Let the memory of Tommy be with us forever.
  • 50 years old
  • Born on May 5, 1968 in Oak Lawn, Illinois, United States.
  • Passed away on October 2, 2018 in United States.

This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Tommy Duhig 50 years old, born on May 5, 1968 and passed away suddenly on October 2, 2018.  He is survived by his 3 children Meghan (25), Thomas (18), and Maggie (16).  

Our brother Tommy had a big, bright, friendly smile and an even bigger heart.  It was evident in all aspects of his life.  He loved and cherished his children more than anything in the world and  when he spoke of them his eyes would light up.

His parenting style was the perfect combination of love, humor, devotion, and guidance.  He was not only their father, but also their best friend. 

Tom was a very animated and playful father, never losing the sense of his own inner child.  All the little ones loved his boisterous presence and would gravitate to his open arms. 

His maternal instinct was equally as strong as his paternal side.  He was affectionate, understanding, and unlike most fathers, he mastered the art of doing laundry while simultaneously making funny notes in their school lunches.  The notes are where his sense of humor kicked in.  

He had an amazing ability to read people and remember the details even if he had only met you once and it was years ago.  He knew the questions to ask to bridge the gaps in the time that had passed. Tom always made everyone feel welcome even if it was a first time meeting.  

He was known for hosting the best parties and went above and beyond to accommodate all guests.  Upon walking into his home, the comfort he provided left you feeling like royalty.  Thus    nickname, "Mr. Belvedere", came from the most genuine place because Tommy always made you feel as if you were exactly where you were supposed to be when you were with him. 

He served, cooked, and cleaned effortlessly while entertaining guests and was always aware of the people around him and he made sure that everyone in the room was having a good time.  In most cases, Tommy was the center of attention, but that didn’t stop him from getting to know what was going on in your day to day.  When he spoke, he spoke with great intent and when he listened it was with his whole heart and mind.  Tommy was the kind of guy that you knew would answer the phone when you called. 

This "Mr. Belvedere" character was not only at family gatherings, but anywhere Tom was invited; Belvedere was there, always helping.  

He rang doorbells with his elbows and rolled up his sleeves when dinner was done making sure the host was fat, happy and smiling.   

Tom was always good about taking care of visitors from out of town, even if he didn't know them.  The visitors reports back were always glowing good times resulting in fast friends.   

Tom never forgot or missed an opportunity to wish you well.  He always reached out to you, on your birthday, anniversary or “just to say hi”.  

Every vacation anyone ever took, could be guaranteed a pre and post call from Tom.  He would genuinely wish for you to have fun and honestly wanted a detailed report upon your return.  

Tom loved hearing about travels and sharing in your joy even when he had no vacation time and was working doubles.  He was your biggest cheerleader.  He vicariously traveled along with you on your journey, whether it was to a destination, recalling a funny incident, or on an inner journey trying to uncover the meaning of life.  

When you needed advice regarding life's more difficult issues, he was well read and would reference what he learned in books from great spiritual leaders.  This side of him may have been more obscured, but he had an incredible depth and was fascinated with the big picture in life.  Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" was one of his favorites. 

Tom is the guy who would take his shirt off his back for you.

He was well spoken and interesting.  He was witty and charismatic, capturing everyone's attention.  His story telling capabilities rivaled some of the best.  He spent a great portion of his life working with people and building authentic relationships, first in sales providing consulting services to Corporate American employees through computer, software and hardware training, then later joining ILUE 399.  Tom left a lasting impression on everyone he worked with.  

We would love to hear your stories and see any pictures or videos you may have of Tom. You can post them in the STORIES TAB or just upload photos in the GALLERY TAB. This website will forever be a reminder for his family and future generations to reflect upon the many facets of one great guy.

You are in our hearts forever Tom.

Posted by Matt McKeon on 27th October 2018
I hadn’t seen Tommy in years and was shocked and saddened by his passing. He was one of those unique people who would leave you more energized and feeling better. His smile could turn a cloudy day bright. He touched a lot of lives and also taught us how to live and love every day, let’s not forget that. Rest In Peace Tommy.
Posted by Jennifer Adams on 14th October 2018
I’ve known Tommy for well over twenty years and to say I was a fan of his would be an understatement. I was completely heartbroken to hear of his passing. He was and will always remain my favorite person of all time to randomly run into over the years. Even Margaret could attest at how excited I got when I had the pleasure of spending quality time with Tommy. You were guaranteed an evening full of entertainment, fun & a lot of laughter with that crazy guy. The night before Thanksgiving won’t be the same because I won’t be able to hangout with you. Tommy not only entertained he brought out the best in me and everyone he came into contact with. I’ll miss him telling me about the next good book to read. I’ll never forget the very last time I saw Tommy. It was a few months ago and I ran into Mariano’s for dinner after work one night. I was tired, cranky and wanted to run in and run out. As luck would have it my buddy Tommy was there getting dinner as well and wouldn’t you know it instantly my mood took a turn for the better. We decided to eat there and enjoy a few adult beverages. He lit up when I asked him how his kids were doing. He was one proud father. I’ll be forever grateful for that last run in with my dear friend. I’ll miss you. Unfortunately, I was out of town for his services and was unable to pay my respects. However, I almost find it fitting for our friendship because I know we will run into one another again. My deepest condolences to his family, especially his cousin Mike and his three beautiful children. Until we meet again. Love ya, Tommy Jen Adams
Posted by Kathleen Finn on 11th October 2018
Many years ago, I was talking with Tommy at a party, and he challenged me to name any skills I learned as an adult. I rattled off what I thought was a pretty good list, and he proceeded to break it down and demonstrate that I had, in fact, learned all those skills much earlier than adulthood and was merely recycling them. When I was hard pressed to come up with anything that fit the bill, he began to harass other party goers with the same question and the same beat-down. With a Captain’s hat on his head and a cigar hanging on his lip, Tommy declared that we sad-sacks needed to up our games! Life was passing us by, he said, and we could do better- we should get out there and learn new things and take some risks! And however small or trivial, the effort counted, he assured us. That stuck with me over the years, and I have often been reminded of his prompting when I found myself lazily slipping into bouts of complacency. Tommy made an impact. Now, many years later and with great sadness, I’m reading stories of the ever more profound and lasting impacts Tommy made; often, through short expressions of real kindness. St. Therese of Lisieux said, “Remember that nothing is small in the eyes of God. Miss no single opportunity of making some small sacrifice, here by a smiling look, there by a kindly word; always doing the smallest right and doing it all for love.” Tommy did that in spades and his memory, I have no doubt, will prompt us all to endeavor to do the same. What a life well-lived. What a legacy.
Posted by Dawn Masterson on 10th October 2018
I met Tommy through my friend Katie Walsh, he was her cousin and to me they were two bookends. Two bookends full of mischief. We all went to MVCC and one story that stands out is we were hanging in the quad between classes and the subject of fake id’s came up. Tom said for $50 I have a guy. I said really who ‘s the guy and he smiled and said I got a guy. It took me a minute but the smile and twinkle in his eye had us roaring. Get it... of course HE was the guy! My heart is so heavy that you are no longer with us I hope it’s true that one day we will see those that touched our lives on the other side. Sure Glad I got to meet you, god bless.
Posted by Jenell Rodriguez on 10th October 2018
HDI Global Insurance is only one of the many company that had the delightful opportunity to work with and see Tom on a daily bases. He was always coming up to help us with our crazy problems and would do it with a smile on his face. We are broken hearted and so sorry for the loss of such a wonderful man. Tom will be missed by everyone here at HDI that had the pleasure of working with him. His family is in our thoughts and prays. Love, Tom's HDI Family
Posted by Judy Raddue on 10th October 2018
I only knew Tommy from my office building, where he was on the maintenance team. He was always kind, friendly, with a perpetual smile on his face. His absence is deeply felt at 161 North Clark. May his family and loved ones find comfort in Love's embrace, and know that Tommy's spirit is forever with us.
Posted by LA Bender on 10th October 2018
I couldn't agree more with the opening statements on this memorial page regarding Tommy. Tommy was great to the tenants and always an absolute joy to be around. Truly. He and I talked about our children frequently. His daughters were his rock stars. He loved family and life. There is not enough space on this memorial page to reflect upon the goodness of Tommy. I was shocked when I saw the first message and said to myself, it can't be. Not Tommy. I know in my heart of hearts, the most fondest memories of Tommy will always bring a smile to many many faces, especially his dear family, and will be forever lasting. May Tommy find peace in the heavens and may his family be showered daily by his never ending love.
Posted by Letty Gutierrez-Bujak on 10th October 2018
I never knew him personally, but know he was loved and adored by his cousins. Prayers to the family and rejoice knowing heaven has a new angel.
Posted by Paul Rinella on 7th October 2018
This picture of Tommy with his arms open wide is the way I will remember him. He had his heart that wide all the time. The world is less bright without him in it. Heaven has another angel...keep them laughing dude!

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