Robert J Koechlin, Jr
  • 45 years old
  • Date of birth: Aug 24, 1967
  • Date of passing: Nov 24, 2012
Let the memory of Robert be with us forever

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one,
Robert J. Koechlin, Jr. (AKA Bobby Joon)
We will remember him forever.

A tribute to him will be held
Sunday, December 2, 2012 at 5 pm

Robert would want you to come as if you were
just hanging out with him.
So please avoid all black; jeans and casual attire
will be perfect, and we will serve his favorite drink, scotch!

 Darling & Fischer 
 Memorial Chapel
231 E. Campbell Ave.
Campbell, CA 95008 

A reception dinner will immediately follow
Villa Ragusa
35 South Second Street
Campbell, CA 95008

RSVP is not required but appreciated
Parvin Jahanbakhsh

If you have pictures or written memories you would like to share
please bring it to the event so we can create a memory book for Nilufer and Kiana.

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It would truly mean the world to us.
Thank you. 

Nilufer Koechlin

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Join us for Ride!!

Due to this weather condition, this event has been postponed for a later date.



Closest Airports
Mineta San Jose International Airport
San Francisco International Airport

Hotel Accomodations:

The Toll House
140 South Santa Cruz Avenue
Los Gatos, CA 95030
For bookings contact

Marriott Residence Inn
2761 South Bascom Avenue 
CampbellCalifornia 95008
For bookings please contact
Christa Meier 1.408.477.1854





Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Stephen Byrd on 25th August 2016

"Dear Robert,

This would be incredulous for you to fathom, but I'm quite literally speechless and at a loss of words that it's been 3 years...

What I wouldn't give to catch up with you on everything in life that's ironic, beautiful, laughable, humbling, and hilarious....

Happy Birthday, Bro!

Miss ya, Man...


This tribute was added by Holly Shearer on 24th August 2016

"Happy birthday, Robert.  We miss you so much.  We hope you have a wonderful time celebrating in heaven.  You will always live in our hearts.  Love, Ty, Holly, Lydia, and Liam xoxoxoxoxoxo"

This tribute was added by nilufer koechlin on 23rd August 2016

"Tomorrow is your 49th birthday. It is always hard leading up to your birthday thinking about what we would have been doing. Nevertheless, I always focus on thinking of all the great things about you.  I want you to know that Kiana is a great biker. She did her first triathlon, showed up with no prior experience and came in 4th place.  She has your athletic genes! I know you would have wanted bike components for your birthday! :) I hope you hear us every night saying good night to you, sending you kisses, and Kiana telling you about her day.
We love you. We miss you. Every second of every day.
From the book: Proof of Heaven

When tomorrow starts without me,
And I’m not there to see,
If the sun should rise and find your eyes
All filled with tears for me
I wish so much you wouldn’t cry
The way you did today,
While thinking of the many things,
We didn’t get to say.
I know how much you love me,
As much as I love you,
And each time you think of me,
I know you’ll miss me too;
But when tomorrow starts without me,
Please try to understand,
That and angel came and called my name,
And took me by the hand,
And said my place was ready,
In heaven far above
And that I’d have to leave behind
All those dearly I love.
But as I turned to walk away,
A tear fell from my eye
For all my life, I’d always thought,
I didn’t want to die.
I had so much to live for,
So much left yet to do,
It seemed almost impossible,
That I was leaving you.
I thought of all the yesterdays,
The good ones and the bad,
The thought of all the love we shared,
And all the fun we had.
If I could relive yesterday
Just even for a while,
I’d say good-bye and kiss you
And maybe see you smile.
But then I fully realized
That this could never be,
For emptiness and memories,
Would take the place of me.
And when I thought of worldly things
I might miss come tomorrow,
I thought of you, and when I did
My heart was filled with sorrow.
But when I walked through heaven’s gates
I felt so much at home
When God looked down and smiled at me,
From His great golden throne,
He said, “This is eternity,
And all I’ve promised you.
Today your life on earth is past
But here it starts anew.
I promise no tomorrow,
But today will always last,
And since each day’s the same way,
There’s no longing for the past.
You have been so faithful,
So trusting and so true.
Though there were times
You did some things
You knew you shouldn’t do.
But you have been forgiven
And now at last you’re free.
So won’t you come and take my hand
And share my life with me?”
So when tomorrow starts without me,
Don’t think we’re far apart,
For every time you think of me,
I’m right here, in your heart."

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 21st August 2016

"We love it that Nilufer is having another ice cream social for your birthday.  Since we can't be there to share Bobby stories, we're left to do our own thing.  You know how deeply we miss you and want to make it a special day.  The other night, I dug out Chicken Soup for the Koechlin Soul and read the endearing words you wrote in letters from camp, Southwestern summers, college and beyond.  Priceless!  One thing we're going to do is watch the sunset at the marina.  Everyone who loved you should watch and feel your presence in the setting sun.  You always said to stay an extra 15 minutes, and we will, for the grand finale.  We locals will go to the Mass being offered in your memory on Sunday and toast you at the brunch that follow.  And you can be sure I'll give the robellini palm some extra TLC in honor of you, Nilufer and Kiana.  We all love you and miss you forever.    Love, Mom and Dad"

This tribute was added by Holly Shearer on 24th November 2015

"Hi Robert, we can't believe it's been three years since you've been gone.  We miss everything about you especially all the great times that we shared together.  There just isn't anyone like you, Robert.  You have left a permanent imprint on our hearts and you will be forever loved and forever missed.  

Love always, Tyson, Holly, Lydia, and Liam Robert (your little namesake).Xoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo"

This tribute was added by Julie McKnight on 24th November 2015

"Robert....we miss you so much! There isn't a day that goes by without thinking about you. You live in our hearts, your laugh, your smile, your larger than life personality, our memories, they live on in our hearts and in our dreams. We love you! Xoxo Julie, Tom, Shane and Kylie"

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 23rd August 2015

"In honor of your 48th birthday, I'm going to try my darndest to be a blessing to everyone I meet throughout the day.  You were that way without really trying!  We like to remember all the fun birthdays you celebrated for 45 years.  The ice cream, balloons, prayers, donations, and memories shared tomorrow make us smile and miss you."

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 24th November 2014

"~~Always on our minds and in our hearts~~ Two years hasn't erased any of the pain of losing you.  We know you're still with us in so many ways.  We see you in the sunsets, hear you in the music, laugh with you at our idiosyncrasies.  We love you more, Mom and Dad"

This tribute was added by Holli Roever on 25th August 2014

"Happy Birthday Bobby!   I am sure you were just bombarded with thoughts yesterday.  You will always be remembered and loved by such an amazing group of family and friends."

This tribute was added by nilufer koechlin on 24th August 2014

"My dear Bobby,
Every year on this day, I would make sure you got the longest bike ride that you wanted and always planned something fun and outdoors for you. We miss you so much. Kiana has been talking about you all week. We celebrate your life and greatness again with our 2nd annual neighborhood ice cream social. I love you forever. Kiana loves you forever. You will always be with us no matter when you or we are. I love you.
Nilufer and Kiana"

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 24th August 2014

"Bobby was born at Good Samaritan hospital in Cincinnati on this very special day.  He was a joy right from the start.  His first home was an apartment he shared with Mom, Dad and Kathleen.  Three months later, we moved to our first real home on Veazey Ave.  Oh, how he loved growing up there.  Happy birthday, Bobby!  We love you forever!"

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 19th November 2013

"Robert, 8/24/67 - 11/24/12

~~~ In Loving Memory ~~~

Your devoted family that misses
you so much!"

This tribute was added by nilufer koechlin on 25th August 2013

"Happy birthday to an amazing man that lived well and made many lives better. I miss you so much every second of every day. We hosted a neighborhood meet and greet in your honor today to meet all of our neighbors (100 homes or so) and toasted you. I love you forever my love."

This tribute was added by Gloria Walker on 24th August 2013

"Happy Birthday to Bobby!  I'm thinking of you and your loved ones today and every day. I know how missed you are and how many memories you left behind.
I read a quote somewhere that made me think of you:
"Life is not about days lived ~ But the memories made"
We love you all,
The Walkers"

This tribute was added by Samira Jay on 24th August 2013

"Happy birthday to a guy who I truly loved like a brother. I know the perfect celebration of your birthday would have been all family and friends with a backyard BBQ and some cold beers. We've had some great times in that backyard that you and Nilufer remodeled and I know how much you loved it out there. I will never forget those times. I know your spirit lives on through your family."

This tribute was added by Sue Koechlin on 24th August 2013

"Last weekend was our first family reunion without Bobby.  He always added so much to our family gatherings.  He'd have had a blast with his cousins and all.  He's dearly missed again today, on his birthday.  He would be doing something special with Nilufer and Kiana, for sure.  He loved to talk about his happy childhood in Ohio and wanted the same for Kiana.  He made every day special."

This tribute was added by Ryan Fix on 14th December 2012

"Kiana, I worked with your dad and still consider him a dear friend. He inspired me w/his passion of life & love for you and your mom. Be thankful for your time with him and know that you were his pride & joy. You were the center of his conversations and rightfully so. I have a deep respect for the time commitment he made to you and will pass that onto my children one day. Isiah 26:19"

This tribute was added by Kathleen Mason on 3rd December 2012

"We met both Robert and Nilufer through mutual close friends, Darlene and Joe Hensley.  Although it was a friend of a friend acquaintence, Robert made such a lasting impression on us.  His dedication to his family and friends, and the warm and friendly aura he had about him was so endearing. Our deepest sympathy to the family."

This tribute was added by Rick Olive on 2nd December 2012

"This tragedy is truly stunning. Robert was a wonderful spirit with a delightful sense of humor. Words fail at a time like this, but even those who knew him for only a brief period of time feel the loss and know the world is a poorer place without him."

This tribute was added by Sheila Wood on 2nd December 2012

"Although I only met Robert within the past 6 months his love of his family shone through as did his passion for all aspects of his life.  He will be greatly missed by all that he touched.  My thoughts and prayers go out to his family."

This tribute was added by Van Vu on 1st December 2012

"I only met Robert recently through work at Level 3 but he made such a great impression on me.  Always greeted me with a big smile and his demeanor just inspired trust.  I kept thinking to myself that this was a good guy that I wanted to work closely with.  Sadly my wish would never come true.  My deepest condolences to his family for their immeasurable loss."

This tribute was added by Andrey Dolgachev on 30th November 2012

"Shocked and truly saddened.  Robert was always a blast to hang out with and a truly good guy.  I so regret not staying in touch since moving up to SF and will always remember and miss our bike rides and hanging out together.  Nilufer, Melanie and I can only send you our condolences from NZ but we are thinking of you and Kiana from afar and sending you all our best wishes."

This tribute was added by Gordon Macpherson on 29th November 2012

"Have only great memories of Bob aka BACARDI Bob from our days working together in So CA to the trips to Puerto Rico, Italy, Tahoe etc. So many stories. His sense of humor, positive attitude and outlook on life was contagious and is something I have always admired and tried to mimic. I am praying for comfort and peace for all of us but especially for Nifuer, Kiana and Bob's family."

This tribute was added by Vanessa Seidler on 29th November 2012

"Although I never met Robert, having worked with Nilufer in the past and hearing her talk about her husband, I knew he was the light of her life - a "super keeper" as she once said.  The family photos say it all.  Nilufer, my heart goes out to you, your daughter and Robert's family.  I hope you all find peace and comfort in the many happy memories you keep.   Big hugs."

This tribute was added by Patrick Burke on 29th November 2012

"Robert and I had just begun our much anticipated working relationship, there was very little I knew about his personal life so these wonderful pictures have allowed me to fill in the blanks and experience what an exceptional father, husband, friend and adventurer he was."

This tribute was added by Scott Jacobs on 29th November 2012

"Kiana, I met your Dad at a start up where we began our working friendship that continued at AT&T and lasted over 10 years. From the beginning, his personality created an atmosphere that drew people to him. He glowed whenever he talked about you and your Mom and loves you very much. He passed doing what he loved...riding. I can picture him riding, with a huge smile and the wind in his face."

This tribute was added by Blaise Brady on 29th November 2012

"I met Robert recently at a Level 3 training and although we only spent a matter of hours together I knew that he was a good person and cared about his family and enjoyed life.  Remember the good times and how he made you feel, and he will always be with you.  

he will be missed."

This tribute was added by Rebecca Macdonald on 29th November 2012

"Greg and I wish we could be there for you Nilufer. We will always remember the love you two shared and how we planned our weddings just weeks apart. We've been thinking of you a lot in the last few days and want you to know we will do anything we can to help.

Sending love and hugs from Colorado."

This tribute was added by Ramon Periquet on 28th November 2012

"Being an avid cyclist, I got to know Robert more the first time I saw his bike on the car at work (ATT). Always enjoyed talking about some trails or roads that we did or didn't do. Great and humble guy that I will always remember. Now he gets to ride the roads/trails in the sky. We'll miss you down here."

This tribute was added by Erik Takaoka on 28th November 2012

"We recall good times in the past, remember you now and will never forget you in the future. Thanks for the good times Robert."

This tribute was added by Josh Roza on 28th November 2012

"I met Robert at AT&T and worked with him for a few years on a number of different accounts.  Robert was one of those people you just had an instant connection with. It is not a surprise to see how he touched others.  May his memory be a blessing to all who knew him."

This tribute was added by Chuck Cate on 28th November 2012

"I am so thankful to have known Robert since 2006. He was a great man, father, co-worker and friend. I recently had the opportunity to catch up with him about life, faith, career and family around a fire pit under the Colorado night sky till the wee hours of the morning. My family is praying for the strength that Nilufer and Kiana will need.  We will see you again in Heaven soon."

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