- 78 years old
- Date of birth: Nov 21, 1936
- Date of passing: Jun 3, 2015
|Let the memory of Lonnie be with us forever|
Lonnie Dewayne Avants, 78, passed away Wednesday, June 3, 2015 at his home after a lengthy illness. He was a longtime resident of Granville County. He was a member of Providence Baptist Church, retired from the US Army Reserve and IBM at RTP.
A private graveside service will be held at 11:00 A.M. Saturday, June 6, 2015 at Meadowview Memorial Park in Oxford by Mark Burnette.
Surviving are his wife of fifty-five years, Mary Joe Frazier Avants of the home, one daughter, Michelle Burnette (Mark) of Oxford, two sons; Tim Avants (Karen) of Timberlake, Michael Avants (Cherie) of Winston-Salem and four grandchildren.
"Happy Birthday Daddy! Angels gleaming. Choirs singing. They're casting their crowns at the feet of the Master. What...are you doing in Heaven today? Your voice is perfect. You have a new body, and you are feeling no pain. I wish I could hear you. I wish I could kiss you. It's so hard on us who remain! What...are you doing in Heaven today? This is just a little poem I wrote the other morning, thinking of you. I took mother shopping yesterday in Henderson. She is doing okay and enjoyed being out. We had dinner at Ribeyes and she seemed to enjoy that. We placed new flowers at your grave side. Christmas flowers with a pretty Christmas bow. We also put a new flag up! It was windy so you would have enjoyed, seeing it flying! I am not doing so great. I have health issues, of course, and I am still having trouble, finding my place here. Michelle and I turned 53. Timothy turns 55 in a few days, then Mother's birthday comes soon after that. I have been recovering from yet another surgery. My ticker seems okay, but everything else has been going to pot. I have enjoyed being away from work so very much! I dread going back! I wish so much I could work independently. I like working alone. I do not care for the crowds. I hang around and work anyway so that I can leave something for Ariel, when I am gone. I HATE that I have not done more for her. Guess I have never been particularly good at anything. There have been a few good friends...you know who they are. Cherie has been working hard and makes a good home for Ariel. I worry about them both but know I annoy them, so I just stay alone. I have been reading my bible more lately. I KNOW that makes you happy! I wish you were here, enjoying the things you like. Again, I stopped by your grave yesterday (Sunday). It was Denise's birthday, as you recall. We always thought it was funny with the side by side birthdays for you and her and me and Cherie. There has been some bickering, as you know, between she and myself, as well as the siblings and mother, and I refuse to be a participant. Thanksgiving will be here in a few days. Time is just flying by. I am holding on best I can. I think I have been doing better, fighting my depression, but it is ever present. Just coasting with no where in particular to be...steadily a misfit. Thank you, for making me feel special, while you were here. We will miss you Thanksgiving Day! I am so sorry for not being there all the times you wanted your children there. I have not learned to deal with that. I will never forgive myself. Now it is much too late. It upsets me so badly. Anyway, I am thankful you are my Daddy. You have left a lasting legacy. It is the constant reminder that we all should know, accept, and love Christ! Maybe He will be honored more now that Trump is in! Can you believe it!? I do wonder what you are doing in Heaven today. It blows my mind just imagining it. You are actually living it! I wish you could send me pictures of your mansion. I am very glad you have a nice house and that the mortgage is paid. I wonder who all you have met and talked with. All those Christians in the bible you read and wrote about for years. How could anyone not want that!? Well, I guess I will go for now, but it sure hurts. I am sorry. I just am not that strong. I always hope to see you in my dreams! I love you, Daddy!"
"I lost my biggest advocate and fan, when I lost my daddy. I hate being here. Life is filled with so many trials, challenges, tests, and disappointments. I always seem to make the wrong choice, whatever the topic...family, friends, work. I am fragile, and no one is coming to my rescue. I do not have one true friend. My family does not seek me out. My job is a dead end. I feel isolated...alone. At least Daddy tried. He always expressed concern, and now he is not here to do that. I can never have that back. To say I am hurt is the understatement of the day. It is a year later, and all I see are my own words. It is as though Daddy died and that is it. I do not like it one bit."
"Here I am at work, when I should be with my mother and siblings on this special day. I have had so many thoughts go through my mind, as the year has passed. I remember the day and the call all too well. I have yet to learn how to process it all. I often wonder about what Daddy's new life is really like in Heaven. It is well beyond my mind's ability to comprehend. I do believe he is more than ok, and I am not. I have been thinking about all the "what ifs". Daily I hear his voice, asking for any number of simple things he wanted, that I thought were trivial then but so important now, after the fact. How many times have we heard, "love them, while they are here"? Well, I did not do that to the fullest. It is amazing how clear everything is now, in terms of what I should have done. That is my most difficult struggle so far. How do I forgive myself for failing to spend the time with Daddy that I should have? I do not know, because I have not forgiven myself. I was impatient and not as gentle or understanding, as I should have been. It really bothers me, knowing how isolated and lonely he must have felt. I know that feeling, and I should have known better. I am so sorry and so lonely for that part of my life...the time we could spend together. I miss Daddy very much. I know he cared about me...for me. I miss him being here to say it. I just spoke with my mother. I wanted to know how she is doing. She seemed ok. She told me that Robert and Lynn Clinebelle will be bringing their new baby into the world today. One leaves in death, as another arrives in birth."
"I would like to express my deepest sympathy for the loss of your loved one. May Jehovah, the God of all comfort, help your family during this difficult time.
2 Corinthians 1: 3-4 "Praised be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of tender mercies and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our trials so that we may be able to comfort others in any sort of trial with the comfort that we receive from God.""
"How does one even begin to pay tribute to a man God created, to be my earthly father for 51 years? I suppose the answer is that I should follow the example you provided for me. Daddy, you had no idea how very sick I have been all these years, since I was a little boy. I was never the son I should have been, but I know you forgive me. Your Bible reading and prayer were not in vain. God heard them and sustained me, giving me a much longer life experience than I could ever have imagined, and it has brought many beautiful people into my world. I know at the times I was struggling the most, you were absolutely there, seeking God and brokering yet another recovery. No one else but you could ever be my daddy. I am so heartbroken. I am so lost, yet in Heaven, your new home, I know you are with family and friends, interceding on behalf of me, Michelle, Timothy, mother, your daughters-in-law, son-in-law, grandchildren, family and friends. You had an amazing witness and you still do. I hope to get better. Since you are with Jesus, please, let Him know I need an extra portion. I have read a lot of what you wrote. You were filled with so much love. I will try to thank you by how I live. I always believed you were proud of me. Daddy, I was, am, and always will be so very proud of you. I miss you so very much Daddy. I am not even half the Daddy you have been to me, but I will try harder, because you showed me how! You will always find me with my Bible! I bet your mansion is beautiful! Daddy, I love you!"
"To Michael and family -
We are so sorry to learn of your father's passing. Praying God's peace and comfort for you as you lay him to rest today. We will continue to pray for you during this time of grief and loss. May Jesus care for your hearts well.
Bob, Paula and Eleanor"
"Our sympathy is with you and your family. Praying for all of you during this difficult time. May God continue to bless each of you."
"We are so sorry to hear of Lonnie's death. Lifting you all up in our thoughts and prayers during this difficult time. Although it is a very sad time for all of you and you will miss him terribly, I rejoice in the fact that he is no longer sick or in pain. God Bless You All !!"
"My sympathy and Prayers are with all of you during this time of hardship. May you feel the loving arms and comfort of Jesus wrapped around you."
"My sympathy is with you all. Lonnie's illness has been lengthy and tough for him and you all. May you be blessed for the good care that you provided him over his years of illness. You are all in my thoughts and prayers."
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