- 29 years old
- Date of birth: Jun 19, 1981
- Place of birth:
Indianapolis, Indiana, United States
- Date of passing: Mar 18, 2011
- Place of passing:
Macon, Georgia, United States
|Dreams save us. Dreams lift us up and transform us. And on my soul, I swear...until my dream of a world where dignity, honor and justice becomes the reality we all share--I'll never stop fighting. Ever." - superman|
I can't tell you the age he was when he had the croup but I know he was very young. Back then, and maybe they still do this now, kids who were really sick with it stayed at the hospital and were placed in oxygen tents. The story goes that Brent wanted to escape and begged and cried with our parents to free him. Of course, everyone told him he had to stay to get well again. Fed up, Brent started crying for superman. He told everyone the man of steel was coming to save him.
Back then Brent used a pair of my dad's briefs with the leg holes pulled up over his arms paired with a handmade superman cape to form his universe saving suit. He loved watching movies about superheroes specifically but any action movie would do in a pinch. He loved to watch and reenact The Last Dragon, Star Wars, and Rocky.
A few weeks ago, I was watching my son bounce off the couch and dive over the pillows. He was holding a cardboard shield and had his sisters batgirl cape safety pinned to his shirt. He side kicked and Palm punched the air and he took my breath away. He was so like Brent and in that moment I wanted to close my eyes and weep but couldn't tear them away.
Later that night, choosing my words carefully, tasting them for emotion, swallowing down grief, I told my husband about our son who reminded me so much of my brother. I shared the underwear and cape story, the oxygen tent and told him about Brent's antics after watching action movies. At dinner with my dad a week or two later, as Caden was insisting on being called Peter Parker, I told my dad too. There was this 30 second pause for grief when neither of us could speak and then my dad added to the stories. WWF wrestling was hitting big about the time Brent was in elementary school and he loved it as well. He'd watch the matches and then try his moves on Brian and I, on every piece of furniture, in every room of the house. Until my dad started talking, I'd forgotten about that.
I found out I was pregnant with Caden about 8 months after Brent passed. That night, while I bawled my eyes out for selfish reasons, someone, told me what a blessing this was and that Brent was taking care of my family. I knew she was right then but love how true it continues to be. Caden helps me keep Brent alive and freshens my memories in the sweetest ways. Caden is totally unique with sprinkles of my brother on top. And he is perfect, just like Brent.
"I carry you wherever I go. Always in my heart! I miss you so!"
"It's been five very long years without him. Sometimes it feels like yesterday. He lives on in our everyday lives with our treasured memories. I laugh and cry as they flow over me. I look at all of these pictures and my heart swells with love. ♡♡♡♡"
"I can't believe its been 5 years. I spent the afternoon yesterday with Ryan's kids and Xavier Brent was pointing out the cardinal in their backyard. It always reminds us of you. You are misssed!! Love, mom Hutt"
"Happy Birthday Bubby! Remembering you today and everyday. Miss you always. Love You!"
"Happy Birthday Bubby, it's hard to believe 5 years have went by since we have celebrated life together. I celebrate your life today and everyday. Over these last years I have watched your siblings cope with the incredible task of losing one of a circle and how you are not gone but still there in spirit. Last thought, Dylan and Colton are a great joy and and blessing! Thank you son. I love you. ♡"
"Your sister's story about you is so sweet-the memories are so important and help us all to cope with the loss. It's still so hard to believe that you are not here with us. We just got back from vacation with Ryan and his family. We rode in Ryan's new Honda Odyssey and talked about our trip to Myrtle beach with you (remembering when we were stuck in traffic and Ryan had to pee so he got out ran to a store and the traffic started moving so Ryan ended up running along side the van as you helped him get back in). We had 9 great days together in Hilton Head where I heard your name several times when our beautiful little Xavier Brent was "being a boy" just like you and Ryan. Miss you so much! love, mom Hutt"
"I have been thinking about you so much lately then I came across a note you gave to Ryan in the spring of 1998 telling him.what a great friend he was and how he's like a brother to you. You also thanked him for asking you to go on our family vacation that upcoming summer. We had a great time and we THANK YOU for going with us and making it such a fun trip. We love you and miss you! Love, mom Hutt"
"Dylan told me he knows where he got his laugh. Me. HA! Missing you with as much happiness as I can. ♡"
"I love and miss you so!"
"It is great to hear the boys are doing well - thank you for the update Beth. They are your legacy and your family & friends will share everything we can with them - the pictures of you and your friends and family that show your spirit, your playfulness and your love.
We all miss you so much! Love, Mom Hutt"
"I am remembering Brent's birthday today and in celebration, I wanted to share a few things that I have learned about his boys over the last few months. Dylan is quite possibly the only human on the planet that loves my terrible, crazy, stupid dog. And my dog adores him as well. Dylan also loves the fluffy carpet rug in my living room and takes a lot of pleasure telling everyone about it. Colton and Josie are perfect playmates and he firmly tells her that he is older than her but still will play my little ponies with her for hours at a time. Colton also gives as good as he gets and isn't afraid to take a whack at his brother. He laid one on him at the splash park a few weekends ago. He has a fighters spirit just like Brent. It is such a pleasure getting to know them and watching them grow and change. His boys are his legacy and such a celebration and tribute of his life. I added a few new pics of us at the splash park."
"you are my heart and soul. i need you more than ever right now. rest in paradise bubby ❤"
"Brent, You have left smiles on our faces and love in our hearts. You are greatly missed by many and will never be forgotten.
Hugs and kisses to you in heaven.
Love Aunt Lisa"
"What a lovely and eloquent tribute written by Beth. Her words say it all…you are continually loved and missed, Brent. Aunt Di"
"Brent, I can't believe it's been almost 3 years now. I have been thinking about you so much - thinking about all of the times you came over to hang out with Ryan, all the times you stayed the night, all of the fun you and all the TW guys had together, watching you at the Indians game, taking you on vacation with us - just being together with you and all of your friends. I know you are in a better place but we all miss you so much!! Love, Mom Hutt"
"I miss you so much Bubby! Still it's hard. ♥"
"Thinking about you and your wonderful family and friends celebrating you today at the Golf Outing in your honor today! Thank you for being such a great friend to Ryan. You, your family and your friends are always in my thoughts & prayers! We love you and miss you every day!! Love, Mom & Dad Hutt"
"Happy #32 Bubby! All of your family & friends miss you tremendously, think of you constantly & love you more than you will ever know. We love you!"
"Happy Birthday Brent...I think of you often it is baseball season ;) when I go watch my grandson play his games there is a boy on his team named Michael and I swear it is like watching you all over again as a little boy playing ball, he and Camdyn have the chemistry you and Josh had, as I watch I look up to the heavens thinking of you. I know you are missed so very much..."
"Happy 32nd Birthday, Brent! Hard to believe so much time has passed without you. You are very much loved and missed. Aunt Di"
"Remembering you today and always. I had my little grandson, Xavier Brent yesterday. He already seems to have an "arm" on him. Looks like he may be a ball player like his uncle Brent. We miss you so much! Love, Mom Hutt"
"I miss you son. Today is a bittersweet day, it's the day when you were taken from us but also the day that little Dustin was born. He turned 7 today and You would be so proud of him. He tries very hard and is so happy. He makes everyone smile. I gave him the biggest kiss and hug and told him it was from uncle B :)"
"Bubby, Thinking of you today as I do everyday and missing you lot's. Love you!"
"Grandpa and I keep your memory in our hearts and your family in our prayers."
"Missing you, Bubby. Love you."
"Two years. 730 days. 17,531 hours. 1,051,896 minutes. 63,113,852 seconds. Multiply the seconds by the number of people who think of you, miss you and love you and the time is infinite. We are so blessed to have wonderful memories of you, to hold you in our hearts, and to love you. You are so missed, Brent. So very missed."
"Thinking of you today and always. I had Xavier Brent today. I look forward to sharing my memories of you with him as he grows up. I know you are always in Ryan and the other Tightey Whiteys thoughts. We all love you and miss you! Love, Mom Hutt"
"Carrying a heavy heart. I hate March."
Thinking of you on New Year's Eve 2012. I am watching my grandson, Xavier Brent Turner today. I wish he was able to know his "uncle" Brent. Of course I will show him lots of pictures. I was just looking at the note you wrote to Bob and me 15+ years ago telling us Happy New Years and signing it "love, your other son, Burnsy"! I miss you so much! Heaven is blessed to have you and we"
"It's still very strange to have Christmas and all that goes with it without your being a part of it. Do I miss you still everyday? yes. Do I cry everyday? no. What I know now is that you learn to adjust to life without the one that you miss so very much. I can now think of you with laughter and joy, right through the tears of missing you. Man did you bring me so much joy! your mom"
"Thinking of you alot lately, just wanted you to know. Love you lots!"
"thinking of you so much today Bubby, it's a beautiful day and I was thinking about how you loved to play ball. You were so serious about it, and always had your brow creased. :) Looking so much like you Dad and Grandpa Ed. Beth and Ryan named their sweet baby boy Caden Edward, cool isn't it? I like it that some of your friends still keep in touch and I know how their doing. Miss you Mom"
"Hi. I just listened to a sermon from last year at Greenwood Christian Church. Pastor Matt was telling the congregation about Brent and the family. I'm sorry to hear of loss. You'll all be in our prayers."
"Forever loved, forever missed. Recently saw a picture of your sons. Your legacy lives on through them. Great looking boys.
Rest in peace."
"Miss you so much son. I don't think I'll ever get through one of your birthday's without missing you. I miss you everyday. Mom"
"Happy Birthday Brent! Not a day goes by that we do not think of you still and always will! Sounds like the family is going to be celebrating you this weekend. I wish I could be there. We love you and miss you so much! Aunt Lisa & Uncle Tom"
"I ran into one of your buddies yesterday. He was a mini bear with you, played football and baseball with you. He hadn't heard the news. He said he hadn't heard from you in a while...It was hard to break his heart with the news. Everyone misses you so much. I love you Brent."
"Happy Birthday, Brent! You are missed so very much!"
"Missing you very much today bubby. Since I now know the circumstances surounding the accident, it has given me some closure and a sense of peace. I already knew you were a true hero and saved your family. Now I know what happened and so far the haunting nightmares have stopped. You were truly an amazing gift to me and I was blessed to be your momma."
"God created the perfect day yesterday to celebrate your life Bub. Your dad paid tribute to you in true fashion once again with all of your family and many friends. I know you were looking down with a huge smile on your face. You are loved and missed always!"
"Hard to believe it has been a year since you left us. We remember the early years of that darling, strong willed little boy who grew into a wonderful man. We pray for you and your family. Grandpa and I miss you."
"I found a note from you the other day. You wrote it one day when you were over playing with Ryan and I will treausre it forever, it says: "Hope your having a good day. Have a great New Year's. I love you guys C-ya soon. Your other son Burnsy #1" We love you too! Love, mom & dad Hutt"
"I miss everything about Brent. I miss how he used to bring the boys over to visit his family. I miss his smile, his laugh and his love for family, friends, and sports. His memories are a great comfort and something that no one can take from me and I share those with my friends and family that knew and loved him too."
"Your Family and Friends miss you terribly. Wrap your arms around your Parents at this time, and let them know all will be o k. Wrap your arms around them all, they need your strength! Much Love Brent"
"One whole year. So hard to believe. You are so missed and very loved by so many. They say it is always harder on those left behind, but I truly believe you are struggling in heaven.. My wish for you is that the hatefulness, pettiness, jealousy and anger subside so that you may finally rest peacefully. God is good and all-knowing...he will take care of all. Miss and love you..Aunt Di"
"The boys and I miss you like crazy. We often talk about how we get to be with you forever in eternity, and the boys and I couldn't be more excited! Missing your amazing smile! Merry Christmas babe! I love you more than anything xoxo ~Mel"
"The cards won the series bubby...how great is that?! I heard a song on the radio today that made me think of you. You are always with me."
"Been thinking of you a lot lately. Everyone misses you terribly. Keep an eye on your little sis. She's struggling with you being gone and loves you more than you'll ever know. You are so loved and missed by many!"
"Love and miss you more than anything babe. The boys and I are longing for you so desperately bad. We miss you more than I heart knows how. Love love love you more than anything! Love, Mel xoxo"
"Dear Brent, I found a picture of you from October 2003 holding Megan's daughter Abigail-she was a newborn baby. I wish you could be here to see and hold Megan's new daughter Hadley Marie-born 2 days ago. We miss you so much!! Love, Mom Hutt"
"Thinking of you and miss you lots! Love you! Aunt Lisa"
""When someone you love becomes a memory, that memory becomes a treasure." We miss you Bub!"
"Happy Birthday Brent! I sat in church this morning thinking of you & how so many miss you. What an awesome job your family did for your birthday celebration & the golf outing-you are so loved.I thank God for your life & the time you spent with us."
"Wow! What a party heaven must be having with you celebrating both your 30th b'day & Father's Day! All of your family & friends miss you tremendously, think of you constantly & love you more than you'll every know. Keep watch over your daddy today"
"Happy 30th Birthday Bubby! Thinking of you today as we do everyday. We love you and miss you! Aunt Lisa"
"Happy 30th Birthday Brent, you are truly missed and loved.."
"Happy 30th Birthday, Brent! I miss you so much. Your birthday has been celebrated for weeks with golf outings, and 2 big parties. I miss your smile and your easy way. I miss your sense of humor and laughter. I love you so much bubby!!"
It was great seeing some of your friends and their parents at the fundraiser at Culvers last week. Everyone came to celebrate you and your wonderful family. I wish you were here with us. We miss you!! Love, Mom Hutt"
"I know you thought I took too many pictures while you were all growing upo. But I am so glad I have them. Thank you for being such a great friend to our son Ryan. We miss you!! Love, Mom & Bob Hutt"
"This site is a beautiful tribute to Brent. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of his loved ones. Rest in peace Brent."
"Since we know God embraces you now, Brent, our prayers are for your family. We have good memories and will miss you terribly. Grandpa and Grandma Battreall"
"We were fortunate to be neighbors with Brent, Melissa, Dylan and Colton at the Condos. We had many good times out on the front porch together all of us. Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Rest in peace Brent, you will truly be missed by all."
"Wishing God’s Peace to Brent & may He watch over Melissa, Dylan & Colton & allow Brent to live on in everyone’s cherished memories.“God put his arms around you and lifted you to rest. His Garden must be beautiful, he always takes the best.”Love u Bub"
"What a perfect tribute to a man whose obvious great passions in life were his family and friends. Brent has left the legacy of being an adoring dad, loving husband, cherished son, and treasured brother and friend to so many. He'll be dearly missed."
"Thank you to all of my friends and family that have been pooring out love and prayers for us. Brian and Beth you are amazing children and I love and appreciate you both very much. To my Mother, WOW your the greatest Mother and Grammy ever."
"I love you Brent, you were the sweetest litte boy and a very wonderful young man. I was always very proud of you. I am praying for your family and I pray you rest in peace (cousin) even though I was Aunt Sonnie to you, I will miss you"
""Death leaves a heartache that no one can heal, Love leaves us memories that no one can steal" Gone but never forgotten. Rest in Peace Brent, we love you! Our thoughts and prayers are with the Burns family. We miss you guys! Love Lisa and Tom"
"Missing my brother!! He was an amazing person from the day he was born until the day he passed. I have such wonderful memories that I cherish. Thank you all for all of the love and support and the prayers. We all feel God's arms wrapped around us."
"I love and miss you Brent. You were an amazing son, father, brother, and husband. I will miss you more than words can say. I have the best memories of you and am blessed I was your Mother"
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