9th February 2012

"Its hard to believe this year i will be the same age as dad was when he passed! The good do die young. Julie this is a nice way to remember him. Thank you. I only have a few memories of him now, but i love looking at old pics. I also wish Aaron could have had at least as much time with him as i did!"

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 28th March 2011

"I learned to love cabbage when Greg would eat it all the time to make weight.  He also used me as his wrestling practice partner at home.  I put up quite a fight, and I think he even let me win sometimes.  ;-)"

This tribute was added by Randy Roozeboom on 27th March 2011

"(Randy L.) Greg and I spent many hours bucking heads on the wrestling mat.  Our "wrestling room" was the cafeteria where Crandall would max out the thermostat the night before a meet so we could try to make weight.  Be in peace, bro."

This tribute was added by Linda Smith on 2nd March 2011

"I didn't know Greg very well. I met him one night when you and I were out and about during our Central days. He was out with some friends from work and had a big smile and hug for you when he saw you. (I think he also tucked a fifty dollar bill into your pocket :-)
I wish I had known him better, knowing how much you love him and how much impact he had on your life."

This tribute was added by Randy Roozeboom on 2nd March 2011

"I know it has been 25 years but I don't think I can remember a day I haven't thought about Greg it might be fishing or hunting or just having fun and if you knew me and Greg... we did have some fun. God I miss my best friend!"

This tribute was added by Shannon De Penning on 2nd March 2011

"I didn't know Greg, but hearing stories from Julie about him make me feel as though I did know him.  This is a beautiful way to honor his memory.  


This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 2nd March 2011

"Twenty Five Years ago today.  It's hard to believe.  I still miss you every day and wonder how all of our lives might have been different.  I hope that some of your friends will leave a tribute to share more about you.  I know that would mean a lot to Adam and Aaron and someday to Kylor."

This tribute was added by Julie McVay on 28th February 2011

"I am creating this memorial for my brother 25 years after his death.  We didn't have the internet when he died, but we do now and I want to use it to allow people to remember him with their memories, thoughts and stories.  

Please feel free to share his Forever Missed address with anyone you think may want to share something about Greg."

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