This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Joan Maher, 68, born on July 2, 1944 and passed away on July 20, 2012. We will remember her forever.
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Leave a tributeHappy Mother’s Day - even though we are apart your always in my heart.
Every time I hold and see my granddaughter Emily, I can’t stop thinking of how much joy and happpnes Joanie would have had if she could hold or see Emily. It could only be surpassed by her own granddaughters.
Having held and cared for my infant son in my darkest hour.
Oh I am such a sap
But dam it I loved my sister so.
We didn't forget it's just to painful some times.
This my sound dumb butt...
Trying to reconcile death and dying many years ago (can't remember how many) I just happen on a scene in a John Wayne movie where a young boy looks up at the "Duke" and says something like "why did he have to die?" and the "Duke" responds...
"He just did what we're all going to do, he just did it sooner"
Dumb, right?
But it helps me feel grateful that I'm still alive, that we're all still alive and to focus on that.
Your loving brother Doug
We didn't forget it's just to painful some times.
This my sound dumb butt...
Trying to reconcile death and dying many years ago (can't remember how many) I just happen on a scene in a John Wayne movie where a young boy looks up at the "Duke" and says something like "why did he have to die?" and the "Duke" responds...
"He just did what we're all going to do, he just did it sooner"
Dumb, right?
But it helps me feel grateful that I'm still alive, that we're all still alive and to focus on that.
Your loving brother Doug
Two years, hard to comprehend,
Lost my sister and best friend
But I won't be sad
I'll remember all the happy times
How unbelievably lucky I was to have a wonderful sister
who was my one and only true friend
Two years, hard to comprehend,
Lost my sister and best friend
But I won't be sad
I'll remember all the happy times
How unbelievably lucky I was to have a wonderful sister
who was my one and only true friend
Not a day,not an hour goes bye that l don't think about your MOM. But she is gone now an
ould be so hurt if we did not go on. She worked so hard that the rest of us could enjoy life. As difficult as it is, we have to go on without her. She has a wonderful daughter who wed a great man, two grand daughter that are are our future.
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Happy Mother’s Day - even though we are apart your always in my heart.
Ruthie update
Well - thankfully Ruthis took a turn for the better. How is it that they can find a way to save a 99 year old whose quality of life is so poor and not you who were so much younger and so much to look forward to. They say she is going to come home. Diana asked for the hospital bed so at least you will be happy to know that it is out of the house and someone will use it.
Ruthie
Ruthie isn't doing too well and I fear that her time with us is coming to an end. She will be with you soon. The signs are all there. The catnaps throughout the day, the swollen legs, the low body temp. Ironically no fever. I really hate doctors for using that as a guideline for someone's health. She has phnemonia too. How do I explain death again to our girls. It is so unfair. We will never be over losing you and my heart aches every day for all the things we will not share with you ever.
I tell Georgie to visit her but people always think there will be more time. Sadly, there isn't. How is there ever enough time to have with someone you love. My dilema now is whether or not to bring them to the hospital to say goodbye. They saw grandma in the nursing home and I am glad for that. I wish that they could have said goodbye to you although you would have never wanted them to see you like that. God I wish I could see you again. I close my eyes and try to rember, I hold your shirt and try to smell the tiniest part of you but even that is almost gone now too.
I wish I could have said goodbye to you too but I thought you were getting better. I never knew pain like this ever and my girls are way too young to loose you. Nobody can come close to loving us as you did. Not even me. I hope that they will always remember you.
Valentine's Day
Happy Valentine's Day mom.
You have my unending love, devotion and gratitude for all you sacrificed so that I can have a nice life. I am trying to keep it together and will try to stop and smell the roses. You would want that for me. You always wanted the best for me. I wanted more for you too but it didn't work out that way for you. Sometimes I feel so guilty that I have the life you would have loved to have. You gave so much love to everyone - I hope that you know how very much you were loved in return. I never wanted you to feel sorry for yourself, if you only knew how much I really did feel sorry for you. I just wanted to try to keep you going and motivated. See how well that worked out.... All I can do is try to learn from my mistakes. It won't help you but maybe it can help me protect my girls and my husband. I am so sorry mom - for not fighting hard enough for you and for everything.