I've created this website to keep the memory alive of my nephew, Arthur Llewellyn VanBenSchoten V. Since he was cremated, we have no lasting memorial for him and that breaks my heart into a million pieces.
Artie VanB, as he was called amongst his extensive circle of friends, was a major force in many people's lives - the number of memorial tattoos bearing his name testifies to this fact. It's been extremely difficult adjusting to a life without Artie in it. Artie left behind his love, Shelby, and the daughter he adored, Kylie Rae, who was only 7 months old when he died. Thankfully, Artie did leave behind his unique and hysterically funny personality and it is permanently housed within the body of Kylie. She is extraordinary in all ways but hearts break for her daily because of what she will forever have to live without.
Arthur Llewellyn VanBenSchoten V was born on May 18, 1991 and left us on August 21, 2011 at the age of 20. The day he died has special significance for another reason: Artie and his younger brother, Austin, were extremely close, sharing a deep, mutual love and respect for each other. In a tragic coincidence, Artie died on Austin's 18th birthday. (I've posted a photo of Austin's memorial tattoo for his brother - his is the backpiece.)
We have all been devastated by Artie's death but none more than his mother, Megan. There wasn't anything her two boys did that Megan wasn't proud of and she was incapable of issuing discipline or harsh words - she simply adored them too much. To take one of her cherished sons was undoubtedly one of the universe's most brutal and heartless moments. It was also tragically unjust that it happened to someone who has struggled so hard for so long. Apparently, "random" is in charge here.
I was going to refrain from adding certain "details" to this site but I've changed my mind, mostly because Artie's death has made me obsessively inquisitive about how other's have died. And if I have a need to know these things, I'm sure other people do, as well.
Artie died of a heroin/xanax overdose. That is a difficult thing to acknowledge and accept, that we let him slip away from us like that, because an overdose doesn’t have to be lethal. Immediate death from heroin overdose really only happens in the movies. There is 5 minute window of life-saving opportunity, and if someone had been aware of the signs, Artie might still be here. After 5 minutes, however, irreversible brain damage occurs - that in itself was a painful reality. And just so you know, overdose from straight heroin is rare - most overdoses occur because the person took another drug that either interacted adversely with the heroin or intensified it's effect. Xanax is a common "supplement" to take with heroin; I educated myself on this subject because I wanted to know what he went through during the overdose – I had to know he didn’t suffer. That would have been unbearable.
For those of you who now pass judgment because of the way he died, just know that Artie never stood a chance. Addiction is genetic and hereditary – both of my parents (Artie’s maternal grandparents) were alcoholics/prescription pill addicts (specifically, valium) who passed on the addiction gene to all 3 of us girls and we, in turn, passed it on to all of our's. Artie’s father’s side of the family has identical addiction issues on both sides so I will never blame Artie for what happened. His loss, of course, was the greatest one of all.
If you knew Artie and want to post a note to him here, please feel free to do so. If you didn't know Artie but like to browse this site, feel free to leave a comment also. I admit that I look at the other sites on here because, as I mentioned above, I want to know how people died. Anyway, this is where I will be posting my frequent notes to him. I know of no other place to do this and it's something I have to do. I am Megan's sister, Artie and Austin's aunt, and an equally devastated family member. Thanks for stopping by.
I love you, Artie.