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Melanie lived and loved every minute of life to the utmost. She was an accomplished tennis player, playing competitively at both the 4.5 and 5.0 levels.  A passionate animal lover, she enjoyed wine, telling a good story (with a little embellishment), astrology, estate sales, and was active in her community, volunteering with CASA, Make a Wish, and Mobile Loaves & Fishes.

Melanie got the most out of every day and had no regrets.  She kept the poem below with her as a reminder to live each day to the fullest.  Let the memory of Melanie be with us forever.  

The Dash
I read of a man who stood to speak at the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on the tombstone from the beginning… to the end.

He noted that first came the date of birth and spoke of the following date with tears, but he said what mattered most of all was the dash between those years.

For that dash represents all the time they spent alive on earth and now only those who loved them know what that little line is worth.

For it matters not, how much we own, the cars… the house… the cash. What matters is how we live and love and how we spend our dash.

So think about this long and hard; are there things you’d like to change? For you never know how much time is left that still can be rearranged.

To be less quick to anger and show appreciation more and love the people in our lives like we’ve never loved before.

If we treat each other with respect and more often wear a smile… remembering that this special dash might only last a little while.

So when your eulogy is being read, with your life’s actions to rehash, would you be proud of the things they say about how you lived your dash?
By Linda Ellis, Copyright © Inspire Kindness, 1996, thedashpoem.com.

Please join us September 19th to celebrate her life, and post memories, messages, or photos on this online memorial.  

Celebration of Life for Melanie Rychlik
Thursday, September 19th @ 1:00
Shepherd of the Hills Church
6909 W Courtyard Drive, Austin, Texas 78730

August 11, 2022
August 11, 2022
Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and miss you more than words can say. I love you always!
September 23, 2019
September 23, 2019
We lost you way too soon, but never doubt the impact you had on our family. Your infectious laughter, generous heart, and your astute insight were a gift that will live on forever. As a mother, I thank you for helping Greg grow to the man he is today. My heart aches for all of us who love you, Mel. I can still hear you as we were celebrating Pappy's 90th Birthday telling him he was a player when he was courting Granny...you made his day! We will never forget you and never doubt how much you were and are loved. Forever in my heart....
September 16, 2019
September 16, 2019
Melanie, it was so unfair you leaving us so young. You are sadly missed by so many, young and old. Not only for your bubbly personality, glamor and kindness, your love of family and friends but also as a role model to all tennis players and animal lovers. RIP. 
September 15, 2019
September 15, 2019
I will miss Melanie's contagious laugh and admired her huge heart for animals. She had such a deep adoration for her parents and her husband, Greg.  She always wanted to make the world a better place. Heaven has a new angel now and we are all blessed having her watch over us.
❤❤❤
September 5, 2019
September 5, 2019
Mel, Have many memories of You as my most Fierce Competition at Rosebank Convent in Tennis naturally!!
Not only did We reach the Finals against each other at school but,
We played Doubles against other school teams often !! We always had a great time together as we were fiercely competitive!!
I do Remember the One ☝️ time that You started to question/ argue with the Ref..and got us in trouble for the game
How silly it all seems now ..
Bounce a few balls for us Mel
September 5, 2019
September 5, 2019
I miss you so much! Your easy laugh and our endless phone calls. You were my go to person and I am lost without you.  Love you always. Your sister Tray!

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August 11, 2022
August 11, 2022
Not a day goes by that I don't think about you and miss you more than words can say. I love you always!
September 23, 2019
September 23, 2019
We lost you way too soon, but never doubt the impact you had on our family. Your infectious laughter, generous heart, and your astute insight were a gift that will live on forever. As a mother, I thank you for helping Greg grow to the man he is today. My heart aches for all of us who love you, Mel. I can still hear you as we were celebrating Pappy's 90th Birthday telling him he was a player when he was courting Granny...you made his day! We will never forget you and never doubt how much you were and are loved. Forever in my heart....
September 16, 2019
September 16, 2019
Melanie, it was so unfair you leaving us so young. You are sadly missed by so many, young and old. Not only for your bubbly personality, glamor and kindness, your love of family and friends but also as a role model to all tennis players and animal lovers. RIP. 
Her Life

Melanie's Life Story

September 4, 2019
Melanie Puddefoot Rychlik arrived in Pottersbar, Hertfordshire England, on April 12, in a year she had no intention of revealing to anyone outside her family, husband, and documents where legally required (a trait she shared with her mother, Brenda). She was the younger of two girls and the pride and joy of her parents, Brenda and Dennis.

Rumor has it her mum was enjoying a cream cake in the hospital, with plenty of time before “baby comes,” and the next minute Melanie arrived with no warning. This was the signature for everything in her life. When she decided to do something, she went for it, full steam ahead and on her time line.  Nothing held Melanie back!

At the age of one, the family set off for Johannesburg, South Africa. Young Mel had many passions, but one of her biggest was her animals and the large collection she acquired: dogs, a cat, a rabbit, a guinea pig, some fish, and several birds, including a cockatiel she spent four hours tracking in the trees before capturing it and bringing it home.  If you love something set it free, and Melanie let that bird free in her bedroom, where it would swoop down on anyone who entered, much to her delight and entertainment.  After a great deal of pleading with her parents, she got a hamster for Christmas one year.  She named it Koobie, and five days later Koobie gave birth to seven babies. Melanie thought she had hit the jackpot—she worked her butt off to get one hamster and ended up with eight.

Her keen sense of adventure and thrill-seeking did lead to some troubling moments when she was younger. At the age of three, Melanie plunged fearlessly into the deep end of the swimming pool without her water wings, causing her family great angst, as she had not completed her swimming lessons.  At age six, one morning at six a.m. she felt a powerful urge to swing and ended up slipping off the swing set and landing on her elbows, managing to break not one but both of them.  She spent weeks with her arms tied up around her neck like a mental patient in a straitjacket.  The result of this was that they set in a very peculiar manner. Her dad told her not to be deterred by the small fact that one arm was set backward.  Afterward her arms were very bent, but with a lot of effort she found ways to work around it, learning swimming strokes that allowed her to compensate, and working with a tennis coach who helped her with her serve and play with her former skill.  With regular massaging with vitamin E oil and pep talks from her beloved dad, Mel went on to make her bendy elbows an advantage rather than a handicap; it would never have occurred to her to use this setback as an excuse not to try—or not to succeed. 

From an early age, Melanie was goal oriented.  If you wanted to get her to do anything as a kid you could totally bribe her with Raspberry Hubbly Bubbly soda or White Rabbit sweets from Japan.  Not something most people keep in their drawer—but luckily her tastes evolved a bit in later life.

Melanie attended Craighall convent and then its sister school, Rosebank Convent.  She loved being competitive—Melanie played to win! It was her ultimate high.  In high school she and her sister, Tracy, joined a rather dismal swim team that never won anything.  But with Melanie on the team—and a lot of cheering from her array of enthusiastic friends—the team went on to win the swim gala.  Her teams won every other sporting event that year, including tennis, which would become a great love.  Melanie gathered a plethora of trophies, much to her delight.  They were displayed proudly by the front door for everyone to admire. “If you are going to do it, you may as well do it well—and get the praise for it,” was her motto.

While Melanie was very bright academically and involved in many activities, it was her passion for tennis that really kept her focus.  Melanie broke her school record by winning the singles and doubles championships five years in a row, and was ranked in the top twenty in South Africa as a junior.  She played for the Wanderers Club adult tennis league—at age fifteen—and made the first team, taking them to the win for their season. (She also partnered with her dad, Dennis, for a mixed doubles tournament and gave him the satisfaction of his one and only win.)

After all her achievements on the court, she received a full scholarship to Weber State University in Utah, turning down not only offers from Clemson and Tennessee to accept it, but also a modeling contract with Ford modeling agency.

Her tennis triumphs continued in college.  She played line one as a freshman and was MVP and All Conference player of the WAC conference. She led her team to multiple conference titles, and was number one seed at the Ulster Open, a professional tennis tournament in Northern Ireland.

After completing college Melanie moved back to South Africa, a country she deeply loved.  There she embarked on what would become her first job in a lifelong love for her chosen career path, recruiting: she worked for Kelly Personal Services as a branch manager. Never content to be average, Melanie won branch for the year for her office, and helped transition the workforce with the end of apartheid—something she was passionate about.  It was during this period that Melanie met one of the loves of her life…her Chow Monty, who had an enormous amount of fur and a really black tongue that hung out constantly.

Eventually Melanie relocated back to the States, living in Utah, Las Vegas, Florida, and spending a lot of time in Albuquerque, New Mexico, where her family then resided, before finally settling in Texas.  She loved it: the heat, the pace, the people—all of it.  She started off in Houston, purchasing a house on the water in League City.  Melanie loved ambiance and being around plants, trees, and water.

While in League City she was able to continue to explore her deep passion for animals, serving as a volunteer at the League City Animal Shelter.  There she helped rescue and care for multiple animals, including Clyde, a Lab she found on the side of the road, who weighed just 27 pounds and had a broken hip, and of course became a part of Melanie’s family.

In 2001 she had an opportunity to move to Austin to take the branch manager position for Ajilon Staffing Services. Austin, Texas, is where she really found her home.  She absolutely loved it!  After a time she transitioned into real estate with Coldwell Banker, where—true to her overachieving form—she won “Rookie of the Year” in 2005.

But Melanie couldn’t stay away from recruiting for long—she returned to her career roots and eventually achieved the position of recruiting director for New York Life, Metlife, and Northwestern Mutual.  She won Recruiter of the Year at Northwestern in 2018 for the entire company (are you surprised?).

In 2008 Melanie was playing in a tennis tournament when she met Greg Rychlik, whose doubles partner was dating her partner. “Oh, this night’s going to be interesting,” Greg remembers thinking, as Melanie immediately turned on her flirty, competitive charm—on and off the court (he remembers their excellent banter as she tried to one-up his Texas swagger with her South African pride).  The banter continued for months of casual conversations until one night when they saw each other at a party and Melanie planted on Greg “the biggest kiss I’d ever had.” Pretty soon they met to play tennis one Friday night—and they were inseparable after that.

In July of 2011, in the middle of Melanie’s treatment for a brain parasite that had caused serious health problems, “something just hit me—now’s the time,” Greg says.  He’d spent weeks trying to train the youngest of their three dogs, Bo, to carry the ring box to Melanie, but that night the box—which he’d tried taping to the dog’s collar—kept falling off because the Bo kept shaking it off.  Finally, Greg simply called all three dogs out to the patio, made them sit (no doubt as witnesses), and asked her to marry him—to Melanie’s total surprise. (She always told people “Greg proposed to me at my worst.”)  They married in 2012.

Though opposites in many ways—Melanie loved estate sales and consignment shops, for instance, and Greg…did not—they found shared interests where they could enjoy each other’s company, like hiking, tennis, and travel. True to form, if Greg had a passion for something, Melanie dove into the deep end: Because he loved Husker football, she “became a bigger fan than me.”  Because he loved fishing, she threw herself wholeheartedly into the sport. And they enjoyed creating their own traditions together—on Thanksgiving week, for instance, they would play in a husband-and-wife tennis tournament and then go fishing together.  Melanie, of course, always competitive, was determined to out fish Greg—but then immediately apologized to each and every fish she caught for catching and eating it.

Both valued compromise in their relationship based on whoever felt the most passionately about a subject—to the point where they almost always settled on a solution both liked better anyway.  Greg loved Melanie’s complexity, and her unswerving loyalty and integrity, and describes her as magnetic—“when she walked into a room people tended to gravitate to her.”

Melanie was a woman of many passions—animals, nature, wine, telling a good story (with a little embellishment), astrology, and living life to the fullest.  She continued her love of tennis her entire life, both watching and playing.  She remained active in the sport, playing competitively at both the 4.5 and 5.0 levels, and was named Capital Area Tennis Association player of the year in 2014.

Family, friends, fitness, work, and social life were all so important to her.  She enjoyed a very diverse group of friends, each one an absolute treasure to her.  That appreciation for her wide variety of friends, who became family to her,was a trait that endured all her life. Melanie, from an early age, was a champion of the underdog, and she especially had a knack for sensing those who could use a friend and made it her business to take great care of them and make sure they were included.

Her heartfelt passion for helping animals in distress eventually led to her involvement doing the same for people down on their luck, and she became involved in helping feed the homeless with Mobile Loaves and Fishes.  Melanie felt so much empathy for their situation that she wanted to go out and sleep in the parks with them to experience what they were going through (though that got a firm thumbs-down from family members).  She worked with CASA (Court-Appointed Special Advocates), helping represent the interests of children in the foster system, giving her heart entirely to all the kids she looked after.  She also was an active volunteer with the Make a Wish Foundation.  Melanie’s generosity of spirit was without limit.

Her perfect day would be to get up early, enjoy a cup of coffee, water her plants, putter in the garden with her dogs, then go spinning, do yoga, go to work and find a good recruit, call her family members to check on them and sometimes have a laugh or cry, then return home, play with her dogs, pour a glass of wine, and sit and enjoy while Greg cooked a wonderful meal—which she would always enjoy with gusto.

Melanie was always very close to her parents, and she was thrilled when they announced their plans to move to Austin.  But when her fathers' health began to deteriorate, he wanted to stay in Albuquerque.  Last month he passed away, a devastating loss for her.   Tragically, Melanie passed away three weeks later, before she was able to move her mom close by, as she had planned.  

There were so many special things about Melanie, but the one that stands out most is when she was going through the hell of dealing with a parasite in her brain and no one was sure what she was dealing with. Melanie said at the time: “If I go tomorrow, I have absolutely no regrets, I’ve lived a great life.  There are not many people who can say that and really mean it.”  She lived and loved every minute of her life to the fullest.

Melanie is survived by her husband and best friend, Greg; their three Labs, Jake, Suh, and Bo; her mom, Brenda; sister Tracy and her husband, John; and nieces Sammie and Lexi.



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September 10, 2019
Our friendship started at nursery school and we have the most incredible memories of our wonderful childhood together and these will remain with us forever. Our families used to spend every Christmas together, Christmas Eve and Christmas Night gorging on our mum’s delicious cooking. Our homes were filled with love and laughter. Of course Christmas would not be Christmas unless we dressed up and put on our annual Christmas show for our poor parents. The four of us Melanie, Tracy, Natalie and I performed for our parents (our younger sisters always trying to outdo their big sisters) and at the end of the show we went around with a hat to collect money for our performances giggling and being silly. I can still hear Mel laughing hysterically.

When we had sleep overs it was always the four of us. We would spend hours in our pools playing Marco Polo, obviously the competitive younger sisters cheating to make sure that they always won.

Being the younger sisters of Tracy and Pam, it was of course a priority on our agenda to try and out smart the two of them.

Our favourite was playing hide and go seek, leaving them in hiding while we entertained ourselves with something that was more interesting. Of course getting into trouble after they were left sitting on the wall behind a tree for at least an hour.

Our best was when Brenda dropped the 4 of us off at Emmarentia Dam. We hired 2 rowing boats. Tracy and Pam rowed off to the middle of the dam where it was a more tranquil so they could catch up on private boyfriend issues. It didn’t last for long though because the terrible two arrived there only to leave them stranded without their oars. Laughing, hysterically we rowed away while they begged and pleaded.There must have been a bribe or two before the oars were returned.

When we were old enough, Brenda dropped Mel and I off at the Rosebank Mall to do our own Christmas Shopping. We spent the entire day there only to come home and decided that we had spent way too much money so then returned all the gifts the following day.

These are a few of many happy childhood memories that we wanted to share that we will cherish forever. Dear Mel you are a precious soul that was taken too soon. Keep shining and laughing from above us.Till we meet again.

All our love

Pam and Nats

I have shared some of our photos of our treasured memories.





Melanie's Drive.

September 5, 2019
I met Melanie on a tennis court of course, when we were putting together a mixed doubles team in 2010 or so. I was a tennis coach for many years, and could see special things in players. The best thing about Melanie and her tennis, was she hated to loose. I said I wanted to play with her in our next match. I stated that she would have to play the add side, and Melanie said that was okay, but don't blame her if she cannot hit a backhand down the line. Mind you, I had not played with her before, and seeing this odd forehand in warm up, I was a bit concerned. 
We were winning and playing well, but then I made the fatal mistake of telling melanie to stop lobbing so much... She gave me the look, I know all that know her, know what that looks like, and I said never mind, "I will look for the lob." 
I have also had the pleasure of drilling Melanie with many of her friends. And by god, if I was not on point, or her drilling partners were not on point, she reminded us that, they we are paying for this drill, and the best is what we better give. I am sure her drive in the tennis world,  transcended into her work, and her relationship with Greg.  I am glad that she fulfilled and excelled in that part of her life.
I can honestly say that I stop and reflect on Melanie, and I am sadden that she is gone. I don't really understand why some people have to leave this earth way too early. I am pretty sure Melanie is up in the heavens, looking at peeps,bouncing her pony tail around, and saying "Let's go folks, time to be the best we can be." 



 

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