ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of our unconditionally loved Eleanor Wernerspach, born on May 8, 1942 and passed away on November 2, 2018.  She was the loving partner of Raymond H. Peters for over 40 years, and she resided with him in Howell, NJ.      

Eleanor is survived by her son, Vincent Wernerspach, his domestic partner Rebecca Slutter, her three step-children: Toni Baldanzi and husband Steven, Andrew Peters and partner Michael, Jessica Nathan and husband Scott, and her grandchildren: Matthew, Brienna, Chase, Alex, Joseph, and Cooper. 

She also is survived by her daughter Linda Obriwin, three grandchildren: Kayln, Keith and Gerald, and also four great-grandchildren.  

She is also survived by her sisters Ruthy and Carol and by her brothers Phillip and Edward along with many nieces and nephews.

Eleanor was predeceased by her mother Dorothy, her father Walter, her sister Peggy, her brothers: Walter 1, Walter 2, Bob and Bill, her "Aunt" Helen and nephews, Thomas and Michael.   

Eleanor known as "Elly" to most, "Grandma" to a few and "Mom" to fewer, was a loyal partner and loving mother and grandmother.  Her favorite thing was to spend time with her children and her grandchildren. She was proud of each of them for their accomplishments.  

Elly enjoyed her free time mostly with Ray riding motorcycles, attending car shows, visiting friends and neighbors and taking yearly trips to Wildwood, Lake George and Macungie. 

She loved to play solitaire, crossword puzzles, lottery, scratch off tickets and the occasional trip of chance to Atlantic City. She also loved to watch Let's Make a Deal, The Price is Right, The Beast, Cash Cab and Family Feud especially with Ray, Vincent and other family members.

Eleanor worked for decades as a superb nurse's aid at Pineland and Bartley Nursing Homes.  In fact spent most all of her life giving to and caring for others.  She was selfless in her actions for the benefit of her family members, friends, co-workers and patients.  She looked at each day as a new opportunity to help someone and she would always put others needs before her own.  It seems that she was able to help others more than they collectively could help her. She set a high bar for the standard of being a true and genuine human being.

In memory of Elly, (Mom, Grandma, Sister, Aunt, Friend, Co-worker or Aquaintance) our hope is that each person that she has touched, pays forward her selflessness to help and care for others.

Eleanor's strength, determination and steadfast love is the gift that she has left for all of us.  Join us in cherishing and keeping her with us forever.

VIEWING

Tuesday, November 6, 2018

4-7 p.m.

Lakewood Funeral Home

FUNERAL SERVICE

Wednesday, November 7, 2018

10 a.m.

Lakewood Funeral Home

BURIAL

Atlantic View Cemetery

49 Forest Ave., Manasquan, NJ


Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on December 31, 2018
Mom this is now my first New Year's Eve without you physically here in my life. I'm thinking about you often today. Since losing you in 2018, I've decided that 2018 sucks! I am truly looking forward to a happier, healthier, more peaceful and prosperous year in 2019! I love you! I miss you! I wish that you were here with us! I hope that you are truly in the spiritual world and or Heaven enjoying the time with your mother and father, Walter 1, Walter 2, Uncle Bobby, Uncle Billy, Aunt Peggy, cousin Michael "Aunt" Helen and all other family members that we lost before you!
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on December 25, 2018
Mom, this has been my first Christmas Eve and Christmas without you here. As you probably somehow know, I've had my somber moments missing you dearly. However, you always made Christmas special with your traditional and beautiful decorations....the Christmas Tree, the fireplace mantle with the Nativity, the stockings all lined in a row across the mantle and some years down the stairs railing. Your delicious one of a kind lasagna was always a treat! You always made Christmas magical in a way that we kids couldn't sleep on Christmas Eve with the anticipation of a spectacular Christmas morning! You always delivered a memorable Christmas! I have followed in the footsteps of your Christmas traditions and even added a few of my own! Merry Christmas to you! God Bless You! Rest in Peace! I Love you and miss you unconditionally!
-Vincent
Posted by Jamela Meziane on December 8, 2018
Elly,
I have only known you a short time through Brienna and Vinny but within that time there were a few things that were evident. 1. You can make a delicious lasagna. I spent a holiday with your family and I could tell that lasagna was truly something you enjoyed making because it was for the people you cherish the most. I could tell that being with your family enjoying a meal was something that made the holidays for you, and I’m so grateful that I could witness this and be a part of this. 2. You were a huge loving support system for your family. You seemed to always encourage your family to pursue the things they love. Brienna, Vinny, and I sang Christmas carols to you and Ray one night. I knew in that moment that Christmas Caroling was a product of your encouraging words and support to first Vinny and then Brienna to do the things they love. I also see this with Chase and Matt, as they are pursing the things the love. 3. You truly loved your family unconditionally, they were your world. I have know the Wernerspach’s to be very family oriented. That was imprinted by your unconditional love for your family. Elly, my life is impacted by your life and I thank you dearly for that. God bless you.
With much love,
Jamela
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on December 2, 2018
Hi Mom! Today represents one month ago today that you passed. I want to believe that you are still alive and with us in the spiritual world. Today "Africa" was played on a radio station that I was listening to. "Africa" is one of the songs that Brienna played for you on her cell phone the night that you were departing us. I wonder if you came through in that song today. The words to that song resounded in me that night and bought me to sobbing. How true they are.
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on November 22, 2018
Mom, this is my first ever Thanksgiving without you here in person with me...the first ever for my children without you as well. Im sure that you somehow know that we all are thinking about you, loving you and missing you. It isn't and never will be the same. However, in your honor, as we know that you would want for us and expect for us to do...we are managing to have a Happy Thanksgiving together as a family. My children and I literally live because of you. We love you and appreciate you for that and FOR SO MUCH MORE! We are so very THANKFUL for you and for everything that you have done for us! God Bless You and keep you in eternal bliss, love, happiness and joy!
Love,
Vincent, Matthew, Brienna and Chase
Posted by Scott Reiss on November 14, 2018
My condolences to the Wernerspach family.Elly I never met you but I know some of your family.From what I know about you,I wish I did know you.May you rest in peace.
Posted by Matthew Wernerspach on November 11, 2018
Grandma,
Your love and support will never go unnoticed or unappreciated. For the past 22 years you have made impacts on my life that others could never have. I’m so grateful for everything we’ve done and every moment we’ve had together. In the beginning when we lived together it was smaller things in life like watching you stand at the mailbox waiting for our bus in the pouring rain while Brie and I waited under the front overhang; or cooking us breakfast and dinner almost daily; or playing solitaire together. When we moved it became bigger events such as holidays, parties, or vacations that paint pictures in my mind. Thankfully, I worked with Dad and was able to see you more often. From these later years I think about us going to Atlantic City since I was finally able to do your favorite activity, gambling. Of course I will always cherish those memories of just casually showing up and watching tv with you and Pop before and after work, and sleeping over once in a while just to do it. You were always a big part of my life and will continue to be. I love you Grandma. Thank you.
Posted by Michael Gunther on November 10, 2018
Elly was truly a warm and kind person that gave it all and asked for nothing in return. I met her when they ,Ray and Elly, first started dating, and I realized that they were making each other happy. At the end of the day nothing else matters They got their second chance in life to be together and believe me there isn't anything better. I will miss her view of life and the conversations we always enjoyed having. When a couple can communicate with their eyes they have reach the ultimate level of eminence. I hope to see you on the other side my friend. I will check on Ray now and then for you, rest in piece. I can still see her on the back of rays bike just in front me. That's right girl off into the sunset you go.
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Posted by Michael Borys on November 9, 2018
My dearest Aunt Elly, I realize it has been quite sometime that we had visited . I remember one summer that I had spent in Jersey between family homes there. All were very welcoming but your home was most welcoming and You made me feel like one of your own children. It was summer ill never forget. You are sadly missed . There will always be love in my heart for you. God has blessed you with no more pain or suffering. Rest in peace.
God Bless and much love ,your nephew Michael Borys
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on November 9, 2018
Dearest Mom,
It is difficult to believe that exactly one week ago today that you took your last breath while I held your left hand at your bedside. 
The experience was circumstancially both dreadful and beautiful. The sadness I felt was the deepest and most painful of any loss that I've ever had.
Today you are remembered both in happiness for the great memories of your life with me and also in somber for your departure...my physical loss of you in this
world.
God Bless You Mom!
12:05 pm 11-9-18
Love,
Vincent
Posted by D KSr on November 8, 2018
Having known of the humor, determination, loyalty, intelligence, and the other fine qualities of her son, Vinnie, over more than three decades, it is obvious that this apple (or nut, perhaps) has not fallen far from his tree. Our visits with his family have been far too few over the years - the more is our loss. During our visits to celebrate Elly's, or Aunt Helen's, or Ray's birthday, or even to meet the new incontinent dachshund, Elly was always the most gracious hostess. Judy, Danny, and I always had that warm and fuzzy, family feeling when in Elly and Ray's home, or in their company at an event involving Vinnie, Becky, Matthew, Brianna, and Chase - choral concerts, graduations, a beautiful child's birth, and, now, Elly's reunion with God.  We will always remember Elly. We are blessed by her loving family, and our love for them.
Posted by Rebecca Slutter on November 7, 2018
Elly, you were a very strong woman that I could look up to. I appreciate you sacrificing your time to watch my kids when they were young so I could work to give them what they needed. Now that my kids are older, I can see how strong, independent and caring they have become just like you and their father who you also raised. I love/miss you and you truly were the mother I never had.
Love, Becky!
Posted by Toni Peters-Baldanzi on November 7, 2018
Elly,
The world has lost another angel on earth but certainly gained one in heaven.
You came into our broken family and helped make us whole. There were so many wonderful and fun times we had together. I know we didn’t always see eye to eye when I was in high school but what teenager ever gets along with their mother. And that’s what you were, a mother to me and a grandmother to my boys.
I will always appreciate the love and affection you gave unconditionally to my dad. You were his rock and he is struggling down here without you. So, keep an eye on him and every now and then send a sign so he knows you looking out for him.
Love you forever, Toni
Posted by Chris Borys on November 6, 2018
To my Aunt Elly – Although we haven’t seen each other for some time, my thoughts of you when I was young are full of great memories. When you came to Massachusetts to visit, it was like having two mothers! You were there to help if we needed anything and my mother certainly loved having you as you were her second set of eyes watching every move us kids made!  You are sadly missed, but knowing your free from all illness is a relief. Love your nephew, Chris.
Posted by Jessica Peters-Nathan on November 6, 2018
Elly - there are so many emotions running through me as I write this...
Tremendous sadness in my loss, shock at how fast everything seemed to happen, confusion as to why we lost you, wondering if you are with all your loved ones above, worry for the ones you left behind, joy in all my memories of you, immense pride in how you helped me become the woman I am, happiness in knowing you loved me as your own daughter, great appreciation for having you as my "mother" figure - but mostly an incredibly deep love for all that you were to me and our family. We were a blended family and certainly never perfect, but through the years, you were steadfast in your love for all of us and the rock of the family. As I look back at all the memories, I am reminded of how amazing you truly were. I know my dad is a better person for having met you all those years ago, and we ended up being the lucky ones. Thank you for teaching me how to be tough and take care of myself, but also how to be tender and caring when needed.  Thank you for devoting your life to our family and making the tough choices to hold us all together through the good times and the bad. That is a true testament to your unbound strength, unconditional love and fierce determination.  I will forever be grateful and will keep your fighting spirit alive within me, always. Love-Jessica
Posted by Daniel Kessler on November 5, 2018
What can I say about the impact Ellie has had on my life? For me, I’m thankful for her tenacious spirit and steadfast mind, but most importantly, her loving and caring heart. These attributes are what shaped her son Vinnie into the man he is today - my best friend since high school.
I fondly recall spending Christmases with the Wernerspach and Peters families. Halloween and Christmas caroling, many long conversations late into the night, and just “hanging out” with Vinnie were a significant part of my teenage years. In all these events, Ellie was part of the fabric that makes up who I am, and I treasure these precious memories. Although a few more miles separate our families these days, I always look forward to getting together whenever we visit NJ.
As I think about how I’ve known Ellie for over half my life, I guess the lesson I’m reminded of, is to live life in such a way so that those around us are positively impacted, and that we’re remembered for loving one another. In my little corner of the world, Ellie’s legacy lives on in me, in that I’m blessed with a lifelong friend, and my kids have an “Uncle Vinnie.” In this difficult time, I pray for the peace and presence of the Lord, and His comfort for the Wernerspach and Peters families. God bless.
Posted by Sheryl Einsiedler on November 5, 2018
Ellie was a lovely and tough lady. very much respected.
Ray and Ellie were best friends too. I loved to see them together all the time having coffee and talking.
While I did not know Her very well, She reminded me of my Grandma,
Ray, I’m very sorry for your loss, Vinny I know how hard this is for you, I’m very sorry. To Ellie’s family and friends. Rest In Peace Ellie.
Posted by Stephen Szczypinski on November 5, 2018
Thoughts and prayers of peace and comfort for Vincent and his entire family. May the memories of love that you have of your beloved Mom, Wife, Grandmother, Sister and friend get you through this difficult time.
Posted by Patricia Allen on November 5, 2018
Dearest Elly, I want to thank you for for being a wonderful woman and mother. I am so grateful to have known you and your family especially your children. They are truly a testament of your beautiful heart. May you be at peace in heaven and I pray for your comfort and continued support for all of us who will miss you so much
Posted by George Strycker on November 5, 2018
My Prayers are with you and your family
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on November 4, 2018
   My dearest loving and beloved mother, Eleanor. I am unable to sum up your beautiful life of 76+ years in only a few sentences. I am honored and blessed to have you for my mother. You have demonstrated to me by example: determination, strength, loyalty, generosity, an open mind, unconditional love, care and support in ways that many in this world do not understand. 
   You were there with me when I took my first breath in this world and I was there with you when you took your last breath. In this world you were surrounded by those who love and care for you. Now you are surrounded by those who left this world before you. They love and care for you as they always have and as we do and always will. Until the time comes when we again will be united, we will remain connected perhaps in ways beyond my comprehension. 
   I hope and pray that you are in heaven with God, your mother, father, sister, brothers, nephews and friends. I love and care for you unconditionally Mom! I miss you so much!
Love- Vincent

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Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on December 31, 2018
Mom this is now my first New Year's Eve without you physically here in my life. I'm thinking about you often today. Since losing you in 2018, I've decided that 2018 sucks! I am truly looking forward to a happier, healthier, more peaceful and prosperous year in 2019! I love you! I miss you! I wish that you were here with us! I hope that you are truly in the spiritual world and or Heaven enjoying the time with your mother and father, Walter 1, Walter 2, Uncle Bobby, Uncle Billy, Aunt Peggy, cousin Michael "Aunt" Helen and all other family members that we lost before you!
Posted by Vincent Wernerspach on December 25, 2018
Mom, this has been my first Christmas Eve and Christmas without you here. As you probably somehow know, I've had my somber moments missing you dearly. However, you always made Christmas special with your traditional and beautiful decorations....the Christmas Tree, the fireplace mantle with the Nativity, the stockings all lined in a row across the mantle and some years down the stairs railing. Your delicious one of a kind lasagna was always a treat! You always made Christmas magical in a way that we kids couldn't sleep on Christmas Eve with the anticipation of a spectacular Christmas morning! You always delivered a memorable Christmas! I have followed in the footsteps of your Christmas traditions and even added a few of my own! Merry Christmas to you! God Bless You! Rest in Peace! I Love you and miss you unconditionally!
-Vincent
Posted by Jamela Meziane on December 8, 2018
Elly,
I have only known you a short time through Brienna and Vinny but within that time there were a few things that were evident. 1. You can make a delicious lasagna. I spent a holiday with your family and I could tell that lasagna was truly something you enjoyed making because it was for the people you cherish the most. I could tell that being with your family enjoying a meal was something that made the holidays for you, and I’m so grateful that I could witness this and be a part of this. 2. You were a huge loving support system for your family. You seemed to always encourage your family to pursue the things they love. Brienna, Vinny, and I sang Christmas carols to you and Ray one night. I knew in that moment that Christmas Caroling was a product of your encouraging words and support to first Vinny and then Brienna to do the things they love. I also see this with Chase and Matt, as they are pursing the things the love. 3. You truly loved your family unconditionally, they were your world. I have know the Wernerspach’s to be very family oriented. That was imprinted by your unconditional love for your family. Elly, my life is impacted by your life and I thank you dearly for that. God bless you.
With much love,
Jamela
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A Brief Outline of Elly's Life Events

Born to parents Dorothy and Walter Ostrander only two days prior to Mother's Day on Friday May 8th 1942 Eleanor took her first breath in Brooklyn, New York. At this time she had been the seventh child born of eight to the Ostrander family. Two brothers each named Walter had passed away...one at birth and the other at the age of two. Surviving siblings at that time in 1942 included Bobby, Ruthy, Billy and Peggy. Two years later Eleanor would enjoy another sister Carol to join the Ostrander family.

Sadly, Eleanor's father Walter passed away when she was very young.  Her mother Dorothy then remarried a man by the name of Foley. Through her stepfather and mother Eleanor was blessed to have two additional brothers added to her family, Phillip and Eddy.

Some years later Mr. Foley also passed away. Mother Dorothy was left as a lone parent to raise and to support the remaing children at home. Eleanor along with some of her other siblings went to work to help support the family. Back then welfare was supported by family, not government and this certainly was a factor in the development of Eleanor's strong character traits including ambition and self sufficiency.

Eleanor eventually married a Henry Wernerspach. With him she had her daughter Linda.  After 10 years Eleanor and Henry were divorced.  

Shortly afterwards, Eleanor met a Joseph Letts. After a short relationship with him Eleanor realized that she was pregnant with her son Vincent. They were not married so Eleanor maintained the family name Wernerspach and Vincent was born to that name as well.

Eleanor eventually met Ray Peters in 1974 at a roller skating rink in Lakewood, New Jersey.  He too was divorced and had three children of his own: Toni, Andrew and Jessica.  After dating for over four years, Ray invited Eleanor and her children Linda and Vincent to join his family which also included his Aunt Helen in Howell, New Jersey. Eleanor enthusiastically accepted on June 6, 1978

Sadly, Eleanor lost her beloved mother Dorothy due to an unexpected heart attack only two months later on August 11, 1978. 

In 1984 Eleanor became a grandmother for the first time! Kalyn Marie Obriwin was born from her daughter Linda. Linda would also have two sons Gerry and Keith respectively.

In 1996 Eleanor became a grandmother for the 4th time to her son Vincent"s first child Matthew Alexander Wernerspach and then also a 5th and 6th time to Brienna Min Wernerspach  in 1997 and to Chase Andrew Wernerspach in 2001. 

Eleanor would also become a great grandmother to children born of her daughter Linda's children Kayln, Gerald and Keith. Unfortunately they never had the pleasure to know her nor she them.

In early November of 2005 Eleanor was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor within her large intestine. She was successfully operated upon on December 5th by Dr. Lowrey, gastrointestinal surgeon at Community Medical Center. She and her loved ones were very fortunate that the cancer was limited to the tumor and that it had not spread any where else.

Eleanor worked at Pineland Nursing Home in Lakewood,  New Jersey and then Bartley Nursing Home in Jackson, New Jersey collectively for nearly 33 years before she retired after suffering a severe shoulder injury to her rotator cuff in a work related incident.

In late winter of 2014, Eleanor was diagnosed with a cancerous tumor within her left breast. The biopsy ruled out a connection to her previous colon cancer. After a great deal of research and contemplation Eleanor elected to have a complete mastectomy of her left breast. Rather than chemotherapy Eleanor elected to have radiation treatment localized to the breast and surrounding areas. The mastectomy was completed in early Spring of 2014 and in late Spring of 2014 Eleanor had taken a sidecar motorcycle trip to Lake George, New York with Ray.

For three years Eleanor was checked for cancer recurrance via one annual PET scan and quarterly blood tests. She remained clear.  In the fourth year after her first blood test a low level marker suggested that a cancerous tumor was in her body. A PET scan revealed no such presence.  Quarterly blood tests continued to show an unchanged low level marker through the remainder of the year but no other scans were performed.

In the first quarter of year 5 the blood test revealed a considerable spike in the cancer marker.  CT and PET scans revealed three considerable mestastises of breast cancer. Eleanor began chemotherapy treatments about two weeks following the unfortunate discoveries. She was responding well until blood clots occurred that created pulmonary embolisms. This was treated for several days in Monmouth Medical South Campus Formerly Known as Kimball Medical Center with Heparin drip and Xarelto oral medication. After being stabilized Eleanor was released home and continued her weekly chemotherapy treatments 3 weeks on, then one week off for 16 consecutive weeks.

A new pet scan was completed and demonstrated that the "hot spots" of cancer were all eliminated and that the tumors had reduced 50% in size. Eleanor seemed to be on the road to a cancer remission. She was very fortunate to never have suffered the typical nausea and vomiting that many people experience through chemotherapy. This was definitely a contributing factor to her ability to maintain reasonable health during these treatments.

Although exhausted at times and although all of her hair on her head fell out,  Eleanor continued to maintain as normal a life as she was able. She shopped at the local Stop & Shop store and enjoyed her favorite coffees at Chick-fil-A,  Dunkin Donuts and the local McDonalds. She purchased her daily scratch off tickets some losers some winners and enjoyed watching her favorite game shows on regular TV stations and of course the Game Show Network.

Following the initial 12 sessions of chemotherapy and the pet scans her oncologist suggested nine additional chemotherapy sessions. He felt rather confident that six sessions would probably send the cancer into remission but felt that nine sessions be a safe play. Unfortunately after her third session of the new set of nine sessions ordered, Eleanor's taste buds changed and she was unable to enjoy eating foods that she had eaten for many years. This made it difficult for her to eat and maintain normal caloric intake. We worked with her the best we could to encourage her to eat and to continue to move forward. Although she did not experience nausea nor vomit she did develop another gastrointestinal issue that contributed to a dehydration process. This began to complicate her ability to receive chemotherapy consistently. This was rather unfortunate because it also created an inability for Eleanor to go out and to enjoy her normal life routines. For the first time in many years Eleanor was unable to take the Lake George trip to New York. She also declined a trip to Wildwood, New Jersey and finally to Macungie Pennsylvania.

On September 13th Eleanor received her last chemotherapy treatment although not planned to be that way that was the last treatment. On September 15th Eleanor attended and 80th birthday celebration for her life partner Ray surrounded by loving family and extended family Eleanor enjoyed her time and what food that she could eat that she enjoyed. She was walking with a cane at that time although tired fully capable of all of her motor skills.

Several weeks later Eleanor was barely able to stand. After walking to the top of her staircase she collapsed at the landing but fortunately did not seem to suffer any injury. The following morning when she arrived for a chemotherapy treatment instead she was directed to the emergency room for evaluation. The assumption was that Eleanor was suffering from muscle atrophy in her legs due to a recent sedentary lifestyle as a result of exhaustion from the chemotherapy treatments. Eleanor was admitted to Monmouth Medical South Campus formerly known as Kimball Medical Center for further observation. During her two days observation and MRI of her brain revealed that a 1-inch tumor had evolved at the base of the left side of her brain and a pea sized tumor in the front left anterior lobe. The presence of these tumors created swelling and pressure on the brain which induced severe vomiting, bowel complications and stroke-like symptoms. Her oncologist arranged for Eleanor to be transported to Community Medical Center in order to receive CyberKnife treatment of the brain tumors to destroy them and also steroidal treatment to reduce the swelling. The goal was to expel the swelling so that Eleanor would once again regain her faculties.

The CyberKnife treatment as well as the steroids certainly assisted Eleanor in having more alertness mental Clarity and some improvements in her ability to speak and to communicate. Unfortunately from the neck down she was unable to move a finger or wiggle her toes. She absolutely must have been frustrated and miserable. Each and every day for hours per day her beloved family members and extended family visited her in the hospital.  We strongly encouraged her to get well. We helped in many ways to exercise her, to help feed her and to encourage the medical staff at the hospital to provide her with the nutritional and medical necessities to assist her body to get better. 

Over the three weeks that Eleanor was hospitalized, she began with a poor diagnosis which then improved and then declined. We are very fortunate to have been with her throughout all of those ups and downs. 

In her last hour, Eleanor was personally surrounded by her son Vincent,  her life and domestic partner Raymond, her granddaughter Brienna,  Vincent's life and domestic partner Rebecca, her grandson Chase  and Brienna's boyfriend Gregorio. Eleanor's grandson Matthew and her step daughters Jessica and Toni including friends :Cathy and Bob Riley, Ken Gantner and Dave and Judy Kessler all visited personally during the days and weeks before her departure. She is very thankful for those visits I am sure. Who knew that the same hospital where her life was once saved from colon cancer 13 years earlier would be the same hospital where she would lose her life 13 years later?

Eleanor was accompanied by her life partner Raymond at every single chemotherapy session and by her son Vincent who attended most every session and his children who attended some sessions. After working most days Vincent spent several hours most evenings visiting with his mother and Ray watching TV shows together. Rebecca and Brienna occasionally went to the house to help clean and cook. Ray cooked most meals most all of the summer and the Autumn until Eleanor passed. We all contributed to help Eleanor as she has helped us throughout the many years that we have been fortunate enough to have her within our lives.

Eleanor passed away at 12:05 p.m. on Friday November 2nd 2018 surrounded by loved ones mentioned above. As Eleanor has began a new chapter in the afterlife as we understand it, we now begin a new chapter within this life. Although we no longer have Eleanor with us physically to participate within our lives we certainly have our fond memories of her,  the lessons that she has left with us and the values that she has instilled within us.  Through us these memories, lessons and values certainly keep Eleanor alive within this world. 

For those of you who know Eleanor we hope this will add to your knowledge. For those of you who did not know Eleanor or knew very little of her we hope that this biography will make you to know Eleanor better. 

Eleanor (Mom, Grandma) we love you unconditionally and we miss you dearly!

Love your greatful son,

Vincent



Recent stories

Popeye's & Bluto's Bilge Rat Barges

Shared by Vincent Wernerspach on November 5, 2018

Thanksgiving week 2006 Mom (Elly), Ray, Becky, Matthew, Brienna, Chase and I traveled to Orlando, Florida for vacation at Westgate Resorts.  We decided to go to Universal Studios & Islands of Adventure. Even though we were in Florida the high temperature this particular day was probably 65 degrees. In the evening it was in the mid to upper 40's...rather chilly.  Since we wanted to experience EVERY ride and attraction in the park the time had come to go on the Popeye's & Bluto's Bilge Rat Barges ride. I was absolutely shocked that Mom was willing to go on the ride...enthusiastically! Anyone who knows me understands that I am not much of a fan of water rides! However I was happy to follow my mother's lead. This water tube ride was the wildest of its type that I have ever experienced! We all were absolutely drenched and laughed throughout the entirety of the ride. It seemed that my mother laughed and enjoyed it most. She too has never been much of a fan of water rides so this was certainly a positive experience for me to have shared with her. Following the ride, we were drenched and the temperature was cold!  Outside of the ride-ever so conveniently-was a kiosk for the sale of Popeyes and Bluto's Bilge-Rat Barges ride towels!  Although expensive, Mom spared no moment to reach into her purse and to then purchase each one of us an individual towel so that we could dry off and gain some comfort. This story clearly demonstrates the "child at heart," the generosity and thoughtfulness of my beloved mother. This is a memory I will keep with me for the remainder of my life.

I LOVE YOU MOM!  I MISS YOU DEARLY!

Love your eternally greatful son,

Vincent



Shared by Brian Nemetz on November 5, 2018

I’ll always remember going to the house to practice singing. Even though we always work her up prior to her shift, she was sweet. I also remember how happy she was when we went to work to sing. 


Good memories. You will be missed

A Funny Story

Shared by Ken B on November 5, 2018

I can remember a time my Aunts Ellie, Peggy, and Ruthie came to visit us up in Massachusetts with our cousins. My Mother took everyone shopping at Richies Department Store in Salem Mass. As we were all shopping something happened with my Mother and when it did My Aunts grabbed all us kids and ran different directions Ellie had Me and Linda and we were hiding in a clothes rack. when my Mother came to get us Ellie was screaming lady who are you we don't know. if anyone remembers and knows what happened it was quite explosive for my Mother. On that note 

I say Ellie I know I was MIA for a really long time but I will always cherish the times I came to visit in New Jersey over the chicken coop and you were there for us as a family and being there my Mother your sister. You always will be in my prayers and thoughts. I will never forget the fun we all shared at Your house especially the cat that love to suck on ear lopes


With all of my heart Thank you for being part of my life. I will carry lots of fun filled memories