- 44 years old
- Date of birth: Jul 15, 1971
- Place of birth:
- Date of passing: Nov 26, 2015
- Place of passing:
Lagos, Lagos, Nigeria
One year ago, the clock chimed. It marked the end of a season, the start of another. Life without you. You live in our thoughts, our dreams, and imaginations of what could have been. We live in the reality of life without you; in the knowledge that your death fits into a plan orchestrated by an eternal God. You finished your part, your death was the interval - you left the stage to join the angelic audience. The beautiful music has not stopped. It continues.....we keep playing. With God, it will end well!
"May your gentle soul continue to rest in perfect peace."
"I'm sure the angels welcomed you home...rest in peace brother..."
"One year already! Continue to rest in the bosom of the Lord. We miss you sir"
"Ochuko, continue to Rest In Peace. We miss you dearly!!!"
"Continue to rest in peace. Amen"
"Dear Mr. Okiti, May God continue to grant you eternal rest. Your family is in our hearts and prayers always"
"It is a year already, but you come to mind every time I pass your office, go to the Palms, move in front of your estate or go to cold stone at lekki.
May your soul rest in peace! You were a blessing. I always say a prayer for you and your family. You are not forgotten, they are not forgotten, His grace and peace will continually be their lot.
"If not now; when? " we are only guaranteed of now! Live in your now.
"Just like yesterday, it's a year already. You are forever missed, can't forget our days @zenith bank palm avenue. Continue to rest in the bossom of the Lord"
"Chukky, I remember you this day when I got the biggest shock of my life about your passing, I still don't understand why good people like you don't last on this earth but I continue to console myself that you are resting in God's hands and I will forever cherish your memory in my heart till we meet to part no more, rest in peace my dear brother."
"Still can't believe you are gone R I P Mr James Okiti"
"One year has passed since that sad day,My sweet wonderful brother in law loved by all. I never expected it,It was a very hectic and bleak day I could not understand why or anything,did not get a chance to even say goodbye,It was so hard to accept.No day passes by without a thought of you from us or the kids.A great role you played in our lives that is very difficult to fill.To me you knew everything and always had a way with words. We have always loved you and will always!!!! You are someone special and wish you were here. Rest well Ochuko my sweet brother in law! YOU HAVE CONQUERED THE GREATEST FEAR OF MAN,,,death.You can never be forgotten."
"God bless your soul sir. Continue to rest in peace."
"Continue to rest in peace Ochuko"
"So one cannot even say Happy Birthday again to a dear friend. Or can I? I remember saying that to you just last year....
Just remembering you my dear friend. Remembering you today also lets me handle better so many life challenges I have been going through in the past weeks. I will never build my lasting treasures on this earth save to serve humanity. Thank you for the ability to be your friend and the many life lessons learned. Rest in peace.."
"Lying still on that day leaves me with memories of God's overwhelming rule over us, to which we submit. In you the obvious was clear that morning; man has limits in this body. When eternal life is mixed with life we realize all is well. I miss our conversation on business and Nigeria. I miss turning back in church to see you behind. Tobore is fine, Maro and Mase are so heroic, they are doing very well in school. I know you are fine, but I need to assure you that all is well with us. Peace!!!"
"Mr. Okiti, I will always celebrate you because you were always worth celebrating and you always celebrated others. Happy birthday Sir...We miss you so much....continue to rest in God's bosom."
"Continue to rest in peace Sir"
"Ochuko my beloved brother, I remember you this day not knowing how to feel but still with the unbelief that you are truly gone forever, oh how I miss you, words cannot describe how I feel, you know on days like this I normally call you to say a very happy birthday just like you normally call me on July 13th every year to wish me happy birthday but two days ago when I didn't hear from you it down on me that you are truly gone but all the same I wish a very happy birthday in heaven celebrate with the angels and have a good time with the almighty Father Jesus Christ, happy birthday once my beloved brother."
"July has always been a great month for my family since I married into your lovely family.Runo my daughter 10th,Ken my husband 13th,My younger brother 14th ,yours 15th,Mase 16th and your anniversary 17th,I still give God glory for the opportunity of knowing you.
Happy birthday bros Continue to rejoice with the saints and angels.I can indeed feel your smile.We love you dearly.Rest in peace."
"Dear Uncle, Since i am unable to wish you HBD in person, I sealed my birthday wishes for you inside an envelope filled with love and respect so it reaches you in heaven and goes right through your heart.Happy birthday in heaven! We miss you."
"Those we love don't go away.
They walk beside us every day, unseen, unheard, but always near,
Chuko you are still loved, still missed and still very dear to us.
Happy Birthday Bro."
"Continue to rest in peace Sir"
"Happy birthday to a wonderful boss.
We celebrate you even in your absence.
Continue to rest in the Lord's bossom.
""Happy Birthday Boss!
We miss you so much,
The Memories are everlasting .
Continue to live On Boss!!"
"Happy Birthday to the best boss ever,who was not just an employer but a father,a mentor and a friend to me.
Seems like it was just yesterday we were celebrating your birthday at the office.You may not be around anymore ,but i know you are probably listening to All of me by John Legend in Heaven and all your classical music and smiling down at us.I miss you Sir!!
Happy Birthday Mr.James!!
May your gentle soul rest in peace!
"For Your Birthday In Heaven - Still loved still missed and very dear - Your Birthday is here but you aren't,
I would have sent a gift but know I can't, So I'll make a wish upon a star To carry my love to where You are"
It was my birthday yesterday and i missed your call as it had been the practice between us for 8 years. I still can't believe i am leaving a tribute for you today and not wishing you a happy birthday. You were kind and very thoughtful and you will be sorely missed. Rest on my friend."
"I miss you!
I know you are resting and enjoying his peace in His presence."
I remember you this day which would have been your 45th birthday and i pray for your wife Sis Joyce and the lovely children that the Lord will preserve them in his infinite mercies and bountiful grace always. AMEN!"
"I remembered how you taught me to listen to Beethoven 4 seasons, back in the 90s. How you pull jokes but wouldn't laugh and other fond memories with you.
Though I've not seen you for years, I will surely miss not seeing here again but confidence that we'll meet again.
Adieu my brother."
"A Tribute to my Wonderful husband-Ochuko James Okiti
(Chukky/Dada/God’s Miracle Baby)
Job 14: 5 ”Seeing his days are determined, the number of his
months are with thee, thou hast appointed his bounds that he
The Almighty God your Maker gave you a heart of Gold, the
finest of Character and placed you on a fast Lane. He gave you
a mastery with words of wisdom which made it easy to connect
with people that cut across age brackets. There was no need for
rancour. Issues that hurt were not meant to be discussed but
avoided. Your strength was in your calmness, brilliance, respect for
people, seeking opportunities to celebrate those who gave you an
Ochuko, I was given no time to negotiate with God. He did not
hint me that your time was up. Certainly, I would have wrestled with him like Jacob asking for more time.
We were married for fifteen (15) years and you thrilled me enough to last a lifetime. You watched my back,
dressed me up and set me on stage cheering and applauding me all the way. What to say, how to say, when
to say and where to say were lessons you taught me and even when I muddled things up, it was yours to
straighten out. You made me so happy. You brought me so much joy.
Now I understand a little of why God gave you extra time between August 28th, 2015 when he could
have taken you to November 26th, 2015 when he eventually did and I am most grateful to God for that.
Our heavenly Father showed you great mercy, revealed his power towards you to the astonishment of the
medical Teams abroad and at home. He nullified their concerns and empowered you to do all the things
they doubted you will be able to do after surgery. I still hear your voice each time you caught a worried gaze
from me saying to me reassuringly “I am fine, thank you”. When I eventually broke down, you summoned
strength, got up on your feet, walked towards me to tuck me in bed. “I will take care of you when we
get to Lagos” you promised. Yes you did. We took care of each other. You are God’s miracle baby and
your life remains forever a testimony. Your quest for God got deeper as he revealed himself to you. Your
thanksgiving and praise to him was magnified. You blessed Maro and Mase daily in an extra-ordinary way
speaking about and prophesying into their future. I believe God showed you the blue-print for their lives;
You caught a glimpse of what they will be and you thanked God, reminding him that they are covenant
children as you blessed each one of them daily.
In Life you were an enigma, In death a marvel. Just when I thought a new phase had started you requested
we go to bed. You insisted that this time just you and I should have the communion and in the middle of
the night, just before dawn, you were whisked away in God’s Chariot.
I recall your parting words of counsel and the details are well noted. Thank you for choosing me to be your
wife. Thank you for the life we shared. You prayed so much for me and I asked you why? All you said about
me in prayers, God heard you my husband and friend. So shall it be in Jesus Name-Amen!!!
Your Wife, Tobore Joyce Okiti
I’m exasperated at the fact that i can’t seem to write a perfect tribute then it hit me… This man wasn’t
perfect just a perfectly imperfect man. A man so selfless that i wondered if he neglected himself just to
ensure that everyone was okay. He was so many things in just one thing…He was and still is my dad. There
are 6.6 Billion people in the world but God sent me into the household of Ochuko James Okiti as his
As i sit here trying to dazzle this tribute with words, i realize that my dad will only require one thing from
me ; that my words don’t come from the dictionary but my heart. My heart can tell you that silent tears
roll down my face at the thought of being a fourteen(14) year old girl whose dad passed on despite the fact
he promised he would walk me down the aisle. It hurts that God still took him before i could buy him the
G-wagon that i told him i would get him for his 50th Birthday. We had so many plans…
I remember every night, how he would walk into my room to put on my Air conditioner because he didn’t
want me to sweat as a consequence for forgetting to turn it on in the first place. I remember touching
his knee and querying him about the cream he used as I marvelled at his silky skin. I remember my dad
scolding me for never wearing my slippers and if he didn’t scold me for that then he gave my brother and
I a speech about how abiding to African time means we have no sense of urgency. After reprimanding us
he would turn on his Bluetooth so that i can send him the latest songs on the chart. I miss strolling around
the Estate with him every evening by 6 pm for 20 minutes, it was a time of laughter and discussions about
serious issues and then some more laughter but in reality every minute with him was pure enlightenment
with a tinge of humour.
On the 26th of November 2015, My dad passed on. I didn’t “lose” my dad but rather Heaven “gained” a
new resident. That day could be interpreted as many things but I interpreted it as the day my dad was called
home, the day he finally stopped fighting and could now rest. A few hours before this, my dad requested
that I cook his favourite meal of okra and stew with Eba. I was ecstatic because my dad caught a glimpse of
the Independent cultured lady he raised, like a reassurance that he has played his role the way it was meant
to be played.
If you don’t recall anything from this tribute that’s fine just as long as you know that my dad was a strong
man who fought…
Maro Anita Okiti
A TRIBUTE TO A WONDERFUL FATHER
There are a lot of adjectives that can be used to describe James Ochuko Okiti. A good brother, wonderful
friend, Man of wisdom, An ambitious businessman and many others. The adjective I would use to describe
him best is a wonderful Father because to me as his son that was exactly who he was. The truth of the
matter is that all these adjectives can only be used in past tense since he has gone higher to glory. To me
what is important is what his life stood for. So let us not be so disheartened by his death but let us thank
God for the life that he lived.
Mase Anthony Okiti
"Just heard about your demise today. Still in shock. Just the other day I was telling my hubby God bless my client who gave me the only surviving rechargeable fan in the house, not knowing you had passed on. Life is indeed fickle. We cannot question God for he alone knows best. Adieu James Okiti rest on till we meet at the masters feet."
"God Bless your Soul Ochuko James Okiti. Amen"
I have really struggled with leaving this tribute because it feels strange to write about you in the past tense. Even though you lived a short life, you have definitely left some strong footprints in the sands of time. Adieu my friend, rest in peace. May God comfort your family and give them the strength to continue. Amen!"
A short but fulfilled life, you definitely impacted your world. Gone but will never be forgotten. I pray that the Lord grant your family the strength to carry on."
"Rest in perfect peace Sir. I will never forget."
"Ochuko, na wa o. na go be dat? i just tire. No be so we talk am now. Dem do commendation service for you the other day, I dress up, waka go but I no fit enter. Grief paralyse me I just waka pass. How I for go? I go see your face for poster; e be book launch or opening of another store? I no fit. Shame catch me, but I still no fit.
If I no fit do Lagos, Eku is out of the question. I just no fit.
We had happier times; happier moments. Peter brought me to your house. Your family became mine. I ate mumsie’s banga; my first taste of Delta cuisine. Your taste in fashion then began and ended with tie and dye. You opened your home to me; I prepared for one of my ICAN exams at No 160.
You were dependable, reliable, a friend closer than a brother; attributes you shared with your Saviour.
We were young. We were four. Emmanuel, Chika, you and I. we played, fooled around. Had great dreams, talked about the world and changes that should be made. Those were happy days; carefree days; some of my happiest days. AIISEC days. Christ Embassy days. You wrote a book; I edited; you listened to suggestions, made adjustments. You published ‘BEYOND LIMITS’ and launched at NIIA. How old were you then?
You couldn’t be my chief bridesmaid because of your single X chromosome but you were among the first guests at my wedding. I teased you about it. You wanted to make sure this crazy girl truly got married. You called me to celebrate your life events and I would yap you. O flakes, I have just been promoted and I would reply you impudently. Are you the first to be promoted? You would laugh; and still call me again on another piece of good news.
The calls ceased. Life happened, career, marriage and parenthood took the front burner; we grew apart. But then I knew deep down that my life’s balance sheet and networth were solid because I had an asset with the number 0802x157xxxx.
I weep for myself; one of the few candles of friendship I possess has burnt out. I weep for Tobore; losing you and her brother in a few short years. I weep for your kids; they won’t have you to supervise their journey beyond the limit. I weep for your siblings and their families, Elizabeth, Peter and Kate. I weep for Mumsie; her grief incomprehensible; it is just too much personal pain.
Now you have gone beyond limits; you are now truly illimitable. Chucky, fare thee well bruv into God’s unapproachable light which no man has seen or can ever see. Love to Popsie and Onome.
Words are truly inadequate hmmm…….."
"I still cant get past the news of your passing, I know your death is part of Gods plan...... I wished you spent more time on earth, you were way beyond your years......."
"I still can recall vividly our brief meeting in your office that evening when I came over at the behest of your cousin, Kenneth Okiti. Though we had not met before then, the 30 minutes meeting was as though we have always had a long standing relationship because you left an indelible impression on me. You opened my eyes to certain realities, I dare say, I have not given a thought to before then.
It still sounds unbelievable that you are gone. Severally, I had thought it was just a dream we would awake from. But here we are, we can't question God. Adieu Ochuko Okiti, rest in the bosom of the Lord!"
"I can't believe you are gone Ochuko...Rest in peace my dear friend.."
"Mr. Ochukò was such a selfless man, he celebrates success with no restriction. You were a genuine man. I envy what you achieved in such a little time. Our God is an Unquestionable God, who can question u? Kabío kòsí! I believe u have gone rest in HIS bossom where there is an everlasting life. Till we meet to part no more. Rest in Mr. Jame Ochukò Okití...."
My brother na wa oh, na so life be!!!!
Rest in peace OJAY. I am in shock!!!!!"
"A candle in the wind!!!!! Seek not to know for whom the bell tolls, it tolls for thee; Every tick of the clock moves you nearer the end. Slowly but surely, we all will get there. Life is brief and full of troubles. Ochuko Okiti a Valiant man, so Jovial, vibrant and Brilliant! Ochuko succumbs to sleep, the deep silence that leads to everlasting rest. You are more than a Friend, brother, boss and A LEADER! Your distinguishing roles while on earth are never in error. Haaa Akpo! Rest Peacefully In The Bosom Of Our Lord. In Jesus Name Amen
"My mentor my big bros,can't stop crying evrytym i tink about the fact you no more....may God continue to console your family..God be with you till we meet again Mr Oj..."
"i prayed that this day wouldn't come. i miss you boss. May your gentle soul rest in perfect peace."
I Always thought no death would ever get to me after the death of my father........ I remember how you helped me recover from that trauma, how you reminded me of my great potentials, and told me to get up and make a glass of lemonade out of the lemons Life gave me. How you taught me to be positive in the way I see Life and to dream of the positive impossible which is now a reality............ How you always listen and impact so much knowledge, I look back to where I was a year back and now I can only wish you were here to celebrate.
The news of your death threw me off balance and am still in tears, and I only pray and wish God blesses your wife and kids and give them strength to over come this trauma because you were a wonderful father even to me......... Listening to the song ADA ADA would never ever remain the same.
Sleep in the blossom of the Lord Sir........."
"It is really shocking to hear of your passing. When I got the SMS from Efe Egube, I was like which Okiti is he referring to?
It is so sad to see a good man pass at his prime. I pray GOD gives Tobore Okiti and your beautiful children the fortitude to bear this loss.
Rest in peace in great Ochuko Okiti."
You were way beyond your years! Very enterprising, articulate, 'big dreamer' but most specially 'a listening ear' and 'a true believer in good things not just for yourself but others too'.
You loved your wife and children and were a good role model! I will always respect and cherish your memories. Till resurrection morning..."
"May your gentle soul rest in peace. I still cant believe you are gone sir. I spoke to you 1 week before your passing, you were eating beans when I called and you reminded me that I was owing you lunch at the Hotel and I told you I was still waiting for your visit. You promised to visit soon. So the news of your passing was really shocking, but I am very blessed and privileged to have met you.
Thank you so much for believing in me 2006 to give me my first job which kick started my career (Moonwalker Connect Akowonjo). I always remember our first telephone conversation with a broad smile.
I remember the folks in MTN would always ask where you got the name Moonwalker, they would ask if you and Madam loved Michael Jackson so much. We would just tell that them we were just unique, a different class(walking on the moon things) lol.
Thank you for all your words of encouragement, all you taught me, for imbibing in us the spirit of excellence, you were an inspiration to me and the entire Moonwalker team.
Thank you for your generosity. You were always willing to share/impact your knowledge , always willing to coach, teach and mentor. Talking to you always made me laugh and feel refreshed and most importantly learn. We always looked forward to your visits and birthdays at the Connects as we were sure to get loads of goodies.
Thank you for your exemplary marriage and family life. You were a true definition of a great loving husband and awesome father and son.
You were genius and a rare gem.
I will definitely miss you My Oga, My Boss, Mr Okiti, Dada and Chukkie( as Madam fondly called you).
We know that God will surely take care of Mrs Joyce Okiti, Maro and Mase.
Thank you for being a blessing.
I thank God everyday that I met you and Mrs Okiti. You helped shape my little broken life. You are not just my boss but a brother and a friend. Your life is undeniably admirable!
Thank you for being the greatest husband and father to Mrs Okiti, Maro and Mase. You guys should have just adopted me because I already feel like I'm part of the family.
You know it broke me that you left but I know God has you in His arms.
I have you in my heart.....Always!"
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