- 44 years old
- Date of birth: Jul 15, 1971
- Date of passing: Nov 26, 2015
- Place of passing:
|God set the stage and determined the timing. Ochuko played his part successfully. For such like him, there is no end. The curtain closes on this side, he continues with the angels. With a standing ovation, we say farewell. Go in peace Ochuko. We will mis|
Don't grieve for me, for now I'm free, I'm following the path God laid for me.
I took his hand when I heard his call, I turned my back and left it all.
I could not stay another day, To laugh, to love, to work, to play.
Tasks left undone must stay that way, I've found that peace at the end of the day.
If my parting has left a void, Then fill it with remembered joy.
A friendship shared, a laugh, a kiss, Ah, yes, these things too I will miss.
Be not burdened with times of sorrow, I wish you the sunshine of tomorrow.
My Life's been full, I savoured much, Good friends, good times, a loved one' touch. Perhaps my time seemed all too brief, Don't lengthen it now with undue grief.
Lift up your heart and share with me, God wanted me now, He set me free. Janice M. Fair-Salters
Monday 14 December 2015
Service of Songs at House on the Rock Prayer Chapel
The Rock Cathedral
Rock Cathedral Drive
Time: 5.00pm prompt
Wednesday 16 December 2015: Interrment at Chief Okiti's Compound
Warri - Eku Road
Eku Delta State
Time - 10.00am
"Continue to rest in peace Ochuko"
"So one cannot even say Happy Birthday again to a dear friend. Or can I? I remember saying that to you just last year....
Just remembering you my dear friend. Remembering you today also lets me handle better so many life challenges I have been going through in the past weeks. I will never build my lasting treasures on this earth save to serve humanity. Thank you for the ability to be your friend and the many life lessons learned. Rest in peace.."
"Lying still on that day leaves me with memories of God's overwhelming rule over us, to which we submit. In you the obvious was clear that morning; man has limits in this body. When eternal life is mixed with life we realize all is well. I miss our conversation on business and Nigeria. I miss turning back in church to see you behind. Tobore is fine, Maro and Mase are so heroic, they are doing very well in school. I know you are fine, but I need to assure you that all is well with us. Peace!!!"
"Mr. Okiti, I will always celebrate you because you were always worth celebrating and you always celebrated others. Happy birthday Sir...We miss you so much....continue to rest in God's bosom."
"Continue to rest in peace Sir"
"Ochuko my beloved brother, I remember you this day not knowing how to feel but still with the unbelief that you are truly gone forever, oh how I miss you, words cannot describe how I feel, you know on days like this I normally call you to say a very happy birthday just like you normally call me on July 13th every year to wish me happy birthday but two days ago when I didn't hear from you it down on me that you are truly gone but all the same I wish a very happy birthday in heaven celebrate with the angels and have a good time with the almighty Father Jesus Christ, happy birthday once my beloved brother."
"July has always been a great month for my family since I married into your lovely family.Runo my daughter 10th,Ken my husband 13th,My younger brother 14th ,yours 15th,Mase 16th and your anniversary 17th,I still give God glory for the opportunity of knowing you.
Happy birthday bros Continue to rejoice with the saints and angels.I can indeed feel your smile.We love you dearly.Rest in peace."
"Dear Uncle, Since i am unable to wish you HBD in person, I sealed my birthday wishes for you inside an envelope filled with love and respect so it reaches you in heaven and goes right through your heart.Happy birthday in heaven! We miss you."
"Those we love don't go away.
They walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near,
Chuko you are still loved, still missed and still very dear to us.
Happy Birthday Bro."
"Continue to rest in peace Sir"
"Happy birthday to a wonderful boss.
We celebrate you even in your absence.
Continue to rest in the Lord's bossom.
""Happy Birthday Boss!
We miss you so much,
The Memories are everlasting .
Continue to live On Boss!!"
"Happy Birthday to the best boss ever,who was not just an employer but a father,a mentor and a friend to me.
Seems like it was just yesterday we were celebrating your birthday at the office.You may not be around anymore ,but i know you are probably listening to All of me by John Legend in Heaven and all your classical music and smiling down at us.I miss you Sir!!
Happy Birthday Mr.James!!
May your gentle soul rest in peace!
"For Your Birthday In Heaven - Still loved still missed and very dear - Your Birthday is here but you aren't,
I would have sent a gift but know I can't, So I'll make a wish upon a star To carry my love to where You are"
It was my birthday yesterday and i missed your call as it had been the practice between us for 8 years. I still can't believe i am leaving a tribute for you today and not wishing you a happy birthday. You were kind and very thoughtful and you will be sorely missed. Rest on my friend."
"I miss you!
I know you are resting and enjoying his peace in His presence."
I remember you this day which would have been your 45th birthday and i pray for your wife Sis Joyce and the lovely children that the Lord will preserve them in his infinite mercies and bountiful grace always. AMEN!"
"I remembered how you taught me to listen to Beethoven 4 seasons, back in the 90s. How you pull jokes but wouldn't laugh and other fond memories with you.
Though I've not seen you for years, I will surely miss not seeing here again but confidence that we'll meet again.
Adieu my brother."
"A Tribute to my Wonderful husband-Ochuko James Okiti
(Chukky/Dada/God’s Miracle Baby)
Job 14: 5 ”Seeing his days are determined, the number of his
months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he
The Almighty God your Maker gave you a heart of Gold, the
finest of Character and placed you on a fast Lane. He gave you
a mastery with words of wisdom which made it easy to connect
with people that cut across age brackets. There was no need for
rancour. Issues that hurt were not meant to be discussed but
avoided. Your strength was in your calmness, brilliance, respect for
people, seeking opportunities to celebrate those who gave you an
Ochuko, I was given no time to negotiate with God. He did not
hint me that your time was up. Certainly, I would have wrestled with him like Jacob asking for more time.
We were married for fifteen (15) years and you thrilled me enough to last a lifetime. You watched my back,
dressed me up and set me on stage cheering and applauding me all the way. What to say, how to say, when
to say and where to say were lessons you taught me and even when I muddled things up, it was yours to
straighten out. You made me so happy. You brought me so much joy.
Now I understand a little of why God gave you extra time between August 28th, 2015 when he could
have taken you to November 26th, 2015 when he eventually did and I am most grateful to God for that.
Our heavenly Father showed you great mercy, revealed his power towards you to the astonishment of the
medical Teams abroad and at home. He nullified their concerns and empowered you to do all the things
they doubted you will be able to do after surgery. I still hear your voice each time you caught a worried gaze
from me saying to me reassuringly “I am fine, thank you”. When I eventually broke down, you summoned
strength, got up on your feet, walked towards me to tuck me in bed. “I will take care of you when we
get to Lagos” you promised. Yes you did. We took care of each other. You are God’s miracle baby and
your life remains forever a testimony. Your quest for God got deeper as he revealed himself to you. Your
thanksgiving and praise to him was magnified. You blessed Maro and Mase daily in an extra-ordinary way
speaking about and prophesying into their future. I believe God showed you the blue-print for their lives;
You caught a glimpse of what they will be and you thanked God, reminding him that they are covenant
children as you blessed each one of them daily.
In Life you were an enigma, In death a marvel. Just when I thought a new phase had started you requested
we go to bed. You insisted that this time just you and I should have the communion and in the middle of
the night, just before dawn, you were whisked away in God’s Chariot.
I recall your parting words of counsel and the details are well noted. Thank you for choosing me to be your
wife. Thank you for the life we shared. You prayed so much for me and I asked you why? All you said about
me in prayers, God heard you my husband and friend. So shall it be in Jesus Name-Amen!!!
Your Wife, Tobore Joyce Okiti
I’m exasperated at the fact that i can’t seem to write a perfect tribute then it hit me… This man wasn’t
perfect just a perfectly imperfect man. A man so selfless that i wondered if he neglected himself just to
ensure that everyone was okay. He was so many things in just one thing…He was and still is my dad. There
are 6.6 Billion people in the world but God sent me into the household of Ochuko James Okiti as his
As i sit here trying to dazzle this tribute with words, i realize that my dad will only require one thing from
me ; that my words don’t come from the dictionary but my heart. My heart can tell you that silent tears
roll down my face at the thought of being a fourteen(14) year old girl whose dad passed on despite the fact
he promised he would walk me down the aisle. It hurts that God still took him before i could buy him the
G-wagon that i told him i would get him for his 50th Birthday. We had so many plans…
I remember every night, how he would walk into my room to put on my Air conditioner because he didn’t
want me to sweat as a consequence for forgetting to turn it on in the first place. I remember touching
his knee and querying him about the cream he used as I marvelled at his silky skin. I remember my dad
scolding me for never wearing my slippers and if he didn’t scold me for that then he gave my brother and
I a speech about how abiding to African time means we have no sense of urgency. After reprimanding us
he would turn on his Bluetooth so that i can send him the latest songs on the chart. I miss strolling around
the Estate with him every evening by 6 pm for 20 minutes, it was a time of laughter and discussions about
serious issues and then some more laughter but in reality every minute with him was pure enlightenment
with a tinge of humour.
On the 26th of November 2015, My dad passed on. I didn’t “lose” my dad but rather Heaven “gained” a
new resident. That day could be interpreted as many things but I interpreted it as the day my dad was called
home, the day he finally stopped fighting and could now rest. A few hours before this, my dad requested
that I cook his favourite meal of okra and stew with Eba. I was ecstatic because my dad caught a glimpse of
the Independent cultured lady he raised, like a reassurance that he has played his role the way it was meant
to be played.
If you don’t recall anything from this tribute that’s fine just as long as you know that my dad was a strong
man who fought…
Maro Anita Okiti
A TRIBUTE TO A WONDERFUL FATHER
There are a lot of adjectives that can be used to describe James Ochuko Okiti. A good brother, wonderful
friend, Man of wisdom, An ambitious businessman and many others. The adjective I would use to describe
him best is a wonderful Father because to me as his son that was exactly who he was. The truth of the
matter is that all these adjectives can only be used in past tense since he has gone higher to glory. To me
what is important is what his life stood for. So let us not be so disheartened by his death but let us thank
God for the life that he lived.
Mase Anthony Okiti
"Just heard about your demise today. Still in shock. Just the other day I was telling my hubby God bless my client who gave me the only surviving rechargeable fan in the house, not knowing you had passed on. Life is indeed fickle. We cannot question God for he alone knows best. Adieu James Okiti rest on till we meet at the masters feet."
"God Bless your Soul Ochuko James Okiti. Amen"
I have really struggled with leaving this tribute because it feels strange to write about you in the past tense. Even though you lived a short life, you have definitely left some strong footprints in the sands of time. Adieu my friend, rest in peace. May God comfort your family and give them the strength to continue. Amen!"
A short but fulfilled life, you definitely impacted your world. Gone but will never be forgotten. I pray that the Lord grant your family the strength to carry on."
"Rest in perfect peace Sir. I will never forget."
"Ochuko, na wa o. na go be dat? i just tire. No be so we talk am now. Dem do commendation service for you the other day, I dress up, waka go but I no fit enter. Grief paralyse me I just waka pass. How I for go? I go see your face for poster; e be book launch or opening of another store? I no fit. Shame catch me, but I still no fit.
If I no fit do Lagos, Eku is out of the question. I just no fit.
We had happier times; happier moments. Peter brought me to your house. Your family became mine. I ate mumsie’s banga; my first taste of Delta cuisine. Your taste in fashion then began and ended with tie and dye. You opened your home to me; I prepared for one of my ICAN exams at No 160.
You were dependable, reliable, a friend closer than a brother; attributes you shared with your Saviour.
We were young. We were four. Emmanuel, Chika, you and I. we played, fooled around. Had great dreams, talked about the world and changes that should be made. Those were happy days; carefree days; some of my happiest days. AIISEC days. Christ Embassy days. You wrote a book; I edited; you listened to suggestions, made adjustments. You published ‘BEYOND LIMITS’ and launched at NIIA. How old were you then?
You couldn’t be my chief bridesmaid because of your single X chromosome but you were among the first guests at my wedding. I teased you about it. You wanted to make sure this crazy girl truly got married. You called me to celebrate your life events and I would yap you. O flakes, I have just been promoted and I would reply you impudently. Are you the first to be promoted? You would laugh; and still call me again on another piece of good news.
The calls ceased. Life happened, career, marriage and parenthood took the front burner; we grew apart. But then I knew deep down that my life’s balance sheet and networth were solid because I had an asset with the number 0802x157xxxx.
I weep for myself; one of the few candles of friendship I possess has burnt out. I weep for Tobore; losing you and her brother in a few short years. I weep for your kids; they won’t have you to supervise their journey beyond the limit. I weep for your siblings and their families, Elizabeth, Peter and Kate. I weep for Mumsie; her grief incomprehensible; it is just too much personal pain.
Now you have gone beyond limits; you are now truly illimitable. Chucky, fare thee well bruv into God’s unapproachable light which no man has seen or can ever see. Love to Popsie and Onome.
Words are truly inadequate hmmm…….."
"I still cant get past the news of your passing, I know your death is part of Gods plan...... I wished you spent more time on earth, you were way beyond your years......."
"I still can recall vividly our brief meeting in your office that evening when I came over at the behest of your cousin, Kenneth Okiti. Though we had not met before then, the 30 minutes meeting was as though we have always had a long standing relationship because you left an indelible impression on me. You opened my eyes to certain realities, I dare say, I have not given a thought to before then.
It still sounds unbelievable that you are gone. Severally, I had thought it was just a dream we would awake from. But here we are, we can't question God. Adieu Ochuko Okiti, rest in the bosom of the Lord!"
"I can't believe you are gone Ochuko...Rest in peace my dear friend.."
"Mr. Ochukò was such a selfless man, he celebrates success with no restriction. You were a genuine man. I envy what you achieved in such a little time. Our God is an Unquestionable God, who can question u? Kabío kòsí! I believe u have gone rest in HIS bossom where there is an everlasting life. Till we meet to part no more. Rest in Mr. Jame Ochukò Okití...."
My brother na wa oh, na so life be!!!!
Rest in peace OJAY. I am in shock!!!!!"
"A candle in the wind!!!!! Seek not to know for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee; Every tick of the clock moves you nearer the end. Slowly but surely, we all will get there. Life is brief and full of troubles. Ochuko Okiti a Valiant man, so Jovial, vibrant and Brilliant! Ochuko succumbs to sleep, the deep silence that leads to everlasting rest. You are more than a Friend, brother, boss and A LEADER! Your distinguishing roles while on earth are never in error. Haaa Akpo! Rest Peacefully In The Bosom Of Our Lord. In Jesus Name Amen
"My mentor my big bros,can't stop crying evrytym i tink about the fact you no more....may God continue to console your family..God be with you till we meet again Mr Oj..."
"i prayed that this day wouldn't come. i miss you boss. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace."
I Always thought no death would ever get to me after the death of my father........ I remember how you helped me recover from that trauma, how you reminded me of my great potentials, and told me to get up and make a glass of lemonade out of the lemons Life gave me. How you taught me to be positive in the way I see Life and to dream of the positive impossible which is now a reality............ How you always listen and impact so much knowledge, I look back to where I was a year back and now I can only wish you were here to celebrate.
The news of your death threw me off balance and am still in tears, and I only pray and wish God blesses your wife and kids and give them strength to over come this trauma because you were a wonderful father even to me......... Listening to the song ADA ADA would never ever remain the same.
Sleep in the blossom of the Lord Sir........."
"It is really shocking to hear of your passing. When I got the SMS from Efe Egube, I was like which Okiti is he referring to?
It is so sad to see a good man pass at his prime. I pray GOD gives Tobore Okiti and your beautiful children the fortitude to bear this loss.
Rest in peace in great Ochuko Okiti."
You were way beyond your years! Very enterprising, articulate, 'big dreamer' but most specially 'a listening ear' and 'a true believer in good things not just for yourself but others too'.
You loved your wife and children and were a good role model! I will always respect and cherish your memories. Till resurrection morning..."
"May your gentle soul rest in peace. I still cant believe you are gone sir. I spoke to you 1 week before your passing, you were eating beans when I called and you reminded me that I was owing you lunch at the Hotel and I told you I was still waiting for your visit. You promised to visit soon. So the news of your passing was really shocking, but I am very blessed and privileged to have met you.
Thank you so much for believing in me 2006 to give me my first job which kick started my career (Moonwalker Connect Akowonjo). I always remember our first telephone conversation with a broad smile.
I remember the folks in MTN would always ask where you got the name Moonwalker, they would ask if you and Madam loved Michael Jackson so much. We would just tell that them we were just unique, a different class(walking on the moon things) lol.
Thank you for all your words of encouragement, all you taught me, for imbibing in us the spirit of excellence, you were an inspiration to me and the entire Moonwalker team.
Thank you for your generosity. You were always willing to share/impact your knowledge , always willing to coach, teach and mentor. Talking to you always made me laugh and feel refreshed and most importantly learn. We always looked forward to your visits and birthdays at the Connects as we were sure to get loads of goodies.
Thank you for your exemplary marriage and family life. You were a true definition of a great loving husband and awesome father and son.
You were genius and a rare gem.
I will definitely miss you My Oga, My Boss, Mr Okiti, Dada and Chukkie( as Madam fondly called you).
We know that God will surely take care of Mrs Joyce Okiti, Maro and Mase.
Thank you for being a blessing.
I thank God everyday that I met you and Mrs Okiti. You helped shape my little broken life. You are not just my boss but a brother and a friend. Your life is undeniably admirable!
Thank you for being the greatest husband and father to Mrs Okiti, Maro and Mase. You guys should have just adopted me because I already feel like I'm part of the family.
You know it broke me that you left but I know God has you in His arms.
I have you in my heart.....Always!"
"Ochuko James Okiti. ....
So never again will I type letters for you and end them with this name?
never again I will run to and fro ur office running errands for u?
never again will I be scared if i did something right?
never again will I hear u proudly demonstrate the tower speaker to ur guests?
never again will u tease me about my true height without heels?
Never again will u crack me up with jokes about u having wings from eating so much chicken?
Never again will I hear u tell me not to marry for money but to go to where rich people are and marry for love?
You were more than a boss,you were my friend and father,you scolded and molded me at the same time. I could go on and on and will not run out of things to say. I will miss u sir,that's a certainty,but only God understands these things and may he strengthen ur family. Rest well."
"Ochuko, I could hardly believe it when I heard the sad news that you have passed on. You were indeed an inspiration… I have to believe that God has bigger plans for you. You will always remain in our hearts. May the Lord Almighty comfort your family."
"I NEVER SAW HIM FACE TO FACE BUT I HEARD ABOUT ALL HIS GREAT ACHIEVEMENTS IN LIFE. HE WAS A GOOD MAN. THE WIFE TOO WAS MY FACILITATOR IN ONE OF MY OFFICE TRAININGS. HE WAS MY BROTHER IN LAW’S BROTHER(KENNETH).MAY HIS SOUL REST IN PEACE AND MAY GOD GIVE THE FAMILY STRENGTH THIS PERIOD. AMEN"
""It is better to go to the house of mourning than to go to a house of feasting, for death is the destiny of everyone; the living should take this to heart" Ecc 7:2
There is something about death that makes us think differently about life. Many years ago, I remember preaching a short message at a gathering following the death of another Diamond. And the message was about how we will be remembered when we depart.
May the Lord comfort his family.
"Haa as I logged on to this site, the song left me in tears!!!! Am speechless. You were a brother, friend and BOSS. Haa I remember the first time my husband saw you and told me later on " dat guy na correct gentleman". Haa God!!!! Where do I start?? Just confused and wondering!??!!! I pray your soul find peace with God Almighty!! Sandra Oyovbaire"
"Ochuko I knew you from Uniben days n interestingly we served in d same camp, bonded because of our school. You used to yab me calling me Nowingho. Very intelligent having made a 2.1 in accounting n qualified within record time. You did so well looking at the opportunities God gave you n you acknowledged it. Now rest on n May God console your loved ones."
"i was in denial, when i heard the news, you had departed to the great beyond.
You have left a legacy and lived an exemplary life. You will be missed. Adieu"
"Chukky, as I write this piece which is the most difficult one I have ever had to write in my entire life, the tears have refuse to stop pouring down from my eyes, we had a bond right from our secondary school days when you had a brief stint at Abraka before you left for Ogbomosho, this bond was further strengthened when we were in Uniben together, we were practically inseparable till now, we were two of kind by divine providence you know, my birthday is July 13th while yours is July 15th, my wife’s birthday is December 21st while yours is December 31st, I had my first daughter on July 10th while you had your son on July 16th, I was to have my wedding in July like yours but had to postpone it because Peter was having his then.
We had so much in common you see, and you were always there for me when I needed a helping hand and never failed for once, you were the shoulder I could always lean and cry on anytime I needed one, in my most difficult moments you were there for me, it was such that when I remember I had someone like you in those difficult times hope comes alive in me, you were my brother, my friend, my confidant that I could tell you almost anything, with you I had little or no secrets.
You were a rare gem and breed, your great achievements in life spurred me on to also try and reach for the top like you someday but now you will not be there for me to share that moment with you when that day finally comes, you called me on the 25th of November and we talked as usual and said you had been ill but that you were getting better, at the end of that conversation you said we will talk later little did I know that was going to be the last because you never told me you going on such a journey never to return.
Well as they say one cannot question the Almighty GOD who took you away for reasons best known to HIM and with this I say good bye my true brother, good night my friend, adieu my confidant, I going to miss you so much that words cannot describe the feeling, rest well in the bosom of the LORD most high till we meet to part no more."
"Hummm! Where do I begin. Can't still believe u are gone. Why! How can! You were such a nice and wonderful chap. Extremely caring and gentle. Working with u at zenith bank, palm avenue branch was very eventful especially ur 40th bday. I learnt so much from you, I admired u alot , u had a subtle way of speaking to us and still drive home ur point without raising ur voice. U luved to quote the bible always whenever u were addressing us. We luved to come to ur office then cos U always had so much refreshments in d fridge. And ur usual comic phrasje to us "Eat cake and be merry " . And so I lay this flower for u , cos u were such a peaceful soul. We luv u but God sure luvs u most"
"I write in tears,don't know when I can stop.I lost control when I heard this terrible news.I want to wake up from this sleep,oh!death you are so wicked daring into places you should not.Oh my sweet brother-in-law,I cant believe you are gone.The kids still ask in confusion and wish they could see you again.Your Rukky stills remembers how you held her so close to you to calm her when the fire works was on.We all miss you so much.
your brother Kenneth is still in shock do not know who can calm him down because I too can not.
Our consolation is that you were too good and good people go to be with God in heaven.
Rest in peace sweet brother,You continue to hold a special place in our hearts,sharing special stories about you,we will hold all memories deep in our heats through these memories will never part.We love you so much."
"In tears... I have just chatted you on BBM sir, hoping you respond.
Please read my message and make me laugh out loud at work, cos that's what you do best... Put warm smiles on people's face!
You said you were gonna remind me in 5 years about how I kept celebrating months in marriage when i had just been married. That I would be too busy having kids by then... one year to go, I cant believe we wont have that laugh together.
All I see now is you sitting in your favorite chair at the lounge (crossed legs sipping a cup of tea), giving out white envelopes of mints to everyone who said hello as you walked in. That generous man!
All the life lessons I got from you is what I have left sir, I should have called you when I scrolled my contacts and saw Mr James last two weeks, I really should have, at least I would have had one more laugh with you...
Its really had to accept you are gone, I wanna ask questions, but God knows best, trust you are cracking him up there already ! Rest well Mr. James..."
"Ochuko!! What a shock! Still cannot believe you are gone..... We chatted a week before your demise......
Our UNIBEN days are still very fresh in my memory. You were a gentleman to the core, focussed and always willing to lend a hand. The Lord gives and takes away, all glory to HIS name. May HE grant your family the strength to bear your demise. Rest in the bosom of the LORD."
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