Oby Theodora Nwankwo, (1956 - 2017) - ForeverMissed.com Online Memorials

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The Love of the Lord engulfs us
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So that wherever we are...God is
Amen"

61 years old
Born on September 22, 1956 in Nigeria
Passed away on December 9, 2017 in Maryland, United States

Psalm 116: 15
Precious in the sight of the LORD is the death of His saints.

This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved mom, daughter, sister and grandmother Mrs. Oby Theodora Nwankwo, 61, born on September 22, 1956 and passed away on December 9, 2017.

She touched so many lives.

We will remember her forever.

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January 15, 2018

Celebrating a Kind and Genuine Soul

My mother, Mami, loved her. It took me a while to inform Mami her friend Oby had passed, as I was reluctant to break the news to her. You can imagine her expression and her state of mind when she learnt the sad news. Mami met Oby a few years ago when we went to Enugu for the wedding of one of Oby’s children. Mami became enamored of her, for her kindness and warmth and the special attention given her. She saw Oby as the facilitator of her visit to South East Nigeria, a part of the country she had heard much about but never visited from her town of Zaria in northern Nigeria, where she had lived for over 40 years. Mami would often ask after Aunty Oby and say when are we going to Enugu again and I would tease her with a reply, your friend has not yet invited us for another wedding..

And that is who Oby Nwankwo was- in many ways - a bridge maker and activator. A gracious, winning soul. We are told always to be good, to do good, to put others first, and to keep our ego tucked away, to engender a sense of community and embrace the spiritual. As we mature and grow in physical stature and wealth that currency becomes more scarce. Oby however had those in abundance. It was as if the greater the height she attained, the more simple and kind and humane she remained – and became.

Oby took pride in the right things; her work, speaking out, standing by and with and if need be marching with the voiceless. She lent voice to issues that could open the door further ajar for our daughters, our sons, our communities, seeking to erase discrimination, seeking equality in likely and unlikely places.
Oby did all these calmly, unobtrusively but you could not miss her in the room. Beautiful and full of personality. Her voice was quiet and soft not because she didn’t know what to say or how to shout. She shouted loudest at her most quiet.

Oby was / is genuine. What you saw what all she was about. She didn’t seek attention, talk about herself and what she had achieved. I remember talking to her at the start of her campaign for the UN CEDAW chair,
I said: sis we will need to profile you a bit o. She said something like: Ok my sister we will try…

When are we going to another event in Enugu? Mami, I don’t know. Nme m, your friend passed..

Dear God grant; Oby eternal rest, her family and friends the fortitude to bear the loss and to protect her legacy.

Amina Salihu
Jan 15 2018
Abuja

January 11, 2018

We share in this time of grief but also share in the love and memories of Aunty Oby. What moves through us is a silence, a quiet sadness, a longing for one more day, one more word, one more touch. We may not understand why you left this earth so soon, or why you left before we were ready to say goodbye, but little by little, we begin to remember not just that you died, but that you lived. And that your life gave us memories too beautiful to forget. Rest in Perfect Peace.
We pray the Good Lord to grant your family the fortitude to bear this loss.

Iheanyi Igboko
Ag Executive Director
Agents of Communication and Development (A-CODE)

January 11, 2018

Oby,I lack words to describe the shock I had on hearing the news of your demise while on active service of your assigned duties which was service to humanity especially your untiring advocacy for the equality of men and women. I miss you and May your soul rest in perfect peace. Amen

January 7, 2018

Aunty Oby, the news of your death was the shocker of 2017. I had just come to Feminist WhatsApp group to follow-up on GBV football match for the end of 16days of activism when I saw the sad news. Absolutely unbelievable!!!

Aunty Oby , you were a role model to many of us. You believed in me as a young human rights advocate and the Lagos State Coordinator of NCAA for the passage of the Gender and Equal Opportunities Bill without doubting my abilities. Your belief in gender equality was a great inspiration.

Aunty Oby, your humility and exemplary leadership will be missed by many. The subtle way you reminded me of deadlines and pending activities is a lesson I have used in my managerial roles. You are a big sister to the core, ready to speak Igbo with me at every point. You never bothered about status, titles or age. I remember meeting you in Geneva and how we cooked and chatted away in your room with other CEDAW Committee members. You wouldn’t let me spend a dime throughout my stay, even though you didn’t know I was coming for that session. Each time we meet at CSW, you are always quick to remind me of all necessary avenues and persons to network with.

Aunty Oby, with a heavy heart I bid thee farewell. This is victory over death for a peaceful and impactful life you lived here on earth. Having laid every burden down, I pray the angels provides you a robe and a crown to join the host of heaven and sing a joyous new song to the lamb that was slain.

ADIEU Advocate for justice, a prompter of peace, a woman of courage and principle.
ADIEU Meek, Peaceful, Loving, Humble and Adorable woman.
ADIEU Aunty Oby, Nwanne m oma!.

January 7, 2018

Aunty Oby, I lack words to express how pained I am at your passing. I am consoled that you are resting in the bosom of the LORD. You were my big sister, Aunty, mentor, and teacher. I recall that program in Enugu in 1997 where I first met you. Till your passing you have remained soft spoken, kind hearted, beautiful, intelligent, assertive, excellent team leader and positive minded. I owe part of what I have achieved in women's rights advocacy to your tutelage. You didn't mind my humble background and beginnings but encouraged me to gain more self confidence and increased capacity. You provided the necessary platforms, opportunities and exposures. I remember the several training sessions on Affirmative Action. In fact you made CEDAW and Affirmative Action so realistic and practical. I will keep your memories afresh by continuing in my little contributions to sustain the campaigns you promoted. ADIEU sweet Aunty! You are God's Angel to WOMANKIND!

January 6, 2018

Tribute by 1979 Law Class University of Nigeria (UNN)

Unforgetable that is what you are-----
Princess Theodora Oby Nwankwo nee Ndigwe was a hard worker with passion and commitment to whatever she set out to do. She achieved and made an impact on the society. Oby always had a smile and an ear for every one that needed her attention. Her heart of compassion for the poor and downtrodden was just priceless. Her work in defending the rights of women and children both in Nigeria and on the international stage will not be forgotten. Our condolences go to her children, grandchildren, brothers, sisters and in-laws.
Rest in perfect peace.

Hon Justice Peter N.C. Umeadi (Chief Judge) ,Mrs. Uzi Didigu,Chief Mrs. Rhona Eze Dimude,Toni Igboji,Offiong Offiong SAN,Mrs Ngozi Okwesa Barda,Mrs Egoro Awa- Kalu, Anne Ikpeme,Azuka Ogo, Shiela Phil Ebosie, Eddie Ntephe , Hon Ifeatu Obi Okoye, Margaret Nwagbo , Eze Duru Iheoma-SAN, Lady Obiagheli Obi, Chuma Mbonu, Eziafa Ike Osakwe

For and on behalf of 1979 Law Class UNN

January 5, 2018

Calm, Regal, Confident and Kind. My dear Oby Nwankwo, your departure came to me as a shock, you will be greatly missed. My consolation is that you made great strides and marks in the sands of time. Your contribution to the development of Nigerian Women cannot be overemphasized and will not be forgotten. Rest in Perfect Peace dear sister. I pray that God mercifully console all members of your family in the name of Jesus.

January 5, 2018

I remember Aunty Oby for her determined and positive approach to ensuring gender equality in Nigeria. She was unrelenting in promoting all issues of women in her unique soft-spoken way. She will continue to inspire me and I am thankful for the opportunity to have met and interacted with her. Rest in peace Aunty Oby.

January 5, 2018

This tribute is written by Patience Onwuka ( Omenwa) on 31th December 2017.

Mummy Oby as I usually call you, I knew you through Mrs. Bene Nwachukwu. The little I knew you, you sent me to an international market women conference at Ghana, not quiet long after that, you sent me to another conference at Abuja based on gender inequality, you asked me to create a group of Anambra women whom you intend to organise a seminar for, when next you come, Mummy I have done all as you requested, all we need is you, please come back and continue this wonderful work you've started for your children. Oh death why, why have you taken from us such a priceless jewel, a woman of peace and justice, soft hearted in decision. Mummy, we miss you a lot , but who could question God's decision , he knows the best. May your Legacy live forever among us. Sleep well in the blossom of the all mighty till we meet again.

January 5, 2018

Beloved sister Oby,you genuinely very soft ,kind ,calm,harmless and your disposition was very infectious and convicting !

Your presence in the human rights sector ,particularly women's rights was a covering for the many accusations and suspicions about the way we work. You were a coach,mentor and character builder of both old and young men and women alike.

Your sudden transition to higher glory has left a crack on the wall of the sector. You were a geneine Representative and Ambassador of rural poor who many in the human rights sector claim they represent and speak for. Your community office as the headquaters of your initiative (CIRDDOC) speak volumes .

You empowered many ,you left empty of all you needed to off load to your generation .

May the rest of us not dissapoint our Maker.

Ever fresh in my memory.

Ene Ede
Community Empowerment Champion.

January 5, 2018

TRIBUTE TO MRS OBY NWANKWO By Sister Rose Uchem, MSHR
(Executive Director, Ifendu for Women’s Development)

Ifendu for Women’s Development (Ifendu) based in Enugu, Nigeria, is a non-governmental organization, dedicated to promoting inclusiveness in the society. Mrs Oby Nwankwo was until her death a member of the board of trustees of Ifendu right from its inception. She was happy to be of assistance both in person and from a distance. She gave generously of her time and ideas on how to run an NGO.

The news of Oby’s death on 9th December 2018 struck like a thunder bolt from nowhere, leaving me speechless and in denial for so long until it began to be widely discussed. Even now, it is still so so hard to accept and to speak of Oby in the past tense. I elect o retain memories of Oby as I knew her, in her live state.

In my experience, Oby was not a haughty person. She was simple, open and approachable; unassuming, gentle, kind and gracious. She exemplified affirmation, encouragement and positive regard for others. She will be greatly missed for who she was as a person and what she stood for in endlessly opening doors of opportunities and worldwide connections to all and sundry. Oby will be sorely missed generally in the development circle and particularly on Ifendu board of trustees where her death has created a big vacuum.

Oby, thank you for who you were, and for the indelible legacy you have left us in the development circle in Nigeria, in the United Nations, and in the world. Enjoy eternal bliss with your God! Till we meet to part no more and finalize the unfinished business items. Go well Oby! Adieu!

January 5, 2018

Aunty Oby,
I still find it very difficult to believe that you have passed. You are truly one of the most amazing women i have known.
One of the greatest memories is you making 2017 as a breaking point by reuniting my mother and i, after 17 long years of been apart. The most amazing thing to me is the way you took care of the situation, backed it up with prayers, and gave in your very best to make sure the prayers came forth into reality. I wouldn’t have the testimony I have today if it weren’t for the power of your prayers, your love and your amazing daughters.
The second attribute that stands out for me is giving. whether it be in acts of service, generosity, or compassion. You have always been the type of woman that pours out love in tangible ways to others.
You portray this love with warm embrace, sweet encouraging words, and selfless attitude. I can truly say with everything in me that you are the kind of woman who shines the love of Jesus everywhere she goes. I truly hope to carry on this amazing trait as I can see a world that is in growing need of love, encouragement, and compassion.
I admire your qualities and attributes.
You are an inspiration to me and other women.
With your life experiences, you touched the lives of multitude.
You are indeed a woman of great strength and inner beauty,a woman, who brought great warmth in my Life, helped me believe in myself. A woman of great faith, fun, and endurance. A woman who has consistently stood strong in times of trouble believing in her God. I love you sooo much, and i will greatly miss you

January 4, 2018

Oby, my sister, my mentor, my great friend, my tears are overflowing. What do you want us to do? Your absence has left a great vacuum in the landscape of love for humanity in Nigeria and beyond. Our oil has splashed on the ground. How do we gather our oil from the sand. What can I say. What can we say? I don’t know what to say. What do you want us to tell Oby jr., Ralu and the rest of your children? I don’t know what to do. Please guide us; please guide me from where you are to know the right thing to do by these children and the right way to go about it. My heart is breaking. I know that I am rambling, but forgive for I don’t know how to deal with this heartbreak . When the vulture becomes sick, what will be the fate of the kite? Oby! The bottom has fallen from our pot of oil. How can our oil not pour away? Oby!! The mother of all. What do you want us to do? The devastation is too much. Do you see us from beyond? Please help us. Inwelle Centre is weeping. You nurtured us. Please help us as you always helped us when things were too great to bear and when the wind was blowing so heavily that the tree was tottering on the brinks. Help us from the bosom of the Lord where we know you deservedly are right now, for if anyone deserves to lie in the bosom of the Lord our Good God, you are the one. The eagle of our time, Oby Nwankwo; Brain and beauty, garnished with compassion and gentleness. Dear darling of all, I will not just say go in peace, for you are peace itself. To have known you is one of the greatest ICONS of my life, Oby, the epitome of goodness and Godliness. Have a very good and hitch free journey as you ascend into heaven to be with your maker.

Prof. Christiana Okechukwu, Ph.D.
Executive Director
Inwelle Study and Resource Centre
Amorji Nike, Enugu, Nigeria.

January 4, 2018

Oby Nwankwo

Oby, my sister, my mentor, my great friend, my tears are overflowing. What do you want us to do? Your absence has left a great vacuum in the landscape of love for humanity in Nigeria and beyond. Our oil has splashed on the ground. How do we gather our oil from the sand. What can I say. What can we say? I don’t know what to say. What do you want us to tell Oby jr., Ralu and the rest of your children? I don’t know what to do. Please guide us; please guide me from where you are to know the right thing to do by these children and the right way to go about it. My heart is breaking. I know that I am rambling, but forgive for I don’t know how to deal with this heartbreak . When the vulture becomes sick, what will be the fate of the kite? Oby! The bottom has fallen from our pot of oil. How can our oil not pour away? Oby!! The mother of all. What do you want us to do? The devastation is too much. Do you see us from beyond? Please help us. Inwelle Centre is weeping. You nurtured us. Please help us as you always helped us when things were too great to bear and when the wind was blowing so heavily that the tree was tottering on the brinks. Help us from the bosom of the Lord where we know you deservedly are right now, for if anyone deserves to lie in the bosom of the Lord our Good God, you are the one. The eagle of our time, Oby Nwankwo; Brain and beauty, garnished with compassion and gentleness. Dear darling of all, I will not just say go in peace, for you are peace itself. To have known you is one of the greatest ICONS of my life, Oby, the epitome of goodness and Godliness. Have a very good and hitch free journey as you ascend into heaven to be with your maker.

Prof. Christiana Okechukwu, Ph.D.
Executive Director
Inwelle Study and Resource Centre
Amorji Nike, Enugu, Nigeria.

January 4, 2018

Aunty Oby, it's really so sad and heartbreakng to imagine you in the past tense now. But who are we to question God? We are consoled that You came, you saw and you conquered. You lived a life that was impactful and worthy of emulation. Clearly, your work here on earth is done and the Lord has called you home to enter into your rest. We thank him for that. So rest on my dear aunty.

The work we did together at LACVAW on the Violence aganinst Persons Prohibition Bill that was eventually passed into law, the work on Gender and Equal Opportunities Bill, ad so many other women's rights struggles remain ever fresh in my mind as I ponder over your demise. Suffice it to say you have played you part. We will continue with the struggle God helping us. Rest assured that we will not let go until the goal is achieved.

Continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord until we meet to part no more on the resurrection morning.

Adieu Aunty Oby Nwankwo!

January 3, 2018

Oby Nwannem since I heard of your passing I have been in shock and utter disbelief. I am just waking up to the reality of your present existence on the other side of the bridge. You quietly crossed over and ascended without making any noise in your usual manner.
Your life achievements have been attained noiselessly but with resounding impact. Your kindness, generosity, gentleness, humaneness, patience, love and beauty will make it impossible for the world to ever forget you.
You quietly, consistently and diligently fought for justice for the poor and oppressed and marginalized in the society.
You educated and empowered women across the globe. You gave and gave and gave pouring out your life to uplift and protect women and children all over and anywhere you found yourself.
Never a politician yourself, you trained and supported female politicians in all political parties.
Oby my own sister your legacies are too numerous to list. You are a light that continues to shine from the other side and will continue to illuminate the paths of those you have left behind on this other side of the bridge. Shine on my quiet and humble Giant. You have permeated so much that your presence and soft speaking voice is ever audible and felt.
You ensured that you established structures that will continue your work after your transition. You can continue with your beautiful smile as you rest peacefully in the bosom of the Lord. Bye for now. Iyom

January 3, 2018

Rest in Peace Aunty Oby in the bosom of HIM that loves you more! May your wonderful children be comforted by the outpouring of love surrounding them now and forever! Gone from my sight, but never from the treasures of my heart! ADIEU

Uchenna Idoko
Executive Director
Center for Gender Economics (CGE Africa)

January 3, 2018

So sad to hear of the passing away of dear sister Oby... May her soul rest in perfect peace!

January 2, 2018

It is so painful to lose a younger sister, particularly a younger activist like Oby Nwankwo.

Yes, at first glance one might take Oby for a traditional Legal Practitioner, and a gentle Nigerian woman, but that would be to see only half the picture. Oby was indeed a lawyer and a kind and delightful friend. But she was also extraordinary! The work she did to advance and uphold the rights of women in Nigeria cannot be forgotten. The area where she was active might appear to be stony ground, yet her tenacity and commitment did much of the transformative work that might almost make us imagine that she was working in fertile soil.

Oby, I salute you for your peerless representation of Nigeria on the UN CEDAW Committee and for your tireless work on behalf of Nigerian women in particular, and for humanity in general.

May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace.
Ayo Obe

January 2, 2018

TO MY SISTER, OBY NWANKWO, A THOROUGHBRED PROFESSIONAL AND WELL ENGAGED FEMINIST ACTIVIST

My dearest friend and sister, the news of your departure has been a very difficult one for me. The entire women’s movement in Nigeria has been thrown into mourning since the news of your death came and I have been in shock, not knowing what to do or write. Aunty Oby, AO as we call you, you have been a friend, a colleague, and a sister to me, a comrade waging collective struggles for the emancipation of the poor and marginalized Nigeria women.

AO, you were a dedicated human rights defender, a big voice for the mases, a patriot, a worthy ambassador, and a proud global representative of your country. Your contributions to gender equality and governance in Nigeria, Africa, and globally are immeasurable. Your legacies are golden and you will forever remain in our hearts!

A thoroughbred professional and well-engaged activist, founder of the Civil Resource and Development and Documentation Center (CIRRDOC), a former Chief magistrate, Member of FIDA, Vice Chairperson of the CEDAW Expert Committee, founding member of several organizations including Nigerian Coalition on International Criminal Court, Transition Monitoring Group, Nigeria Social Forum and Electoral Reform Network. I can continue to roll out more leadership positions, you have held within and outside the country, the few that I know of and many more unknown to me.

I became closer to you in 2003, when you invited me to join you on a trip to Calabar for the review of the first draft of what today is known as the Gender and Equal Opportunity Bill. Your leadership and charisma imbued me to you, your commitment to gender equality cannot be qualified. You kept the flag flying Aunty Oby despite all odds, you led states in Nigeria to adopt the bill, you were unstoppable, you were not deterred, and you kept pushing and hoping that the bill will become a law in your life time, you did in some states! As the National Coordinator of the National Coalition on Affirmative Action, you taught us to demand for better representation. At different times, you brought together women from all walks of life to advance the cause of women and children in Nigeria. You have left an indelible foot print, you were indeed a conqueror, an amazon, and a unique and different person!
I wish I knew our conversation in October was going to be the last, I imagined what I would have told you, how I would have let you know that you mean so much to me and the movement. I would have thanked you for all you have done to support and promote women’s rights, I would have let the world know that you were one of the most selfless human beings I have ever seen on earth!
Aunty Oby, you were a pillar of the movement, were so meticulous in all your dealings, and a trailblazer and committed fellow, you will really be missed.
Even in those difficult moment of your illness, you still took your time to support the last status of women report in July 2017, your review was excellent. You were a very courageous woman, a pillar to your children and friends, you were so bold, so strong even in those painful moments, you kept your links with friends.
I never knew the end was around the corner for my dear friend and sister, I was still hoping and praying that it will be well. Until I saw the news of your demise.
In the words of Debra Chesnoff (2011) ‘ I wish I could give you many more years.. …If someone had to describe you so many words come to mind. Beauty and grace, a heart so kind. You radiate warmth like a blazing fire. You are courage and wisdom. You truly inspire. You attract like a magnet beautiful things. You sparkle and shine like a diamond ring. You light up a room when you walk in. If someone feels sad you can make them grin. You are elegant and charming. You know right from wrong. You are the melody from a beautiful love song. You are a breath of fresh air on a hot summer's night. When there is darkness you turn on the light… I do not want to ever say goodbye…You are loved so much. https://www.familyfriendpoems.com/poem/my-wish-for-you

Dr. Abiola Akiyode-Afolabi,
Chairperson, Transition Monitoring Group (TMG)
Founding Director, Women Advocates Research and Documentation Center (WARDC)

January 2, 2018

A THANK YOU NOTE TO MY VERY LEARNED SENIOR, MY MENTOR, & MY PERSONAL AUNTY

Dear Aunty Oby,

You were not perfect but you were definitely in a class of your own.

You were first of all a senior colleague, then you became a mentor and eventually a 'very personal aunty".

Thank you for being a confidant who could listen to anything without judging.

Thank you for teaching me about patience and how important it is to look out for as many sides to a story as possible.

Thank you for your empathy, your compassion and for always speaking the truth to me, but in love; for having my back even when it wasn't entirely convenient for you.

Thank you for your consistency, your loyalty and for the many career opportunities you pushed my way.

I pray that Almighty God raises people in the lives of your children as HE raised you in mine.

Good night Aunty.

January 2, 2018

TRIBUTE TO A GREAT WOMAN-OBY NWANKWO SR
In loving memory of a great woman, a wonderful mother, loving grandmother and aunty. I thank God for your great but to me a short life....You have impacted on so many people..You were a source of joy encouragement to everyone you meet...I will surely miss you aunty..it was an honour and privilege to meet and interact with you.
RIP aunty until we meet to part no more.

January 2, 2018

My soft spoken but strong-willed aunty, I can’t believe you’re gone :(
You fiercely protected your family and successfully fought off so many opposing ‘factors’ after the death of Uncle Victor -a woman of great inner strength and insurmountable love. You have raised your children and testified on how successful they are.
The world has lost a rare gem but heaven has gained a beautiful angel.
Rest in the bossom of the Lord, Aunty.

January 2, 2018

It is still hard to come to terms with the fact that our gentle but indefatigable Oby has left this earthly realm. Oby’s departure is a huge loss to the Nigerian civil rights movement, and for gender activists, in particular.

Oby’s gentle mien belied her fierce passion and energy for social justice and women’s rights, in Nigeria. She was kind and soft spoken but determined, focused and diligent; very competent with an unending capacity for hard work. She always led the way, often inviting some of us to support her on her many initiatives. Both of us being lawyers, I recall, in particular, the privilege of working with her on the 5-member Technical Committee supporting the Gender Electoral Memorandum in May 2008 (under the auspices of the Coalitions for Change), as part of the efforts of the Gender and Affirmative Action Coalition to mainstream the involvement of Nigerian women in governance, elections and public affairs, generally. We had also served together on mock tribunals, towards drawing attention to the nature and implications of gender based-violence in our country, as well as on sundry initiatives to clarify the manner in which cultural and religious misinterpretations impact negatively on women, thereby drawing us back as a Nation. Her empathy knew no bounds. She was fearless when it came to her causes and was such a joy to work and be with.

Her accomplishments are many, as she distinguished herself wherever she went. A Global citizen and Nigerian patriot, Oby traversed far and wide, in the search for good governance and ensuring substantial justice, especially for women. As a Chief Magistrate in Enugu, she performed brilliantly. As a member of FIDA, Oby was a thorough-bred professional. She set up her own NGO, the Civil Resource and Development and Documentation Centre, from which platform she applied herself selflessly and tirelessly on so many projects around our country, and in other African countries such as Liberia. She served on the UN CEDAW Committee and excelled. Oby was a devoted wife and loving mother (and proud grandmum), devout Catholic and a dear friend to so many of us. Her sense of humour was so infectious, her compassion palpable; plus, she was so pretty too!

Oby shall be sorely missed, but she leaves behind a legacy of meticulous hard work, commitment and integrity. She stood for what she believed in and never shirked from speaking truth to power. The life she lived is a testimony to her strength of character in fighting for those less privileged. I pray that she is finally with her beloved husband, and at peace with our Maker. Amen.

Adieu dear Sister and friend. Farewell.

Maryam Uwais MFR
Special Adviser to the President on Social Investments
Office of the Vice President

January 2, 2018

Oby, I had always called you the 'Amazon' and you lived it all your life. When Victor was killed, you truly lived the 'amazon': Courageous, fearless and passionate.

You loved and committed to your children, and mentored hundreds more. You touched millions of lives. You were a sincere confidant, and a true friend.

You had a deep commitment for human rights & a passion for gender justice, You invited me into most of your inspiring initiatives that made me a better rights defender - Gender & Equal Opportunities Bill, NCAA, community paralegals, your books on Int'l Crim Justice, etc, and lately our NCICC; You were a Star indeed. A Star gone so soon. It is hard to believe the Amazon herself is gone. Rest in the bosom of the Lord, whom you served diligently while you were here. Adieu Oby. Adieu the amazon.

January 2, 2018

'Aunty Oby', a name I fondly call you when we are away from the Ipas table and I just needed to level with my 'Big Sis'. You taught me to take the CEDAW document and other International Treaties in bits and break them down to community women, in simple language. Your unbeatable mentoring capacity and your soft, yet firm tutelage is second to none.

Will I miss you?. . . . Forever, my soft-spoken Big Sis.
Will this pain go away?. . . when we meet again.

May Jehovah remember you for good, Aunty'm.

December 31, 2017

A Tribute to a dear friend – Oby Nwankwo

The news of the sudden death of Oby Nwankwo came as a shock to me and it is with a heavy heart and a sense of loss that I write this tribute.

Oby meant different things to different people but there is however a consensus about the views of people whose lives she touched: she was a role model, strong, beautiful, kind to a fault and supportive, humble, intelligent and truly humane, loving, generous, thoughtful, respectful and very caring. Oby was a special person. A great deal of her resources was spent on feeding the hungry, housing the homeless, clothing the naked, sacrificing for others. Oby would buy food for families that did not have and pay school fees for some especially women and widows. She treated everyone with respect and was nice to everyone including those who were not nice to her. However, even though she was humble she had an inner strength and discipline that enabled her be firm when necessary and this helped her to achieve a great deal in her personal life and career wise. She distinguished herself as a leading human rights activist: promoting the dignity of the human person and the human rights of women in particular. She also distinguished herself as a CEDAW Committee Member representing Nigeria, rising to the position of Vice President before her death. She was a woman of great strength of character.

To her children Uzo, Oby junior , Ogo, Ralu, Chidera and Chinaso I will say rejoice that even though your mother was taken at a young age, she lived a fruitful life which impacted on a lot of people. God loaned you an angel and a star for a mother, she came and shined brightly for some years and had to return back to her maker. Take heart and find consolation in the legacies she left.
Oby, like 2 Timothy 4:7-8 says: You have fought the good fight, you have finished your race, and you have kept the faith. Finally, there is laid up for you the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous judge, will give you on that day
Goodnight dear friend and may the Holy Spirit comfort your children, siblings and all the loved ones that you left behind
Anne Ikpeme

December 30, 2017

A TRIBUTE TO MRS. OBIAGELI THEODORA NWANKWO AN OUTSTANDING FRONTLINE ACTIVIST AND HEROINE
The management and staff of Women’s Aid collective (WACOL), Tamar Sexual Assault Referral Centre; and the South East Women’s Network (SEWNET), received with colossal shock, and a great sense of loss, the news of the death of Mrs. Oby Theodora Nwankwo, the Founding Executive Director of the Civil Resource Development and Documentation Centre (CIRDDOC), a retired Chief Magistrate and a United Nations Expert of the Committee on Implementation of the UN Convention on Elimination of All Forms of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW Committee). I have tried many times to write a tribute in her honor and each time I became too emotional and words failed me. Finally, I have summoned courage to do this last minute knowing that Oby would have expected us to be strong and to do the needful whatever the situation. Alas, where should I begin to describe this colossus that we were fortunate to have as a driving force in the civil society movement in Nigeria, especially for gender equality and women’s empowerment? Where do I begin to talk about this outstanding woman who dismantled several road blocks to attain enviable professional heights? Mrs. Oby Nwankwo was a passionate believer in a world where human rights are women’s rights, and one where democracy and citizen’s rights reign supreme.
She used her training as a lawyer, a Chief Magistrate, and advocate extraordinary to fight and lobby for change in laws and practice to promote and protect citizens rights. She founded CIRDDOC, CENGOS, NCAA amongst other coalitions that she belonged to and was always tirelessly pushing for the cause she believed in. She initiated with partners several bills to protect particularly, women and girls from sexual and gender based violence. She was the brain behind the Gender and Equal Opportunity Bill (GEOB) that is still before the National Assembly and several States Houses of Assembly.
I was privileged to work with Oby on several projects, including the ground breaking work we carried out on Maternal and Reproductive Health Rights from 2002 to 2006 funded by MacArthur Foundation that resulted in enhanced capacity among the legal community in Nigeria, including law students, lawyers, the judiciary and academia on the important role of law on reproductive rights issues, especially as it affects women and adolescents sexual and reproductive rights. This work culminated in curriculum revision for the teaching of health law and reproductive rights in Nigerian Law Faculties.
Oby was an activist who practiced what she preached and when her will was tested during the burial and mourning of her husband late Engr. Victor Nwankwo she stood her ground and made the right choice not to be subjected to dehumanizing widowhood practices prevalent in her locality for which she had been in the frontline advocating for the abolition of such harmful traditional practices. She showed leadership when and where it mattered most. As a witness to that ugly incident that took place in her husband’s village I doffed my hat in honor of this heroine and frontline feminist/activist for being resolute and true to her beliefs despite threats of customary sanctions. Oby Nwankwo was resilience personified and kept abreast of her activist and development work in Nigeria and beyond even while in the USA receiving treatment for her illness. She was not one to be tagged missing in action, she was always there as a team player. I recall all our correspondences in relation to the Nigeria’s combined seventh and eighth periodic reports on CEDAW and the significant role she played to ensure that a mock CEDAW workshop the first of its kind happened before the examination of Nigeria’s report in Geneva by the Committee where she served also as an expert. As one of the consultant for that mock workshop retained by the UN Women she provided me with relevant resource materials. What a charismatic enigma? What a loss to the human rights community? There will never be space enough to write about Oby- our colleague, friend and sister in the struggle for gender equality, human rights, democracy and development. She did an amazing work in a very hostile environment and recorded notable achievements too numerous to begin to mention.
I will now turn to the family she loved and was forced by the hands of death to leave behind. I want you to know that your loss is our collective loss. I wish to recall what I said to her first daughter- Dr. Oby Jr. -when she phoned to inform me of her mother’s demise. I said you know your Mum was a fighter and she would have fought death hard to stay with her family that she so much loved. Yes, she fought death against several predictions and God graciously granted her opportunity to see her children marry and have grandchildren; and importantly to witness the recent graduation of her twin girls that she gave so much to. The death of your mother a unifying pivot of the family is an extremely painful one but I want you to always remember that she had no choice in this otherwise as a lioness she would have fought her way or used her gentle and amiable nature to diplomatically negotiate a way out.
Her legacy lives on and should be a great source of consolation and inspiration that she impacted her world. In the end that’s what really matters. It is not how long one lived as often said but how well? Testimonies are abound about her work, lives she saved and changed for better. As you mourn hold on to those memories and know that it’s well with her soul for she lived well.
We pray that the God Almighty in its infinite mercies and blessings will give your entire family, especially her children, mother and siblings the fortitude to bear this irreparable loss. It is well!
Adieu to an extraordinary activist! Adieu Oby the Princess! Adieu my dear friend and sister in activism! Adieu Oby- the heroine.
May her gentle soul find eternal peace in the bossom of our Lord Jesus Christ Amen!
Please do accept our deepest and sincere condolences!

Joy Ngozi Ezeilo, OON [Ph.D. (Nig.), LLM (London), LL.B. (Nig.), BL, Diploma Peace & Conflict Res (Uppsala)]
Professor of Law, Department of Public Law, Faculty of Law, University of Nigeria, Enugu Campus
Founding Director, Women’s Aid Collective (WACOL)/Managers of TAMAR Sexual Assault Referral Center
United Nations Special Rapporteur on Trafficking in Persons, especially women and children (August 1, 2008 to July 31st 2014).
Member, Board of Trustees, UN Voluntary Trust Fund for Victims of Trafficking – 2013 to December 2016.
Also: Member, Governing Council of the Nigerian Institute of International Affairs (NIIA), 2012-2015.

December 30, 2017

From Mrs Nwando Obika

TRIBUTE TO HIS WORSHIP OBIAGELI THEODORA NWANKWO, CHIEF MAGISTRATE (RTD) (1956 – 2017)

As we mourn Oby my cherished friend, I readily recall the lamentation of King David in 2nd Samuel 1: 19- 27 over the death of King Saul, Jonathan and others during the battle on Mount Gilboa. "How are the mighty fallen!" She was a colossus of our generation.

Oby was a princess born to the late traditional ruler of Awka, HRH Igwe Alfred Ndigwe (Eze Uzu) and Ojiefi Uzoamaka Ndigwe. She was soft spoken, gentle, honest, energetic and well mannered. She retired voluntarily from the Judiciary of Anambra State of Nigeria in 2004 as a Chief Magistrate. She was an asset to the Anambra State Judiciary during her tenure. She was a quiet achiever, intelligent, very courageous and a master planner. This is not all. She was a human rights activist, a brilliant speaker and writer during meetings and conferences both at home in Nigeria and abroad. The World Conference in Beijing among others testify to her acumen and knowledge.

To better actualize her vision and goals, Oby founded a Non-Governmental Organization (NGO) by name CIRDDOC: Civil Resource Development and Documentation Center. Her pursuits therein were greatly successful because of her integrity, honesty of purpose and effectiveness. No wonder she attained the coveted position of Vice Chairperson [ until her death] at the United Nations Committee On The Elimination of Discrimination Against Women (CEDAW) which is based in New York and Switzerland. She was totally vindicated during the rancor of the International Association of Female Lawyers (FIDA), Enugu Branch wherein she was the Chairperson.

"Build the youth yields a great nation" was a slogan Oby was a proponent of and she practiced it. Hence, her children and other beneficiaries turned out to be sound in education, hardworking and of good character.

Notwithstanding her very busy schedule, she devoted time to her husband Engineer Victor, her children, family and many others attending to their needs. She had a pet name for everyone and had a great love for mankind. Above all, she was a practicing Christian.

Personally, I recognized her attributes and potentials right from the time she was living with her family in Anam Street, New Haven, Enugu in the early eighties. These were more apparent and strengthened when we became neighbors in Second Avenue, Independence Layout, Enugu. I benefitted from the wise counsel and inspiration she gave to people. Some people would hoard information and advice but Oby found joy in helping people. Thus, her friends always stood by her in any event or situation. A saint has gone home. Death, where is thy sting?

I, therefore, conclude that in life it is not how long we lived but how well we did. Behind her calm, gentle and tender disposition was a woman endowed with a lot of strength, wisdom and a kind heart. Obiageli Theodora Nwankwo nee Ndigwe aptly fits squarely into the description of a noble, virtuous, capable woman in Proverbs Chapter31 verses 10 to 27.

To Uzoma Nwankwo, her other children, staff, families of Nwankwo and Ndigwe, her in laws, partners and friends, be consoled and have courage. Embrace the Lord all the more. You will be safe.
...

December 29, 2017

On behalf of the Cathedral family, Cathedral Church of the Good Shepherd, Enugu, I write to console you on the death of your beloved Mummy, Mrs Oby Nwankwo.
Mrs. Oby Theodora Nwankwo was a staunch member of the Cathedral until her death. She was very conspicuous in the activities of the church, humble and moderate in her dressing.
No doubt you will miss her but the Lord she followed will grant her eternal rest.

May her gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

Ven Emeka Ezeji
Sub-Dean of the Cathedral

December 29, 2017

TRIBUTE TO MY DEAREST GOD MOTHER

Aunty dearest, writing this tribute is the hardest task I have ever had to carry out. When I got the news of your passing-on to glory, my immediate reaction was one of sadness and sorrow knowing that I will never see you again in this life. What hurts me most is the fact that I did not have the opportunity to say goodbye. Then, I remembered that you have gone to be with Jesus, joining your loving husband (Uncle Victor), your dear father, Eze Uzu 1 of Awka, and your dearest sister, Aunty Ifeoma; I can only imagine the grand reunion.

Mummy dearest, It is not about how long but how well you lived. Instead of mourning, I will celebrate your life/achievements. You touched my life in so many special ways. You laid the foundation and gave me the direction that has brought me to where I am today, which is beyond my wildest imagination. When I married my husband, Victor, he automatically became your son. I know all you did before, during and after my son Victor Junior was born. Thank you so much for being such an angel. I am sorry if I did not tell you enough, how so much I loved and appreciated you.

You touched so many lives. You served God through humanity. Your heart was full of love and compassion till the end. Thank you for all the women you fought for their rights and got judgment in their favour. Thank you for being the best role model I can ever have. Thank you for raising godly children.

Omalicha, it is impossible to describe you on a sheet of paper. The shoes you left behind are so large; who can fit into them? You left very giant steps on the sands of time. You came, saw and conquered. Your legacies shall live from generation to generation.

Rest-on Nwanyi bu so nma, rest-on Ada-Eze, rest-on Anyafulugo, rest-on my own Angel of life, till we meet again to path no more.

Jane-Frances Tochukwu Nwachukwu
Nee Nzekwe

December 28, 2017

I met Oby briefly through another friend, Anne Ikpeme. When she
called to inform me of your death, I couldn't believe it, I was too shocked. Oby, I want to thank God for the life you lived and the legacy you left. Your life was short but it impacted others. Through your life many life changed. You will be missed greatly. I pray that the God of Comfort will comfort your family at this time.

December 26, 2017

I didn’t know Oby or your family but wanted to share some words of encouragement. It’s never easy to see the ones we love pass away. We can take comfort in knowing that as 2 Corinthians 1:3, 4 shows the God of all comfort is always watching over us to comfort and encourage us in all our trials. Also in the near future God promises He will eliminate death, tears, and pain in Revelation 21:3, 4. Until that time— deep sympathy— Julia

December 25, 2017

Dear Aunty Oby,

The news of your passing has come as such a shock. You were such a beautiful woman with such a kind spirit. Thank you for always inspiring us young women to trust in God and reach our full potential. You are gone too soon, but I know you are watching over your beloved family. May your soul rest in God’s eternal peace.

Anuli

December 25, 2017

It is with great sorrow that we bid you farewell our great in-law. A woman of wisdom, beautiful heart, and of great substance. Words can not truly express the love and care you show to your family and loved ones. We will remember and cherish all the times we shared with you. May the Almighty God grant you eternal life and may the angels welcome you into paradise. We miss and love you.

December 25, 2017

Adieu Aunty Oby!
The news of your passing to glory came to us as a shock. However, God knows the reason why you have to leave us so early but we give him the glory for the fulfilled life you lived. You discovered your purpose and fulfilled your destiny on earth by touching a lot of lives through your work to humanity, just like Apostle Paul told us in 2 Timothy 4:7 to describe the life he lived "I have fought a good fight, I have finished my course, I have kept the faith". You lived an exemplary life. I was thrilled by the comments of my Late Uncle and your husband (Victor) in the interview he granted Quality Magazine in 1989, where he described you as a pillar, supportive wife, intelligent, pretty - the best wife one can think of. This is truly who you were. You were a visionary leader, a think-tank and a legal luminary. We shall miss you dearly but continue to rest in the bosom of our Lord until we meet to part no more.
Kachifo!
May God bless your soul!
Nnaemeka & Obuteaku Okoli Family

December 24, 2017

Coping with grief is a great challenge for a loved one. Oby Nwa amama [well known, beloved] like I used to call you. Your departure has left a void that is hard to fill. How can I put into words the rush of emotions that flooded my heart when I got that early morning call from my sister Ugo, that you had passed on to eternity. Time Stood still, pictures of our prayer time together, visitations, gospel ministrations and faith that you would one day give a testimony of your healing flashed through my mind. The telephone line was silent and my sister Ugo, spoke after what seemed like forever to know if I was still on the line.
Oby, your faith and worship of God was infectious, touching lives, and encouraging them to talk the talk and walk the walk. You were the embodiment of a good Christian woman, very courageous, fearless and uncompromising in speaking out against injustice especially against women and children. Though gone to be with the Lord you will never be forgotten. Everyone who knew you was all the better for being part of your life. I join them in expressing my gratitude at your numerous Works of Mercy of which my daughter Ruth Udochi and I, Priscilla Ucheya, were beneficiaries. I hope I succeeded in making you understand how appreciative I was.
What you did for all those whose lives you touched so positively reminds me of Tabitha, the Dorcas of Acts 9:36-43, who was so full of good works and acts of mercy that the widows she had labored to help wanted her to resurrect from the dead. I wish your story would end like Dorcas story, then our mourning would turn into dancing.
TO LIVE IN THE HEARTS OF THOSE WHO LOVE YOU IS NOT TO DIE.
GOOD MORNING OBY, FOR WE SHALL MEET AGAIN ON THE RESURRECTION MORNING

PRISCILLA A. UCHEYA.

December 23, 2017

You shall be sorely missed dear friend. Always available with a smile and kind words for everyone and never hesitant about lending a helping hand to make others overcome their difficulties. Oby you made strides in making the world better than you met it and walked the talk when it came to women's rights issues. May God count your good works unto righteousness and grant you eternal rest with Him. May the Holy Spirit console your family especially at this time.

December 23, 2017

TRIBUTE TO A COMET: HER HONOUR MAGISTRATE OBIAGELI THEODORA NWANKWO(NEE NDIGWE)
FOUNDER & CHIEF EXECUTIVE CIRDDOC
Ada Eze Uzu1 of Awka
Ada Orimili
Ada Ndigwe
Ada Awka
Ada Nigeria
Ada International
Anya Fulu Ugo
Your type is rare to find in the world just as a comet. You came, you saw and you conquered. At age 61, the outstanding achiever, Oby Nwankwo, has accomplished immeasurably, impacted tremendously not only her generation but also future generations and gone behind the curtain. Life is not about what you take from the world but what you give to it to improve the lot of humanity. The later, Anya Fulu Ugo, has done indisputably. It is also not how long you have lived on earth that matters but how well you have played your part in the world of positive interconnectivity.

Oby, my "sister"and friend has done excellently well at all levels:family, village, nation and international community.
Obiageli, you will be remembered for innumerable positive contributions you have made; especially your active involvement in feminist struggles. Your works as Founder and Chief Executive of Civil Resource Development and Documentation Centre(CIRDDOC) will speak for you. Widows will never forget this 21st Century Dorcas. Women and girls as a whole will never forget you for the positive impact of CEDAW(UN Convention on Discrimination against Women) for which you represented our beloved country, Nigeria, working as United Nations Expert, fighting vehemently for the elimination of all forms of violence against women and girls.

Obiageli, you have lived out your name, which means, "She has come to enjoy." You have indeed enjoyed doing what God sent you to the world to do.

Finally, you will be remembered for your faithfulness as a friend; your unpolluted love, joy, peace, kindness, gentleness, goodness, and compassion. You have demonstrated vividly that you are a woman of immense impact,and a mother and a model of excellence. Since I met you in 1967 while in a refugee camp during the Nigerian Civil War, you never changed as far as these exquisite character traits of yours were concerned. I watched you pass through the various milestones, from the small girl that you were then to teenagehood, adulthood, motherhood(mother of seven biological plus foster children) and grand motherhood(several grand children).

We shall indeed forever miss you. An irreparable loss! A very good friend is gone! When I first met your late husband, Victor, on my first visit to the young couple's house in Enugu, he exclaimed that he was highly elated to meet me that he had heard my name since he met her for over a million times. When my daughter, Mma, heard of your demise, she lamented the painful loss, adding that she had always known your name since she was a kid; that we shall miss you badly.

Oby, whatever accomplishments you have made, the most important was that you surrendered your life to Jesus Christ for Him to be Your personal Lord and Saviour. You passed on as a child of God and as a prayer warrior. So, for sure, you are resting in the Lord. Sleep on until RAPTURE, which is close by.
Adieu Oby!

Ifeoma Mabel Onyemelukwe WMGA, FCIA
Professor of French and African Literature in French, Department of French, Ahmadu Bello University, Zaria.
Okammuta Ada-Belanwunya(Awka)
NNE Ora Ndi Igbo(Nri).

December 23, 2017

A special tribute dedicated to my loving BIG sister, Aunty Oby Nwankwo. You lived a purpose driven life and a great inspiration to those who knew you. You touched so many lives in so many ways with your philanthropy and assisted so many people in one way or the other. When I study your profile and read about all your achievements, awards, education, travels, philanthropy, etc, I can only pause and thank God for a beautiful life you lived. It doesn't matter how long one lives, rather, how well?. You left a great legacy on this earth that you will not forgotten in a hurry!

You were a true princess of Awka Kingdom (Ada Eze Uzu 1 of Awka),a loving daughter, a beautiful wife to our dear Late Uncle Victor Nwankwo, a loving mom to Uzo, Oby, Ogo, Ral, Kennedy, Chidera, and Chinazo, a wonderful sister to your brothers and sisters, and a great BIG sister to all your numerous cousins. Though your passing seems so painful, I chose to celebrate your life rather than mourn because you thought us what it means to live a purpose driven life.

My darling Aunty Oby, you will be greatly missed by all those who know you and love you, but, I believe strongly that you are resting in the bosom of our Lord Jesus Christ. Heaven gained an angel!! May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

REST IN PERFECT PEACE AUNTY OBY.
AMEN.

Mrs Oge Akuagwu (nee-Ndigwe)
Dallas- Texas.
USA.

December 23, 2017

Ma I write this from a very saddened heart. You made a huge impact on my life positively. You were a powerful mentor for women in Nigeria, Africa and across the world. You did your work with tremendous passion. The women you mentored which am one of them will carry on where you stopped. Rest in Peace with our Lord and may your family members be consoled in Jesus name, amen.

December 23, 2017

A tribute to Mrs. Oby Nwankwo.

Oby's personality has been aptly described by many observers as gentle, humble, kind, resourceful, godly, etc.
I could use superlatives of each of these, but that is not Oby's style. She lives in her children who have been endowed with her excellent attributes. She has left a void in many lives which we pray that the Good Lord will fill.
She was a very good friend who will be remembered how she lived and not how long.
May she rest gently with the Lord as a faithful servant. So long Oby!

December 22, 2017

You were always a special person with a kind and gentle heart. You brought comfort, peace and love to all who knew you. May the good Lord receive your gentle soul and give comfort to the family.

You will forever be loved and missed.

Lots of love;

The Harris-Eze family, Awka.

December 22, 2017

Dear Obiageli,

I am just coming to terms with your passing. You were one of the kindest, sweetest and gentlest people I know. Always had a kind word for everyone. I thank God for your life on earth. May God grant your soul eternal repose. Amen

Goodnight, my dear sister, till we meet to part no more.

Lady Chinwe C. C. Mogbana
Enugu, Nigeria

December 21, 2017

Aunty Oby, as all of us at the Affirmative Action Coalition for Women(NCAA), Nigeria called her,was my mentor.I learnt so much from her and she was a great support. She willingly gave me references for consultancies as well as for my organization's grant applications. She gently and kindly corrected you and pointed out the right thing to do and respected one's opinions The void she leaves in my life will be difficult to fill. Not only in my live but in the NCAA, which she birthed and was her National Coordinator. She relentlessly championed the advocacy for the passage of the gender and equal opportunity bill at the federal and states level on this platform. I ask myself who will take on her role? Her passing is a great loss but consolation is in the fact that she lives in a place of eternal peace and joy. Aunty Oby impacted lives and she lives on on this side of eternity in the work she did and the lives she impacted. You will always be remembered warmly by me and all members of the NCAA and your work lives on in each one of us. Adieu, see you in Heaven

December 21, 2017

Aunty Oby, I am glad you were one of the angels God placed on my path on this side of eternity and that I did not walk past you but walked with you the distance the Lord meant us to go together.

December 21, 2017

Tribute to Theodora Obiageli Nwankwo.

My dear Uzoma,

Your mum, my friend Oby was a woman of great strength of character. Our friendship started in our teens on our way to Queens college Lagos from the east of Nigeria and spanned almost forty years. We worked together at the judiciary and somehow we both lost our husbands to death quite early in life and were left to bring up our children with God as our helper. Oby was everything a woman and mother should be and more.

Oby was a special person. Humble, Generous and Kind to a fault. A great deal of her resources was spent on Feeding the hungry, housing the homeless. Clothing the naked, sacrificing for others. I just wonder how those she has protected and spoilt so much over the years will cope with this irreplaceable loss. I just wonder for Philemon her driver and his family, for her long time cook , for all her loyal staff,for the widows and all the women and girls she cared and fought for . She carried their crosses and bore their pains.

Weep not Uzo and siblings . God loaned you an angel for a mother and he has taken her back home . Take heart and find consolation in the legacies she left. We all mourn but with great faith that she is smiling away in heaven. She has said goodby to the pains and wickedness of this world.

Happy are those who have died in the Lord. Let them rest from their labours for their good deeds go with them(Rev.14.13 ). These words are true for Oby. Rest on Oby my friend till we meet again !

Ugo Ezekwem.

December 21, 2017

At our church (RCC), we affectionately called her Mama Theodora and like everyone else on this thread, this has come at a total shock.

Whenever Mama Theodora was in town, she will come to church with her ENTIRE family (I'm talking 3 generations of this family, the matriarch herself, children, grand children and even friends of her children) - she was woman of prayer, great humility and even greater faith.

My fondest memory of her is the last Monday night prayer she attended with one of her daughters. I had never seen my pastor pray like the way he prayed for her that night - faced down, laying on the floor holding on to Mama's feet as we all cried out to God. Mama Theodora herself offered a prayer of thanksgiving that just blew me away. God must have really needed an angel back in heaven, so although this was not the answer we hoped for, to Him be all the glory.

To the Nwankwo Family - may the Lord's peace that passes all understanding be with you.

December 20, 2017

Beauty and Brain BB Gone too Soon.

Aunty Oby as I fondly called you, you left us within a whisker without wishing us good bye. The shock of your death is still lingering around us.

I remember the day I met you during the birth of the National Coalition of Affirmative Action (NCAA) in Abuja at the Common Wealth Heads of Government Meeting (CHOGM) 2003. Your beautiful smile with the zeal I saw in you attracted me to you. Ever since, I saw resilience in you, ensuring that women have their pride of place in positions of authority and the push to ensure that the Gender and Equal Opportunity Bill become a law in Nigeria. You go from state to state monitoring to ensure that events become reality. I remember when you came to Edo state and met with Gov. Adams Oshomhole amongst others.

Your kind of human is very rare. You hardly took offence of people nor use it against them. I remember an incident in my presence when someone claimed credit for your work. I drew your attention to it, all you said was ' leave them, it doesn't really matter, God is seeing us all '. You didn't even portray any anger even to the person. The same counsel you gave to me when someone took over our project with Club Madrid. Hmmm a Rare Gem indeed.

Your joy when I told you about our visit to the then speaker Rt. Hon. Justin Okonobo in March 2017 and his acceptance to ensure the bill become law in Edo state knew no bound. You were so excited to see Chief Mrs Josephine Anenih amongst us, despite she was out of office as Hon. minister for women affairs. You promptly promised to use the pictures for the next publication. Little did I know that you will not be alive to see the long awaited dream when it becomes a reality.

'Oh death where is thy sting, o grave where is thy power '. What a great lose not only to your family, but also to all the women folks, Nigeria, Africa and indeed the United Nations (UN) where you made us proud represented gender (Africa).

Though we are sad about your demise, we are greatful to God that the time you lived here on earth, you were able contribute to the development of the society.

May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace. Amen.

Hon. Florence Gbinigie (JP) Edo state coordinator NCAA

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OBY, We would wish that God give you beauty in your next incarnation, but God did endow you with abundance of beauty--inner and outer beauty. So please come back the way you were. But please come back bringing longevity, not just for you to stay in the world longer, but for those you would leave behind in your next life to have had a longer time with you. The hurt of the departure of someone like you is so deep that it creates a deep gorge in your friends' and family's heart. As with all things that happen to us human, we leave it to God. You even knew and acknowledged this, hence, you named one of your beautiful, intelligent, brilliant daughters Ralu. You will ever be remembered for your goodness, grace, fellow feeling, generosity, integrity, accountability, ethics, and morals. Remain in God's Bosom, the great one.

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December 25, 2017

It was the 9th day of December, 2017, two days to my birthday. My phone rang very early in the morning and I picked it up. It was not the prayer line but Oby, Jr. She called to tell me that her mom had gone home to be with the Lord fifteen minutes earlier and before I had time to scream, cry or offer consolation, she said something that comforted and silenced me. I lay on my bed numb. Was this a defeat or victory? Did I just lose a battle or did I win? Did the Nigerian Victory Intercessory Fellowship, the church, her children and other praying saints miss God somehow? I have just been hit below the belt.I did not recover for some days. I just lost a friend, an international icon, a prayer warrior, a good samaritan, a lioness, yet a lamb. A saint has been called home, but why at this time? Uzo's wife is pregnant. What do I tell Sister Oby's wonderful children, amazing daughter-in-law, committed and selfless sons-in-law, admirable grandchildren. As my numbness wears away and pain sets in I cried out to God for comfort. He reminded me this scripture. 1 Cor. 13: 9-12

9 For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.

10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.

11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.

12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.

Our all-knowing God allowed what is best for Oby. It is not the length of years we spend on earth that matters to God but our accomplishments for the kingdom of God.
Isaiah 58
10 If you extend your soul to the hungry
And satisfy the afflicted soul,
Then your light shall dawn in the darkness,
And your darkness shall be as the noonday.
11 The Lord will guide you continually,
And satisfy your soul in drought,
And strengthen your bones;
You shall be like a watered garden,
And like a spring of water, whose waters do not fail.
Sister Oby, verse 12 is for your children.
12 Those from among you
Shall build the old waste places;
You shall raise up the foundations of many generations;
And you shall be called the Repairer of the Breach,
The Restorer of Streets to Dwell In.

Those who loved you will sherish your godliness until we meet again in our eternal home nevermore to part.

Adieu woman of God

Ugo Apugo
for the Nmereole Apugos and the Nigerian Victory Intercessory Fellowship.

My sister, friend and mentor!

December 22, 2017

My life with this amazing, awesome, generous, kind, accommodating woman Aunty Oby started over 35 years ago when i was just in my early teens in secondary school. I knew i had a senior cousin named Oby but our paths never crossed as she had left home at the time i was growing up so her name was just somewhere in my heart until that day in Queens School Enugu. It was our visiting sunday and the only person who ever visits me regularly in school (my mum) had come and left so i joined up with my friends to receive their own parents and partake in the endless flow of rice and chicken. Until i saw some senior girls excitedly looking for me "Nkoli, you have a visitor at the gate....Ima is looking for you"!!! Me? Surely they had mixed up names, not me, and i knew nobody called 'Ima" so i passed and politely told them the visitor isnt mine and besides my mum had come and left. Being seniors, they ordered me to proceed to the gate immediately while they all followed after me. I had no choice and as i approached the gate, i saw my first cousin Oby and a dark handsome man with the most beautiful warm smile i ever saw. I was a very shy little girl in those years and was lost for words, Oby introduced me to Victor and said to me 'Nnechi, i came to introduce my fiancé (she just got engaged that year) to you, his name is Victor", she turned to him "Victor, this is my little sister, Nkoli". They gave me N20 and left, i stood there transfixed to the spot. N20???? That was my entire pocket money for a full term!!! Just like that? As i turned to go i saw that many seniors had gathered and were watching me with respect in their eyes. "So you are Ima's sister, eh? O my! we love Ima" they chanted. Ima??? I did not understand, my cousins name is Oby. It was later that I learnt Oby used to be an actress and had starred in a popular stage drama "I must marry Ima" She had starred in the drama which went round most secondary schools in Enugu. That was how i became popular in school, 'Ima's" sister they called me and wanted to know everything about her.

After this, Oby and her husband 'adopted' me and took me into their home, she would pick me up for vacations and bring me back to school at resumption. Most of my high school friends knew her so well that each time we met even decades after high school, the first question will be 'How is aunty Oby?', most of them did not know she is not my sister. Her home was open to all and they were free to visit me and sometimes stay the night, the kitchen was open to all (and you know what that means to hungry teenagers in boarding school!).

That was the start of the very close relationship i had with aunty Oby and her husband (a wonderful kind and perfect gentleman). When i graduated and moved to Lagos, the relationship even got stronger, uncle Victor will always stop over to see me on his numerous international trips out of lagos and my visits to the east to see my late mum always included a stop over at aunty Oby's house.

It is difficult to believe she is gone, however i thank God for the gift of her friendship, the wisdom and knowledge she imparted. She had a very high EQ and would always say to me "Nnechi, weli uche" meaning 'use wisdom'. She was calm and very gentle with an almost fragile demeanor but the greatest mistake anybody can make is to take her for granted. She was highly cerebral, well travelled with strong people skills, it was rare to see her lose her temper visibly.

Aunty Oby, thank you for your love and friendship, thank you for being a rallying point for the entire family.

As you start your journey to eternity, i am sure you are with the saints triumphant smiling sweetly and wondering why we grieve over your loss. You are in a better place! This is my comfort.

May God keep you until we meet again at the feet of Jesus.

I will always love and cherish you.

What more can i say except that i bow respectfully to the wish of God almighty and will never question His right to call his children home at will, i can only say 'Thank you Jesus' for the time she got to see her children and Childrens children.

Ijeoma Ada Eze Uzu!

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