Lindsey Faye Poulsen was born in San Jose, CA. April 3rd, 1992, and grew up in Los Gatos, CA., with her parents Tom & Jill Poulsen, and brother Tyler.
She was active early with dancing and gymnastics, and won State Championships in Dance.
But from the day she could walk she was running, and a soccer ball was often at her feet. Lindsey began competitive play at 5 years of age, joining a travel team when she was 10. She also somehow managed to earn a Black Belt in Taekwondo at 10 as well. In her spare time she ran track.
In Lindsey's senior year at Mitty High School, she began visiting colleges and meeting with college soccer coaches. One of those recruiting trips was to the state of Hawaii, and her last college visit was to the University of Hawaiʻi at Hilo. She spent several hours there with Coaches Marc Miranda and Terry Yamane. It was the last recruiting trip she needed to make, as Lindsey turned to me and said: "Dad, this is it. I want to play here for Coach Marc and Coach Terry.
Lindsey had an outstanding career at UHH, and graduated with a degree in Accounting, making the Dean's list 6 times.
Just as important to Lindsey, was Hilo, where she learned torespect a culture and history, and to live aloha. In 4 years at UH Hilo, she made many friends: students, student athletes and professors. But what helped her grow as a person was working in the community with children. And although she was recognized in Hilo as a college athlete, it was being humble and respectful, embracing that culture, that let her blend in as a member of the Hilo community.
After graduation, Lindsey moved to Honolulu. When she discovered that she was ill, UH Hilo and the town rallied around her. The community held fundraisers to support her, and the athletic department honored her at a game where she got to be coach for a day. At that game, The mayor of the County of Hawaii declared October 5th 2016 as Lindsey Poulsen Day. The State legislature sent a state rep to recognize her contributions to UHH and the community. Lindsey's employer, ECA, supported her every step of the way.
Lindsey Faye received her wings on June 17, 2018.
UHH Athletics and the Women's soccer team retired Lindsey's #22 Jersey at a a home game ceremony on October 25th, 2018
Search youtube for "Lindsey UHH Soccer Video" for a look at how a young girl grows up to be a UHH Athlete
Lindsey Poulsen #22 Memorial Fund
A Scholarship fund to support intercollegiate student-athletes on the women's soccer team at the University of Hawaii at Hilo.
https://giving.uhfoundation.org/funds/20913903
Tributes
Leave a tributeLove, Lori (Kenny's mom)
Somehow, someway, we crossed paths and oh man, did I need that. I don't even know how to describe it but I was in a bad place mentally and honestly I felt completely lost in life until you came. Technically, it was all just a Tinder swipe, we matched back in November. I hit you up cuz you just seemed like you were a cool person. I had no idea...
However, I hit you up to chill and burn and you were down but you couldn't until the following week or so, which I then later found out it was because you had to go back to Stanford for testing, check-ups, etc. Unfortunately our "relationship" from Tinder was basically that one, 3 message conversation.
Then maybe a month later, maybe the 20th of December right before our Christmas/Holiday rush at Mt. Rose Ski Tahoe, I thought it was just going to be just another long busy day teaching. Did I have treat of my life waiting for me that day. I had just come back from a great lunch and I was stuffed and just kind of out of it. Possibly exhausted and a little braindead from the cumulation of the previous school semester the week before. Anyways, there I was waiting around for the afternoon lessons to go out and just hanging out with the other snowboard instructors. Then all of a sudden we all just kind of stopped talking and collectively notice our boss walking out towards the lesson area with 3 beautiful ladies and 2 of them are in snowboard gear. It was Lindsey, Hilary, and Jill dropping them off for a 2 hour private lesson. John, my boss, the head of the Ski/Snowboard school, then looked over at this well staffed group of instructors at his disposal and by some miracle he shouts out, "Dallas!" So I hustle over there and introduce myself and try to keep it cool and composed on the outside yet I was doing backflips in my head, dancing, and honestly a little intimidated haha. I would never say that I have been a "ladies man," I am honestly typically more shy and reserved in most situations involving attractive ladies. So I was really just focused on giving my best lesson possible and I was confident in my teaching abilities. So when Jill leaned over to me and asked me to specifically take care of this one (pointing to Lindsey) or something along those lines. I did not hesitate to reply with, "Oh don't you worry, I will show her the culture!" Then we were off.
So, we as instructors, are always ecstatic to go out on a private lesson because it is easier to connect with your students and you can achieve a lot more and overall, it is usually a more fun experience. Well this was hands down the Snowboarding lesson of my life. These two immediately brought this energy and enthusiasm that was extremely contagious and brought me back to life from my food coma and even broke down my personal walls. Snowboarding-wise these two had somewhat of a big split in skills, experience, and a honestly endurance-wise. I found out quickly that Hilary had a little experience as she had dated a Snowboarder before and been taught by him somewhat by just sending it. Typically a rough way to learn something so foreign like snowboarding. Then Lindsey had never been before, I believe she had attempted to ski when she was younger but did not enjoy it and feared for the health of her knees while on skis. Which is the same reason I wanted to snowboard and not ski as a kid and because, lets be honest, snowboarding is way cooler. Anyways, this split was not even an issue like at all because all Lindsey did when she would eat shit was start laughing and spring up and give me the biggest, best smile I have ever seen. Then I would yell, "Woo!" and get even more energy back and hustle and try it again. That is what it is all about. This is what life is all about. You can be knocked down again and again but it is all about how you take it and pick yourself up. Lindsey might have had a rough time that first lesson with me but we kept on riding together the rest of the season and I cannot believe how much improvement she made in just 4 months, then during that time she also maintained her big girl job, was adjusting to moving to Reno during the coldest season (Which she hated the cold, a term she did not use much), and she was also battling health issues that I could not even comprehend.
Immediately after our 2 hours were up on the lesson, you and Hilary invited me to grab a beer at Timbers and the vibes and connection just kept growing. I was even more intimidated to go hang out with these two without my ski gear on to hide behind yet, it was just so easy to chill and hang out and talk to you that you ended up buying me two beers, tipping me $20, and taking my number. Best tip ever! I hit you up almost right away to hang out again and we did, I ended up coming over to your parents house and we just kicked it back in your room. I remember coming home and just telling my roommate that I had the best time and you were a really cool girl. I believe that was the first time we really hung out and it was the 22nd. Your number, honestly one of my sports numbers as a kid and it is also my birthday the 22nd of May. Dude, you and I were connected on a different level. It only got easier and better hanging out with you. Unfortunately, you were extremely busy, traveling back to Stanford and just living your best life so our time was spotty but I am so thankful for every single second spent with you. Whether it was Snowboarding, smoking, cuddling watching Netflix, you braiding my hair so it would grow faster to help me donate it, to you having your mom help when I ate shit on my longboard coming home from school, or you just taking care of me after I launched a jump at Boreal and slammed straight to my head and definitely had a concussion, or the countless memes we sent back and forth, or the snapchats, or you telling me that you are going to take me to Hawaii with you to go pick up your cats from your idiot (sorry I am not trying to spread anything but positivity but I just cannot comprehend how you could do something like that to someone who's soul/presence/aura is seriously the most beautiful/comforting thing I had ever come across) ex-boyfriend, or going out to eat gourmet grilled cheese, the list goes on. I did not have one unenjoyable experience involving you. I know that we talked about this several times (3 I think) and the last time it got weird and emotional. We were not dating, however I told you, "I just thought there were some good vibes..."
You replied, "There is."
It was true and you were seriously one of my best friends and I would have given you the Moon if you wanted it but you were happy with a box of donuts and a blunt. Thank you for being you and changing my life forever. I miss you more and more everyday, yet somehow I know that you are right here with me and I will never let you go... <3
A few years back Lindsey shared an article from the Hawaii Tribune speaking about her team on the edge of a playoff berth. She commented how she finally got good at heading when her coach in college worked with her on it and that “suddenly on every goal kick, free kick, corner, throw in, you name it, it is my job to win the header because i am actually really really good at it hahaha took me long enough to figure it all out! Thought you would be proud.” I am proud of everything she accomplished during her short time with us.
I still clearly remember the first soccer camp I ever coached at. Lindsey and her friend grabbing my hand on the way to and from each water break. That lead to Tom asking me to help coach his special group of players. Unfortunately that first camp was when Lindsey acquired her aversion to headers. Little tournament at end of camp and a boy a few years older, hammered a ball to goal and poor Lindsey took it to the dome. Years later as Alexandra stated she wanted nothing to do with headers. Unfortunately I did bring her to tears at least once trying to help her overcome her fear. I’d probably be jailed now with the new soccer rules about headers.
I share that story and others with my teams throughout the years. Another story I frequently talk about is that Alexandra was once so nice that everytime she knocked someone on the ground after a tackle during the game she would stop to ask them if they were ok. She quickly became one of the best central midfielders in the area. Heather eating chilli dogs like 15 minutes before state cup games, Monique streaking down the field with the ball, Lindsey dancing through defenses, Kelly’s booming shots, Lustig’s left foot, Eve’s presence in the center of the park, Kate’s saves, Sam and her songs, Aubrey and Janelle shutting opposing offenses down, etc. Vivid memories of many other girls, just can’t quite remember their names right now. I have memorabilia from those teams that I’ll be putting into a quilt so I can share stories about the girls for years to come.
Lindsey was such a delight to be around, always bringing a smile to my face, that is when I wasn’t making her run laps. Lol. Teammates were drawn to her because of her contagious enthusiasm and coaches loved her because of her skill, attitude and work ethic. Poulsen’s we love you and will continue to pray for you all. Lindsey look forward to seeing you someday when my time comes.
God bless,
Arturo
When Palo Alto Crush disbanded, and we all separated to different teams, going from teammates to competition. I actually knew all the teams that Lindsey played for because we all know she’s the type of player to look out for on the field. She was a fierce player who you knew would cause trouble on the field if you weren’t on her team. She was one of those players who your coach would mention her number and say “keep an eye on this one….”
It’s really hard to imagine that the girl I remember, the one who took zero attitude from anyone and gave it her all for every game, to not be fighting here with us today. Its been years since I’d seen her, mostly since I’ve been out of that soccer ring for a while, but thanks to FB even now I somehow kept up to date as to what she’d been up to. And that’s because Lindsey is that type of girl. She’s the one that you never forget. She was a part of, like all the girls I’ve played with, a big big thing in my life growing up. We all shared the same love and passion for the game. And wherever we’re all at now, we’re all tied together by the years we played with and against each other. She’s part of my thoughts today, this week, and probably every time I think back on my soccer days. This gave me a chance to browse through photos from back in the day and now I've started sharing with other girls we’ve played with and it really makes me miss the days where kicking a soccer ball was the one simple thing we cared about. I think back so fondly of those times and it reminds me to always take the chance to reach out to the people who had an impact on your life. I’m praying for peace and love for Lindsey’s family and her friends. Its never easy saying goodbye, but at least we had a chance to say our hellos. I’m thankful for that.
It was my first year as a transfer and my first year playing for UHH. As if I wasn’t already nervous...you, Dana, Emily Cadiz, and too many other returning players made me even more nervous. You were not only fast and strong, you were also one of the hardest forwards to defend. But I thank you for that, because I was able to earn my placement on the field and your trust as a player. Your respect was so valuable to me because you were such a talented athlete. Your speeches before games fueled me and your effort was irreplaceable. Even when I put myself down for a mistake, you were always there reminding me that it was nothing to hang onto.
I always remember our first game against Cal State San Bernardino in 2013. We all knew we had trained hard, but never did anyone expect us to pull out a win. I remember the feeling of excitement and seeing all of us so happy and proud to be Vulcans. It was such a magical moment. I remember our bad ass warm up playlist. To this day the only songs that truly hyped me up and made me ready to defend any play thrown my way. You were always so concentrated and fired up, and you made sure all of us were on the same page. We all grew together that season, and even when our California road trip was rough...we never lost hope and never gave up. We brought change to the program and started a revolution. We ranked the program and provided scores no one would have ever expected. We were truly invincible together as a team, and I thank God everyday you came back to the program and that you are forever my teammate. And as we all said, it’s a great day to be a Vulcan.
Outside of soccer was just as good with you because you were such a beautiful soul. You were one of the few people that came to visit me during my car accident hospital time. I received countless calls and messages from you that truly made me feel I was strong enough to overcome my recovery. You went out of your way for me when most turned their backs.
The day you told me you had cancer, I cried and worried...because the word intimidated me. But you made it seem like just a small bump in the road during your recovery. Your invincibility shined and radiated far distances to everyone. You proved you were stronger. And even now when your gone, strength is all that is seen through photos and messages of you.
No day will ever be the same without you Linds, but I promise to live my life to the fullest and carry your energy and strength with me through life. We will meet again some day, and get the chance to reminisce about soccer and our life struggles as 20ish year olds. God truly received an angel, and never forget that this little bean loves you so much.
To your parents, I want to say thank you for raising an amazing human being. You guys were always the best fans and supporters to have. I will always appreciate the conversations I had with dad about soccer and how Lindsey and I played. The apple didn’t fall far from the tree, and just know that I’m sending lots of love and support your guys’ way.
I miss you, just as I miss our glory soccer days. Our dynamic duo, our sleepovers, and our car rides together everywhere!
You were the BEST juggler and always ended your last touch with a foot haha
You had the best sleepovers and scavenger hunt with clues from the washing machine to the top of the cloud hanging you had in the corner of your bedroom haha
Your family and you loved me when I sprained my wrist at Aubrey's roller skating party and sent me a bouquet that I was totally speechless over.
Your family was the rock of the Central Valley Lightening team! And so glad I got to meet you and your family at the 3v3 tournament back in the day. Coach Aurturo to bottomless gatorades every game to even bringing out the lawn mowers because the grass was too long. I remember it all, just as I remember the smile and laughter you brought to this world.
I still remember to this day, one of my favorite games with you. When we played the FORCE for the first time and beat them. For us it was just another game, but for everyone else it was a "big upset" apparently. We had a natural bond both on and off the field and I appreciated that the most about us.
Though we parted our ways a bit, I have and will always admire the laughter you brought to this world growing up, your willingness to always go the extra mile, and the contagious light you brought to this world.
Lindsey,
as you can tell, you were loved in more ways than you know by your family, your friends, your childhood friends, and even strangers that you met along the way. You had a way to make everyone feel light in their heart when they came into your presence. And that is something this world will miss dearly. Shine bright up there, Lindsey. I will always miss you and you are forever in my heart.
Love you Linds!
And Tom and Jill, know that I will be praying over your family in this time to continue to see nothing but the joy she brought to this world as you did when she took her first breathe. You BOTH are so amazing! So kind! So genuine! Thank you for blessing this world with Lindsey. She will forever be in my heart.
Thank you a million times over. <3
SHINE BRIGHT UP THERE LINDSEY! We all love YOU!
I never met Lindsey, but I have been admiring her strength and love for life.
I have had many conversations with Sharon about gorgeous granddaughter, who was a true trooper and a beautiful soul. Even though I never met her, I believe she was someone very special and I prayed for her recovery.
I can't imaging how you feel, but please remember she is alive as far as she is not forgotten. God bless you and give strength to you and your family, with love and sympathy.
Inessa
One of my first soccer trips was with you and your wonderful daughter to Florida- I can still see her playing - she was a joy to watch play as a small girl and a pleasure to watch play throughout the years -- including at Mitty. She had her mothers looks and smile.. and knowing Tom a bit- some of his tenacity. She always had a hello and a greeting when I saw her- a true pleasure and a great reflection of her family. Blessing to you and your family-
Bob Cullen
In her first year at UH Hilo, myself, DeeDee and Lindsey got very close and were basically inseparable at a point and I knew that she was someone that I wanted in my life forever because she was such a loyal friend and free spirited person that made me a happier and better person just being around her.
I also had the opportunity to be an assistant coach in Lindsey's senior season and she was an absolute blessing to have on the team. She was the player that every coach dreams of having because of her selflessness and willingness to do whatever she could to be the best that she could while trying to make the team be the most successful. The most dreaded fitness test for our college players are "Supersets" which may be the most difficult fitness test I have ever seen and Lindsey would constantly destroy the test because of her athletic ability but even more so because her pure determination and wanting to be the best that she could. She was the best advocate for UH Hilo Soccer as she loved this program with everything she had and helped build this program to where it's at and hopefully one day we will rise to the top and she will be with us the entire way. It has been my goal, but now more than ever to make sure this program gets there because of people like Lindsey that have put so much heart and love into this program.
The last time I was able to be with Lindsey was this past November in California as she came down to hang out with myself and Landon while we were out there. We did all kinds of fun things, but the biggest thing I remember was the last day before she left to go home, I was having chills and feeling like I was starting to get sick and I was being a big baby about it and all Linds could think of doing was making sure that I was ok and I was comfortable. It's crazy because this past Sunday afternoon I started to feel exactly how I felt on this day like i was getting sick but 5 hours later it was gone, I think that was Linds reminding me not to be a baby and to be stronger as that morning I was obviously struggling after hearing the news.
That's just who she was, she always selfless and putting everyone else before herself. The most important thing that Lindsey has taught me is life is way to short and precious to have hate and to not be caring, loving, selfless and free spirited.
On Tuesday I had "my memories" pop up on facebook and one of them was a message from Lindsey 7 years prior saying "miss you friend", I will miss her forever but will never ever forget her and our memories together.
Although I didn't know Lindsay personally , I know that she was a devoted daughter, friend, sister and an amazing young woman who left you much too young. Sending prayers and love to you all.
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Embrace the Chaos
I really started to think about this quote when my partner and I had to move to San Jose from Santa Rosa in May—he was furloughed and we had to make the tough call and move into my parents home. We went from our quiet little apartment to a home with dogs, cats, chickens, birds, succulents, and my parents. It was chaotic and something very new to us as a couple (he had just met my parents a couple months prior). This was the same home Lindz and I would hangout at day in and day out. It was chaotic when Lindz and I were staying there and was even more chaotic when my partner and I were there. (Imagine 3 people working from home on top of it all.) We had to “embrace the chaos”. Chaos isn’t a negative thing, it’s something new that you’re not used to, it’s the surprise that has you saying “oh f*^%!” How you take the chaos ‘on’ will determine how you will do.
“Embrace the chaos” was a quote that Lindsey had written down in her notebook. From what I saw, Lindz embraced her chaos from the day she received the news that the cancer was back. She was creating her lists and planning her next moves. I learned how to “embrace the chaos” by observing Lindz. In the past, anxiety/depression would take me down and stomp all over me, but over this year I recalled how Lindz would embrace all that came at her and I started to function as she would. I began taking time for myself and started to put myself in the center of my own life. I took breaks when I couldn’t focus and went on day trips to the beach to get a new view. Over time, my anxiety and depression diminished. I started to wake up happy, not having to fight through my morning sadness that had been present the majority of my life.
Hopefully, y’all can continue to or even start to “embrace the chaos” as Lindz did. When you do, you'll start to see peacocks “walking around in the middle of the street surrounded by abandoned houses” in Detroit as Jessica saw yesterday.
Lots of love,
J
Photo taken on New Years Day at a dance concert in SF.
Pictured: Lindz, J, and Paige.
To the Poulsen Family —
Here’s what I what I wish I had been able to say at the commemoration of Lindsay’s life in Santa Cruz:
For a number of years when Lindsey was growing up, she and my daughter Ellen played on the same highly competitive soccer team. Lindsey was a starting striker, and she played with great verve and determination. You can see that in some of the photos of her, with her legs fully extended to reach out for the ball and take it to the goal. She gave 100% on the field all the time, even against teams like the Lodi Crusher Vipers, who were as intimidating and mean as their name suggests.
All the while, her family gave 100% to support Lindsey’s soccer playing. All four of them were present at many of the games, though young Tyler may have had other ideas about how he wanted to spend his time. Tom passionately watched Lindsey’s every move on the field and advocated for her and her team on and off the field as he saw a need. Jill was less intense than Tom at the games, but pitched in hard to raise money for the team, organizing the parents to volunteer at a Bingo operation, buy Cabi outfits, and help with Shoreline concerts to generate funds.
In short, the Poulsen family stuck together during Lindsey’s youth and gave their best for each other. That is a blessing because there is no need for any regrets, thinking they should have done things differently.
It is also a blessing because the same qualities Lindsey showed on the soccer field — her tenacity, courage, heart, and consistent hard work for the team — plus the strong support from her family were even more important in her battle with cancer. I did not see her during that time, but I heard enough from my daughter Ellen to know that Lindsey faced her illness with extraordinary grit and an unbeatable attitude.
That is an inspiring example for all of us who knew her, and for those who will hear about her without having the opportunity to meet her. I will keep my “Lindz 22 choose happy” lei in a safe place, in case one day I need it to help me get through a tough time, or I want to pass it along to someone who needs it more than I do.
Thank you, Lindsey, for this invaluable gift. May you rest happy and may your memory help your family and friends as they continue their lives, trying to treasure every single moment as you did.
Barbara Gaal (Ingebritsen)