In the straw bale house...
Elmira Stuart Ingersoll
  • 102 years old
  • Date of birth: Apr 13, 1910
  • Place of birth:
    Louisville, Kentucky, United States
  • Date of passing: Feb 6, 2013
  • Place of passing:
    Lyme, Connecticut, United States
It's a miracle! ESI

       This website was created in the memory of our Mother, Grandmother, Great Grandmother and Friend Elmira Ingersoll. We hope this will allow the many people who love her to stay connected through stories, photographs, videos & music.

Memorial Tributes
This tribute was added by Renee Bauer-Wolf on 7th February 2017

"Elmira I think of you everyday and remember all the wonderful moments I spent with you and Mary. I look out each night at the stars and wish you a goodnight. Thank you. Renee"

This tribute was added by louise lumen on 6th February 2017

"Dearest Elmira, my precious friend, sister, and spiritual mother,
how I miss being able to do things and go places with you. Hearing this music and looking at the pictures from so many times and places with all your dear family and friends, I am filled with loving nostalgia. I wonder who all your new friends are......  all my love,  Louise"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 6th February 2017

"thinking of you today and always...
LOVE you forever

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 6th February 2017

"Dear Elmyra,

I woke up thinking of you this morning and I didn't even realize the date. We're still connected! You and Mary filled my life with such joy and love.  I miss you so much.  Love Kathy"

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 23rd April 2016

"My dear Elmyra,

Not a breakfast of eggs and muffins go by without me thinking of our mornings together.  Eggs over easy and blueberry peach muffins and coffee.  A little flower on the tray and pretty plate to create a lovely breakfast display.  I miss you!!!!  Love Kathy"

This tribute was added by suzanne skidmore on 19th February 2016

"The world was a better place in Elmira's presence---whether it was in Huntington, Lloyd Harbor or Essex.  I think of her so often---of her choice to enjoy luncheon in the  St. John's Church cemetery or as a hostess.  . . . and her John as host.  The cottage in my barn is a daily reminder of the birth of her grand-child Boyden."

This tribute was added by Renee Bauer-Wolf on 7th February 2016

"I will always remember the strength of our connection and all the wonderful people you brought to my life..."

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 6th February 2016

"My dear Elmyra,

i think of you so often and how much of my life I was lucky enough to spend with you and dear Mary.  It was two days ago I was sharing the "stories of the lake" and the excursions the three of us would go on, tea parties, lunches, church and the like.  Skinny dipping before breakfast, saying goodnight to father sun on the porch in those beautiful moments of silence as we all watched the sun go down.  I miss you so much.  I hope you are having fun wherever you are. Love you my dear friend kathy Fitch"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 6th February 2016

"dearest grammie
thoughts of you are with me always...
i miss your laugh, our talks, your support, my friend
your love is in my heart everyday
so grateful for our time together

This tribute was added by Beata Alexander on 6th February 2016

"Elmira, remembering is no effort as I smile with our memories and all the gifts you gave me regularly.  I am forever grateful.  Love looking at all the photos of your life and just said to Michael, there are few people who become more beautiful with age, but you seem to have been one of them.  Love to you always,  Beata"

This tribute was added by Beverly Herbert on 8th February 2015

"My Dear Elmira
Thinking of you often.  Miss you so much.  But you left all of us so much that we can carry with us while we are on this journey. Thank you for the Power of Now.  It has been so helpful to me.

                                                      Love always"

This tribute was added by Beata Alexander on 7th February 2015

"Elmira, Your smile, laughter and love are with me always,  Beata"

This tribute was added by paula chu on 6th February 2015

"Still feeling lucky to have walked part of my journey in Elmira's good company. One love."

This tribute was added by David Cook on 6th February 2015

"I think of Elmira and Mary each time I pass their driveway."

This tribute was added by Renee Bauer-Wolf on 13th April 2014

"Happy birthday dear Elmira where ever you might be. I think of you as I look at the stars every night. Still feel your love. Renee"

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 13th April 2014

"Dear Elmyra,

Happy Birthday!  It was warm today, daffodils are up.  Was thinking about back when I used to surprise you with your orange all cut up first thing in the morning.  I thought of the different ways to arrange it on the plate.  Maybe a little flower in the middle?  You always liked the poetry within the presentation of food. I miss you and love you!"

This tribute was added by brenda ryder on 13th April 2014

"Happy birthday my dear friend Elmira.  I so miss our conversations n laughter."

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 13th April 2014

"Wow 104 years old and she lived 103 of them to the fullest. We're all missing you and wishing you were here. Happy birthday Grammy

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 13th April 2014

"happy birthday dear grammie
i love you with all my heart
remembering you today
and always

This tribute was added by Beata Alexander on 7th February 2014

"Elmira, I keep a picture of you at my work to see your smiling face always.  What a treasure you have been in my life.  I will forever cherish our time together.  Much love to you always,  Beata"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 6th February 2014

"thinking of you...
missing our visits
full of laughter & tears
and everything in between

This tribute was added by brenda ryder on 6th February 2014

"Dear Elmira.   Not a day goes by that you are not in my thoughts.  I hold our moments that we laughed close to my heart.    You are forever missed.   Love, brenda"

This tribute was added by bo postma on 6th February 2014

"A year has passed... it has flown by somehow, but your photo on my bulletinboard where I have breakfast always greets me... I wish I could have visited you more often than I was able to, especially having to leave in 2006 without having seen you, because of your shingles... still I will always be able to imagine how our contact was... you were my mother and friend when my own mother was not of such wisdom..thank you for everything, bo postma"

This tribute was added by paula chu on 6th February 2014

"I miss visiting you, but even more so I miss writing back and forth to each other. I'm so glad to have our PILE of letters! Reading them is like hearing from you, and it's wonderful. love, always."

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 6th February 2014

"Dear Elmyra,

It is hard to believe it has been a year.  I still think of you.  I make  blueberry muffins, eggs over easy and coffee in your honor regularly.  I miss you.
You are forever in my heart,

This tribute was added by bo postma on 28th May 2013

"i always think of you when i am especially happy or sad. there is so much we shared in the few times we met... summer of 1957 with john, visiting you in 1992, and somewhere in between you and annie visited me in voorschoten! i took the picture of you and mary dancing in 1992 when john played the piano... i'll never forget how close we were. bo"

This tribute was added by Renee Bauer-Wolf on 6th May 2013

"The lily of the valley has been blooming for a few days now and it makes me miss you even more."

This tribute was added by Joan Sturgis on 21st April 2013

"Elmira, Anam Cara,
We always knew we were soul mates.  There was a profound bond between us.  We had a sense of connection on our spiritual journey and our Aries birthday.  You were also my mentor, sharing views on “A Course in miracles", Tai Chi, Buddha, and how we are all one.
I will meet you in the field.
Love always,

This tribute was added by Ginger Swain on 14th April 2013

"I was so disappointed to miss the 103rd celebration of Elmira's life yesterday.  I was with you all in spirit.  much love to everyone who loves Elmira as Joseph and I do."

This tribute was added by Renee Bauer-Wolf on 14th April 2013

"There is not a day that goes by that my dearest friends Elmira and Mary are not in my heart and mind. Here with much love and joy.....especially today on Elmira's 103. Renee"

This tribute was added by Lisa Giordano on 13th April 2013

"Blessings to Elmira on her 103rd Birthday!  You are greatly missed dear Wise Woman!

Love & Namaste,
Lisa Giordano"

This tribute was added by Lisa Giordano on 28th March 2013

"I just came from Maundy Thursday services at St. James Episcopal Church in New London, and after receiving communion I began to pray, and in my "mind's eye," there was Elmira as clear as day smiling and at peace. In memory of Elmira:  "The gloom of the world is but a shadow.  Behind it... is joy.  Take joy!" ~ Fra Giovanni.  Wishing you much joy and peace Elmira!  Love, Lisa Giordano"

This tribute was added by Laura Grunfeld on 27th March 2013

"I got instructions from Oleg, the founder of this website, on how to download original (hopefully high-resolution) photos or videos:  Log in to your account.  Open photo or video gallery.  Mouse over item. Click on "Actions" link in lower section of thumbnail.  Select "Download Original" from drop-down menu.   Now we can easily share high quality photos with each other."

This tribute was added by Karen Lemieux on 26th March 2013

" words. All ....glorious !
All the photos are marvelous... I love the energy of
" Elmira and Mary Dancing" # 195 !


Karen Lemieux"

This tribute was added by Lisa Sobolewski on 21st March 2013

"Elmira invited me into her home and into her heart and I am forever grateful for all that her presence has helped me with on my path. For she has given me a new family, new vision, new compassion, new awakening, that will forever radiate through me and touch many more people's lives to come. I will never forget the peaceful moments we shared and her last word to me, "Namaste"."

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 16th March 2013

"Dear Elmyra,

How many of our lives you have made so special. So many people love you.  My life was truly blessed by your presence, and though I feel you are with me daily, I miss our breakfasts, hugs, laughing until we almost pee and deep conversations. Love you forever, kathy"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 12th March 2013

"i smile...
i laugh and cry at the same time...
i drive the wrong way for miles...
i send jimmy for the file...
i miss you dearly all the while...
knowing you are where you wish to be...
trusting you are also thinking of me..."

This tribute was added by Laura Grunfeld on 10th March 2013

"Dear Grammie, today I went through my photos and there are so many. So many of you and the family gathering around you. What an accomplishment. You brought all these people together. What joyful times we have had. We have all laughed until we cried. Love always, love always."

This tribute was added by Russ Ingersoll on 3rd March 2013

"I'd hoped to describe my Gram among Grams
In such a way as to capture such a ma'am
but it 'scapes me the words at the moment it seems
so I fetched an old yarn from a Dr. with the means
Gram, "you are you and that is truer than true,
and there's no one else who is youer than you""

This tribute was added by Heather Forest on 23rd February 2013

"Dearest Elmira,
I think of you often and always will. How sweet are the memories of your bright smile and comforting words. I will always carry you in my heart. My warmest caring thoughts go to your beautiful family. Love, Heather Forest"

This tribute was added by louise lumen on 23rd February 2013

"dearest elmira,
for the past 45 years you introduced me to most of the people, ideas, and places that are meaningful in my life.  i can't imagine what the shape of my life would have been without your love, inspiration, and support.  blessings on your journey.  thank you for being my surrogate mother, spiritual sister, & friend. love always,  louise"

This tribute was added by Katherine Morgan on 23rd February 2013

"Dearest Elmira. Thank you so.  Love, Katherine"

This tribute was added by Elizabeth Archambault on 19th February 2013

"What a dear, sweet lady - so full of love it poured out of her like a summer shower.  I, too, felt that instant connection, acceptance - as if we'd been friends for a lifetime.  I will miss her very much, but know the love and spirit remains always.
Liz Archambault"

This tribute was added by Kathy Fitch on 17th February 2013

"My dear Elmyra,
I have had to ask Jimmy to retrieve an awful lot since you left.  Can't seem to quite get my brain in gear.  Hope you don't mind me pestering your filing clerk, I'm sure I'll straighten out soon.
Love you more than words can say !!  preciously,precisely, perfectly, phonetically   loving you Kathy"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 17th February 2013

"dearest family & friends
we hope you will fully explore & help build this memorial...
leaving tributes is one of the many options you have
please be sure to check out all the photos
(click on "Gallery" just below her name at the top of the page)"

This tribute was added by Mary Terry on 16th February 2013

"Elmira, whom I knew only in my heart, I hope your transition was seamless.  I will always be grateful that you had a daughter name Ann who was such a joy to me during a difficult time.  M'Lou"

This tribute was added by Maxwell Wheeler on 14th February 2013

"" I will always cherish the memories I have of you. The times I slept over, waking up early to fish off the dock, the family dinners, or just being with you. I will always remember the trip we took through the south with my mom. Pushing you in the wheelchair, and almost crashing into a storm drain. As I said when I was little and still say now, I wuv you Baka. ""

This tribute was added by Tricia McAvoy on 14th February 2013

"Dear Elmira, I fell in love the moment I saw you! Who is that grand lady? And we were connected by forces unknown. I am forever grateful for our time together and our conversations about spirit. You are always in my heart. Love. Love. Love. Love. Love."

This tribute was added by ann boyden on 13th February 2013

"Dear Mom, I searched the net for some of your favorite hymns and the Sunday School songs you loved since you were a child. It was not that long ago that we worked on the list and you and I sang them together gulping our way as we laughed and cried through the tunes. A memorable, much loved time for me. Love always, Annie"

This tribute was added by Chris Mathan on 12th February 2013

"Oh can't I leave a picture instead of words? I just smile when I think of you Elmira."

This tribute was added by John Hikory on 12th February 2013

"Dear Elmira, I'll miss you, though you are always there to converse with. Having only met you while in your early sixties, I always think of you as a homing beacon, a safe harbor that opened on to the expansive world. I guess you still are, you left before the storm. Fair wind"

This tribute was added by David Cook on 12th February 2013

"As neighbors we knew Elmira since she move to Gungy Road many years ago.  Our boys Colin and Andrew mowed the lawns at her house.  I enjoyed being called by Elmira to charge a car battery of do some chore.  We had many pleasant visits with her and Mary.  We were amazed at their social life, often hearing cars leaving at 11PM.  She lived life to the fullest setting an example for us all."

This tribute was added by Katy Huller on 12th February 2013

"Remembering riding the three-wheeled bike around the Huntington house...early morning swims in Cedar fries...long conversations about EVERYTHING that matters most...and so much more!  Thanks for the will always hold a special place in my heart..."

This tribute was added by Tom Ingersoll on 12th February 2013

"Grammie often told of getting the call with news of my birth. In the kitchen in her wet swimsuit, she danced on the linoleum after hanging up. She always, always lifted me up...whether with tears of joy (common) or sorrow. She inspired, guided, and shared in the wonder of it all."

This tribute was added by Beata Alexander on 12th February 2013

"Elmira, you know how dear to my heart you are and I can never fully express the impact that you and Mary had on my life.  You will continue to inspire me throughout my life.  I will miss my visits to you in CT and will cherish all the memories of our time together. With so much love and gratitude to you Elmira, Blessings, love and light on your new journey of the soul!  Beataxoxoxxoxxoxoxo"

This tribute was added by paula chu on 11th February 2013

"Elmira befriended me after my mom, a friend of hers, died a few years ago. We were both comforted by the warmth of our connection. She was a great correspondent and conversationalist. She loved to talk about TKOS (that kind of stuff), her term for spiritual/existential matters. I hope her spirit is enjoying its new adventure! I will miss her and am saving her amazing phone messages :-)"

This tribute was added by Phil Crossman on 11th February 2013

"Every time Elmira crossed my path or mind I, beyond feeling grateful to her for having left this island with such an extraordinary legacy, felt compelled to sing Elvira (Oak Ridge Boys), sometimes to myself, often out loud but always with great exhuberance."

This tribute was added by Claudia Cooke on 10th February 2013

"Dear Elmira,
Thank you for your sparkle, serenity, and receptivity.  Meeting you the first time was like re-encoutering an old friend.  
Shine on!
Love from here to there,

This tribute was added by Marjorie Kohler on 10th February 2013

"Elmira's vibes have been with me all my life and grew stronger as I grew older. She emanated an aura of peace and tranquility that was palatable every moment I was with her listening to her wisdom and she listening to my heart. She will always be in my heart until I too, lie down in that green pasture. If love will travel, it will have a hard time packing up my heavy load."

This tribute was added by Joan Wiles on 10th February 2013

"Dearest Elmira, How I will miss you and our happy times together looking out over the lake, sharing ideas and experiences.  Thank you for your caring and your generosity of spirit.  For your interest in my "Christmas Books" and for Harmony House and Namaste, where love, laughter and healing come together. Your spirit will be with me always. God bless, and God speed, lovely lady."

This tribute was added by Pam Strollo on 9th February 2013

"Elmira, a special friend, always listening, telling me great stories, listening to my stories. Laughing together. My Subud sister.  My book advisor.  Laughing loving inspiring.  I will miss our cookie and tea times, our long talks about our kids, my work, our Subud and Course in Miracles thoughts.  Our shared love for "The Power of Now." Your Harmony House full of love and healing."

This tribute was added by brenda ryder on 9th February 2013

"My dear Elmira.   You are truly one in a million. I feel so blessed to have shared those few special moments with you.  I will forever treasure our visits and the stories that you shared with me.  Thank you for your love, for the memories I will forever cherish, and the laughter we shared.   Peaceful rest my friend!!  

This tribute was added by Joshua Eden on 9th February 2013

"I am going to miss laughing with you Gram. You were a champion chuckler and fortunately that gene got passed on to some of us. Much love and hugs to all.
..oh and for the book list that Sarah started
Mutant Message"

This tribute was added by Ginger Swain on 8th February 2013

"Will miss you, dearest Elmira, friend for so many decades.  Thank you for being loved by you.  Your love is returned.  You and Mary came into my life when I had just moved to Old Lyme from San Francisco. We had such fun--laughed and cried alot.  I will miss your notes and letters. I love you, Ginger"

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 7th February 2013

""have i got a book for you" (thanks dad!)
elmira's reading list... please add on
- the peace book
- the hidden messages of water
- the best christmas pageant ever
- the power of now
- mister god this is anna"

This tribute was added by Skye Hirst on 7th February 2013

"Dear friend, you are truely in my heart tonight in that place beyond all words,  Come Home, come home softly and tenderly love is calling you home - I sing these words as i know many like me who loved you and received your love feel your joy right now.   Norm is there with you celebrating this wonderful LIFE in which we all are held.  Blessings on everyone during this time of transition."

This tribute was added by sarah boyden on 7th February 2013

"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I’ll meet you there.

When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
Doesn’t make any sense.


This tribute was added by ann boyden on 7th February 2013

"Wow.... did I ever luck out in the mother-in-law department... and  I'm so glad I got to tell you so on many, many occasions.... whether in this world  or another, I am always at your disposal.  love, Perry (the old)."

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