Ricky-boy, that's what I called him even up to his final days with us here on earth. You never see it coming, but we became great friends in the years that followed. I don't recall the exact date we met but it was sometime in 1983 between February and April (our birthdays, respectfully) because I remember Rick being 25 and me almost 20. I had been drifting for over a year having barely graduated high school trying to piece together something I could call a life. I was pursuing my dream to travel the world over. I had 2 jobs and remember thinking if I picked up another job I could make my dream happen that much sooner. Likely on a Friday or Saturday night because that's when I went on the prowl in Westwood looking for hotties(<>). That's when I saw a Pedicab in action for the first time in the US. As I came to learn Rick had is own side business working as a bike mechanic among many other endeavors. Rick gave me a job as a Pedicab driver - one of the coolest jobs ever with tons of fond memories to include working the summer of 84 (Summer Olympics).
Unassuming is how I would characterize Rick. As someone has previously mentioned, Rick was persistent and unrelenting - I admired this about him which meant he naturally continued to fill a larger role in my life. In many respects, Rick and I had similar struggles and I believe this was comforting for us. It was knowing we were not alone in the fight and together we stood a better chance overcoming adversity and prevail we did!
Rick and I decided to move in together in a 1 bedroom apartment on Ohio Ave shortly after working together at the Pedicab Co. I took the living room and made it cozy - had my Piranha fish tank (120 Gallon show) up against the entry wall as a headboard for my bed. It was quite the show piece....feeding time was an event! Kraft mac and cheese, boiled beef hot dogs, and packaged Top Ramen were staples in our pad. On quiet evenings you could find Rick and I playing Chess on a glass chessboard that I had custom made. It was an inch thick 16x16 piece of glass with etched beveled lines that created squares, clear contrasting tinted. I remember having my way with Rick in the beginning but as we played more and more he began to make adjustments and increased his knowledge of the game which neutralized my advantages. We were competitive opponents on many fronts. One of Rick's many great qualities was his ability to make adjustments to better serve the needs of a given situation. Rick and I shared many great experiences in our apartment, memories I will continue to cherish.
Rick's blue collar mentality was framed by a desire to help others, a person quick to lend his hands and mind, not afraid of hard work, kind, soft spoken with a boyish smile. Our adolescent passion for females eventually gave way to a strong and lasting friendship. And although Rick and I grew apart with families and careers on opposite sides of the US from 1996 on, we made a point to call one another on our birthdays. Some years it was a 5-minute conversation while others were much longer catching up on family and interests to include a full day spent together at Disney World (Mari-tel, Blake, Amber, my wife Karen and our 3 children - Hannah, Claire, and Jack) over the Christmas holiday season. Never crossed my mind that it would be the last time we would get to see one another in person.
I would come to learn about Rick's obsession with all things Disney over the past couple years. Although our last time in person was in Orlando I did make a point to call him on a weekly basis beginning January 2020. Those who knew Rick well know he had a very well developed denial mechanism. Rick did things his way, as he should, and you were hard pressed to convince him otherwise. He chose not to focus on his illness but rather talked about his unfulfilled plans at work and his deepest desire to see Blake and Amber graduate.
Over the past year plus I learned those things truly important to Rick - his life's works: career and family. No one can deny Rick's incredible pride and love for his family. Blake and Amber - amazing young adults who will continue to live life honoring their father. Rick was very passionate about his professional accomplishments as many of us know. And while many of them were technological in nature, more impressionable were the many relationships he developed along the way as well as the people he touched and were touched by.
Rick is not a person easily forgotten. Nor is he forceful or overbearing, rather a gentle spirit. I look forward to reuniting with Rick in heaven on that fateful day. Perhaps our biggest opportunity lost was not knowing we both became men of faith well into our years and without the other's hand. Our appetites for being life learners coupled with a healthy fear of failure fueled our friendship in ways I'm just now comprehending.
Rick asked me to be his best man and was honored to do so. I asked Rick to be my best man a couple months later because no other male had poured into to me as he had done. I hope I impacted Rick's life half as much as he impacted mine.
Mari-tel - I would like to extend a heart felt thank you and huge virtual hug for all you have done to connect friends and family with Rick. With God's hand and grace upon you and your family you somehow found a means for keeping those of us not physically present in touch with Rick. Your text updates were a part time job. I know you didn't sleep much over the past year plus, however your love for Rick was evident every step of the way. I look forward to sharing memories with you, Blake, and Amber in the future.
Rick, I love you brother. Thank you for being my best man, for your friendship, for helping me grow as a man and a person, and for sharing life with me. Know I continue to carry you in my heart and look forward to reuniting with you one day soon. In Him,