- 58 years old
- Date of birth: Sep 23, 1957
- Place of birth:
I-lan (Yilan) City, Taiwan
- Date of passing: Jul 23, 2016
- Place of passing:
Austin, Texas, United States
|Let the memory of Li Ying be with us forever|
Li Ying Oldham, 58, passed away on July 23, 2016. She was a beloved wife and mother and we will remember her forever.
Born Ho Li Ying (何麗英) September 23, 1957 and raised in I-lan, at the time, a small village on the eastern coast of Taiwan. In school, she excelled in her study of English and she dreamed of coming to America. After graduating from Ming Chuan College in Taipei, Taiwan with an degree in International Trade, she worked for an international trading company, which led to the issuance of a travel visa. While visiting her sister in Biloxi, Mississippi in 1984 she met a young airman that would become her lifelong partner, friend, and lover. She followed him around the planet, ultimately moving 14 times before finally settling down in Austin, Texas. While she loved being a Texan, she always considered Shawnee, Oklahoma to be her adopted hometown.
Li Ying served in the U.S. Army Reserve, became a naturalized U.S. citizen, flew the flag on holidays, and voted nearly every election. She was never not Chinese, but she was American through and through.
Besides following and supporting her daughter's acting career, her biggest passions were shopping and running. She was an avid and disciplined runner that persevered through freezing blizzards and blazing heat. Food was also one of her loves. Not only was she a wonderful cook, she could also put it away. She could have easily won any number of competitive eating contests, but, in truth, she would rather just eat on the couch and watch crime dramas. She loved driving her convertible Mustang and she was a bit of a lead foot... no stranger to defensive driving courses. She was also a fair-weather Dallas Cowboys fan and she liked to wear OU Sooners gear just to mess with the Texans.
Li Ying was a very hard worker and, although being a mother was first and foremost, she was also a valued employee of various companies, including TDK Ferrites, Simplot, Technol (Kimberly-Clarke), Baldwin Brass, Direct Mailers, and Business Ink. Over the years she declined several promotion opportunities, preferring instead to be an individual producer or machine operator.
Li Ying was small in stature, but big in spirit. She had big hair and a big voice. She knew what she liked and everyone else knew what she didn't. She was a tough, opinionated woman that was determined to live life her own way, but her love for her family, including her cats, was whole-hearted and unconditional. She was a scrappy, pull no punches fighter and she successfully fought her breast cancer for more than 20 years. It ultimately metastasized to the bone and hope gave way to the inevitable. She had been in rapidly declining health for several months before being admitted to Hospice Austin's Christopher House, but her bubbly personality and infectious laugh remained almost until the end. Li Ying passed peacefully with her husband and daughter at her side.
A celebration of Li Ying's life was held on the evening of Thursday, July 28, 2016, southwest of Austin, in Bear Creek. Numerous family and friends were in attendance.
In lieu of flowers, the family suggests a donation to Hospice Austin. Li Ying thoroughly enjoyed and appreciated the support provided by their wonderfully capable and caring staff. A gofundme site for this purpose has been setup at www.gofundme.com/inhonorofliying
Though several photographs are posted here on the ForeverMissed site, a more complete library is available online at: https://www.flickr.com/photos/145586085@N07/collections/72157668649368894/
Li Ying was preceded in death by her parents, Ho Kuh Jzou and Chang Shu Lian. She is survived by her husband of 32 years, Ronnie Max Oldham, of Austin, Texas, and her daughter and son-in-law, Fiona Rene and Jamie Brown, of West Hollywood, California. Li Ying's sparkle, zeal for life, and indomitable spirit live on in her precious and only child. She is also survived by sister, Li Chin Ho, and nephew Robert Ho, of Alhambra, California; sister and brother-in-law, Hsiao Mei and Wayne Walker, of Kingsport, Tennessee; brother, Ho Jian Hua, and nieces Ho Tsu Han and Ho Su Shang, of Taoyuan, Taiwan; nephew, Brian Walker, of Atlanta, Georgia; and niece, Stephanie Walker, also of Kingsport, Tennessee.
"Ronnie and Fiona,
My sincerest condolences for your loss. May your loving memories of Li and your love for each other guide you through your difficult times and make you stronger, wiser and passionate about life."
"Ronnie and Fiona,
So sorry to hear of your loss - Li fought a tough fight. Cherished memories and your special thoughts will keep her in your lives forever. Your time in Michigan was long ago - but your family was a joy to know and not forgotten."
"Ronnie, I'm so sorry for your loss and hope that all the memories you shared together will help to keep a smile on your face. Best George"
"Thank you for your service. It was beautiful story and family."
"Dear Fiona & Ronnie,
I didn't know Li but I know her beautiful, talented and amazing daughter and I want you to know that I am sending love and support from Denmark right now to you both.
Much love, God bless,
"Li was such a beautiful person with a kind heart and a wonderful personality. When we first met it was at her house and even though we didnt know each other she made me feel comfortable and welcome in her home, like I was an old friend. I will never forget that.
She had the most beautiful smile, her smile would light up a room and her laugh was infectous. Rest in peace sweet Li. May God bless you and take you home to his loving arms. My prayers and thoughts are with you Ronnie and Fiona."
"Beautiful memorial for a lovely soul. I'll miss the help looking after stray kitties in the neighborhood. Li was intelligent, kind, hard-working, strong, funny, and very sweet. She will be missed forever."
"Beautiful tribute to a lovely soul! One of MANY kindnesses: Li often helped look after various stray kitties around the neighborhood. Intelligent, kind, cheerful, hard-working, strong & very sweet. She will forever be missed."
"Li was a very special kind of person. She would make you laugh and smile. I always looked forward to seeing her. She made the work place a brighter place to be. I have really missed her smile and spark. I admired her also. She had an uncanny ability to get what she wanted or needed! She will and is sorely missed."
"I remember we were popping fireworks on the 4th, and Ronnie almost blew us all up, and boy was she funny about it. She was so sweet, even under firework stress. She will be missed. Condolences."
"1983...Ron and I are stationed overseas in the Philippines...we're both early 20's. 1/2 the gals in the country are trying to marry a GI and come back to the states. Ron goes TDY to Mississippi for a couple weeks or so. Comes back with a wife! From Biloxi. She's Asian. It's Li Ying! What a catch for Ron.
I jog too (run is too strong a word to use for me). Li and I used to talk about that....
But I'm a home-cooked foodie. Li loved that I ate everything she made, the spicier the better. My fondest memory is Li coaching Linda and all the kids (Ray, Jess, and Fiona) on the art of making a proper Egg roll. Me and Ron frying them up in my fish cooker on the porch (and I mean a pile of them). Then eating until we popped.
Another great story was when Ron took a business trip to Boston....came back with this box full of huge lobsters. We had the biggest and best lobster boil with the live lobsters crawling all over Scotts pavilion. We'd catch them and throw them in the pot. Cool. I think Li ate 10 lbs of lobster!! and yes, she boxed up all the parts that others didn't want...and took that home for another (few) days meal! Li was in heaven. Gotta love it.
I'll miss Li, but I know she was tired. Damned cancer."
"I will never forget how she had a pillow or something in her drivers seat of that mustang to boost her up a bit. Nor will I ever forget her loving spirit. We all will surely be less without her."
"I had the pleasure of meeting Li Yang when their family pit-stopped in Dearborn Michigan after Ronnie joined PMC. Our family visits were so much fun and centered around music and food. The most memorable meal was dim sum in Windsor Ontario where Li Yang showed us her favorite dishes. She smiled from her heart, laughed from her belly and loved from her soul. Ending peace and prayers that her zest for life will be carried through Fiona and Ronnie - a beautiful daughter and amazing man."
"Will remember our many vacations we took together sking, camping, Canada and Disney World to name a few. Will never forget you always saying that my husband Chris and Ronnie were loosing their hair and always trying to keep both of them out of trouble. That was a job in its self! You will be missed
Ronnie and Fiona you are in our thoughts and prayers."
"I only met Li a few times. She was, each and every time, very kind and bubbly spirited. I am so very sorry for your loss Ronnie and Fiona. Love you."
"I met Li only once. It was a few months ago as she was on her way to treatment. She was warm and friendly to me, a total stranger and expressed an inner strength that I found admirable.
I am a business associate of Ronnie. Over the years he has shown me his dedication to Li and his admiration. It was obvious that he cared deeply for his wife and admired her and their daughter of whom he is immensely proud. May they find comfort in their knowledge that Li loved them and appreciated their attention and caring over the course of the many years they shared together."
"Will miss her so much. But God needed a good Angel n he called her home She is in a better place n enjoy seeing her Dad n Mom. So sorry Ronnie. We Love You All."
"What a lovely obituary! I remember when Li and Keta and I were sitting in Keta's yard, and one of the lawn chairs suddenly folded up on Phil's son, PJ. You couldn't even see the little guy! Then we heard this little bitty voice coming out from under the lawn chair, saying "I'm all right!" I thought Li was never going to stop laughing!
I am so sorry for your loss, Ronnie and Fiona."
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