Eniola,
I met you fall of 1998, and had just moved to the UK to study, you had just finished from Cardiff. I was busy trying to understand this information technology thing I had gotten myself into, you were trying to get your first job. Over the course of 1998 and 1999, we developed a friendship which has always surprised me with its warmth and depth of feeling.
While you showed a strong face to the world, you showed great love and care to all around you including me. This ranges from your convincing me that no one should spend Christmas alone and convincing me to come over and spend time with you and Adebola for 1999 Xmas in Colindale to us agreeing to be roommates even though we have opposite personality types.
Somehow we found an apartment we both agreed on and living arrangements which worked and 14 Dennis Gardens, Stanmore, becoming a rallying ground for many late weekends nights of Tekken and FIFA on the PlayStation, raucous laughter, copious amounts of alcohol and wide ranging conversation as young men tend to have. I made lifelong friends from that period, people that I expect to be close to for the rest of my life (Thank You).
Fast forward to my moving away to Canada in 2002, the US in 2010 and yet every time I came to the UK for close to 15 years, you would either come and pick me up from the airport or try to find me wherever I was, no matter how inconvenient (early or late) it was. We would simply pick up our conversations where we left off last time, being friends was just that simple.
Living together for close to two years, I learnt a ton by watching you, how to have a cutting wit but carry no malice, have strength while being warm, your protection and care of your siblings and the rest of your family, friends, a deep pragmatism on practically all topics while being as fun loving as the best of them. These are the qualities of a good man, friend, brother, son, husband, father to emulate. You told me once – “Kunle, you are very brave, what I should have answered is Eni, you are very strong”.
We started keeping in touch more frequently in December and the friendship resumed seamlessly. “Still waters run deep” you would always say, and you lived that way, simply being there when needed. I am grateful to have known you and I am sorry to have missed many years of conversations as we have grown into middle age, life got a little busy.
I will miss the conversations that we will not have but I will treasure the image of you I carry in my head, holding a drink and smiling mischievously at some personal inside joke. You were truly an E ni Ola and E ni Iyi.
Rest Well My Friend
Kunle Fagbamiye