This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Juliet Chinagorom Okorie-Agwu, 48, born on January 25, 1967 and passed on to glory on November 6, 2015. We will remember her forever.
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Leave a tributeWhen the doctors moved away, she laid there, the warmth ebbing. Yet she looked so beautiful. Peaceful. The kiss on those lips were the last ever. The very last after 25 years. Devoid of the usual mutual passion. She didn’t answer any of my questions, when they came. Was that our agreement? Was that our pledge to each other? What was I to tell the children? That your weren’t coming home? That you would never come home?
She slept on, calm and with no more pains. My dam broke and the tears came in torrents. The gods had thrown their dice. Their minds as cold as ice, tearing apart all bonds and confining everything to the bin of memories.
Then, I remembered who she was! A lioness, who battled the cold hands of the great beyond for almost 4 years. Showing no fear. Growing taller each time she knelt to pray! Declaring that her life had already been redeemed and hid in Him. At Peace with God and all men, and almost on her own terms, she bowed out! Glorious! A Princess, like no other!! A Princess born, a Princess redeemed!
Two years have gone by now. Silent tears still drop, I am indeed human. But immortal, she lives in me. Mine alone and for all eternity. Our products bearing her physical image and presence, I hold and cherish. To love them is to love me.
My ship still sails the vast seas, alas! Encountering empty space and fleeting illusions. I hug my memories tight, in comfort, as I see her smile warmly from across the divide.
But again, i know that you knew even before it came.
Iyoo, I love you.
Iyoo, i MISS you!
I will always LOVE you!
Rest in peace, my friend. I know you are already with the Lord and we did not lose a sister but gained a guardian angel. You will never be forgotten.
Love,
Odochi Isiuwa
Sinachi, performed her first duty in Church. She was one of the girls that went round with the Offering Basket. She looked so smart. You would have been so proud of her. Leanya looked so tall and handsome. He has grown so much taller and his voice has broken.
Much as we enjoyed being in the House of God, we all missed you. We prayed for you. Please continue to pray for us too.
Iyoo, I love you. Forever.
Exactly a year ago today, you were laid to rest. And the Padre said during the Mass -- "a Saint has been buried in Irrua today!" I believe him.
You have given the children and I the boldness to confront tomorrow without fear. Though we love and miss you so so much, we square our shoulders and march on, the way we know you'd want us to.
Princess, may your sweet Soul through the mercy of God (whom you served and taught us to serve too), Rest In Peace.
The children and I will love you till the end of time.
Sleep on, my Iyoo.
We have an event yesterday in your memory. You remain a tower of strength. I still shed tears and your absence aches. I miss you so much still. As if you left just yesterday.
Princess, I love you and always will.
Continue to sleep in peace, my love.
Will it help if you know
You are with Nnanna, every day,
Who feels you with every breath,
Your thought never leaves him,
With every decision he make.
Will it help if you know
You are with Sinachi and Le’Anya everyday
Who feel your hands, your touch, your smile,
Who hear your voice every day,
Who saves your place on the couch, by their side, their hearts.
Will it help if you know
Your thought never will leave them,
All the love you shared with them,
All the tears and pain you made go away,
Will it help if you know
You are with Sinachi and Le’Anya, everyday,
Who will grow up to be just like you,
Who will tell their children wonderful things about you,
Whose children and their children,
Will put your name on trees at Christmas
Will it help if you know
In your time together,
All the memories you left,
Will last in their hearts,
Treasured memories they never forgot.
Although you have left,
Now you walk above,
You are always with Nnanna, Sinachi and Le’Anya,
Surrounded always by your love.
Now you don't have to worry,
For your love will be passed on,
Cause even though you left them,
You are Always in their Hearts.
Oma.
November 6, 2016
Adapted from© Joshua J. Urness, February 2006. Accessed 11/6/2016. From: http://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/you-love-will-be-passed-on.
You are missed. Rest on dear
I laugh and play, struggle through every day (taking it so -- a day at a time), throwing my mind to other things. Yet, at the end of it all, you invade and every memories come flooding back. Some cause me to smile, some cause instant tears. At times I wonder what good memories serve, when the person you share them with is gone, never to be seen again. The ache is physical, can't stop!
My tears are not signs of weakness, far from it, for you taught me how to be strong in the midst of great pain. They are my eternal tribute to you, for loving me, in spite of myself and all my warts!
I love you, my Princess.
And I forever pray that your Soul and the Souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God, Rest In Peace. And may perpetual Light shine upon you.
Iyoo, continue to rest with the Lord in your immaculate well deserved garment. You remain my one true love and my source of strength.
I love you with my heart and Soul. Now and always.
But for me the memories are still here at every turn. Moreso our last visit here as a family. The tears follow. The void is so much. It gets so overwhelming. But I know you would have put the children first.
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Princess, my heart still bleeds. My tears still fall freely and at to drop of a hat. No day is complete without you.
I love you deeply and dearly, my Princess.
The children and I love and miss you so much. How we wish you were here.
"Fasting for Mummy to be well in Heaven". I assured her that you are indeed well and in Heaven.
I know you are, my love.
I love you, Princess.
I take solace in the fact that you are in a better place. A pain free place. Intercede for us, Iyoo.
I will love you till the end of time.
Princess, there is no doubt that you are in a much better place now. Where you are now, you feel no pain. You take breathes with ease. Strong smells don't send you into a 30 minutes bout of coughing. You can run up the stairs and don't have to wait for me to carry you up on my back. You can take a bath at will, with no assistance. You are not attached to any machine, whose noise can even keep you awake. You don't have to scold anyone for having a look of pity on their face when they visit. You can wear any of your array of perfumes and not choke.
Yes, you are indeed in a much better place. You earned that place. You loved even those that hurt you, you forgave with ease those that even stabbed you in the back continuously. You preached peace when others went to the trenches. Were you perfect? Of course not! But like a true Saint, you understood the heart of God and always managed to stay in the right.
I do wish I could listen to my own counsel. But that's so much easier said than done. The ache is as that night. Yet, I live in the hope that is will dull.
The children and I love you. We are missing you. So much, as we struggle to adjust and accept our present circumstances. We will always love and miss you.
We pray that your sweet Soul will, through the mercy of God, continue to rest in peace.
Iyoo, we will meet again in that world beyond death!
I love you! Unabashedly! Unashamedly!! Unreservedly!!!
Sleep on, Princess.
Nwammi Oma my prayer is for to continue to rest with the Lord till that faithful day we all shall again.
She is missed,
She will always be missed,
Rest on My Auntie princess
Rest on Mia Nnanna
Rest on
I'll always remember what a special person you were to my family. Even though you were not here ,we still think of you in all that we do and will always remember the love you shared with all you knew and how you touched the heart of everyone around you. We love you .Love,
Olusegun,Opeyemi,Moyinoluwa and Ilerioluwa
Princess, the children and I have been caught in a time warp since that night. The numbness is frightening. Not ever seeing you again or hearing that ringing laughter is hard to come to terms with.
We love you more than words can ever express.
Sleep on, Princess, Queen of our hearts.
Rest with Christ, now and alway, my one true love.
They will see the Lord face to face, and his name will be written on their foreheads. It will never be night again and they will not need lamplight or sunlight, because the Lord God will be shining on them. They will reign for ever and ever.
You know the children have banned non nuclear family members from sitting on your seat. Sinachi has a note over the chair, warning everyone to keep off her mother's chair.
I took Leanya to the barbers today, as they were barbing his hair, I was just staring at him and seeing all what he took from you.
I thought I was strong, but now I know that you were my strength. I love you more than words can say. Don't mind the tears, please.
I love you so much.
Without emotions, lovers ripped apart. One, cold and immobile. The other, completely bewildered and broken. Completely broken.
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In three occasions since your demise, I have followed someone that I was totally convinced it you just to prove to the world that you are alive.
In the three occasions, I painfully found out that I was wrong.
I am getting emotionally more stable to accept the fact that we can only see again at the foot of Christ on the last day.
You were an Angel. We may not have totally understood your values but the great good memories of you remains a blessing.
You are forever missed
Zik Uduma (your one and only brother)
Continue to rest in peace Julliet
It's exactly 6months today that my friend of 26 years, wife of 21 years, was laid to rest.
I still lack the words to explain my emotions. I knew the meaning of friendship with her. Love became a sacred word. Loyalty was redefined.
Hand in hand we had walked down the lonely path of childlessness for 10 years. Some so called friends jeered at us as if they had control of determining who gets a child and who doesn't. She thought me to ignore all such side distractions and to focus on the only Being that had the final say -- God! And He did have the final say and in the positive too!
And when it was just time to start the real round of honeymoon and marital bliss, she was struck down with an acute form of Rheumatoid Arthritis. A disease that left her with Pulmonary Fibrosis, an irreversible and progressive deterioration of her lungs. She was told it was terminal!
And that was when the strength in her became fully manifest. She did not panic, she took it in good stride. Whilst asking and believing God for a miracle healing, she still reached out and started preparing the children for life without her. She clung on to life for my sake and for the sake of the children.
The healing didn't come and she came to terms with that fact. Then it was as if she asked death to wait, even in her weak state. She appeared to put it on pause! She dared it! She stared at it in the face without fear. She knelt in prayer and attained heights of gigantic proportion, made peace with God and man and when she crossed over into the Year of Mercy she quietly took her leave having held on for almost 4years. She passed on in my arms.
She was attached to an oxygen machine 24/7 for almost 3 years. After the initial period of being self conscious about it, she squared her shoulders and bore it with poise and grace. Even when she couldn't go out much, she was the one impacting positively on those that came near. She silently offered her pains "as a sweet smelling sacrifice to God, who had allowed her to her on this journey".
She was a rare breed. She was strong. She was graceful and dignified in her sickness. She was a Lioness. She was a Princess. She was my Princess. She was my Iyoo. She was my friend. She was my lover. She was my wife. And I am a much better person for it. Whatever I am today, is largely thanks to Juliet Chinagorom Okorie-Agwu.
And I pray from the depth of me that her Soul and the Souls of all the faithful departed, through the mercy of God rest in peace.
Nanna, my heart bleeds reading your touching story. I share your pain and comfort in your story of courage and strength?
Larry my husband who loved me beyond words can ever express passed exactly ten years yesterday. What keeps me and the boys going is the fact that Larry loved us so much and that keeps us going.
I know the love you both shared for each other will keep you and the kids going?
Larry unfortunately died of a heart attack which is nothing compared to what you and your dear wife went through. That period of struggle was a special time to spend bonding? I know one of my boys always wished, Daddy would have been sick for us to nurse him instead of him dying so quick and not knowing if he wanted someone to hold his hands, but his twin brother is always telling him he would not have wanted Daddy to go through any of that. To me I would have loved to share that moment and time with him but it happened so quick and we never had the chance to say good bye. Who are we to tell God when and how it should happen? The same God has kept us and still keeps us going until now that my dear son Aleje, has again gone to be with the Lord.
I have asked questions and close to forgetting my faith, as "in all things, give praise and thanks". In moments like this is when our faith is tested and tried and life does not make any sense. Am a living example of one's faith been tasted and one day, someday, God will make sense to me and my boys as to why. I want God to teach me to accept things without blame. " God weeps wth us so that we may one day laugh with him" Jurgen Moltmann. By asking questions, it brings us to asking " where is God when it hurst?"
I have my family and friends support and share the pain and sufferings of those who have passed through similar experiences and we draw strength from each other and I know you will because God is alive and stand to tell you this.
We talk about Larry everyday, when I say we, the boys and I find consolation talking about Larry because he had so much love and shared it with his family. They will never be another Larry in our lives but we are happy he loved us. His love keeps us going. We miss him everyday.
I am going to leave you with the fact that though, they have gone, they are still with us and I know your beloved wife, Chinagorom, is with you, looking above from heaven and smiling saying, you are a fantastic husband and father and could not have picked a better man other than Nanna. I share that with her. Larry says it too because, my boys tell me how fantastic a mother I am and have been. Your kids would say same. God will look after them beyond your expectations and favour will be their name.
Remain blest my brother.
Helen Adoga (Ntol's sister and Imaji's cousin)