ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Joan Bleau, 76, born on March 11, 1940 and passed away on July 2, 2016. We will remember her forever. 

Joan Mari Bleau was born on March 11, 1940, born of Cropseyville, NY. Passed away peacefully in her sleep In Lexington NC on July 2, 2016. Born to the late parents of Emma & Jay Thurber. Beloved wife of the late Mark A. Sanders. She was mostly a stay at home mom & devoted wife. She worked briefly part-time as a waitress & cleaning lady. Her hobbies were cooking, baking, sewing & collecting Dracula movies. She had a smile that would warm your heart. Her hugs were priceless too.

Joan was the loving mother of Joan Mari Decker of NY, Edmund C. Decker of TX, Eve Barlow of FL, Scott Bleau of Fl. She is survived by her sister Minnie Pugliese (Lou) and her brother James Thurber(Rose) of NY. Was "Nana" to Christopher & Antonio Decker, Joseph & Nick Schweikert,  Melissa Bell, Justin Barlow, April, Eddie, Earl, Amanda & Catherine Decker; along with many Great Grandchildren, nieces & nephews. She's Predeceased by sisters; Jane Macie, Peggy Wilkes, Esther Hunt & Edna Derocher; Brothers Albert, John, Eugene and Jay Thurber.

Mommy, our bond was strong, & even Eternal now w-your passing. I feel you near me all the time, which comforts me so much. RIP til I can hug you again.

Posted by Joanie Decker on July 3, 2020
Can't believe your Anniversary, has arrived again Mommy. I was sick yesterday, so I'm late-for the first time. I know you're looking down unhappy that I finally found my Birth Dad, You were right not a nice man, but his family is so loving & welcoming to me & the boys. I still don't have closure the way you left us and relocated without a word. You left a huge hole in my heart mom, but my new family is filling it quickly with love. I tried all of my Life to take care of you, love you and cherish you.
Posted by Joseph Schweikert on March 12, 2020
Happy Late birthday Nana I miss you so much. I miss coming over and seeing your beautiful smile. I have 4 kids now so that means 4 great grandchildren for you to watch over for me. I wish I could of said goodbye. Me and Nick get along better than ever and I know he misses you too.

Miss you always, Joe
Posted by Joanie Decker on March 11, 2020
Happy Birthday in heaven Mommy xo We miss you so very much. April is having your second great grandchild, soon in April. Chris & Antonio miss you too. Keep watching over us Mom, thx.
Posted by Joanie Decker on February 15, 2020
Happy Valentine's Day Mommy in Heaven, miss you so much.
Posted by Joanie Decker on December 20, 2019
Merry Christmas Mommy, the holidays aren't the same without you. I miss cooking dinner with you. I miss your warm hugs and beautiful smile. Always in my heart xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 2, 2019
It's been 3 yrs Mommy since you left and my heart has not healed. I miss you so very much, not a day goes by that I don't think of you. I wish that I could see your sweet smile and get one more hug. I hope that you're watching over me and the boys. Love, your Princess xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on May 12, 2019
Happy Mom's Day Mommy, can't believe it's been 3 yr since God took you to Heaven; to become his Angel. There is an emptiness inside my heart, that will Never be replaced. Miss your hugs so very much. With all my Love your Princess.
Posted by Joanie Decker on April 21, 2019
Happy Easter Mommy * wish you were here celebrating with me & the boys.
Posted by Joanie Decker on March 12, 2019
Happy Bday Mommy, yesterday was too hard for me as I broke down crying :( I miss you so much it break's my heart especially on Special day's.  I still can't fathom that you're gone. Love your Princess xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on December 26, 2018
Another solemn Christmas w-o you Mommy, not a day goes by that we don't think of you. My heart weighs heavy on holiday's & your B-day. While preparing the Xmas meal, remembered you spending the night. We'd awake and begin, I miss your laugh-hug's and smile each day. Merry Christmas in Heaven. xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 2, 2018
Today is your 2nd Anniversary Mommy, I lost track of time & seem's like 3 yrs since you've gone. I often reminisce about my childhood, my mud pie's, watching Dracula movie's at Drive In and going swimming at the Creek. I am your 1st born, your Princess; I miss everything about you. Haven't found any closure yet & most likely won't. We were so close, me always looking after you even as a child. Brushing your long hair or hugging you when you'd cry over the pain in your hand's. My heart will never be whole, until we are together again in Heaven. I've been through many hard knock's in life since you passed, so plz watch over me & your grandson's. Love you Mommy, your 1st born xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on May 12, 2018
Happy Mom's Day in Heaven Mommy, can't believe it's been 3 yrs since u went to Heaven. I miss u with all of my heart & soul. So many thing's remind me of you each day. Ed is back in Troy now, nice to have him back. The tulip's I planted for you bloomed beautiful this year. xoxo
Posted by Joseph Schweikert on March 11, 2018
Happy Birthday Nana, I wish you could still be here and has been able to see you great grand children and my amazing wife. I wish I could of said good bye before you left this world. The memories I have of you are amazing ones and I tell my wife all the time some of our stories. I know you are in a better place and hope you enjoy your day of birth where ever you may be.     Love always your grandson Joseph Schweikert
Posted by Joanie Decker on March 11, 2018
Happy Bday Mommy, miss U each day. But you remain here in my heart always & forever. I love you so much. The tulip's I planted for U have come up early due to crazy weather. You'd love them mom. Your 1st born will turn 60 yr old in July, but to me I shall always be your 3 yr old.
Posted by Joanie Decker on December 28, 2017
Merry Christmas Mommy, so many thing's reminded me of you this season. Not a day goes by that I don't miss your smile, hugs and presence. Antonio is 18 yrs old now, you'd be so proud of the young man, he's become. Luv u w-all my heart & so do the boy's. xo
Posted by Joanie Decker on November 23, 2017
Happy Thanksgiving Mommy xo As I prepare dinner, I recall how many time's we did this together & Treasure those Memories inside my heart.
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 3, 2017
I was too sad yesterday on your Anniversary Mommy, to go online :( I lit your candle & talked to you all day. Not a day passes that me & the boys don't miss your smile & hugs. When your tulips bloomed they were beautiful, you would of loved them. I recall us always having them in the backyard. Memories overwhelm me in Walmart, when I walk past your Fav perfume or goodies. Antonio graduated High School Mom, you'd be so Proud. I can't believe he's 17 now, he lit up your life when he was born. I still haven't found closure Mommy, but I now have Peace in my heart.  I love you w-all my heart, Forever your 1st born xoxo
Posted by Joanie Decker on May 14, 2017
Happy Mom's day Mommy, miss you hugs each day xxxx
Posted by Joanie Decker on April 9, 2017
Happy Palm Sunday Mommy, wish you were here to celebrate Easter with us. I try to remain Strong but holidays and Mom's day, will always be heartbreaking for me. Luv always, your Princess xoxo
Posted by Joanie Decker on March 11, 2017
Happy Birthday Mommy xo in Heaven. Missing U so much, but your 4ever in my heart. Love you.
Posted by Joanie Decker on December 18, 2016
Merry Xmas in Heaven Mommy, miss U so much. You know how I kept every card, U ever gave me. Wel, reread two while putting ornaments on tree & cried. Me and your Grandsons love & miss U each day you're gone.
Posted by Joanie Decker on November 14, 2016
As Thanksgiving approaches mommy, I recall how you'de spend the nite. Thanksgiving Day we'd begin stuffin old Tom ;) and watch the Parade, as we prepared the sides. Miss u so much.
Posted by Linda Copeland on August 16, 2016
Mom I wished we had longer to spend with you but God needed you more. I will always hold you close to my heart. Miss you tremendously Love Always Your Son Edmund Decker and Linda Copeland
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 28, 2016
You've finally come home Mommy, and I now feel Peace in my heart to have you near me again. I've created an Alter for you on my Mantle next to your Fav wooden glass decoration. The boys & I have put your Fav things that you love on it, love you so much.
Posted by Butch Derocher on July 14, 2016
Aunt Joan, you will be missed by all who knew you. You were like a second mom to us when we were young. RIP until we meet again. With love always..
Posted by Richard Backschas on July 13, 2016
I had never the honour to meet you. But I know your Daughter Joanie my online Sis. As I heard this news, I knew my Sis would be in much pain and have big loss in her live. I wish you peace in rest and one day we will meet in heaven. Till then I look out for your Daughter Joanie to. Love and hugs and Prayers for the family
Posted by Angie Smith on July 13, 2016
I never knew Joan but through the years being close friends with her daughter Joanie, i've felt like I have known her. She raised one great and loving daughter and has a couple awesome grandkids, Chris and Antonio. She'll be around you, Joanie to protect and take care of you and the boys.
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 13, 2016
Just spoke to my Priest mommy, am having a monthly Mass & Yearly one done for you. I needed him to pray with me along with the entire Congregation, to find some form of Peace; since I didn't have the chance to hug you & say bye. My love for you reaches the farthest Planet. Father told me to take one day at a time & I will, as everyone's worried about me. I've lit a Memorial candle for you today & am planting Tulips. I'm recalling all my younger days with you, going to the Poesnestkill Creek. Me, Ed, Tammy, Larry,& Butchy would swim in a tire tube & laugh. You'de make us a picnic w- Aunt Edna (RIP) There were more memories both Childhood & Adult. I'll Treasure them all. Antonio's birth gave you so much Joy & Happiness. They hold Speical memories of their own w-you mommy. Love your 1st Born xoxo
Posted by Christopher Decker on July 11, 2016
I remember being in the backseat on a drive from NY to FL, when I was real young, and I had only 1 thing on my mind, which was... I can't wait to see my Nana! Grandma was the perfect example of what a Nana should be; she was so kind and encouraging and loved to hug and give kisses on the cheek. I watched movies with gram, a lot of them, and watched tv-shows(she loved unsolved mysteries, which that show scared me, haha). When we played catch, or when she watched me play b-ball.. all points were met with a "YAY!". Same goes for when I showed a good grade, she was full of praise and made you feel special. When I stepped out dressed to go to elementary school, she would tell how handsome I looked, and give me a hug; a hug and a smile before I went to the bus. One of my favorite card games to play with her was "War", such fun times. She called me her "little Robo"(she was a big fan of RoboCop). Nana had a funny saying when she seen me fall or get hurt, she would yell "AHHSO!", it would make me laugh and forget the pain(she yelled the same thing if she got hurt as well). Watching gram play with my little brother, took me back to when I was little.. she did the same things, never changed, had the same approach and enthusiasm. Nana would make so much food for dinner, and baked too; she made the best oatmeal raisin cookies ever. Anytime I needed a shirt hole stitched, or pants hemmed, gram would do it. On top of being a good cook, and such a kindhearted person, she was also a comedian. She loved to laugh and could easily make others laugh. She gave me my first cup of coffee when I was in middle-school and turned me into an addict, haha. Grandma loved movies so much she wrecked vcr players, and rewinder machines. I introduced her to dvds and made her movie addiction so much easier(she would have loved netflix streaming). I remember buying her as many horror dvds as I could find, and anything Christopher lee and Vincent Price(she was a big fan of them, but they couldn't touch her main guy.... Yul Brynner in "The Magnificent Seven"). When I was in high-school gram had a heart attack, needed surgery, and I remember being so scared I was going to lose my nana, and the day I feared most has finally come... my nana is gone and I sit here feeling so broken. Nana, you meant the world to me growing up, there will never be another like you, ever, and I would give up everything I own.. everything, for 1 more hug from you.. just 1. Love you nana =(
Posted by April Decker on July 8, 2016
You will always be loved. I wish I got to see that smile one time also wish you got to meet my kids. We will all go to heaven and then we will see each other again. Xoxo love April
Posted by Julie McWright on July 8, 2016
Joan Mari Blau, I didn't know you but I know your first daughter Joan whom was named after you. She is Strong, Beautiful and has your smile for sure. I know your in a better place, as is my mom, and I know one day we will all be joined together again when the Lord comes Back again! Joanie is in good hands and so are her boys! No need to worry! They are safe! I know you would be very happy to know that Lynn and I are taking very good care of them! They ARE OUR FAMILY NOW! RIP JOAN MARI BLAU! GOD HAS A NEW ANGEL TO POUR OUT THE RAIN!
Posted by Joanie Decker on July 7, 2016
Dearest Mommy, my love for you is eternal as the stars in heaven. Our bond was so strong, we'll always be together in my heart. Your one of the Lord's beautiful Angels now, please watch over me & the boys. Until we are hugging again in Heaven, I will hold each loving Memory close.
Posted by Tammy Layton on July 7, 2016
Love you aunt Joan. RIP. Until we meet again and I hope you are having a party in heaven with my mommy
Posted by Melissa Bell on July 7, 2016
I'm going to miss you nana. You used to make the best food. I remember watching movies I thought were scary with you just cause I wanted to spend time with you. You will always have a special place in my heart. I'll see you again one day. I love you nana
Posted by Joseph Schweikert on July 7, 2016
The years we've shared have been full of joy.
The memories we've made will go on and on.
I haven't stopped crying since you went away,
and I've asked God time and time why couldn't you stay.
You lit up my life, my hopes, and my dreams.
You've opened my eyes to see what it all means.
So now that you're gone how can I forget;
Because you were the greatest out of all I have met.

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Posted by Joanie Decker on July 3, 2020
Can't believe your Anniversary, has arrived again Mommy. I was sick yesterday, so I'm late-for the first time. I know you're looking down unhappy that I finally found my Birth Dad, You were right not a nice man, but his family is so loving & welcoming to me & the boys. I still don't have closure the way you left us and relocated without a word. You left a huge hole in my heart mom, but my new family is filling it quickly with love. I tried all of my Life to take care of you, love you and cherish you.
Posted by Joseph Schweikert on March 12, 2020
Happy Late birthday Nana I miss you so much. I miss coming over and seeing your beautiful smile. I have 4 kids now so that means 4 great grandchildren for you to watch over for me. I wish I could of said goodbye. Me and Nick get along better than ever and I know he misses you too.

Miss you always, Joe
Posted by Joanie Decker on March 11, 2020
Happy Birthday in heaven Mommy xo We miss you so very much. April is having your second great grandchild, soon in April. Chris & Antonio miss you too. Keep watching over us Mom, thx.
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