Miss you.

Thinking of you on your birthday.

One remarkable thing about you & Carolyn was that despite your utmost devotion to each other, you still had time and affection for others. We miss you.

a flower for you
my love
my sweet

We're both thinking of Mark today, of both irretrievable loss and irreplaceable memory. Grief in the loss but bittersweet joy in the memory. --Todd and Gary

You touched so many lives. Enriched us, brightened our days, brought us joy, humor, the quickening of ideas.

Until I met you, I didn’t know I was looking for you. I was the most fortunate of women to have found you.
Love, Carolyn

Your smile, your many different types of laughter, your fascinations, your playfulness, your caring and love ... I miss you so, my love.

Thinking of the two of you on your special day, with love.
Paula & Rob

It is anniversary week again, my love. How I love you and miss you.

Oh my sweetie, where can you be?

Thinking of you both at the holidays, dear Mark and his beloved Carolyn

I love you and miss you so.

I wish I was as articulate as you were so I could say how much I miss you.
Mom

Dear, dear Mark - you will always be missed. We see your picture daily and still find it hard to believe we'll never see that lovely smile again. You smiled with your whole face - what a nice memory for us to hold.

Dear Mark,
Last week I got a "Popular Question" badge on StackOverflow for a question I posted back when we were working on the first ETC project together. It was about how to sensibly convert hundreds of jsp snippets into Django templates. 1000 people have looked at that question, but nobody ever posted a very good answer. You would have laughed.
The Orangina bottles that we filled with colored water are lined up in spectral order (mostly) along my office window. Sometimes someone comes in and asks about them, and I get to tell the story, and remember how much fun we had watching the drops of food coloring diffuse through the water, and keeping a lab notebook.
I keep highlighting sections of the books I read that we would have talked about. Sometimes it's whole sections, in books that I would have loaned you to read so we could have talked about them; sometimes it's just a quote or two - good conversation fodder. There was a story I read in Science News this week about fish that understand the concept of zero you would have loved.
And I sure wish I could come in to the office and tell you all the Catholic news this week, and have the kind of conversation we always had about things like that.
Three years seems all wrong: surely it was much longer than that, or just a few months ago.
I miss you, dear friend.

Can’t believe it’s been 3 years. I still miss you.

There really are no words when someone so young and so dear passes way before his time. There was no one else like Mark - we miss him.

Oh how I miss you . . . .
every day.

It’s our anniversary week again, sweetie.
Our two different anniversaries that we always celebrate and just lengthen out to the whole week .. because why not?
A whole week of just basking in the glow of our fortunate love. Our appreciation of one another. Of the remarkable gifts that we are to each other. The quiet, precious bond.
The symbiotic.
Will you have another glass of champagne with me?

I miss you.

So very sweet,

so young,

dreadfully missed.

Carolyn was so kind and generous to give us a picture of Mark smiling amidst lovely greenery. It makes me smile every time I look at it, which is every day since we have it in our breakfast room. What a better world its been with him in it. We miss him every day.

Hard to believe its been two years since we're been blessed with your presence. Rob and I miss you terribly. Particularly when we hear about something really cool - or annoying - or horrifying - and think, gosh can't wait to discuss this with Mark. Except we can't. You were such a light in our lives. We love you and Carolyn.

Celebrating the birthday of a very sweet man. I miss you, my friend.

I miss you, Markie. We should be celebrating today. What more can I say? Love, Mom

Mark exists in the people who knew him. We enjoy his birthday because it's another day for us to be alive on earth and he would want us to enjoy it. Let him go with us everywhere we go from this moment forward as we immerse him and ourselves in the stream of life.

I can't believe it's been a year since you've been gone. I miss you you.

It's been a year? How did the time pass so quickly. Remembering a kind and gentle man whose death is a great loss. Carolyn, I think of you often, but I lost your email when my computer crashed last winter. If you care to write me at katherine@lkharms.com, I would love to hear where you are and what you are doing now. Praying that your memories will comfort your.

Our love
    is never-ending
    is all-encompassing
    is all-consuming.

You're still with us, Mark, in spirit, in memory, in conversation. Thanks for your continued presence.

Hello schwee. I dreamt about you. The time was current and the dream was an alternate reality. It picked up right at early July last year. You had just stopped working and we were just being together. We were gently doing things and going places. You were still sick, but gladly, weren't getting any worse. Eventually in the dream we come to July this year, 2016. You seem to be doing better. We notice that you haven't been getting any worse and in fact when we look back, we can see that you are getting stronger, your numbers are better, you are feeling better. You start talking about going back to work -- that you would enjoy that. We are still under the cloud of cancer, but so very glad that you are still here.

Then I woke up.

It doesn't take any training in psychology to see that I still can't fathom you not being here. And won't.

I miss you so.

I am missing you very much today Mark. I will be turning 53 on Friday. You would have been there, just two months later. We talked about the "Calculus of Humanity" in your last few months. We never got past some proposed axioms, but still, it was a worthwhile endeavor. Some questions don't have any "right" answers, but you used to tell me that's OK.

On the first anniversary that we can not celebrate together :

   'Parted from me but never parted.

   Never and always touching and touched.

   (Until) we meet at the assigned place.'

                       [from ST "Amok Time"]

April 15, 2016
My sweet, it has been 8 months since you died. The pain is so fresh I can still feel my moment of panic when I understood that you would never take another breath. Your suffering was at an end. Still, your shoes are by the door, waiting for you ... keeping company with mine. I carry your urn to the bedroom when I retire for the day, and then back out to the living room in the morning ... for I can no more bear to be away from you now than I ever could. Less perhaps, because in the past I always knew you would return ... but now I know you can't. You were so young, so very beautiful, and so very, very beloved. And always will be.

Dear Carolyn
There´s no words to express the feelings of this lost of a great person, try to be in peace thinking that now Mark are taking care of you, like you did it for him with all love and tenderness.
Hug
Honestly Tirso Buelna
Thanks for your time

I always felt that Mark and Carolyn were two of the smartest and kindest people I ever met, and I was honored to have known them during the time I was in the DC area and active in dc.sage. On numerous occasions, they welcomed us into their house, and I think we were at our best when they were present.

I never got a chance to work with either of them outside of the "Random Guys and Gals Doin' Stuff", but I feel certain that I would have learned even more if I had.

I still think of Mark and Carolyn as one of the best examples of "techie couples" that I have ever met.

Happy Birthday Mark, wish you and Carolyn were celebrating it on earth.

I miss you, Markie. I love you. Mom

Mark, I know the two of you will be together in Carolyn's heart today. May all the memories be blessed.

You would have been 52 today, my sweet. I love you always. You are with me always.

So sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

My condolences to Carolyn and family. I am a second cousin to Mark. My Uncle Jerome was my mother Genevieve (Jenny) sister. I am sorry for your loss. Patricia Janeshefskie Barber, Matthews Nc

Although I have only seen Mark a couple of times in the last 20 years, my memories from the late '80s and early '90s are still quite vivid. Mark was a brilliant man, always calm (at least on the surface) and generally unflappable. We were both recent graduates and often turned to one another in learning how to cope with the curve balls life threw at each of us. I learned a lot from Mark, both technically, and in terms of how and when to be patient. I was lucky to be there when Carolyn joined McCabe, and to watch Mark's happiness bloom. Few things could light up a room like Mark's genuine laughter. Carolyn, I hope the memories of Mark's love and joy and brilliance sustain you as you find your path to acceptance. If we can do anything to help, please let us know.

Dear Mark, friend, officemate, conversation partner extraordinaire - how I will miss our afternoon rambles across campus to talk philosophy and so much more. Already this week, I've come across several things that would have made *such* good conversation fodder - we could have talked about them for hours.

Your legacy is not only the software that you left us, but the minds and hearts that you touched. I will always remember you. And... how can I not close with a Spock quote...

"I have been, and always shall be, your friend."

Mark was friendly, approachable, and very knowledgeable in so many different subjects. He was an integral part of the Science Software team. He never failed to answer my many questions about software, tests, etc. He also made the weekly Science Software Branch "donut discussions" so much more interesting with topics ranging from previous job experiences to boat house maintenance. He was a great man, and will be greatly missed. Many condolences from me and my family.

I knew Mark through our work at STScI. He was incredibly gifted, remained approachable and always helpful. I learned something from him with every conversation. We shared a common interest in Amateur radio and spoke about it a bit. Mark seemed like a kindred soul in a way, and I always wanted to ask him more about his travels. I'm sorry we didn't have more conversations about stuff outside of work. Mark remained focused on his work till the end, and I know he touched many folks at STScI. We'll miss him dearly.

Dear Carolyn -

Although I barely knew Mark, your love for him (and his for you) were readily apparent. It touched me when you mentioned that he had encouraged you to get back to playing - a really selfless and loving move on his part, and the reason that we connected. Your devotion to each other was easy to see at concerts and in your updates, and I consider myself privileged to able to be included in your circle of friends. I am very sorry for your loss and all that you both had to go through during his illness, and will keep you in my thoughts as you grieve Mark's passing.

Dear Carolyn:

I am sorry I never got an opportunity to meet Mark in person. Unfortunately he was another exceptional individual who I met on this unfortunate odyssey that we shared. As I continue my advocacy work I will keep him in my thoughts. I hope over time that the memories of his disease and the burden you carried as Mark's spouse & caregiver are replaced by the joy and happiness of better times. Sorry I can't make to Baltimore to sit Shiva with you . I hope to have the opportunity to toast Mark's life with you in the future. All the best! Dominic

I hired Mark about 8 years ago. In seeing his application I wondered if he was Matt’s brother so I asked Matt about him. Matt said he always looked up to Mark, and that was one of the best recommendations I ever got. I don’t think we have ever had anyone with the breadth of experience that Mark brought in all sorts of areas, and we all benefitted greatly from his knowledge, creativity and hard work coupled with his passion. Not only did he greatly aid our group’s work, he did many things to help other areas at the Space Telescope Science Institute and, particularly, innumerable staff members that needed his help. His patience with dealing with all the problems that would arise was incredible. Throughout his illness he continued to contribute to the projects here, even when it became difficult towards the end. All could see that he really enjoyed being part of STScI and its mission. He will be greatly missed.

To my love ... with me always.