ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of our mum, Alhaja Abibat Arogundade, 60, born on May 15, 1955 and passed away on September 24, 2015.

Posted by Sheriff Arogundade on May 16, 2020
Happy Posthumos birthday dearest mum. You might be gone but your teachings , your caring , compassion , equity and values lives on through us and will be passed on from generation to generation. Continue to rest with the lord . May God grant you the best of the grave and the best of paradise. Amen
Posted by Basirat Naphew on May 15, 2020
Happy post humous birthday mommy. Today is the 65th anniversary of you birth. I’ll forever celebrate you.
May Allah grant you Aljana Firdous and envelope all of your children with His protective cloak.
I miss you every day, continue to Rest In Peace until we meet to part no more in aljanah In Shaa Allah.
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on May 15, 2020
Mum......Forever irreplaceable!!
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on September 26, 2019
Oh mum.....my irreplaceable jewel.
The hurt is still fresh as though you left yesterday.
I've given up searching, nobody can fill the void.
What would I not give for just 1 more day with you???????
Posted by Basirat Naphew on September 25, 2019
Rest on mummy. I never stop loving & missing you.
Posted by Basirat Naphew on October 5, 2018
Dearest Mom,
From the very day your passing was confirmed, people have said to me and my siblings that we should be consoled in knowing you’re resting peacefully in the purest land on earth and In Shaa Allah free of all sins since you died a Shahida, bearing witness to His dominion and greatness.
Those words did not make meaning nor console me for the past 3years. Alhamdullilah, same words have come back to me as I seek consolation in Allah’s words to cope with the deep void from loosing you. I bear witness to His words & promise “Never say that those martyred in the cause of God are dead; infact they are alive! But you do not perceive it” Q2 v154
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on September 25, 2018
Oh mum.........
Posted by Sekinat Arogundade on September 25, 2018
My Mum, My Teacher, My Mentor, My Best friend, My Boss My Slave, My All......., I can not say I miss you, as I still see you in my heart Every second of the day and in my dreams almost Everyday...... U are Still there ALWAYS with d mentoring and love....... Wat I can say I miss, are my lil ways of showing you how dearly I love you...... I miss telling you I love you Mum, but you will forever remain d Best Thing That Has Ever Happened To Me.
Posted by Bukola Arogundade on September 24, 2018
If only wishes come through" ! my only wish would have been to have you here forever. 3years gone! words fail me now but I know I miss you and forever Will. Rest on beloved MUM
Posted by Basirat Naphew on September 24, 2018
Iya Luku, Iya mi, Adunni, awi koko loju oloro...
I miss you even more with each passing day. The waves of grief from your loss is relentless.
Continue to Rest In Peace, my jewel of inestimable value. May Allah grant you Aljanah Firdous.
Posted by Sheriff Arogundade on September 24, 2018
Its 3 years on. The pain still as fresh as though it was yesterday.
We miss you alot, especially your love, wisdom, kindness and courage .
But we feel comfort knowing you resting in a beautiful place among angels where you belong.
Rest on mum dearest.
Posted by Sheriff Arogundade on May 16, 2018
I am forever thankful to Allah for having you as a mother. That's the greatest blessing i believe God gave me in this world because I believe any other blessing I have was because of the wonderful mother God gave to me . Love you now and always mum. Sleep on in the mercies of God.
Posted by Basirat Naphew on June 13, 2017
Death causes pain and separation indescribable. I missed you so much mom.

What I'll give to hear your voice again, your laughter, your prayers. To feel your arms in a warm embrace....
Posted by Basirat Naphew on May 15, 2017
Today would have been your 62nd birthday mommy. Happy post humous birthday! Yesterday (May 14th) was mother's day. I'll forever celebrate you mom, the queen of my heart, the best mom that ever lived.

I came across below advice on dealing with grief from a self acclaimed old man; it sums up how I feel and helps me get by one day at a time.

   "As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first
   wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything
  floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence
  of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You
  find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe
 it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph.

 Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is
 float. Stay alive.”“In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and
 crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t
 even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and
 float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves
 are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come,
 they still crash all over you and wipe you out.But in between, you can
 breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the
 grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a
 cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes
 crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the
 line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80
 feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further
 apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or
 Christmas. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare
 yourself.

 And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again,
 come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to
 some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.”

So each time the waves of grief hit, and o' boy; they hit really hard on anniversaries, birthdays etc' when I have to come to terms with knowing that the phone call I yearn for the most will never come, to bless and pray for me with joy, intensity and love that only a mother's love can provide.

I miss you dearly mommy with every cell in my being. But, with every washes of the wave of grief over me, I emerge floating with a thankful heart for the life you lived and evergreen memories we created. Continue to rest in peace, may Allah forgive all your sins and grant you the best of paradise. Amen!
Posted by Bukola Arogundade on April 26, 2017
I met you and loved you, you saw me and took me as your own. You loved me and showed it. Some wish they never had a mother in-law but I lost something in me the day i lost you,I miss you so so much mum, I love you and i'll do whatever to hear you call me that name.( Abukia)again. Rest on mum,my gist partner and friend.
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on September 24, 2016
Words elude me; one year already! It is only by God's grace that we pulled through. The scars of loneliness, the pains of missing you & relentless yearn to hear your voice and feel your embrace are daily struggles. Some days are easier, being comforted with knowing you're in a better place.

Other days are not so easy. The pain reaches deep & I have to remind myself to breath. The scar of your loss reaches depth I never knew existed. It is a testimony to how much we shared and how deeply you're loved. I bury myself in the wealth of memories we created, going through them I cry, smile, laugh and cry some more.
The support of families & friends have been plentiful (for which I'm very grateful), but your loss created a void in our lives that can never be filled.

For every memory created, cries & laughter we shared; I'll forever be grateful. Rest on my friend, teacher, confidante, prayer warrior, morale booster, best cheerleader and MOM. May Allah grant you eternal rest, forgive your shortcomings and grant you Aljana Firdous Alhaja Abibat Adunni Jokotade Arogundade.
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on April 30, 2016
oh Mum............

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Posted by Sheriff Arogundade on May 16, 2020
Happy Posthumos birthday dearest mum. You might be gone but your teachings , your caring , compassion , equity and values lives on through us and will be passed on from generation to generation. Continue to rest with the lord . May God grant you the best of the grave and the best of paradise. Amen
Posted by Basirat Naphew on May 15, 2020
Happy post humous birthday mommy. Today is the 65th anniversary of you birth. I’ll forever celebrate you.
May Allah grant you Aljana Firdous and envelope all of your children with His protective cloak.
I miss you every day, continue to Rest In Peace until we meet to part no more in aljanah In Shaa Allah.
Posted by Azeez Arogundade on May 15, 2020
Mum......Forever irreplaceable!!
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Shared by Basirat Naphew on May 15, 2018

Happy post humous Birthday Mommy,


Another mother’s day (May 13) preceding your birthday mommy (May 15). I will forever hold dear Special thoughts and loving memories shared with you mommy.


Rest on peacefully until we meet to part no more.


Love you till eternity.

My Elusive Date

Shared by Azeez Arogundade on May 15, 2016

Mum,

In a fairy-tale world, you would have been 61 today and we both would be having a quality ''son-mum'' date.

I remember your last birthday- 15th May 2015, like it was just yesterday. I had perfected my secret plans to take you out on the day itself even though it was a Friday; a working day...just a mother and son outing...The plan was to show up @ your door step on the morning of your birthday, you'd be surprised cos you'd expect me to be @ work....You would ask me if I wouldn't be at trouble for missing work and I would answer that I was on a day vacation. We would go shopping, thereafter, go see one of the numerous stage plays on queue at the Muson centre on the day, then we would eat out- after I must have been able to convince you about the benefits of eating out once in a while (You were never a fan of eating out cos you termed it waste of money when one could as well cook 2 pots of good soup with the money to be spent on 2 portions of rice & chicken)..Well this one day, I was ready to break your rule....after all, it was your special day and I was ready to make you my super date for the whole day....

Then Wednesday 13th May 2015 ...just 2 days to actualizing my master plan, a mail came that I had to travel on an official assignment. Till today, the person that sent the mail (not my manager) still wonders why no further mails from his system delivers to my box...that is how much I so blacklisted him....LOL....but what did he know about my plans for you, he only delivered a message, so no hard feelings.

Long story short, my birthday plans for you did not come to pass last year.

Then, I began planning for your next birthday which is today; 15th May 2016, right from last year when my plans were ruined by the official assignment...The only thing I didn't consider was that He also had plans to call you to His side before today...I never thought anybody had the right to ruin this date again...And I didn't think He would use His ''Veto'' power...

Imagine what fun we would be having today...just me & u; son & mum...considering that I would have planned the birthday date for a whole 364 days...Well it only became 2 planned birthday dates that never came to pass...

Happy posthumous 61st birthday mum...continue to rest on...My love for you is complete....My elusive date.....

                                                                                           Azeez.