- 57 years old
- Date of birth: Nov 7, 1958
- Place of birth:
Fairfield, Connecticut, United States
- Date of passing: Dec 21, 2015
- Place of passing:
Litchfield, Connecticut, United States
|Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.|
This memorial website was created in celebration of the Life of
Walter C. Pascoe
Artist, Craftsman, Philosopher, Bibliophile, Wordsmith, Traveler, Explorer, Husband, Father, Lover, Friend
A Memorial Service was held Sunday, January 24th, 2016
at South Farms located at
21 Higbie Road, Morris, CT
"I have lost count of how many times I have started to text you over the last year and had to stop-can't bring myself to delete the last few I have. I know that you must be incredibly proud of how your amazing, beautiful, brilliant girls continue to grow. Miss you every day. XXOO"
"Today was a tough one. Love you forever and miss you
"Wonderful memories...wonderful man. Miss you, Walt."
"Walt, today I went to your favourite place in the Adirondacks and lit a candle in the snow under a tall, straight Hemlock beside the lake. When I lit sage to send prayers of love, a single raven flew overhead, called out into the white silence, circled once and then disappeared. The shortest day of the year. I miss you and love you always."
Your memory has not faded, though it's been a year. I hear your voice when I want to tell you things about your wonderful daughters. I sense your laughter at times. Your family misses you.
"Dearest Walt, as Xmas approches, I've been thinking a lot about you, your absence is still so present, you left us much earlier than expected. Still looking so well just a little while before... You left behind wonderful memories of you, words of great wisdom and acceptance, loving kindness and peacefulness... which still fill me with awe and wonder... a fine man you were, thank you for everything you gave us..."
"What a lovely man ! Gone too soon."
"Dear Walt, we miss you everyday but use the inspiration you gave us to continue in our daily lives and our art. Thank you for all that you meant to us and for giving us the opportunity to know you."
"Hey Walt. I really miss you buddy. When I walk into a room and see a piece of your furniture or art, it all comes back. When I do something stupid, I can hear your voice giving me shit. Life was too short for you. we had 40 years together, and you'll always be part of my DNA. God bless you. Hopefully we wind up in the same bar. love you, LB"
"My DearWalt: You are sorely missed and still much loved. Today especially my heart aches and tears still flow. I take comfort in knowing some day we will be together. Your beautiful daughters are a living legacy to you and part of you lives on through them. Love you always ,
"We will light a candle tonight and remember the love we shared and the loving times we had. Blessed be.
Carolyn and Sue"
"Happy Birthday sweet man. Not a day goes by without a thought of you. I miss you so profoundly yet I feel you with me constantly in all I do and am. I love you, always and forever, Holly"
"To have known you is to have loved you... What each and everyone of us feel. I feel your presence and know your spirit prevails in every journey Holly takes from the mountains to the sea. The world was blessed on this special day. You will be in our hearts always."
"Walt you remain in my thoughts and meditations always.
Feel your vibes in my studio. You are my Art Spirit Guide
Leading me to the creative center
Body n soul
"Yours is a voice we miss dearly, Walt. On this day, your birthday, we keep you in our thoughts. May you always be at peace."
"Just visualizing an image of Walter, a dreamer and explorer, on a mountain, or by a lake, still provides respite and joy in the middle of a
traffic jam in New York City."
"I think of Walter often and I miss him. We shared a deep love for our daughters,"
"Missing my dad today -- it is his birthday. Re-reading these comments has been very comforting. Thanks all <3"
"We didn't know each other long if you keep count in worldy terms
but it was deep. Walt was not only a great artist he
loved and cherished the ArtLife . . . that means so much . . .living the life of an artist in every which way. I will never forget you - you are part
of it all . . .noir de péche,cerulean blue,cool gray,blanc titane,cadmium yellow pale"
"I knew Walt in his youth where we were both Art students at St Lawrence University, but had not seen him since those days as I moved far from the east coast afterwards. Amazing though how someone can have a presence in your life even in absence. Once we made Facebook contact a few years ago he always had a supportive word to give. I am so very sad to know of his illness and passing. During those very formative years we all influenced each other intensely as we developed our sense of self. I can see his luminous face so clearly in my mind ..images from 1979, some of the happiest times of my life at Larryland. Walt you will never be forgotten."
Merci d'avoir croiser mon chemin. Tu nous manqueras, mais jamais je ne pourrais oublier ta merveilleuse présence."
"Your gentle and attentive care is missed, but much appreciated in many lives..."
"Walt, I struggle with the words that are true enough to begin to convey that wonderful compassionate talent you have of connecting with others in such engaging, authentic ways; finding the deeper connection laced with intelligence, humor, and kindness. Those qualities are such a consistent thread as I talk with mutual friends on-line, and certainly what I experienced in the years of corresponding with you, and then finally getting to meet you and Holly on that wild wonderful summer road trip. As we got to know each other, you delighted me by so naturally creating a space to share that always felt warm, encouraging, authentic, and fascinating. You have added a soul warmth for me that has rippled through the harshness of this world--smoothing and soothing in such kind genuine ways. I loved talking with you about art, and that you loved that I "journeyed" in your amazing creations. I will find new ways to journey with you, dear Walt."
"I only met Walt a few times (including that crazy meeting at the museum in British Columbia), but it was obvious to me what a kind and gentle man he was, and how much he loved Holly."
"Walt I never met you but felt close to you and your art.......I often sense your presence when brush in hand and know this will continue. Your an inspiration and will be missed .......peace and love to all you have left behind."
"When I met Walt, he was dying, but he was the most truly alive person you could conceive. He glowed with the pleasure of being alive in every , That moment. Every moment. I got to visit for hours with Walt just before he lost his voice. I was lucky that my coffee maker broke and I asked to use the one in the apartment where he was staying at our Adk camp. Thus began a series of morning chats where I came t appreciate Walt's incredible range of knowledge on so many subjects. He told me about how his mother instructed him to go him to the public library after school where he would be safe until she finished work and how the librarians adopted him and how he came to read so widely. Oh, Walt, how I wish we had met years before."
"Walt, having had the chance to follow your inspiring journey in art, I know this world has been made a better place by the energy you put forth through your creativity. Having had the chance to follow your heart-felt journey with Holly, I know this world has been made a better place by the love you shared. I salute you. Your presence is no less now that you moved on to live in the hearts of your dear ones. A special warm heart hug to you Holly. ~Much love from Mia"
"i carry your heart with me (i carry it in
my heart)i am never without it(anywhere
i go you go,my dear;and whatever is done
by only me is your doing,my darling)
no fate(for you are my fate,my sweet)i want
no world(for beautiful you are my world,my true)
and it’s you are whatever a moon has always meant
and whatever a sun will always sing is you
here is the deepest secret nobody knows
(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life;which grows
higher than soul can hope or mind can hide)
and this is the wonder that's keeping the stars apart
i carry your heart(i carry it in my heart)
"Walter, I did not have the pleasure of meeting you, however, I have met you wonderful sister in law and brother. Only a man with lots of love and morals would have a sister and brother as wonderful and giving as Dawn and Danny. May the Lord shower your family with light and may he calm their hearts. - The Campbell's"
"Dear Walt you and Holly have been a gift to me. I am following a similar journey,your grace,love,strength,respect and kindness are footsteps I am trying to walk in and never to feel regret.Knowing you Walt was easy,and so glad I had a chat and hug in December at the studio, thank you."
"Walt always listened so intently, so completely when we spoke - he always made me feel like what I said had value. Walt left me always wanting to be a better person. I will miss his quiet, gentle and enormously kind spirit."
"Walt. Walt, I daresay I’ve been avoiding this. It would be far easier just to say, I miss you buddy, which I do than to address over four decades of friendship. But those decades are really no more than the moments you have spent with others these last years. Knowing you has been one of the greatest pleasures of my life, a thought that I believe is shared by many.
Moments in a friendship are idiosyncratic—organic—they develop a rhythm of their own. I’m sure each of you here has your own with Walt. In these last years, our friendship found its way to a little tavern on the Litchfield green. Lunch we called it as we sat and stretched our conversation from our art to our writing, from our parents to our kids, from our lives to our mortality. My world has always been more interesting with you in it.
Thief of Days
For Walt Pascoe
We don’t have to agree.
We don’t have to trade out
old wounds and bandage them.
We can even forget that in the best
of days we loved to banter.
It’s not that we should travel back
and replay what’s nostalgic
or even settle on which memories matter.
It’s the moments between us we hold
simultaneously, continually, daily.
So tell me about your stage four
and I’ll tell you about my day,
each relative to our own despair.
And when we tire of this we’ll pick
a collective moment like when Larry
slashed the tires of my sister’s car
or one of our hand-me-down girlfriends.
We’ll zoom in on a sliver of moon
over the lake, our smoky conversation
slicing through the reflective water
and above that the stars,
high in the clean deep night.
Our despondency will disappear
as this moment offers itself up
again as friendship. So tell me again
your thoughts on dying and I’ll tell you mine."
"I had the pleasure of meeting and spending time with Walt quite a few times, thanks to Holly.
Each time we talked, I was always struck by his kindness and this sense of peace he seemed to radiate. It was easy to be around him. He would pop up on my Twitter feed and share my writing, or send me an encouraging and thoughtful note. You could tell he was someone preoccupied by social injustice and took the time to share anything that could raise awareness.
Holly and Walt were such a beautiful, radiantly happy couple, and I always loved dropping by the studio and seeing them.
Until the very end, Walt never lost his grace, his patience, his hope, and there was a stoic peace about the man I adored and will truly miss.
I'm so glad he and Holly had the opportunity to travel last summer. What a gift...
May he rest in peace. My condolences to his family and to anyone who ever knew and loved him. He will be truly missed.
"I only knew Walt for a short period of time. We had some interesting conversations, not about art, which I've only begun to appreciate since meeting Holly, but things mechanical and woodworking. Sadly Walt was just a paragraph in my life, wished it could of been more. My heart goes out to Holly and Walts family."
"Walt appeared in my life when I was desperately trying to support my friend Myriam in her battle against cancer, I rallied a group of people around her to support her and send her energy to fight back. Walt shared his own journey with me and gave me hope. I admire those gentle beings - like Walt Pascoe - who have enough loving kindness to give out hope, even when they are themselves, in need of it. Walt joined Myriam's praying circle and gave her hope as well.
Walt irradiated such strength, such presence and appreciation of being alive. Walt also gave great hugs. I lived through his travelling with Holly --shared so graciously on line-- each time I saw a posting I felt gratitude to know that he was still around. I was inspired by his peaceful manner and somehow felt like all the beauty he saw in this last year ... I saw as well.
Sweet journey ahead Walt, may all our tears carry you through, may we see you soon in the clouds, may we see you in the rain, may we feel your words of hope in the sweet song of the birds."
"Walt, we met a few times. beautiful soul full of light, fully present. it was gift to have met you. your energy is out there, still present, still living, thank you."
"....you will be sorely missed! good bye, my friend."
"OKAY WALT - I did not have the pleasure of meeting you in your human condition and I do not know Holly as well as I would like to, BUT, I followed your journey on FB with Holly and I was always mesmerized by the love and sheer joy you demonstrated towards one another not to mention how much fun you were having together. Holly you always looked ecstatic and almost other worldly in this relationship. I was really touched by the love you and Holly shared Walt. I have never witnessed such a remarkable and intensely soul level connection. Wow. Walt you left an indelible mark on planet earth, yes, and you will be truly missed even by folks like me who never met you but lived vicariously through the love you shared with one another. Thank you ! Dianne"
"Walt, even in the distance, without ever having seen you in person it was possible to know that you was a so kind person.
"Being a friend, even of the furthest removed kind on social media and only being connected via the ether hasn't reduced any feelings I find for what I know, knew of Walt. There are some people in life that touch your life more than others. I know Walt enriched mine, even in very small doses. To those that really knew him he will be sorely missed, but by all, he will be remembered as a true gentleman and the best kind of person you could know.
"Dear Kelsey, Martha, and Emmy,
We are so sorry to hear of your lose. Walt was a wonderful, caring man with a great sense of humor. It was great talking with him at family events. Wish we had the magic words to help the pain go away, but there are none. He will always live on in our hearts. Know that all of you are in our thoughts and prayers.
With Our Deepest Sympathy,
John & Rita Chuma and Family"
You are much missed, Walt, fine friend"
"Hi Walt! I'm so grateful to have met you. You were so generous with your art and your thoughts. I really got to know you better during our interview, which was so engaging and filled with depth of thought and passion for artistic minds. Our interview went for 4 hours and it took me hours and hours and hours to scribe it, and every second was an immense pleasure! You Rock Walt and I will miss you!!"
"Walt, you and your work and generosity of spirit were an example and inspiration when you visibly walked this Earth . . . and will continue now and forever."
"Oh Walt, all these words of praise will continue, each time anyone thinks of you or hears your name mentioned. I am grateful for your spirit and gentle soul. When I last saw you in November I remarked to myself that you were glowing with the love and joy of being. Unforgettable."
"To Holly, Kelsey, Martha and Emmy,
What an honor to care for your loved one and Dad throughout his illness. I have never met a kinder, gentler and more loving individual than he. Throughout his illness he did not allow this disease to define him or dictate how he would live his life! Every thought and every action throughout his illness was to promote the quality of his life and be there for those he loved. So many goals he was able to accomplish, seeing Emmy graduate and become a nurse, walking Martha down the aisle, having his last show in Montreal and selling two paintings and his wonderful trip earlier in the year for both weddings.
I will truly miss him but believe me that he will always hold a special place in my heart. You are all so fortunate to have had this wonderful man in your lives and be so loved by him. He leaves a legacy in his artwork but even more in all the lives he touched so gently but left such a last impression.
My deepest affection and sympathy,
"Walt, I'll never forget you, or the way you love Holly and she loves you, or the tender, reverent way you treated life, art, words, and everyone around you. You had the ability to elevate the quality of spirit (not to mention conversation) in a room, just by sitting in it. And now your graceful ending has raised the bar for all who knew you to die better, too. As you know, I wrote this poem for you when you were near the end of your time with us on earth. I hope you are alight, on the wind.
My Friend May Be Dying (What Do We Know?)
My friend may be dying (what do we know?)
so I find myself thinking of death. Surely
there's a clue here about what happens.
In the resting log that crumbles,
when toed by a boot? Or the way autumn’s
fire-color drains in the deepening dark?
But I’ve always associated light with death.
When my father died, after his last breath,
I looked out the window and saw the sun
lighting up the clouds, like a painting.
For lack of knowing where he was,
I put my father there, in the sun, in the cloud.
But then I found it. The clue.
It is the small hand of a child,
as she clutches the milky stem of
a dandelion and breaks it—
as she holds the pearl-gray sphere
toward the sun and blows.
It is the child’s delight at
the small, glowing parachute
of each seed, alight, on the wind.
It is the child immediately setting out again
to find another.
"Following Walt and Holly during their last road trip was an inspiration. I'd like to quote Aminatta Forna who wrote in 'The Memory of Love' : "Only fools think love is for the living alone." You'll be fondly remembered and loved Walt for being a generous and wonderful human being."
"Dear Walt. I have felt a void in the world since you left. You were one of my best online friends. Always genuine, wise, and full of empathy. Your art was amazing. I am glad I have one of your pieces to always remember you by. Now you walk on. I can only imagine the landscape where you are now. I see tall grass, slithering rivers and majestic mountains. Know you will never be forgotten."
"Love ones never leave you. You feel their presence in the flowers that bloom, the sunsets that dazzle, the songs of the birds and the world about you.
My wonderful memories of Walt will be with me forever."
"Thank you, Walt, for gracing my life with your light, your wisdom, gentle understandings, and compassion. And your art, like a cante jondo (Spanish for deep song), filled the atmosphere with soul and energy. Your light will live on. It will appear as a rainbow in the clouds. It will light up the face of heaven."
"Walt walked into my life
A few years back
Already an angel
Unknowingly spreading wings
of golden dust all around him
Eyes glowing with genuine presence
And abundant kindness
Our paths crossed shortly
Not in the best of times
Cause life has cruel plans sometimes
But the profound gift of his encounter,
To shortly walk along side
To Witness such wisdom
And understanding for life,
Has changed my life forever
My artist friend, my brother
Love you forever!"
"Peace To Our Dear Brother Walter,
You were, are,
and will always be...
an eternal friend to many."
"I Will remember Him for the impact hé had when He interacted with me on Facebook...in2013 He sent me à letter and talked about his Life, his art...as thought He had know' me forever..I am so sorry to Hear of his Loss..my Love and prayers Go out to you Holly and All his FRIENDS . He Was a talented Crazy Artist and a Beautiful Heartful Man...Adieu WALT"
"Walt, you always were and always will be a light to me. Thank you for the light you shared not just with me but so many others as well. You truly will always be missed."
"How many times can you meet someone and instantly call them a friend - for Walt it was from the moment I met him. I only had dinner with him and Holly twice but it was clear that he was pure poetry with a calm soul. How sad that the universe has lost the voice of this talented man. I send love and peace to all who are grieving at the loss of this wonderful man."
"May your spirit live on in your beautiful family, friends and artwork."
"Blessings to you Walt and to all the people touched ...
my deepest condolences to your family and your beautiful
"Dearest Walt, a genius ,that's what I liked to call him, I loved reading whatever he wrote and shared on FB, he was a genius in all he did, artist, writer, gentleman, friend. I remember the first time Holly was going to meet Walt, she had only corresponded with Walt and had never met him in person and I asked her, how do you know you're going to like him and I will never forget her response, she said "I already love him" I understood her response when I first met him. The inimitable Walt, Rest in Peace. My heart goes out to you Holly and to Walts family."
"We only met Walt a few times in Montreal. There was something just so special about him. We are grateful we had the chance to share a meal at our house not so long ago. He and Holly were such a delight together. An incredible and positive energy just flowed from them. xo"
"Walt, always loved to see you online, tweet me or share with us your wonderful wonders, paintings and life. love your smile, still and forever."
"A constantly birthing presence. Never enough time but he was always Right There Now with me. xoox."
"I met Walt this past Summer while he and Holly were visiting Galiano Island for a few days during their “Trip the Light” Tour. It was really nice to reconnect with my very long time friend Holly, and it was an absolute pleasure to finally meet Walt. It didn’t take me very long to know, without any doubt, that Walt was a good man, it was easy to like him. I am grateful for many enjoyable moments we shared during those few days. I will warmly remember Walt for his intellect, his keen... in the now presents, and for the humility that he clearly possessed. I know that Walt will be deeply missed and fondly remembered by all who knew him."
"I will remember Walt for his amiable disposition, compassion and joyous understanding of the value of life. And I will miss seeing his new artwork. So very sorry he's gone."
"Walt was a gift(ed) Rhino member, a group at max of 5. Years ago, with cable TV offering hundreds of channels, I inveighed against the change as meaning that people would lose human contact with their neighbors. Walt kindly asked "How many of your neighbors do you really want to sit on your porch with?" This led to an honest, insightful, thoughtful talk of who are friends and who do we really want to be with and who do we truly treasure. Walt is one in my life. A second memory is while back, as Walt was beset with the cancer, he talked of his finding new creativity in painting; he would come to a spot in a painting that years of experience had taught him to resolve but now he sat with it for as long it took to find a gratifying, enlightening new way to create. His grand capacity of curiosity, passion, and creativity gave numerous "Hmm, great point" moments to me. I was fortunate to exchange emails a few months ago with a sense left that Walt is guy that has become a part of me. A gift, indeed."
"I hold dearly a remarking meeting in 2014 with Walter and Holly where we discussed skies, earth, mediums of self expression, art, culture, world cities, home magic... Meaningful, honest, down to earth, warmth and love flowed and ebbed. I barely chanced again brief encounters after but continue to recall the repercussive traces of a very handsome rare gentle humane humble sweet man. I am thankful to have crossed paths with such a gentle soul.My heartfelt thoughts to Holly, family, friends and to all those he touched without knowing. much love Janet"
"Walt, I knew you so little but the connection was always a deep one ... spirit to spirit. Your grace, thoughtful way and presence have touched my life. I am sad but you remind me that it's ok. It's the way the cookie crumbles, however unfair. I feel your presence in my consciousness and it is a calming, loving light."
"Walt , your warmth , your gentle ways will be missed by all who had the chance to meet you. You always gave your full attention to whoever met you . I will remember your smile and that twinkle in your eyes whenever Holly was around, Deepest sympathies to Holly and Walt's family and friends."
"I didn't personally know Walt, I do know Holly and I was taken to another place with their sharing of their life and it made me happy to see such a true love. I didn't know Walt was sick and their smiles never led on. I send my thoughts and condolences to you Holly and to all of your and Walt's families. He will continue to inspire and will always be wrapped around you until the end of time."
"Walt, the best memories I have of you is all our great talks about art. You gave me so much good advice about writing about my art. You were brilliant with words. I loved your dry sense of humour and quick wit. Your art was fantastic with so much energy. I was so glad you could visit me in my new home and enjoy all the great music. I will remember you always my friend."
"I will always remember the time we spent talking together and his warm smile....... a tragic loss but never forgotten."
"I met Walt only two times so i didn't really know him but I could tell that he was a very warm sincere Person and a great Artist, too bad I didn't have a chance to get to know him better but I will not forget him, rest in peace Walt."
"Walt - I keep a memory of you close by. It's of meeting you in person at your studio by the river a few years back. You and Holly welcomed me, a virtual stranger, into your private space, and made me feel like an old friend.
Often, when the chaos of this world is all around, I take out the memory of standing around with you and Holly in that calm oasis of light and colour, rapping about art and music and writing and the things that feed the soul."
"A gift, to have shared time with you. Our friendship meant so much to me. You added to my life, dear Walt... A profound honor to have known you..."
"No one left untouched by your presence,
Thank you for the love you shared with Holly and the incredible smile you put on her face
Peace and love"
"Beauty incarnate. Spiritually yours."
"Never got a chance to meet Walt in person, but he touched my life in many ways. I just knew from the beginning that this was a special soul."
"Walt. whenever we encountered each other in the corridor, or show or just in passing, I always came away with the impression that you were more concerned about how I was doing while you yourself were going
through hell. That's who you were and will be remembered.... warm intelligent, enthusiastic, gentle and caring .... not to mention uniquely creative ....the true renaissance man.
And seeing you and Holly together restored my faith in what true love is all about.
Like so many others, I will miss you and cherish our robust and
Rest in peace dear friend.
"I wrote this for Walt last night:
haiku for Walt Pascoe
the Sun stands still—
night drops her shawl in your path
and your saw blades glint
The first line of the haiku carries the mean of "solstice" in Latin ("solstitium"), and of course has meaning, being the day Walt died. Walt probably knew that derivation. His intellect was deep and engaging.
I am privileged to have interviewed Walt in 2013 (he was so eloquent, so re-readable), to have been inspired by his art (his painting "Raven Gets In" prompted my poem "As If"), to have considered him a friend. With his beautiful partner Holly, he demonstrated the possibilities of art. . . and the marvels of love.
May you always rest in peace, Walt."
"Walt was an amazing man...a truly good man. A gifted artist, poet , and writer and it is that legacy we will cherish, but it is his loving and gentle heart that we will all miss so much. There's one more star in the sky watching over all he knew and loved."
"Walter was a terrific guy and an enormously talented artist. His loss is a loss for all of us."
"Walt, I never got the chance to meet you "in real life", but that didn't matter because your authenticity and friendship surpassed the barrier of being 'merely' an online friend. Although I hadn't been in touch with you recently, I watched from afar as you and Holly journeyed together, whether through posts of your gorgeous artwork in the studio or on your #tripthelight road trip. Always inspiring, always full of substance, you were so generous with your interactions when they did happen that it has left an imprint on me. I will forever remember you as part of the original, gorgeous and thriving artist's community started on twitter in 2009. Thank you for sharing your gift with the world. You will be much missed and always remembered. Rest in peace. <3"
"Walt, we met only a few times, our conversations will be remembered as when pondering your painting "Swept Forward" while listening to some soulful jazz, particularly on future winter solstices. Peace."
"Walt, you were a gift in my life. Each of us made it possible for the other. Each believed in the other unsurpassingly. You and Me, Always.
“The transformation of the heart is a wondrous thing, no matter how you land there.” ~Patti Smith"
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