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James Robert Merritt
  • 39 years old
  • Date of birth: Jan 25, 1977
  • Place of birth:
    Trowbridge, United Kingdom
  • Date of passing: Oct 11, 2016
  • Place of passing:
    Warwick, United Kingdom
Let the memory of James be with us forever

This memorial website featuring a life story, personal tributes, readings, photo's, and stories was created in memory of our loved one, James Merritt.

James was a prince amongst men, a wonderful husband to Kim, a doting "daddy" to Oliver and Evelyn, a fabulous son to Rob & Marilyn as well as being a loving brother to Joanne.  We will miss him, and remember him forever.

Born on January 25th 1977, James tragically died following an accident at work on Tuesday October 11th 2016 aged just 39 years. There is no doubting that his family will feel the sad loss of his passing the hardest, but James was such a lovely man who made a lasting impression on all who knew him, that many, many people will be feeling that this is far too soon for the world to be losing one of life's good guys.

However, knowing James as we do, we all must realise that he would never want us to be feeling any sadness. The greatest part of James was his kindness, and his caring attitude towards everybody, and he would want all of us to remember him that way - so let us all follow his examples, by adding our own happy messages here in honour of our friend.

Please feel free to share your personal tributes here. post us your photo's, leave a message along with a photo if you want to, tell us a story of the times you spent with James, or you can add a song that reminds you of him, or even upload a video if you like.  
We will be delighted to share you experiences of James, and together we will pay our respects to the loving person that was James Robert Merritt 

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 12th March 2017

"Hi James,

Yesterday we marked 5 months since seeing you last, it feels like an eternity without you. The kids and I spent a lovely weekend in Wiltshire with the family and also caught up with Pete and Vicky. The children have been fantastic and we have enjoyed some smiles!! You are never far from our thoughts and our conversations though James, you are missed so much my prince.

I lie here every night wishing I could talk to you and desperately wishing the children could cuddle you goodnight. You would be so proud to see what wonderful people they are.

I love you James, always have, always will.

Goodnight my prince, all my love from Kim xxx"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 2nd March 2017

"Hello James, and hello to anyone else that reads these pages.
Today is Thursday 2nd March, i'm sat at my desk thinking of James, also of Kim and of their two lovely kiddies - and it just feels kinda right to log-in here and write.

This is now the 20th week since JB passed, and him not being with us has left such a hole in the lives of his family that it's hard not to be sad.

But I can't allow myself think of James in a sad way - I (we) loved him so much that I am determined to be as upbeat as possible -- simply because I can't find a better way in which I can honour my friend.

So many things have happened since Oct 11th that It seems a long time. Yet it also seems just a few moments ago since JB and I were sat together talking.  

I would do anything to have those chats again.

I know that many, many, more of you will have those same feelings. JB had that affect didn't he ?

He didn't often dominate our conversations, probably because i'm naturally chatty, and he wasn't - but he always made me feel that he was happy just to be sharing time with me. Though I would do most of the talking, his was the voice that I sought if I needed an opinion.

I've often wondered if JB was more chatty when he was with other folks that are not as talkative a me ? - I suspect that he would always be the listener rather than the speaker - but maybe some of you would tell me of a time when he was with you and he went on and on about something or other. perhaps some of you could write and let me know.

Oh well, I've probably written enough already, so I'd better sign out now - just wanted James (and you) to know that we keep him in our thoughts, and our conversations.

Keep Smiling xx"

This tribute was added by Pete Slade on 1st February 2017

"Hey mate - Kim did you proud for your 40th birthday party on Saturday. There was a good turnout of people and several of the cement works lot also turned up. It was the right thing to do for you and I know you would have been looking down on us and smiling. The night was capped off by us all raising a glass and enjoying a shot of Tequila Rose - one of your favourite drinks! (One was saved for you). There was some dancing, (not by me I might add!), drinking, eating and also lots of photos taken - to keep those special memories of the night.
Thinking of you as always mate."

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 25th January 2017

"Happy Birthday Jim Bob. Lots of love from nos.2 xx"

This tribute was added by Glen Gowen on 25th January 2017

"Thinking of you today! Hope you there smiling down on us all. I will being raising a glass tonight and Saturday for you.
You was in my dreams a couple nights ago. We were in Florida for mine and Amy's wedding. And we snuck off in our suits to go on the hulk roller coaster. Missing you loads. Happy birthday mate love you x"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 25th January 2017

"for Kim, Oliver & Evie .........

Light a candle, see it glow
Watch it dance whenever you feel low

Think of James as you look at that light
And he'll be there with you, day or night

As the candle flickers, he may be out of sight
But inside of your hearts he'll still be burning bright

So think not of sadness, because James may not be near
See him in that flickering flame and you'll never have any fear

His body may have left here now, but his love it hasn't gone
It's will always be right beside you, for you are his special ones

So whenever you light a candle, whenever you watch it glow
Whenever you see a flame dancing, in your heart you will always know
James won't ever leave you, especially when you're blue
He's sitting with the Angels now, but he's watching over you."

This tribute was added by Pete Slade on 25th January 2017

"Happy birthday mate! We'll all be thinking of you on your special day. Although a day to celebrate, its also a day of sadness.

We all miss you so much.

Its so strange that you are not here with us, but we all know you're looking down and smiling on us.

We will be celebrating your birthday on Saturday at the White Horse Country Park and we shall look back on many, many happy memories of you and how you made all our lives better and more fulfilling.

You kindly bought me a bottle of ale for my 40th birthday so I shall drink that tonight and toast to you!

Our thoughts go out to Kim, Oliver, Evie and your entire family.

Happy birthday my special friend"

This tribute was added by Gwen Gowen on 25th January 2017

"Today should have been a day to celebrate your 40th birthday, but you  were taken from us far too soon.
Instead we will try not to weep and we will remember all the years you were part of our family.
We will remember all the happy moments we shared together, the ups and downs of family life and thoughts of what might have been.

Dear James, you are always with us in spirit and not a day goes by when we dont think of you with all the love you deserve, we miss you every day but the memory will not fade, we will keep it alive for Kim and your beautiful children Oliver and Evie.

Love you always, Gwen (mom 2)"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 24th January 2017


As your 40th birthday approaches I have thought so much about what I want to write to you, and what I would say to you if only I had the chance. I have thought about this momentous occasion for many months and you know there would have been a very special celebration planned for you, I would have tried to get close to the amazing New York trip we had for your 30th!!

Sadly, this was not meant to be and I have so missed the opportunity to spoil you and show you how special you are, and how much I love you. As a celebration of your life we are holding a party in Wiltshire on Saturday in your memory. Unsurprisingly lots of your friends and family will be there to toast the amazing man you are. Oliver and Evie will also be there and we'll try to recreate the fun we had at Pete and Vicky's wedding with a photo booth. I hope it will be a fun evening with lots of stories and smiles about your life, maybe a bit of dancing too.

I don't know how we will get through tomorrow without you James, it won't feel right not having you here and I, along with the children, your parents, Joanne and Simon and the Gowen family will think of you every minute I'm sure. We're determined to raise a glass and a smile for you James, I pray that you're watching and smiling! Oliver will blow out your birthday candles and we'll all make a wish for you.

I miss you everyday my prince, there is a huge void in my heart and my life that I fear no one will ever be able to fill. I am so grateful though that I had the best of you and we shared so many happy years together.

Someone told me recently that life is like a story book filled with many different chapters, we just don't know how many pages we will turn or how our story will end. I am still so shocked by how your story has ended James but I know that the chapters are filled with so many amazing memories and your story is very special. The greatest gift that I can give you now on your 40th birthday is the promise that I will tell your story and never let it be forgotten. In the end I think that's all any of us can hope for, and I know that with the help of our families and beautiful children your story, your life and your legacy will live on forever James.

Happy birthday my prince

All my love, now and always

Kim xxxx"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 25th December 2016

"Merry Christmas James xx"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 25th December 2016

"i had to log-in and send seasons greetings to you JB.

We miss you so much mate. It's been a tough time without you, but I didn't come in here to write because you died - I want to write because of how you lived.

You made our lives a better place JB, and though you cannot be here with us physically now, you are in our hearts and in our thoughts everywhere we go.

We love ya Jim Bob and we will keep that love with us always.

"Happy Christmas" mate.  Love from Nos.2 xx"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 24th December 2016

"Dearest James,

Christmas is upon us and your absence is felt now more than ever. Oliver and Evie are sleeping peacefully, excited for the day that lays ahead for them but they will miss their daddy tomorrow and we will all think about you, wishing you could be with us.

We will raise a glass and toast to you and talk about you all day long. Living our first Christmas without you will be impossibly hard but I'm determined to raise a smile and make it a happy day for our beautiful children.

You would be so proud of them tomorrow James, I hope and pray that you're watching in with a smile on your face. I miss you my prince.

All my love now and forever.

Kim xxxx"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 23rd December 2016

"We missed you tonight James, it would have been wonderful to have you with us. An evening in Wiltshire with friends, celebrating Christmas and enjoying love and laughter together in Bradford. It was so hard being without you tonight but we raised a glass for you and talked about wonderful memories of you.

My prince, coming home alone without you is so desperately hard, there is a hole in my heart that no one else can fill. I love you now like I always did, truly, deeply and without question.

I hope you are happy wherever you are, I wish I could be with you. Merry Christmas my prince.

I love you xxxxx"

This tribute was added by Pete Slade on 22nd December 2016

"Hey mate - it’s been just over two months now. Still missing you loads.

I’m going to carry on talking about you in the way in which I always have.

So on that note, I was thinking to myself whilst watching the new series of “The Grand Tour” the other day on Amazon – “I wonder what Jasper would have made of this”. I’m sure you would love it as you always liked your Top Gear – it is funny I must admit. Otherwise, life carries on at a relentless pace but you’re always in our thoughts every day.

A fundamental part is missing from not just my life but for everyone that knew you.

There have been some occasions recently where I have really needed your support and words of wisdom and just your general supportive and positive perspective – it’s strange how much you take things for granted – a  really weird feeling and I miss it a huge amount.

We’ll all be thinking of you and the family over the festive period"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 14th December 2016

"Today is another day without you James, another day mixed with so many emotions. We keep pushing on, trying to find our new life and our new normality now that you're not with us.

I hope that you and everyone who knows you will be proud to know that in your name we raised £1115 for Cancer Research!!  An enormous amount of money and an enormous tribute to you!

I hope you are happy wherever you are.  I loved you yesterday, I love you still, always have, always will xx"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 14th December 2016

"I dreamt of you last night JB.
we were sitting together up in the Skyline Lounge at Edgbaston looking down at the cricket. Dreams flit around lots don't they? At first we were just watching, then we were playing pranks on the players and all the crowd were laughing. Then we were in the Club Shop and they presented us with Hoodies & Shirts. It was so vivid and clear, when I woke up it felt like you had been here with me - it was a nice warm feeling and I feel great this morning. I am even seeing better today.

I don't know if it's the dream that is making me feel so good, or your influence, but either way - Thanks JB.

Christmas is getting close. We have all been avoiding the topic of christmas. We are all a bit muted. Probably because we don't know how to approach it knowing that you won't be down here with us - I guess we are all nervous of being sad. But the dream has lifted me mate. i suppose you could say it has inspired me. it has certainly reminded me that you are still all around us JB, and it has given me an idea of something we can do this year.

I realise now that you will be looking in on us during Christmas Day - of course you will take a little peep on the 1st xmas you are not sitting here with us. So I am gonna have a little surprise for you.
I know that you will love it JB.

I gonna go and get started on this surprise now mate.
Until we speak again. Love from Nos.2 xx"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 6th December 2016

"8 weeks since you passed JB - I miss you so much mate, sometimes that hurts, and I must admit that I find Tuesdays tough. But I am gonna get to grips with that asap 'cause I still love thinking of ya bud, I always will, and I want my thoughts to be upbeat - just as the conversations we had always were.

I hope your new life is full of wonder JB, with lots for you to learn and to explore. Have you found a new consciousness now mate? Is that how it works? I hope it does work that way.

I Gotta go and get on with my work again now mate.
Speak with you again soon. Love from Nos.2 xx"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 8th November 2016

"A month since you've been gone and our lives still carry on!
The love we shared will never be lost!
Looking forward to the party on Sunday, hope you're watching on xxx"

This tribute was added by L M on 7th November 2016

"God gives hope to see the ones we loss in death again.This scripture at (john5:28,29)says Do not be amazed at this,for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tomb will here his voice and come out". may you all continue to hold the precious memories of your dearly beloved James close to your hearts and know that Jesus Christ ransom sacrifice is our guarantee that our dear loved ones are held in gods memory and very soon we will see them again."

This tribute was added by A Friend on 3rd November 2016

"That funeral, and subsequent life celebration party were a fitting tribute to James. The way that Kimberley stood up, held back her tears and spoke of her husband was amazing and will live with me for a long time.

Christmas will be with us soon, then other Anniversaries, Birthdays, Fathers day etc will come and go when James is not with us.

When those days arrive please do not be sad.
Do not cry for what we have lost.
Smile for what we had"

This tribute was added by Amy James on 2nd November 2016

"Such fond memories of growing up with James. Weekends away at car rallies with our dads. Getting up to all sorts of mischief at our grans. We had so much fun and I am thankful that we kept in touch during adulthood. James and Kim always making special efforts to see us when you were back in Wiltshire. I can't quite believe he has gone. Such a loss. We'll miss you always. My cousin Jim. Love Amy & Adam, Charlie & Fred xxxx"

This tribute was added by Thomas Howard on 1st November 2016

"James was a wonderful guy with a big heart and someone who I have working with over the last 7 years. A true professional and a perfectionist when it came to work. A real family man who talked about his children & wife every time I saw him.
He will be truly missed by all.
Tom H"

This tribute was added by Clare Moon on 1st November 2016

"New James from a baby born to a genital caring family grew into a lovely family man. Can't believe we are all here today, still unable to express on words how I feel   Veronica and family"

This tribute was added by Libby Gowen on 1st November 2016

"From Jenny and Roger
Lost for words, a perfect family broken. James will be in our hearts forever and his memory lives on in Oliver and Evie. Lots of love."

This tribute was added by Clare Moon on 1st November 2016

"First meeting with James was when Kimberley introduced him to us at one of the many family get together. Straight away we knew James and Kimberley were perfect for each other.
James you will be really missed not just by the people you knew every day but by the people who's lives you came into contact with. It is so unfair that you have been taken from the people that know and love you. A true genuine nice gentleman.
God bless x The moonies x"

This tribute was added by Libby Gowen on 1st November 2016

"Written by Josh Gowen

Where to start? Honesty I don't know... but let's give it a shot. Uncle Merit was one of the best men I've ever known and will always be. Me, all the gowens and the rest of the family are so lucky to have such an amazing guy come into our family. James's  memory will always live on and he'll always be in all our heart! I love you and will miss you forever. Heaven has surely gain another angel! Xx"

This tribute was added by Libby Gowen on 1st November 2016

"James, Uncle Merritt as Josh introduced you to us. Me and James had such a special bond that I will never forget. James introduced me to photography. I remember as a kid I would come to visit you and Kim and you would let me use your camera. I was mesmerised. You gave me that gift that I will always treasure and enjoy. You inspired me more than most. You was my cool uncle I wanted your camera but because of how expensive they are I had the one below but you are the reason I wanted that and asked for it.
You inspired me that much you helped me get into university without even knowing it. I wrote admirably about you in my personal statement. I remember taking pictures of some tomatoes and we took Kim's crystals and her best wine glasses and put them in there and had fun shooting. I couldn't do that with anyone else. Then where we had the sheet up little Olly come under the easel with joey and was smiling. I still have the pictures and will keep them forever.
I admired your passion more than anything. You always made the time to ask how uni was going and even sent me pictures of baby Evie through WhatsApp and asked me to edit them. I love you with all my heart and more James."

This tribute was added by Gwen Gowen on 1st November 2016

"James, we say goodbye to you today but you will never be forgotten, you will be in our thoughts everyday.  You were are very special person to us all, when your daughter marries you want her to be with someone who will love and care for her, as you have, as parents,  throughout her life.  James you did this a million times over, no one could have wished for a better son in law, to me you were a fourth son, you were so kind and always willing to help with any problems.  We will ensure your children grow up remembering what a fabulous father and husband you were, even though you were taken from us all too soon.  

Rest in Peace James until we all meet again, love Gwen xxx"

This tribute was added by Pete Slade on 31st October 2016

"Jasper, my wonderful friend. Nothing was ever too much trouble for you and I could always rely upon you for your support and help. I'm so grateful to have been a part of your life and to see you grow from an 11 year old boy just starting secondary school, into a loving husband, a fantastic father and an all round nice guy.
I admire the approach you took in life - your ability to always see the best in people - I think we can all learn from you on this.
So many wonderful memories to look back on and laugh at, and shed the odd tear or two.
You have taught me a lot over the years -  and I will be forever grateful to you.
Thanks for your true friendship
Rest in peace mate. xx
Love Sludge"

This tribute was added by Paul & Linda on 31st October 2016

"'James was a quiet man. He didn't often stand out amongst the more vocal members of our family (myself included!). I liked to have a one-to-one catch up chat with James whenever I could, always enjoying these conversations because he didn't talk for the sake of talking; what he said always had meaning. I always admired and respected him and it turns out everyone felt the same. I wish now that I had told him so.
Everyone had these little moments with James. Everyone had their own, personal one-to-one relationship with him. That's the kind of person he was. He took time to take an interest in you and your life. He was always genuinely happy to help if he could. He truly was the very best of men and left a tremendous impression on all who knew him. The world needs more people like James. A true gentleman.
Love and miss you always James. God bless.
Linda Gowen xxx

I've never been one to put words down on paper or type as I am now. It's times like this I wish I was, but what do you write about someone like James Merritt? No words can really do justice to what a truly genuinely nice guy he was. One of life's very best. There was never any hidden agenda with James. When involved in a conversation he was always interested in what you had to say and even when you said something potentially bad, he never judged.
I've enjoyed many enjoyable times with James, crabbing in Dartmouth, trying to play golf with the Wham boys, even down to enjoying a nice hot curry on our camping trips. Unfortunately I'll always wish I'd spent more time with James. James Merritt will always be in my thoughts and will always inspire me to be a better man. More like the one we all love, respect and look up to.
Love and miss you Jim Bob
Paul Gowen"

This tribute was added by Mark Minnis on 31st October 2016

"I first met James at a Wham golf day, he was very engaging,passionate and just happy with life.  How many times do you truly meet someone like that?  It was a privilege to have known you for this short time James."

This tribute was added by A Friend on 30th October 2016

"Hoping the words of this song  will give all of James family some comfort.

Smile though your heart is aching
Smile even though it's breaking
When there are clouds in the sky, you'll get by
If you smile through your pain and sorrow
Smile and maybe tomorrow
You'll see the sun come shining through, for you

Light up your face with gladness
Hide every trace of sadness
Although a tear may be ever so near
That's  the time you must keep on trying
Smile, what's the use of crying
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile

So this is the time we must keep on trying
Smile there's no use in crying
You'll find that life is still worthwhile
If you just smile ..........

I believe that James wants us to be happy, not sad.
Let us all remember him with a smile"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 30th October 2016

"James, my Prince Charming, you will always be the light and love in my life.  You blessed me with two beautiful children and you will live on in them.  We will all make you proud and will cherish the love you gave us.

Until we meet again, goodnight my prince.

I love you xxxx"

This tribute was added by John Gowen (jnr) on 30th October 2016

"James was, and probably always will be the nicest person I've ever met. I feel both lucky and honoured to have known him and that he became part of our family. He was like a brother to me, and always had time for all of us, no matter what it was. In fact, James always had time for everybody and took a genuine interest in everyone he met. That is an incredible quality, and he should be an inspiration to us all. James touched many peoples lives, and will be missed enormously, we will never forget him. The World is a worse place now he's gone. RIP brother, love you always xxxxx"

This tribute was added by Glen Gowen on 30th October 2016

"James was my friend, my brother (in-law) and my mentor.
I'm not sure that words can do justice to how I feel, so i've posted lots photo's of the many wonderful days we shared.

You're the best man I ever met.  

God Bless you Jim Bob - Love from Glenno xx"

This tribute was added by Kim Merritt on 30th October 2016

"Where Do They Go To ?

Where do they go to, those people who leave?
Are they around us in the cool evening breeze
Do they still hear us and watch us each day,
I would like to think of James in that way

Where will James go to now he's not here?
I think he'll stay with us, calming our fear,
loving us always, holding our hands.
Walking beside us, on the grass, or on sand

Where did James go to? Well it's my belief,
That he watches and helps us to cope with our grief
He comforts us and stays with us each of our days
Guiding us always through life's mortal ways"

This tribute was added by John Gowen snr. on 29th October 2016

"My catchphrase "Keep Smiling" sounds hollow to me now,
But I'll find the strength to keep saying it somehow.
I'll say it out loud, without pause, or regret,
In honour of James Merritt - "the nicest person that i ever met"

In the chapel where he lay I promised James that I would help take care of his wife & children. I know that I could never even try to fill his boots. But I will try to tread in his footprints, and help Kim to guide Oliver & Evie along the path James had taken.

Some days will be tough, but I vow that I will never waiver from that promise.

Rest In Peace JB - Love from Number 2  xxx"

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