See His Life for Gregory's excellent adventure.
Also, the tributes for Gregory's memorial are here. 

Services were held at Congregation Shir Hadash on March 17 at 2:00 p.m. )
 In lieu of flowers, we ask that donations be made to the Alzheimer’s Association (

Here is the video that Gregory just finished (his "swan song"). The music is by Au5 "Return to Moonland".
Enjoy!   ( )

Posted by Tamara Herman on March 11, 2017
Dear Doug, Beth and Ali,
Loss of our Gregory is so tragic, and I wish I could find the right word for it. There is no such word, I can offer you my love And support. You are not the Family but IT feels like it.
The fond memory goes back from 2011, when I was always sitting next to Gregory for High Holidays AT Shirhadash, Los Gatos. He was so loving and like an angel and totally filled the absence of my son and daughter. Thank you Gregory for such unforgettable moments.
So Doug and Beth, you've raised a buitifull son, can be proud.
When my mom's yehrtzeit was held in 2013, his presence gave me the incredible comfort, as coming from the best doctor in the world.
The last time I saw you Gregory was at my house on Tursday, February 23, 2017 after 3:00 PM. You were with your loving mother, and my best friend Beth. It was a short visit, but my crepes filled with ground walnuts
And pot of home made soup was attracting force. You really liked this
European dessert. Later Beth texted me that both you and Doug actually loved them.
And the fatal March 3rd, Friday 10:33 am when I was waiting for Beth to come and take some photos with your sofisticated camera of my dead's holocaust diary, the worst, unimaginable news came about your premature passing.
R.I.P. My loving Gregory.
Posted by Susan Wytyshyn on March 11, 2017
It seemed that Gregory took a long time to come into this world, as I recall he kept his Mom in labor for awhile. (Probably didn't like the room) He was an amazing, talented young man, and adult. My memories are seeing him dancing with his beloved grandmother at Genny's 50th b'day party, swimming in the Gulf of Mexico on a 4th of July Holiday with us on Sanibel Island, taking it upon himself to clean after dinner, and then advising me that all my appliances were dirty and he would clean them all ESPECIALLY my blender...I said "go for it Gregory"! I remember always thinking there was no way anyone could surpass the brilliance of Doug, inventor superior, but then we would laugh at Doug trying to help Gregory with a school project..NOT...My last memory is at Bethalee"s 50th b'day party, and having him "try" to explain to me the meaning of the camera on his head...I am beyond sad and heartbroken at the loss of a brilliant young man, and for you, Beth, Doug and Alison, all my love.
Posted by Natasha Vergileva on March 11, 2017
My dear Beth, Doug and Alison... struggling to wrap my mind around the fact that Gregory is not here with us any more... I remember first time we met Gregory years ago during your remodeling project, and the very first few comments this kid made about the construction process left no doubts we were dealing with absolutely exceptional technical mind... just wish more time has been granted... With heavy heart, and lots of love, and prayers...Natasha
Posted by Mary barsch on March 11, 2017
Dear Doug, Beth, and Alison,

So many wonderful memories of Gregory......carpooling to Walden West, family trip to SF during holidays, using his photography skills and big brother patience for photo shoots for Ali and "the girls", experiencing fine dining with my girls, and keeping the Barschs in the 21st century with technology.

Mostly I will treasure Gregory's kindness, generousity, curiousity, and unbelievable loyalty as a friend to Sarah and Elise.

Thank you for sharing this amazing young man with us. Lots of love, Mary
Posted by Rosemary Mark on March 11, 2017
Beth, Doug and Alison - I wish Beth that when we had lunch on Thursday we'd spoken about our Hapa children, especially Gregory. What a beautiful person you created. I smile while my heart breaks reading the tributes of his keen and charming personality, love of food and photography, and being such a good person. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Posted by Beth-Douglas-Alison Lee on March 10, 2017
One thing you find out quickly when living with Gregory is that "home automation" means that your home is no longer a passive entity. We were reminded frequently with lights turning on and off, music (mostly EDM) blaring unexpectedly at all hours of the day and night, televisions and radios coming on and off unexpectedly, and even yesterday, internet bandwidth problems because of secret wireless cameras watching the washing machine to alert the completion of its cycle. Did you know that wireless cameras continue to operate even after you unplug them; I didn't either. We were used to the various dings and clicks, beeps and warning warbles that caused the dog to go crazy at 3 in the morning (which makes the battery beep of a smoke alarm soothing). Our energy usage tripled when Gregory returned home (thankfully supplied by solar) and there was always a soft glow coming out of Gregory's room; was it the electromagnetic field or the soft hue of his smart lighting? Scooby liked it in there because it was a good 10 degrees warmer all the time.

The house has been very quiet lately.
We miss you Gregory.
Posted by Debi Tario on March 10, 2017
Douglas and Beth,
I am so sorry for your loss. Heart feels heart aches for you both.
With a heavy heart...
With love and blessing
Cousin Debi Lee Tario
Posted by Diane Kay on March 10, 2017
Gregory must have been in maybe 6th grade? I don't quite remember but he was home alone and he called me asking what is a substitute for sour cream! He wanted to make waffles. I suggested yogurt and we both looked on line. He must have called me 3 or 4 times with different questions about the waffles and then silence for an hour or so. Suddenly a knock at the door and there was Gregory with a warm waffle for me! It was one of the sweetest things ever. I was so pleased that he felt comfortable calling me! He also loved to make flan and would borrow my flan pan often.....
Posted by sam west on March 10, 2017
I remember every day after school he and I would take the train to go home. He would selflessly buy me a slice of red velvet cake every Friday, and it was the brightest part of my week.
Posted by Haley Kasof on March 10, 2017
I remember Gregory from elementary school. He was always so curious and seemed to know so many facts about all these little details down to every subject. I really wish I could have met up with him for coffee before his passing, if just to talk and catch up after years flew by. I know my mother got to join him and his mother for the Women's March in San Francisco, and I remember her speaking so fondly of seeing him. He was a wonderful person and was taken too soon.
Rest in Peace Gregory, you'll always be missed dearly.
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Posted by Rosemary Mark on March 3, 2021
Gregory -- I know you would be so proud of the work you mom has done in her food world, and especially her current venture. Your energy and cooking mastery are surely guiding her now.
Posted by kappn kappa on March 3, 2021
I think about you a lot Gregory. It's a pain to not be able to share my adventures with you. At one point you were one of the only ones I would speak to about regarding all things technology and I will always remember the things we tinkered with. I will keep on keeping on, and my heart goes out to Beth, your family, and extended family of friends and loved ones.
Posted by Rosemary Mark on January 14, 2021
I never met Gregory but wish I had. I will always want to hear the stories and see photos of Gregory's cooking adventures. My thoughts are with you all, especially today on the celebration of his 26th year in your hearts.
Recent stories

A single camellia

Shared by Carol Leonard on January 18, 2021
I went for a walk on Gregory’s 26th birthday and a single camellia crossed my path. I stopped and shot the photo - Gregory would be proud. I didn’t stop there, I looked it up, and here is what I found...

“Pink camellias symbolize a longing for someone and is given to someone who is missed.”
I’m convinced the hard days open our eyes to remind us what’s most important in life. Sending love to his family and friends on his birthday. I will keep thinking of Gregory. I know how much he is missed. 

Hawaii Memorial video Gregory Thomas Lee and Mary Hong Lee

Shared by Beth-Douglas-Alison Lee on April 2, 2019

Here is a "short" clip of the memorial we had for Gregory and Grandma last August.

Very special Aloha and Mahalo to the Keauhou Canoe Club for their hospitality, canoes, and muscle and to Aunty Tutu for the beautiful service. 

Also thanks to Ben B. for shooting the video and allowing me to chop up his art for this shorter version, and Creative Video & Photo for the photography.

And Aloha and Mahalo to our Hawaii and San Diego Ohana for being there to help us celebrate the lives of Gregory and Mary.

Beth, Ali, and Doug

Shared by Orly Jaffe on January 14, 2018

Dearest Gregory 

Your spirit shines on, and you would be so proud to see your parents, sister and grandparents today. They carry you with them always while trying their best to embrace and live life. When we celebrate holidays together you join us and live on - in so many hearts. And it was at events hosted by your parents that I remember you carrying a camera, serving as a gracious host and warming guests with your smile. Your sweet smile, our chats and sunny disposition remains in my heart. I feel blessed we could work on blog projects together, your help was so valuable and it was always such a pleasure to connect. You are an incredibly special spirit, and that light won't ever go out. And know that you are forever missed.