This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Tommy Duhig 50 years old, born on May 5, 1968 and passed away suddenly on October 2, 2018.  He is survived by his 3 children Meghan (25), Thomas (18), and Maggie (16).  

Our brother Tommy had a big, bright, friendly smile and an even bigger heart.  It was evident in all aspects of his life.  He loved and cherished his children more than anything in the world and  when he spoke of them his eyes would light up.

His parenting style was the perfect combination of love, humor, devotion, and guidance.  He was not only their father, but also their best friend. 

Tom was a very animated and playful father, never losing the sense of his own inner child.  All the little ones loved his boisterous presence and would gravitate to his open arms. 

His maternal instinct was equally as strong as his paternal side.  He was affectionate, understanding, and unlike most fathers, he mastered the art of doing laundry while simultaneously making funny notes in their school lunches.  The notes are where his sense of humor kicked in.  

He had an amazing ability to read people and remember the details even if he had only met you once and it was years ago.  He knew the questions to ask to bridge the gaps in the time that had passed. Tom always made everyone feel welcome even if it was a first time meeting.  

He was known for hosting the best parties and went above and beyond to accommodate all guests.  Upon walking into his home, the comfort he provided left you feeling like royalty.  Thus    nickname, "Mr. Belvedere", came from the most genuine place because Tommy always made you feel as if you were exactly where you were supposed to be when you were with him. 

He served, cooked, and cleaned effortlessly while entertaining guests and was always aware of the people around him and he made sure that everyone in the room was having a good time.  In most cases, Tommy was the center of attention, but that didn’t stop him from getting to know what was going on in your day to day.  When he spoke, he spoke with great intent and when he listened it was with his whole heart and mind.  Tommy was the kind of guy that you knew would answer the phone when you called. 

This "Mr. Belvedere" character was not only at family gatherings, but anywhere Tom was invited; Belvedere was there, always helping.  

He rang doorbells with his elbows and rolled up his sleeves when dinner was done making sure the host was fat, happy and smiling.   

Tom was always good about taking care of visitors from out of town, even if he didn't know them.  The visitors reports back were always glowing good times resulting in fast friends.   

Tom never forgot or missed an opportunity to wish you well.  He always reached out to you, on your birthday, anniversary or “just to say hi”.  

Every vacation anyone ever took, could be guaranteed a pre and post call from Tom.  He would genuinely wish for you to have fun and honestly wanted a detailed report upon your return.  

Tom loved hearing about travels and sharing in your joy even when he had no vacation time and was working doubles.  He was your biggest cheerleader.  He vicariously traveled along with you on your journey, whether it was to a destination, recalling a funny incident, or on an inner journey trying to uncover the meaning of life.  

When you needed advice regarding life's more difficult issues, he was well read and would reference what he learned in books from great spiritual leaders.  This side of him may have been more obscured, but he had an incredible depth and was fascinated with the big picture in life.  Eckhart Tolle's "The Power of Now" was one of his favorites. 

Tom is the guy who would take his shirt off his back for you.

He was well spoken and interesting.  He was witty and charismatic, capturing everyone's attention.  His story telling capabilities rivaled some of the best.  He spent a great portion of his life working with people and building authentic relationships, first in sales providing consulting services to Corporate American employees through computer, software and hardware training, then later joining ILUE 399.  Tom left a lasting impression on everyone he worked with.  

We would love to hear your stories and see any pictures or videos you may have of Tom. You can post them in the STORIES TAB or just upload photos in the GALLERY TAB. This website will forever be a reminder for his family and future generations to reflect upon the many facets of one great guy.

You are in our hearts forever Tom.