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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, James Willis, Jr., 75 years old, born on January 2, 1937, and passed away on July 21, 2012. We will remember him forever.
January 3, 2020
January 3, 2020
Almost 8 years and I still want to share my life and thoughts with you...I use a lot of "Daddle-isms" when I'm with the girls to try and keep your memory alive in them as well. You would be so excited to meet your first great-grandchild and to see Jessi grow into a wonderful mom. My attitude and outlook on life is so rich because of yours. Miss you every day!
Love always,
Lynne
July 21, 2018
July 21, 2018
It's so hard to believe 6 years have already past since we lost James, but he has never left us. I see him in my life and how I look at the world every day and am so thankful for the love, fathering and mentorship he gave me and for always encouraging me to keep my mind open to all possibilities. I miss him deeply...
January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
Hey Dad, Its your birthday. You would have been 81. Wow how This life is crazy. Miss you everyday. To much to write here but we talk about out frequently. Love you, Marni loves you too. Oh, add JBW sends his kisses. Man i miss you!
Love you
M
July 21, 2017
July 21, 2017
Dad: Its been 5 years since your physical presence left us. I have to say its been hard without you. But, what I can say is that it almost seems like the more time that passes the more present you are. Jas has so much of you its not funny from that smile and dimples to his mannerisms. Damn how life throws you some crazy curve balls. Sammy and I were just talking about how you taught us that its not about just getting to the destination its about taking the time to enjoy and see the new along the way. Not to hesitate to go off on a new road paint a new picture and most of all create what you want. The world is my oyster and you will and have always been my pearl. I carry you with me in everything that i do. 5years seems like decades but our powers will reunite again. I love you for always.
July 21, 2017
July 21, 2017
This year the gift of James' children becoming family to me renews itself. I will be seeing three of them around the country in the next three months.Truly a treasure in my life.
July 21, 2016
July 21, 2016
Thank you for the gift of your wonderful family. I will be seeing most of them in the next three months and we'll share happy memories of you.
January 2, 2015
January 2, 2015
One of the great gifts James gave me was sharing his wonderful family with me. I visited with many of them this fall in North Carolina. We all missed him together. The years pass, but the memories are still strong.
July 20, 2014
July 20, 2014
Tomorrow will be two years since James passed away. Our lives have all moved on, but the love and memory of James remain strong. My closeness with his family is a precious gift for which I am forever grateful. With love to all those who loved James.
Marion
January 2, 2014
January 2, 2014
James, with his wonderful sense of humor, and classy southern style, lives on in our memories. People around Laguna Beach remind me of that, often sharing their memories. He shared his family with me too, a loving and ongoing gift.
July 21, 2013
July 21, 2013
It's hard to believe that an entire year has passed from that fateful Saturday night when his family and I gathered at his bedside, said our final goodbyes, and watched him leave us forever. He is very loved and very missed.
January 3, 2013
January 3, 2013
I miss sharing our mutual January 2nd Birthday, in spirit we still share, 
With many fond remembrances
January 2, 2013
January 2, 2013
This would have been James' 76th birthday. He is remembered with love in all of our hearts. We miss you James!
December 17, 2012
December 17, 2012
I just returned from a trip, a creative quest.  Cosanti & Arcosanti (studio of Paolo Soleri, student of Frank Lloyd Wright), Taliesen (Wrights school) and other architectural sites. A journey James would love & details he would point out. I miss our banter over the years, always making me push my design just a little more. I will miss celebrating our mutual January 2 birthday.
November 17, 2012
November 17, 2012
It is almost four months since James left us, but he remains in so many hearts. I miss him deeply. He was the love of my life.
August 17, 2012
August 17, 2012
It is my regret that I only had the opportunity to spend one evening in the company of James Willis during a rare visit to California. I feel that I would have appreciated his sense of humor and compassion, traits that I value highly. I am, however, grateful that my cousin, Marion, had him in her life, which was enriched by his presence.
August 8, 2012
August 8, 2012
James,
Your soul sails on and you are on a starboard tack. Some day we will be sailing together and do the cruising that we so often talked about.
It would also be fun to tee up and play eighteen holes in Hawaii.
August 3, 2012
August 3, 2012
Dear James - a true Southern Gentleman, but with a wicked sense of humor, which I was frequently the butt of - and I loved it!

I thank my dear friend Marion for introducing me to this exceptional man.
August 3, 2012
August 3, 2012
I was saddened to learn of the passing of James Willis, He was already contending with heart ailments and struggling to continue his architectural activities when I met him but he remained of good humor and appreciative of life, and of Marion. I enjoyed my conversations with James. He was always warm and engaging. I will miss him.
August 3, 2012
August 3, 2012
Pug and Matt,

I am thinking about you and your family. Your dad was a good man and will be missed!
August 2, 2012
August 2, 2012
I did not know James, but I did have the privilege of getting to meet his son Matthew. To see all the love from so many people that were close to him, proves the awesomeness of this man. I wish I had had the opportunity to meet James. I have the highest respect for fathers that turn out such incredibly viable children, where love for family remains forever.
August 2, 2012
August 2, 2012
The Swann girls, Gale, Sally, and Lila send their love. James designed a wonderful house for us which also happened to be next door to him. Sammy, do you remember the afternoons you sat at Mom's kitchen table and ate vanilla wafers and drank 2-liter drinks? What good times we had on the shore. James was a remarkable man and we are proud to be among his friends. Be in touch.
July 30, 2012
July 30, 2012
James was a class act. He had great style, tremendous wit and wisdom. Even in a bathrobe, he looked like a page out of GQ. Better yet, he was a man of compassion, warmth and uncompromising gentility.. And he produced a mean martini. We wish there were more like him. He will be missed.
July 30, 2012
July 30, 2012
James had style, and wit, and wisdom. Even in a bathrobe he looked like a page in GQ. An evening with James and Marion was an evening spent with Thurber, and Shakespeare and Borowitz. And he was so brave! Life with Marion must have been good because he fought so hard for it. We are deeply grateful to have known this delightful, kind and gentle man. .
July 30, 2012
July 30, 2012
Our friend Andy Kliss wrote to me about James and said about this website:
That is a very touching tribute to a Grand Old Southern Gentleman who didn’t mind voicing his thoughts when necessary.
July 29, 2012
July 29, 2012
I lost the most important man in my life on July 21st when James passed away. He was biologically my uncle, but in practice, was a father to me. I think of Lynne, Sammy, Pug and Matthew more as siblings than as cousins. I am thankful for the style, courage and grace that he taught me! I will love him forever and hope to live with his laid-back spirit for the rest of my days!
July 29, 2012
July 29, 2012
Hey Pug and Matthew,

From our wonderful summers together on South 13th Street I vividly remember the smell of your Dad's pipe, his kind eyes, the mellow cadence of his voice and, of course, his red MG. He was a lovely man. I am thinking of you and yours and sending you Love.
July 28, 2012
July 28, 2012
The WGA -- world's greatest architect -- James B. Willis, Jr. It is a sadder, lonelier place without you, your gentle soul, your love, your smile. You have left us with many memories which we hold in our hearts forever. But that we could hold you in our arms one last time, kiss you one last time. You live on in Sammy, Matthew, Pug, and Lynn. Peace.
July 28, 2012
July 28, 2012
Tomorrow will be a sad day for me in MHC, that's for sure. But it will be nothing compared to all of the freaking amazing memories I have from all the years me and my "Daddle" shared there. You inspired me in so many ways- musically, artistically but most of all- you taught me how to take life as it is and sometimes, just simply laugh.
July 27, 2012
July 27, 2012
Dave and I knew James through our friend Marion. We send our condolences to Marion and to the family and friends who knew James well. He was a unique and cherished friend, witty, and exercised his free spirit. The kind words and touching stories left by others are a testament to a complex and beloved man who left this world a better place when he passed.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Hey Mathew and Pug, I'm really sorry for your lose.It was wonderful to grow up next door to you guys. I'll be thinking of you in the coming days. Lots of love.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
I knew James through my good friend Marion Jacobs. He was kind and sweet, so caring to Marion, a great storyteller and wonderful architect. I know how much he loved his children, and it is very sad that he is gone.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Dear Matthew, Pug and Sammy: our thoughts are with you. James was one of a kind in the best way. Love to you all. Mary Frances, John, Richard.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Dear Matthew, Pug and Sammy...
I am in MHC right now looking across the street at your house and missing you and your wonderful people. Your dad was one of a kind, a charming, talented man who loved his people. I am sending you lots of love and my heart felt condolences.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Marion was so fortunate to have found such a special guy to share her life. Courtly, bright and unfailingly funny. Ah, sweet James I shall miss you!
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Hey Pug, Matthew, Sammy, & Lynn,
You probably already know this, but James was my single biggest influence as an architect, and like a father to me personally. I hope he knows how much he is loved. The Willis door was always open, I had a lifetime of fun with him and you guys as well, and miss him and his kind voice already. He was a great man.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
Pug and Mathew,

I don't step out of 404 South 13th street without seeing "your" house and having a nice thought of all the great times we had running back and forth across the street. James was such a fine man, great Dad and neighbor. We will all miss him but I know none more than you.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
"I’ve had the privilege to know James B. Willis and be apart of the family for 9 years. It was in these 9 years that James made an unquestionable impression on myself and others that surrounded his existence. As funny and on point as he was, he had a way of making a pear-shaped world make sense. You’re an incredible person that lives on in Matthew, Pug, Lynne, and Sammy-love you guys!"
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
One thing James loved was Mark Twain and with a smile he would quote Mr. Twain to Matthew and I. So in remembrance a quote from Mark Twain that’s fitting for how it’s seemed for the last week:

“Grief can take care of itself, but to get full value of a joy you must have somebody to divide it with.”
- Following the Equator, Pudd'nhead Wilson's New Calendar
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
James - we shall miss you - your warmth, kindness and charm. Always the southern gentleman with just the right touch of the rascal. As George Bernard Shaw said, "A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out." When I see the love and generosity you gave to Marion and your beautiful children, I can think of no better example.
July 26, 2012
July 26, 2012
James was caring, charming, and funny. I'll never forget when he taught me the value of x for college algebra. After a while, being the comedian he was, x became an inside joke. Because he could make light of any situation and loved to make people laugh, he also taught me not to take life so seriously. I'm going to miss you James!
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
For anyone who comes to this site feel free to send me any pictures you may have of my father. He was a great man and I am trying to compile a collection of photos in his honor. Email me at matthugh2003@gmail.com with the photos attached or just to send me a message. Thank You!
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
James Belmont Willis Jr. was an architect of an era in which architecture was a lifestyle. Architecture can take on many different shapes if read in the right light. My father was not only an architect in profession but an architect of life. His design of love, care, and compassion was bred deeply in his four children as well as in his love for life. Daddy, thank you for everything!
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
Hey Matt, I never had the privilege of meeting your dad, but from the way you've always talked about him, I'm sure he was not only an amazing father, but an amazing man. I can't imagine what you are going through right now, but I hope you know that you have 2 good friends up here in Arrowhead that are always here for you, our door is always open and you're in our thoughts, always. Love you
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
Pops was one of the most layed back cool cats that has ever graced this earth. His style and swagger in his everyday life is what I believe made him such a great architect and person. I can see him now smoking his pipe laying his great words of wisdom on us!! He will be missed dearly but never forgotten!! My love and condolences to all the Willis family
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
Jimmy was my first big brother. Being the only girl in the family, and the baby at that, I was on the receiving end of his incessant teasing and taunting, but I considered it a sign of his affection. I was so proud of him and freely boasted about his attributes and accomplishments. Pianist, artist, architect, sailor, designer, snappy dresser...and a great brother was jas b.
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
hey matt sorry to hear about all yer family has going on at the time I can't imagine. Yer dad was always one laid back dude and was always a pleasure to be around thoughts and prayers,
July 25, 2012
July 25, 2012
As a little girl, my Uncle James fascinated me. I loved being around his calm spirit and listening to his warm laughter. He always made me feel at ease, welcomed and loved. I appreciated his creativity and talents. He always knew how to have a good time. My favorite way to remember him is at Core Banks with braids in his hair, playing board games with the family. I love that sweet man.
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January 3, 2020
January 3, 2020
Almost 8 years and I still want to share my life and thoughts with you...I use a lot of "Daddle-isms" when I'm with the girls to try and keep your memory alive in them as well. You would be so excited to meet your first great-grandchild and to see Jessi grow into a wonderful mom. My attitude and outlook on life is so rich because of yours. Miss you every day!
Love always,
Lynne
July 21, 2018
July 21, 2018
It's so hard to believe 6 years have already past since we lost James, but he has never left us. I see him in my life and how I look at the world every day and am so thankful for the love, fathering and mentorship he gave me and for always encouraging me to keep my mind open to all possibilities. I miss him deeply...
January 2, 2018
January 2, 2018
Hey Dad, Its your birthday. You would have been 81. Wow how This life is crazy. Miss you everyday. To much to write here but we talk about out frequently. Love you, Marni loves you too. Oh, add JBW sends his kisses. Man i miss you!
Love you
M
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Three years w/ Jim; 1973, 74, 75

July 31, 2012

Just out of architecture school I worked w/ Jim (three year apprenticeship). Morehead / Beaufort and Carteret County were quite different then than now. Winters were quite distinct from the Summer crowds. We made our own entertainment in the winter. Jim said up front he was not a teacher but he was in his own way. Jim had a talent few could rival. Have you ever seen someone sketch upside down to a client in perspective to illustrate a spacial concept? Jim had the ability and confidence to do so! 
The Coral Bay Condominiums were the first of such on Bogue Banks. To this day none better have been built! I would like to know what they cost then vs what they resell for when / if available today?
Jim was a pioneer for Carteret County. It is and was not a place where good architecture was actively sought or necessarily appreciated. Each project became an opportunity to improve beyond what was expected. Jim's brother Barry knows what I mean by this. We worked w/ Richard (Dick) Bell, landscape architect on a number of projects. Also Bill Bigger, structural engineer. I remember the Yacht Club, the regattas, the friendships. Jim's house projects are in a class all to themselves, quite distinct taking their visual cues from the local environment demands via time tested methods. He was practicing construction sensitivity on the outer banks long before it became popular to do so. I recall the Ocracoke School house. Bob Shuller was involved w/  that project.
I owe a great deal to Jim... I know he knows this! We kept in touch thru good times and not so good! I am saddened and  I miss him!
Edgar

Morehead waterfront

July 25, 2012

When Jimmy moved to Morehead to set up his office as architect, he needed a secretary, and I was living in Morehead with our parents while my husband was in basic training for the Army.  I was pregnant with my firstborn, Monty Miller, and had not been working as a nurse during this time.  I had never been a secretary but had enough skills to answer the phone, go to the post office, make coffee, and run errands as needed.  I was so proud of him and admired his talent beyond words.  I thought he was the most brilliant, creative person I knew.  

He designed many homes, businesses, schools and projects over the years, and they're sprinkled all around Carteret County.  Every time I visit Morehead and walk that waterfront, I swell with pride as I see how he left his fingerprints on that community.  His artistic vision was sometimes well ahead of his time, but the designs he left will remain.  Harborview Nursing Home remodel and the first high-rise building on the waterfront got it started.  Then the high-rise at the other end of the waterfront took shape.  When it was time to revitalize the street and walkways, he put his stamp on all of it, and left a beautiful street to stroll down.  Along the way, there were projects that I don't even remember, but it's part of what he left behind.

His love for sailing in countless sailboat races had him in Bogue Sound again and again, so some of my most vivid visual memories of him have him dressed in sailing gear, including some kind of hat.  The memories that my children have of spending time at his house at the end of 13th St., which we called Camp Willis, are too many to number.  He always hosted family gatherings at his house on the water, especially the Thanksgiving oyster roasts, and those are some of my fondest memories.

My granddaddy, Durwood Belmont Willis, owned the Coca Cola bottling plant located on the waterfront.  When my daddy and mama met for the first time, they were about 8 yrs old as she stepped off her daddy's mail boat onto the dock of that business.  She said she loved him from that moment on.  My granddaddy, Daniel Hargett Ward, ran the mail boat from Swansboro to Morehead, so much of his life was spent in that water.  Uncle George Purifoy, married to my mom's sister, Minnie, was one of the boat captains of the Lucky 7 fishing fleet, which was a prominent fixture on the waterfront for years.

At the end of our mom's life, she drew her last breath in a bed at Harborview by a window that looked out over that same Bogue Sound.  That had much personal significance for me, as she began her life in Morehead there and ended it there.

I call it "my waterfront" when I walk along and remember all the years that included walks from the homeplace on 10th St. as well as events that happened there.  It's impossible to remember any of it without remembering jas b, jr.  My big brother...

The piano stool

July 25, 2012

Jimmy was an accomplished pianist and the accompanist for choral concerts at Morehead City High School and music programs as First Baptist Church.  This required him to spend many hours at the piano in our living room, and he was very proud of the mahogany piano that James, Sr and Cora provided for him to nurture his talent.  We all played the piano a little bit, and I loved to plunk around on it when I was about 6 yrs old.  I wore Mary Jane shoes, with ruffly socks like most little girls in that day, and I didn't see the need to remove them when I sat at the piano.  However, the stool was just a little low for me, so I would tuck one foot under me on the seat to make a better fit.  The only problem with that was that the buckle on my shoe strap scratched that beautiful mahogany stool.  Of course, I denied that I had anything to do with those scratches, but Jimmy surely didn't give me any mercy on that one!  Every time!  Clearly, the chastisement I got for that stuck with me all these years, but as far as I know, he didn't hold it against me!

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