This page is dedicated to our loving mother, fabulous grandmother, devoted wife, and loyal friend. Our beautiful, vibrant, and character filled Shellye left us on January 13th, 2017.
For those of you that have lost count, on December 27, 2016 we just
completed our ninth year of this improbable odyssey. She was one of, if not
the longest living ALS patient that Barrow Neurological Institute had and that is attributable to her indomitable spirit and will to stay with her family. We have been through many ups and downs, emotionally and physically over the last nine years. This family has stayed together and fought the good fight every day, to make sure our Shellye was with us as long as possible. But it would not have been the ride that it was, without the support of wonderful, concerned and supportive friends like you all.
For those of you that helped Shellye up and down the bleachers at Alex's
football games; for those of you "Meal Mom's" that helped Alex/and family
get through football seasons, one after another; for those of you who never
stopped coming by and bringing flowers, gifts and reminders that Shellye
had not been forgotten and so many more wonderful and selfless acts that
were done by our wonderful friends and caregivers.
There is so much more to say, and so many people to thank, so please know that we thank all of you on behalf of Shellye and our family. You have helped us weather this storm, fight the good fight and hold our chins up as high, day after day, during these incredible ups and downs. Our fight is over now and for that we are happy for her and very sad at the same time. In order to celebrate her life, we ask you share your memories, stories, and photos of Shellye here on this page.
We will be having a celebration of her extraordinary life on January 28th, 2017 at 2PM at Living Streams Church (7000 N Central Ave, Phoenix, AZ 85020).
Many of you have asked how you can contribute... Shellye loved and cherish numerous causes, especially the protection of animals and the betterment of women. We encourage you, in lieu of flowers, to place a donation in her name to any of the charities listed below. Thank you all again.
Love,
Shay, Alex, Pete, and Jane.
http://www.aspca.org/ways-to-give
https://www.freshstartwomen.org/donate
https://www.supportbarrow.org/ALSCenter
Tributes
Leave a tributelove you xoxo
Cubby and Karen and family
you know I wasn't there in person today ,but I was with you family in spirit. Jodine told me it was a full house, and I smiled to know you were smiling too at all the people who love you. She said Pete, Shay , ALex and Jane did you proud that it was absolutely beautiful.. But you already know that. May your memory be eternal.
I have been thinking of what to write for the past week now. It still hasn't fully sunk in that you are no longer with us all. I have so many memories that have come flooding in......
When I first met you 13 years ago it was at your salon. I brought Culley in for a haircut, as you were the only one he would allow to do it. I tried to explain to you how Jane wanted it done. You quickly looked at me and said "trust me, I know exactly what she wants." You started to share stories of how you and Jane met, the nail tech days, and told me once when there was an issue with someone that wasn't doing right by Jane, you said "you can talk to her or you can deal with me, and I'll tell you right now I'm not the nice one." I laughed at your candor and your no bullshit attitude. You told me of how you introduced Jane to Big Culley and shared the stories of when he owned a boat. I left that day feeling as if I had made a friend, as it turned out I had :)
As the years unfolded I was able to enjoy your company when you visited Jane and at your lovely home. I enjoyed annual trick or treating as I walked the neighborhood with Culley and shared Rumi's first Halloween when she was 10 months old. I would indulge the libations with Pete by the fire and watch as he lowered the giant tarantula to scare the kids. I remember Culley being obsessed with your computer and as he would entertain himself, we would visit and watch your ferrets run around. I remember Elmo, the trampoline, the irrigation, watering your patio plants....all in flashes.
One of my favorite memories is when I shared with you that I allowed Candice to use my insurance card. She had a breast surgery under my name and I was terrified it would show up as pre-existing condition and working for Jane, it would hike up her rates. You assured me it would be fine and urged me to come clean. So, as I sat down with tears in my eyes and a nervousness throughout my body I told Jane. You said "SHIT!! I didn't know that's what you meant!!! That's BAD".
Throughout your journey I remember every step as the disease dug deeper. I remember trying to help you float and I turned away for a split second. When I looked back your face had fallen into the water slightly. I was only a foot away and quickly got you back in place, as you LAUGHED hysterically and began snorting. We both started laughing so hard we peed the pool. We just sat there in our little pools of urine laughing....needless to say you never asked me to float with you again!
Your resilience to fight this journey has been inspirational to so many. You were willing to try anything from eating all of your food in clay pots, to covering yourself in sacred dirt. I remember you and Jane taking a shovel to Sedona to gather some sacred soil. You both came in telling me stories and were laughing so hard! From Mexico and beyond you took advantage and were open to any and all treatment options to help you battle this disease. I always admired you and always loved you. Your family became an extension of my own even though our time throughout the years became less and less. I can tell you now that on occasion I may or may not have purchased alcohol for Shay (it was only once...purple passion I think?). We would always joke about Shay's attraction for me (in jest) and you would laugh when I would give her a hard time. I taught Culley to say "Shay is a drunk". One afternoon when we were gathering for an event he said it aloud and you about fell out of your chair....another proud moment for me!
Most of all, I remember being surrounded by people who loved you. I watched Alex grow up and move out, go to college, and become a father! I was happy to see his snake leave the house that 's for sure! I remember how easy it was to talk to Pete and how I was consistently amazed by his muscle mass. You were such a beautiful couple and two of my favorite people.
Working at Jane's I would always be reminded daily of how special your friendship was. She had pictures scattered through the house that brought a sense of comfort to all of us.
So my friend, sleep with the angels. If you see my Pop introduce yourself.....he would get a real kick out of you. Continue to shine your light from above and know you will never be forgotten.
I love you
I have been thinking of what to write for the past week now. It still hasn't fully sunk in that you are no longer with us all. I have so many memories that have come flooding in......
When I first met you 13 years ago it was at your salon. I brought Culley in for a haircut, as you were the only one he would allow to do it. I tried to explain to you how Jane wanted it done. You quickly looked at me and said "trust me, I know exactly what she wants." You started to share stories of how you and Jane met, the nail tech days, and told me once when there was an issue with someone that wasn't doing right by Jane, you said "you can talk to her or you can deal with me, and I'll tell you right now I'm not the nice one." I laughed at your candor and your no bullshit attitude. You told me of how you introduced Jane to Big Culley and shared the stories of when he owned a boat. I left that day feeling as if I had made a friend, as it turned out I had :)
As the years unfolded I was able to enjoy your company when you visited Jane and at your lovely home. I enjoyed annual trick or treating as I walked the neighborhood with Culley and shared Rumi's first Halloween when she was 10 months old. I would indulge the libations with Pete by the fire and watch as he lowered the giant tarantula to scare the kids. I remember Culley being obsessed with your computer and as he would entertain himself, we would visit and watch your ferrets run around. I remember Elmo, the trampoline, the irrigation, watering your patio plants....all in flashes.
One of my favorite memories is when I shared with you that I allowed Candice to use my insurance card. She had a breast surgery under my name and I was terrified it would show up as pre-existing condition and working for Jane, it would hike up her rates. You assured me it would be fine and urged me to come clean. So, as I sat down with tears in my eyes and a nervousness throughout my body I told Jane. You said "SHIT!! I didn't know that's what you meant!!! That's BAD".
Throughout your journey I remember every step as the disease dug deeper. I remember trying to help you float and I turned away for a split second. When I looked back your face had fallen into the water slightly. I was only a foot away and quickly got you back in place, as you LAUGHED hysterically and began snorting. We both started laughing so hard we peed the pool. We just sat there in our little pools of urine laughing....needless to say you never asked me to float with you again!
Your resilience to fight this journey has been inspirational to so many. You were willing to try anything from eating all of your food in clay pots, to covering yourself in sacred dirt. I remember you and Jane taking a shovel to Sedona to gather some sacred soil. You both came in telling me stories and were laughing so hard! From Mexico and beyond you took advantage and were open to any and all treatment options to help you battle this disease. I always admired you and always loved you. Your family became an extension of my own even though our time throughout the years became less and less. I can tell you now that on occasion I may or may not have purchased alcohol for Shay (it was only once...purple passion I think?). We would always joke about Shay's attraction for me (in jest) and you would laugh when I would give her a hard time. I taught Culley to say "Shay is a drunk". One afternoon when we were gathering for an event he said it aloud and you about fell out of your chair....another proud moment for me!
Most of all, I remember being surrounded by people who loved you. I watched Alex grow up and move out, go to college, and become a father! I was happy to see his snake leave the house that 's for sure! I remember how easy it was to talk to Pete and how I was consistently amazed by his muscle mass. You were such a beautiful couple and two of my favorite people.
Working at Jane's I would always be reminded daily of how special your friendship was. She had pictures scattered through the house that brought a sense of comfort to all of us.
So my friend, sleep with the angels. If you see my Pop introduce yourself.....he would get a real kick out of you. Continue to shine your light from above and know you will never be forgotten.
I love you
I have been thinking of what to write for the past week now. It still hasn't fully sunk in that you are no longer with us all. I have so many memories that have come flooding in......
When I first met you 13 years ago it was at your salon. I brought Culley in for a haircut, as you were the only one he would allow to do it. I tried to explain to you how Jane wanted it done. You quickly looked at me and said "trust me, I know exactly what she wants." You started to share stories of how you and Jane met, the nail tech days, and told me once when there was an issue with someone that wasn't doing right by Jane, you said "you can talk to her or you can deal with me, and I'll tell you right now I'm not the nice one." I laughed at your candor and your no bullshit attitude. You told me of how you introduced Jane to Big Culley and shared the stories of when he owned a boat. I left that day feeling as if I had made a friend, as it turned out I had :)
As the years unfolded I was able to enjoy your company when you visited Jane and at your lovely home. I enjoyed annual trick or treating as I walked the neighborhood with Culley and shared Rumi's first Halloween when she was 10 months old. I would indulge the libations with Pete by the fire and watch as he lowered the giant tarantula to scare the kids. I remember Culley being obsessed with your computer and as he would entertain himself, we would visit and watch your ferrets run around. I remember Elmo, the trampoline, the irrigation, watering your patio plants....all in flashes.
One of my favorite memories is when I shared with you that I allowed Candice to use my insurance card. She had a breast surgery under my name and I was terrified it would show up as pre-existing condition and working for Jane, it would hike up her rates. You assured me it would be fine and urged me to come clean. So, as I sat down with tears in my eyes and a nervousness throughout my body I told Jane. You said "SHIT!! I didn't know that's what you meant!!! That's BAD".
Throughout your journey I remember every step as the disease dug deeper. I remember trying to help you float and I turned away for a split second. When I looked back your face had fallen into the water slightly. I was only a foot away and quickly got you back in place, as you LAUGHED hysterically and began snorting. We both started laughing so hard we peed the pool. We just sat there in our little pools of urine laughing....needless to say you never asked me to float with you again!
Your resilience to fight this journey has been inspirational to so many. You were willing to try anything from eating all of your food in clay pots, to covering yourself in sacred dirt. I remember you and Jane taking a shovel to Sedona to gather some sacred soil. You both came in telling me stories and were laughing so hard! From Mexico and beyond you took advantage and were open to any and all treatment options to help you battle this disease. I always admired you and always loved you. Your family became an extension of my own even though our time throughout the years became less and less. I can tell you now that on occasion I may or may not have purchased alcohol for Shay (it was only once...purple passion I think?). We would always joke about Shay's attraction for me (in jest) and you would laugh when I would give her a hard time. I taught Culley to say "Shay is a drunk". One afternoon when we were gathering for an event he said it aloud and you about fell out of your chair....another proud moment for me!
Most of all, I remember being surrounded by people who loved you. I watched Alex grow up and move out, go to college, and become a father! I was happy to see his snake leave the house that 's for sure! I remember how easy it was to talk to Pete and how I was consistently amazed by his muscle mass. You were such a beautiful couple and two of my favorite people.
Working at Jane's I would always be reminded daily of how special your friendship was. She had pictures scattered through the house that brought a sense of comfort to all of us.
So my friend, sleep with the angels. If you see my Pop introduce yourself.....he would get a real kick out of you. Continue to shine your light from above and know you will never be forgotten.
I love you
I have been thinking of what to write for the past week now. It still hasn't fully sunk in that you are no longer with us all. I have so many memories that have come flooding in......
When I first met you 13 years ago it was at your salon. I brought Culley in for a haircut, as you were the only one he would allow to do it. I tried to explain to you how Jane wanted it done. You quickly looked at me and said "trust me, I know exactly what she wants." You started to share stories of how you and Jane met, the nail tech days, and told me once when there was an issue with someone that wasn't doing right by Jane, you said "you can talk to her or you can deal with me, and I'll tell you right now I'm not the nice one." I laughed at your candor and your no bullshit attitude. You told me of how you introduced Jane to Big Culley and shared the stories of when he owned a boat. I left that day feeling as if I had made a friend, as it turned out I had :)
As the years unfolded I was able to enjoy your company when you visited Jane and at your lovely home. I enjoyed annual trick or treating as I walked the neighborhood with Culley and shared Rumi's first Halloween when she was 10 months old. I would indulge the libations with Pete by the fire and watch as he lowered the giant tarantula to scare the kids. I remember Culley being obsessed with your computer and as he would entertain himself, we would visit and watch your ferrets run around. I remember Elmo, the trampoline, the irrigation, watering your patio plants....all in flashes.
One of my favorite memories is when I shared with you that I allowed Candice to use my insurance card. She had a breast surgery under my name and I was terrified it would show up as pre-existing condition and working for Jane, it would hike up her rates. You assured me it would be fine and urged me to come clean. So, as I sat down with tears in my eyes and a nervousness throughout my body I told Jane. You said "SHIT!! I didn't know that's what you meant!!! That's BAD".
Throughout your journey I remember every step as the disease dug deeper. I remember trying to help you float and I turned away for a split second. When I looked back your face had fallen into the water slightly. I was only a foot away and quickly got you back in place, as you LAUGHED hysterically and began snorting. We both started laughing so hard we peed the pool. We just sat there in our little pools of urine laughing....needless to say you never asked me to float with you again!
Your resilience to fight this journey has been inspirational to so many. You were willing to try anything from eating all of your food in clay pots, to covering yourself in sacred dirt. I remember you and Jane taking a shovel to Sedona to gather some sacred soil. You both came in telling me stories and were laughing so hard! From Mexico and beyond you took advantage and were open to any and all treatment options to help you battle this disease. I always admired you and always loved you. Your family became an extension of my own even though our time throughout the years became less and less. I can tell you now that on occasion I may or may not have purchased alcohol for Shay (it was only once...purple passion I think?). We would always joke about Shay's attraction for me (in jest) and you would laugh when I would give her a hard time. I taught Culley to say "Shay is a drunk". One afternoon when we were gathering for an event he said it aloud and you about fell out of your chair....another proud moment for me!
Most of all, I remember being surrounded by people who loved you. I watched Alex grow up and move out, go to college, and become a father! I was happy to see his snake leave the house that 's for sure! I remember how easy it was to talk to Pete and how I was consistently amazed by his muscle mass. You were such a beautiful couple and two of my favorite people.
Working at Jane's I would always be reminded daily of how special your friendship was. She had pictures scattered through the house that brought a sense of comfort to all of us.
So my friend, sleep with the angels. If you see my Pop introduce yourself.....he would get a real kick out of you. Continue to shine your light from above and know you will never be forgotten.
I love you
I wasn't sure what they were up to, so I went outside and peeked in the window. The boys had music on and were all dancing like crazy! We laughed and laughed, the kids didn't need any fancy camps just a place to play... We continued on for many summers.
Shellye you are a ball of fire with a will like no other! I am so very blessed to have witnessed your powerful journey. You have taught us all such great life lessons. Thank you, thank you....xoxo Tracey Zemer
We shared so many things and gave each other so much advice over the next 30 years. I followed her from salon to salon, because nobody knew how to make me look right, and nobody was as much fun to sit and talk to. We loved telling each other stories about our kids. She was so proud of Shay & Alex...and of her wonderful husband Pete (who treated my friend exactly the way I had hoped someone would one day treat her.)
I'm very sad that I will be traveling on the 28th. I will be with you in spirit.
God bless, Carolyn
Thank you for sharing your life with me. It was such a privilege going thru this journey with you. I will forever be changed for the better. By example, you taught me so much about life, love, and courage.
You always put other peoples needs before your own and did whatever you could to help them out. As the saying goes, give them the shirt off your back, literally. You were always loaning out your clothes, inviting people to spend the holidays with you, planning backyard barbecues, or even taking your neighbors with you on vacations. You used to say " what's mine is yours" with a huge smile on your face.
As for love, you loved passionately and with all your heart. The love you had for Pete, Shay, Alex and Brody was beautiful and abundant . I think it was your love that kept you with us for so long, and for that I'm grateful. You also loved your friends passionately too. I loved hearing about the adventures you and Jane shared. Especially the one about your teeshirt decorating business and how you were the muscle behind the operation- I would have loved to seen that- what an incredible friendship.
And finally courage, what can I say. The definition of courage is the ability to do something that frightens one. You Shellye were courageous every day for over nine years. Most people only have a handful of times in their entire life where they truly need to be courageous.You did what you had to do every day, day after day, scared or not you gave it everything you had. You will always be my hero !
I will cherish the times we spent together sitting in 100 degree weather while our boys played baseball and our husbands coaching them. Although I never could cheer as loud as you- I will always remember your favorite cheer " HIT ME A HOMER ALEI MAN " In your perfect New York accent of course. You are in my heart forever Shellye.
Love you so much, Stacie
My memories of Shellye are as pure as the fresh snow we've shared together on ski trips, as clear and bright as the stars seen from the floor of the Grand Canyon and as beautiful as a Hawaiian Rainbow. I will always hold her dear to my heart, remember her smile and laugh, just as I have for the past 9 years.
Beyond all the great times we've shared, its a serious moment of friendship, love and loyalty that I will never forget and always cherish. It was on a river trip, my girl friend at the time, unbeknownst to me was grumbling to Pete and Shellye about me. Shellye, as told to me later apparently wanting nothing to do with this conversation, simply stated "We love and accept Mark for who he is." That statement tells you a lot about my friend, Shellye Bolton. I love and miss you Shellye.
God’s Garden
"God looked around his garden
And found an empty place.
He then looked down upon the earth,
And saw your tired face.
He put His arms around you
And lifted you to rest.
God’s garden must be beautiful,
He always takes the best.
He knew that you were suffering,
He knew that you were in pain.
He knew that you would never
Get well on earth again.
He saw the road was getting rough
And the hills were hard to climb.
So He closed your weary eyelids
And whispered “Peace be thine.”
It broke our hearts to lose you
But you did not go alone…
For part of us went with you
The day God called you home."
For those of you in need of a good laugh....
https://youtu.be/nGeKSiCQkPw
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Shelly
She love to shop online ,when she seen something she wanted her face lit up the . I am so honored that I got to spend the last year with her and got to know her. I truly do miss. Her ❤️
Dust Storm of the 1980s
Here's to you, Shellye
I've missed you for a long time now. When life called me to Colorado in 2005, I was no longer able to keep up our daily ritual of walking, jogging, hiking and carrying on our daily girlfriend time. This was a great loss for me. We spent cherished years together listening and sharing the intricacies of family life and being unconditionally supportive of one another and each other's family. There was nothing and no one who was more loved and cherished than our families to both of us. Shellye's family felt like my own and I always felt so welcome in their home. The summer before I left, I spent a couple of weeks with Shellye, Pete, Shay and Alex at the beach. . I laughed till I cried daily. I remember Shellye's crazy obsession with watching Emeril Lagasse and his cooking show. Shellye actually tuned in at the beach. She knew I had little to no cooking skills so I think this was her subtle (yes, she could be subtle) way of nudging me to take notice and maybe learn a thing or two. Shellye was my best friend. It is said that if you can count on one hand the number of true friends you have in your lifetime, you are blessed. I was blessed.
I'm thinking that on another level, we can be closer now. I'm paying attention Shellye! Come see me in my dreams. I love you and will forever. Till we meet again, cheers my beloved friend. You matter.
My heart goes out to Pete, Shay and Alex. Thank you for sharing your beautiful Shellye with me.
xoxo,
Suzaine