mum
Alhaja Abibat Jokotade Arogundade
  • 60 years old
  • Date of birth: May 15, 1955
  • Place of birth:
    Nigeria
  • Date of passing: Sep 24, 2015
  • Place of passing:
    Mecca, Saudi Arabia
Mum, I said already that death only took your life..my relationship with you continues...Rest on

This memorial website was created in memory of my mum, Alhaja Abibat Arogundade, 60, born on May 15, 1955 and passed away on September 24, 2015.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Basirat Naphew on 13th June 2017

"Death causes pain and separation indescribable. I missed you so much mom.

What I'll give to hear your voice again, your laughter, your prayers. To feel your arms in a warm embrace...."

This tribute was added by Basirat Naphew on 15th May 2017

"Today would have been your 62nd birthday mommy. Happy post humous birthday! Yesterday (May 14th) was mother's day. I'll forever celebrate you mom, the queen of my heart, the best mom that ever lived.

I came across below advice on dealing with grief from a self acclaimed old man; it sums up how I feel and helps me get by one day at a time.

      "As for grief, you’ll find it comes in waves. When the ship is first
     wrecked, you’re drowning, with wreckage all around you. Everything
    floating around you reminds you of the beauty and the magnificence
    of the ship that was, and is no more. And all you can do is float. You
   find some piece of the wreckage and you hang on for a while. Maybe
  it’s some physical thing. Maybe it’s a happy memory or a photograph.

  Maybe it’s a person who is also floating. For a while, all you can do is
  float. Stay alive.”“In the beginning, the waves are 100 feet tall and
  crash over you without mercy. They come 10 seconds apart and don’t
  even give you time to catch your breath. All you can do is hang on and
  float. After a while, maybe weeks, maybe months, you’ll find the waves
  are still 100 feet tall, but they come further apart. When they come,
  they still crash all over you and wipe you out.But in between, you can
  breathe, you can function. You never know what’s going to trigger the
  grief. It might be a song, a picture, a street intersection, the smell of a
  cup of coffee. It can be just about anything…and the wave comes
  crashing. But in between waves, there is life. Somewhere down the
  line, and it’s different for everybody, you find that the waves are only 80
  feet tall. Or 50 feet tall. And while they still come, they come further
  apart. You can see them coming. An anniversary, a birthday, or
  Christmas. You can see it coming, for the most part, and prepare
  yourself.

  And when it washes over you, you know that somehow you will, again,
  come out the other side. Soaking wet, sputtering, still hanging on to
  some tiny piece of the wreckage, but you’ll come out.”

So each time  the waves of grief hit, and o' boy; they hit really hard on anniversaries, birthdays etc' when I have to come to terms with knowing that the phone call I yearn for the most will never come, to bless and pray for me with joy, intensity and love that only a mother's love can provide.

I miss you dearly mommy with every cell in my being. But, with every washes of the wave of grief over me, I emerge floating with a thankful heart for the life you lived and evergreen memories we created. Continue to rest in peace, may Allah forgive all your sins and grant you the best of paradise. Amen!"

This tribute was added by Bukola Arogundade on 26th April 2017

"I met you and loved you, you saw me and took me as your own. You loved me and showed it. Some wish they never had a mother in-law but I lost something in me the day i lost you,I miss you so so much mum, I love you and i'll do whatever to hear you call me that name.( Abukia)again. Rest on mum,my gist partner and friend."

This tribute was added by azeez arogundade on 24th September 2016

"Words elude me; one year already! It is only by God's grace that we pulled through. The scars of loneliness, the pains of missing you & relentless yearn to hear your voice and feel your embrace are daily struggles. Some days are easier, being comforted with knowing you're in a better place.

Other days are not so easy. The pain reaches deep & I have to remind myself to breath. The scar of your loss reaches depth I never knew existed. It is a testimony to how much we shared and how deeply you're loved. I bury myself in the wealth of memories we created, going through them I cry, smile, laugh and cry some more.
The support of families & friends have been plentiful (for which I'm very grateful), but your loss created a void in our lives that can never be filled.

For every memory created, cries & laughter we shared; I'll forever be grateful. Rest on my friend, teacher, confidante, prayer warrior, morale booster, best cheerleader and MOM. May Allah grant you eternal rest, forgive your shortcomings and grant you Aljana Firdous Alhaja Abibat Adunni Jokotade Arogundade."

This tribute was added by azeez arogundade on 30th April 2016

"oh Mum............"


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