i once went to a bar with ray after we spent the day just me him and his niece melissa in which we spent the night drinking and singing and i know thats exactly the type of person he was strong of will, passionate ,caring , knowing me and his niece had a fallout he demanded we got along for our childs sake and put all the bitterness behind us for the some peace i have a feeling hes been waiting for a long time... i knew at that point he  loved family just as much as i did. ill never forget all the advice he gave me that night and the song we sang will never again subside in my head cuz your to blame