ForeverMissed

 

 

 

To live in the hearts, we leave behind...

is not to die .

 

This memorial website was created in the memory of our dearest loved one, Abhijeet Singh, 19, born on March 7, 1992 and passed away on August 10, 2011. We  miss you from  our life and the big vaccumm you have created can be filled by none.I wish you knew how much you were loved.

Abhijeet  was persuing Mechanical Enginneering  from Manipal University. He was a strapping young man, 6 feet in height and an endearing smiling face. He was gregarious, fun and outdoors loving person who just loved to be in company of his friends.He was fond of trekking,  mountain climbing, Squash, and football. He was also very fond of clicking photographs and getting clicked.He was very fond of gadgets and new gizmos like any other teenager.He was fond of all things manly like motor bikes, guns, tanks  submarines,  fighter lanes, and other military paraphrenalia.

 His passion was ' Flying.'.. fighter aircrafts... so much so that I assume that in his last incarnation he must have been a fighter pilot. His passion was to soar in heavens. His only aim in life was to join Indian Air Force after his enginnering degree.He would have flown Sukhois and that would have been the happiest times in his life. If only God willed...

Abhijeet was a caring  loving son and a great elder brother to Abhishek. He was a role model and an ideal for his younger brother. He is greatly missed as a grand son and nephew and  as a great buddy to his numerous friends.  Abhijeet had moved frequently with his family and had learned to make friends fast. Naturally humble, and blessed with a jovial personality and wonderful sense of humor, people were quickly drawn to him.Wherever he went, he spread good cheer and sprinkled life and zest with his great sense of hiumour.How polite, compassionate and incredibly funny he was. He oozed maturity way beyond his years.Never did he ever utter a disparaging remark or critical word for anybody. He was the most compassionate and nonjudgemental person I have ever known.


   As a tale,  so is life ; not how long it is , but how good it is , what matters. 

We lost Abhijeet on 10 August 2011. He had gone for a swim in the Arabian sea with his friend Jana Kish. Both of them entered the sea around 3.o clock in the afternoon, never to come out again. And we were left with this deep stabbing pain in the heart and a with a  big question in the mind for the Almighty to answer-WHY?

Why was life snuffed out of a person so full of life and love for life? Why one of us is taken while the rest of us remain to endure the pain? For there are just so many things that no one can explain. The most painful goodbye was bid to him on 13th August and up  went in flames our hope, dreams and future imagined for him.

Abhijeet,we have you in our hearts while God has you in his arms. You have left your footprints on our hearts , and we will never be the same again. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

WHERE LOVE IS , DEATH CAN NEVER BE THE END OF THE STORY.  YOU are MY forever CHILD.

 Life is eternal, and love is immortal,and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

My son is not my PAST.HE IS MY FUTURE. We do not stop carrying those we love in our hearts and minds because we can't see or touch them. Their memories remain alive as an active part of our lives. Honoring memories is about preserving the gifts of love God allowed to grace our lives with on this earth. It's a holy love that dwells in the places carved inside our  hearts by love itself. It's part of the reason we are Who we are.

This  site is  still in the process of construction. Please visit  it  again soon. And please do write something to let me know you were here to celebrate the  living spirit of my Son.

New
February 6
February 6
I am grateful for all the memories I have of you . Grateful for all the lil stories of you growing up . Grateful for the cherubic smile of yours and grateful for all the naughty ways of yours .
And much more
New
February 5
February 5
And, one day
I looked back for you
But you weren’t there anymore
A stranger did I see
Looking back at me
And, in that very moment
I did promise
That I would keep on looking back for you
As I know
One day
I will
See you again


Art by S. Hee
January 2
January 2
Happy New Year Abhijeet. You are loved. You are missed. We count the days until we see you all again. The soul has gone out of this earth - there is not much left but disease, hunger, wars, greed, and catastrophes on an apocalyptical scale. I think the soul was sucked out of it when we lost our children, who embodied everything that was good in the world ❤
December 31, 2022
December 31, 2022
Happy new year wherever you are . Have a whale of time with all your friends up there . Will join you sooner than later .
December 31, 2022
December 31, 2022
Just wanted to say that you are so missed . The year end is a very stark reminder of life lived without you and all the time on earth that I will live without you . It is harsh and brutal to say the least .
December 29, 2022
December 29, 2022
Another year gone without you .
Life goes on
Without you it is not easy .
You will be always loved and always missed
November 6, 2022
November 6, 2022
i remember
how joyful it used to be
to come home
and to find you there
waiting for me.

your face would light up
and you’d say to me
“i’m so glad to see you”
and hug me tightly.

how i miss those hugs,
and the tearful hellos
instead of the sorrowful goodbyes
as you had to leave.

but then i reflect on
how joyful it will be
to come home
to Eternity someday
and find you there
waiting for me

your face will light up
and you’ll say to me
“i’m so glad to see you”
and hug me tightly.

until Eternity,
until Eternity…

-Liz Newman
August 10, 2022
August 10, 2022
Abhijeet.. Wish you did not go out on that dreadful day, even if you had to, wish you did not go to the beach, even if you went, wish you stayed in the sand and not venture in. So many ifs, and buts without answers.
Stay safe wherever you are..
August 9, 2022
August 9, 2022
Here is that dreaded day again . The day I lost you physically.
Your absence is always present in my life ., and you will never be forgotten. You are loved and will always be missed
Always .
July 23, 2022
July 23, 2022
Hey Baby
I love you so much
My heart aches for you
I wish to see you.
Plse look after your brother . Just make sure he keeps himself safe always .
July 16, 2022
July 16, 2022
Abhijeet
You and Kiru must be close friends just like me and yr momma hv becm
Stay safe..
No monkey business.. See if you can drop in smtm... Love you
July 13, 2022
July 13, 2022
Happy Guru Purnima
Your going has taught many lessons to me . So I bow to you .
You are gone from my sight but will always remain in my heart .
♥️♥️
July 4, 2022
July 4, 2022
My child , my love ,
I will never let this world forget you . I will always tell your stories . Even if it makes people feel uncomfortable , let them be . I am your rememberer . You will be loved and talked about and remembered and missed .
June 9, 2022
June 9, 2022
I often wonder what would I say to you if I could see you one more time . And I have come to the conclusion that there aren’t any words in our language for that moment .
Maybe I would simply hold you tight and cry . Maybe I will whisper I love you and I miss you . I always have and I always will .
March 7, 2022
March 7, 2022
Happy birthday to my Rockstar. You would have been married and well settled in your profession.
This day you made me a mom . The memories are precious and I would not trade them even in hindsight today . The things that I would have changed would have been - loving you hugging you more .
♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️
March 6, 2022
March 6, 2022
It is the eve of your 30 th Birthday.
It would have been a milestone.
Wherever you are. I send you all the love and happiness. Just keep safe in this birth and achieve all that you wanted to
Fly high my son
February 15, 2022
February 15, 2022
Missing you comes in waves .
Today I am drowning.
February 9, 2022
February 9, 2022
I love you more than you will ever know
February 6, 2022
February 6, 2022
I should have hugged you tighter when you were here . Sadly I didn’t. Wish I had one more chance
February 2, 2022
February 2, 2022
I know you are at peace
I wish I was too
January 1, 2022
January 1, 2022
Happy new year to you my son .
Wherever you are , may you always be loved and understood
Be joyful always .
November 4, 2021
November 4, 2021
My love
My heart longs to see you , hold you in my arms and never let you go .
Sending you all my love . May you have a great Diwali bash wherever you are .
May peace be yours .
November 3, 2021
November 3, 2021
Another Diwali without you .The pain gets unbearably sharp during festival time .
I send you all the love that I can hold in my heart . Trust me you are in a better place .
Hope to see you sooner than later .
August 20, 2021
August 20, 2021
Love is .
It remains
It doesn’t move on .
August 15, 2021
August 15, 2021
"Joy and sorrow are two sides of the same coin, you can’t have one without the other.

Together they come,and when one sits alone with you at your board remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.” (Kahlil Gibran)
August 10, 2021
August 10, 2021
The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but your memories shall never pass away! Will always hold you in my heart forever
July 2, 2021
July 2, 2021
As time goes by , I have discovered my grief has changed .Your laugh sounds further away and your hugs are no longer fresh in my mind , and the way you lit up the room with your beautiful smile seems like a distant memory.
In some ways I miss you more now than when I first lost you .
It doesn’t get easier with time but the pain just looks different .
June 15, 2021
June 15, 2021
My handsome son ,
I will never not remember you .
Ever .
June 9, 2021
June 9, 2021
You are somewhere amongst the stars for sure
That is why on the hardest nights, they shine the brightest .
June 3, 2021
June 3, 2021
We have you in our hearts and God has you in his arms
May 3, 2021
May 3, 2021
A thousand moments that I had just taken for granted , always assuming that there would be thousands more .
Wish I knew !
April 25, 2021
April 25, 2021
Horrible times going on . You are my guiding angel . Plse keep all my loved ones safe and sound .
April 20, 2021
April 20, 2021
Just because you are out of sight , does not mean that you are out of my mind .
Ever so close., just a veil away
April 3, 2021
April 3, 2021
Sometimes I want to hug you
SO MUCH
... and then I remember...
you’re gone
So I wrap myself up in a happy
memory
and Squeeze it until,
for a little while at least,
it’s enough
April 3, 2021
April 3, 2021
Wherever you are, I send you thoughts of love and joy .
May your life be filled with unconditional love and happiness. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
March 21, 2021
March 21, 2021
Flowers are everywhere. Nature at its best . But it just doesn’t feel like spring without you. You were the brightest and the biggest flower of my garden. Hope you are creating beauty and splendour wherever you are .
March 7, 2021
March 7, 2021
Happy birthday in heaven to you my love.
Wherever you are , may my blessings reach you . May the Lord shower you with the choicest blessings and surround you with peace and love
March 6, 2021
March 6, 2021
We wish to the new child,
A heart that can be beguiled,
By a flower,
That the wind lifts,
As it passes.
If the storms break for him,
May the trees shake for him,
Their blossoms down.
In the night that he is troubled,
May a friend wake for him,
So that his time be doubled,
And at the end of all loving and love
May the Man above,
Give him a crown."
March 6, 2021
March 6, 2021
Happy birthday eve my love .
You are alive in every breath that I take .
As long as I live , you will never be forgotten..
March 3, 2021
March 3, 2021
I carry you with me
Every where I go
Always
March 1, 2021
March 1, 2021

And before we leave,
Just know that you were not my misjudgement,
Or an impulse,
Just know that I wanted you more than anything else,
Far from an addiction,
Just know that I shall wander on this Earth thinking of you,
Although I might not have a clue and so might you,
Just know that some fragment of us will exist in some fragment of this universe,
Just know that it will forever be there
February 19, 2021
February 19, 2021
Your birthday is approaching . Soon you will be 29 . It is now a decade of missing you . It feels like a lifetime. It has been a brutal journey without you , but I feel and know for sure that you are in a beautiful place all surrounded by love , peace and beauty. Sending you unending love and peace .
February 14, 2021
February 14, 2021
Happy Valentine’s Day
Love you and miss you always
February 7, 2021
February 7, 2021
If I could create
Anything in the world,
What would it be?
I would create a room,
A room of magical memories.
The room would be decorated
Not with pillows, throws, and candles
But with your scent, your giggles,
In the corner, a pair of your baby sandals.
I could go to this room
And feel your tiny arms
Wrapped around my neck;
Once again, mesmerized by your charm.
This place does exist but
It is not a room;
It is my heart, filled with your soul.
It is an escape from the gloom.
No matter where I go,
No matter how far away,
This place of magical memories
Is where, together, we can stay
January 29, 2021
January 29, 2021
Sending you my love .I know you are there somewhere. I send you all the love held in my broken heart . And wishes for happiness and understanding wherever you are .
January 15, 2021
January 15, 2021
I loved you with the utmost love of which my soul is capable and you have been taken from me - yet in the agony of my spirit in surrendering such a treasure, I feel a thousand times richer than if I had never possessed it.
January 4, 2021
January 4, 2021
My mind still talks to you .My heart still looks for you , but my soul knows you are at peace . I miss you every single day .
December 31, 2020
December 31, 2020
Mujhe rahega intzaar tamam umr tera .
Ishq mujhe tujhse hee nahi , tere hone se bhi ha

Happy new year to you . May you always be surrounded by love and peace, wherever you are .
December 31, 2020
December 31, 2020
Enu,

The tribute you posted on December 27th was so beautiful and true.
God Bless
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And much more
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And, one day
I looked back for you
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And, in that very moment
I did promise
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As I know
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January 2
January 2
Happy New Year Abhijeet. You are loved. You are missed. We count the days until we see you all again. The soul has gone out of this earth - there is not much left but disease, hunger, wars, greed, and catastrophes on an apocalyptical scale. I think the soul was sucked out of it when we lost our children, who embodied everything that was good in the world ❤
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— You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once —
You lose them over and over, 
sometimes many times a day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up, 
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken, 
so does your memory, 
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.

Losing someone is a journey,
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Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea, 
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every day, 

for a lifetime.

August 10, 2021
 I  miss my son today. That goes without saying, I suppose, since I miss him every day. But on this day the pain is particularly sharp, the ache especially deep. I miss my friend, I miss my brother, I miss my protégé. I miss the son of my youth, the delight of my heart. I miss seeing him and hugging him, I miss teaching him and learning from him, I miss the sound of his voice and the cackle of his laugh. I miss having a son at all. I just plain miss my son . 

The time between now and when he went to heaven has passed so quickly, yet so slowly. It often feels like it was just yesterday that we received the phone call, just yesterday that we endured the cremation , just yesterday that we watched your body being claimed by orange yellow flames and the  pervasive smell of death.
 But at the same time it feels like it was a lifetime ago. We were different people back then, a different family with different desires, different assumptions, a different understanding of life and death and the God .
And just as the time between now and when my Son went to heaven has passed both quickly and slowly, I expect that the time between now and when I go to heaven will pass both quickly and slowly. This life is a dash, a blip, a vapor, yet just as truly a slog, a marathon, a long and wearying pilgrimage. I have often observed that while the brevity of life is best seen in retrospect, it’s the slowness of life that tends to be felt in the moment. It may be brief as we look back on it, but it’s long as we live it.
And it feels long today. It looks long today. It looks long as I gaze into the future and see a road laid out before me that may well lead through months, years, decades. It looks longer still as I consider the heavy burden of grief God has called me to bear. I am confident I can carry a great weight for a short distance, but far less confident that I can carry it for many miles or many years. I just don’t know how I will bear up under this sorrow if I have to carry it all the way to the end.
And just so, while God has called me to bear my grief for a lifetime, and to do so faithfully, he has not called me to bear the entire weight of it all at once. The burden of a whole lifetime’s grief would be far too heavy to bear and the challenge far too daunting to consider. But the God who knows my frailty has broken that assignment into little parts, little days, and has promised grace sufficient for each one of them. My challenge for today is not to bear the grief of a lifetime but only to carry today’s grief  that he has spread out before me.My  God-given task began this morning and extends only until tonight. Then, when I awaken with the dawning of a new day, I will awaken to new blessings, new strength, and new grace that will allow me to be strong  through that day as well. 

January 21, 2021
*I sat with you today*

I sat with you today you know,
I sat right in your chair, 
I know I could not see you, But I knew that you were there...  

I couldn't hear your voice at all, 
But I heard every word that was spoken,
I sat with you today you know,
Calm, but yet so heart broken...

I know you follow me around,
I have known it from the start,
But sometimes I am afraid to look,
So heavy is my heart...

I often feel you touch my face,
Or think I feel you near,
But when I try to see you,
It's like you just simply disappear...

I love you more and more each day,
And beg for you to know,
I find it harder everyday
Just to let you go...

I sat with you today you know
I am sure that was your scent
I cannot understand it though,
How you just suddenly went...

I will sit with you tomorrow,
If that's okay with you,
Sometimes it feels the only thing,
I still know what  to do...

I love you

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