Let the memory of R. be with us forever
  • 31 years old
  • Born on July 14, 1978 .
  • Passed away on September 1, 2009 .
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, R. James 31 years old, born on July 14, 1978 and passed away on September 1, 2009. We will remember him forever.
Posted by Trace May on 9th September 2016
Eugene you were a beautiful person. I remember holding you when you were just a baby. I also remember some the abuse you endured growing up. We didn't get to be around each other a lot. You lived with our father and your mother in one state and I with my mother in another. I remember visiting once a year and saw how cruel our father was to you. I was just a child (8-11 yrs)so I believed there was nothing I could do to stop it. There were other adults around all the time and they didn't try to stop it either. I never thought to speak up because I was scared. Fast forward 3 yrs and I am there on a "trial basis" to see if I can live there. I ask my father's girlfriend (yes she lived there as well as my stepmother and it was acceptable to them) if I could give her son a bath. She says yes and reminds me that he has tubes in his ears and that he needs ear plugs put in. You asked if you could help me. I say sure and forget about the ear plugs. I remember them only after we had him in the tub. I asked you to get them for me and you said you didn't know where they were. So I asked you to watch the baby while I go and get them. Long story short, baby wiggles and slipped in the tub getting his ears wet. I should have been the one in trouble. Instead, our father blamed you saying you did it on purpose. We are all stood in a line, all 4 of us, and each of us are handed the belt and told to spank you while you were bent over a chair I think. I broke down and cried refusing to to it and stating I should be in your place. Because I did refuse our father gave you an extra one for me!

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