ForeverMissed

 

 

 

To live in the hearts, we leave behind...

is not to die .

 

This memorial website was created in the memory of our dearest loved one, Abhijeet Singh, 19, born on March 7, 1992 and passed away on August 10, 2011. We  miss you from  our life and the big vaccumm you have created can be filled by none.I wish you knew how much you were loved.

Abhijeet  was persuing Mechanical Enginneering  from Manipal University. He was a strapping young man, 6 feet in height and an endearing smiling face. He was gregarious, fun and outdoors loving person who just loved to be in company of his friends.He was fond of trekking,  mountain climbing, Squash, and football. He was also very fond of clicking photographs and getting clicked.He was very fond of gadgets and new gizmos like any other teenager.He was fond of all things manly like motor bikes, guns, tanks  submarines,  fighter lanes, and other military paraphrenalia.

 His passion was ' Flying.'.. fighter aircrafts... so much so that I assume that in his last incarnation he must have been a fighter pilot. His passion was to soar in heavens. His only aim in life was to join Indian Air Force after his enginnering degree.He would have flown Sukhois and that would have been the happiest times in his life. If only God willed...

Abhijeet was a caring  loving son and a great elder brother to Abhishek. He was a role model and an ideal for his younger brother. He is greatly missed as a grand son and nephew and  as a great buddy to his numerous friends.  Abhijeet had moved frequently with his family and had learned to make friends fast. Naturally humble, and blessed with a jovial personality and wonderful sense of humor, people were quickly drawn to him.Wherever he went, he spread good cheer and sprinkled life and zest with his great sense of hiumour.How polite, compassionate and incredibly funny he was. He oozed maturity way beyond his years.Never did he ever utter a disparaging remark or critical word for anybody. He was the most compassionate and nonjudgemental person I have ever known.


   As a tale,  so is life ; not how long it is , but how good it is , what matters. 

We lost Abhijeet on 10 August 2011. He had gone for a swim in the Arabian sea with his friend Jana Kish. Both of them entered the sea around 3.o clock in the afternoon, never to come out again. And we were left with this deep stabbing pain in the heart and a with a  big question in the mind for the Almighty to answer-WHY?

Why was life snuffed out of a person so full of life and love for life? Why one of us is taken while the rest of us remain to endure the pain? For there are just so many things that no one can explain. The most painful goodbye was bid to him on 13th August and up  went in flames our hope, dreams and future imagined for him.

Abhijeet,we have you in our hearts while God has you in his arms. You have left your footprints on our hearts , and we will never be the same again. Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

WHERE LOVE IS , DEATH CAN NEVER BE THE END OF THE STORY.  YOU are MY forever CHILD.

 Life is eternal, and love is immortal,and death is only a horizon;
and a horizon is nothing save the limit of our sight.

My son is not my PAST.HE IS MY FUTURE. We do not stop carrying those we love in our hearts and minds because we can't see or touch them. Their memories remain alive as an active part of our lives. Honoring memories is about preserving the gifts of love God allowed to grace our lives with on this earth. It's a holy love that dwells in the places carved inside our  hearts by love itself. It's part of the reason we are Who we are.

This  site is  still in the process of construction. Please visit  it  again soon. And please do write something to let me know you were here to celebrate the  living spirit of my Son.

Posted by ENU SINGH on January 1, 2022
Happy new year to you my son .
Wherever you are , may you always be loved and understood
Be joyful always .
Posted by ENU SINGH on November 4, 2021
My love
My heart longs to see you , hold you in my arms and never let you go .
Sending you all my love . May you have a great Diwali bash wherever you are .
May peace be yours .
Posted by ENU SINGH on November 3, 2021
Another Diwali without you .The pain gets unbearably sharp during festival time .
I send you all the love that I can hold in my heart . Trust me you are in a better place .
Hope to see you sooner than later .
Posted by ENU SINGH on August 20, 2021
Love is .
It remains
It doesn’t move on .
Posted by Vanda Bubear on August 15, 2021
"Joy and sorrow are two sides of the same coin, you can’t have one without the other.

Together they come,and when one sits alone with you at your board remember that the other is asleep upon your bed.” (Kahlil Gibran)
Posted by Manisha Joshi on August 10, 2021
The world changes from year to year, our lives from day to day, but your memories shall never pass away! Will always hold you in my heart forever
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 2, 2021
As time goes by , I have discovered my grief has changed .Your laugh sounds further away and your hugs are no longer fresh in my mind , and the way you lit up the room with your beautiful smile seems like a distant memory.
In some ways I miss you more now than when I first lost you .
It doesn’t get easier with time but the pain just looks different .
Posted by ENU SINGH on June 15, 2021
My handsome son ,
I will never not remember you .
Ever .
Posted by ENU SINGH on June 9, 2021
You are somewhere amongst the stars for sure
That is why on the hardest nights, they shine the brightest .
Posted by ENU SINGH on June 3, 2021
We have you in our hearts and God has you in his arms
Posted by ENU SINGH on May 3, 2021
A thousand moments that I had just taken for granted , always assuming that there would be thousands more .
Wish I knew !
Posted by ENU SINGH on April 25, 2021
Horrible times going on . You are my guiding angel . Plse keep all my loved ones safe and sound .
Posted by ENU SINGH on April 20, 2021
Just because you are out of sight , does not mean that you are out of my mind .
Ever so close., just a veil away
Posted by ENU SINGH on April 3, 2021
Sometimes I want to hug you
SO MUCH
... and then I remember...
you’re gone
So I wrap myself up in a happy
memory
and Squeeze it until,
for a little while at least,
it’s enough
Posted by ENU SINGH on April 3, 2021
Wherever you are, I send you thoughts of love and joy .
May your life be filled with unconditional love and happiness. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 21, 2021
Flowers are everywhere. Nature at its best . But it just doesn’t feel like spring without you. You were the brightest and the biggest flower of my garden. Hope you are creating beauty and splendour wherever you are .
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 7, 2021
Happy birthday in heaven to you my love.
Wherever you are , may my blessings reach you . May the Lord shower you with the choicest blessings and surround you with peace and love
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 6, 2021
We wish to the new child,
A heart that can be beguiled,
By a flower,
That the wind lifts,
As it passes.
If the storms break for him,
May the trees shake for him,
Their blossoms down.
In the night that he is troubled,
May a friend wake for him,
So that his time be doubled,
And at the end of all loving and love
May the Man above,
Give him a crown."
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 6, 2021
Happy birthday eve my love .
You are alive in every breath that I take .
As long as I live , you will never be forgotten..
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 3, 2021
I carry you with me
Every where I go
Always
Posted by ENU SINGH on March 1, 2021

And before we leave,
Just know that you were not my misjudgement,
Or an impulse,
Just know that I wanted you more than anything else,
Far from an addiction,
Just know that I shall wander on this Earth thinking of you,
Although I might not have a clue and so might you,
Just know that some fragment of us will exist in some fragment of this universe,
Just know that it will forever be there
Posted by ENU SINGH on February 20, 2021
I look for you .

Posted by ENU SINGH on February 19, 2021
Your birthday is approaching . Soon you will be 29 . It is now a decade of missing you . It feels like a lifetime. It has been a brutal journey without you , but I feel and know for sure that you are in a beautiful place all surrounded by love , peace and beauty. Sending you unending love and peace .
Posted by ENU SINGH on February 14, 2021
Happy Valentine’s Day
Love you and miss you always
Posted by ENU SINGH on February 7, 2021
If I could create
Anything in the world,
What would it be?
I would create a room,
A room of magical memories.
The room would be decorated
Not with pillows, throws, and candles
But with your scent, your giggles,
In the corner, a pair of your baby sandals.
I could go to this room
And feel your tiny arms
Wrapped around my neck;
Once again, mesmerized by your charm.
This place does exist but
It is not a room;
It is my heart, filled with your soul.
It is an escape from the gloom.
No matter where I go,
No matter how far away,
This place of magical memories
Is where, together, we can stay
Posted by ENU SINGH on January 29, 2021
Sending you my love .I know you are there somewhere. I send you all the love held in my broken heart . And wishes for happiness and understanding wherever you are .
Posted by ENU SINGH on January 15, 2021
I loved you with the utmost love of which my soul is capable and you have been taken from me - yet in the agony of my spirit in surrendering such a treasure, I feel a thousand times richer than if I had never possessed it.
Posted by ENU SINGH on January 4, 2021
My mind still talks to you .My heart still looks for you , but my soul knows you are at peace . I miss you every single day .
Posted by Cindy Baumann on December 31, 2020
Enu,

The tribute you posted on December 27th was so beautiful and true.
God Bless
Posted by ENU SINGH on December 31, 2020
Mujhe rahega intzaar tamam umr tera .
Ishq mujhe tujhse hee nahi , tere hone se bhi ha

Happy new year to you . May you always be surrounded by love and peace, wherever you are .
Posted by ENU SINGH on December 27, 2020
*_The Earth does not cradle the Sun in her arms nor hold Him tight against her chest. in fact the Earth does not even touch the Sun! And yet, all life on Earth happens because of the Sun._*

*_There is no visible or tangible connection binding the Earth to the Sun. But the relationship between the two is unquestionable! Is it not?_*

*_It matters not if you cannot touch or hold something that your life depends upon. Life does not end because the Earth cannot touch or hold the Sun . Instead the reason that life goes on is because the Earth is touched by the Sun - each day, every day! A phenomenon that will continue till the end of eternity

Just like you and me
Posted by ENU SINGH on December 26, 2020
You were part of this decade which will soon be over .
The 20’s will start soon . I will though keep wondering what you would have been today
Posted by ENU SINGH on December 25, 2020
Merry Christmas to you
Posted by ENU SINGH on December 24, 2020
Merry Christmas my baby love
It was your kind of festival. You loved this time of the year .
Have a great time up there . Sending you tons of love .
Posted by ENU SINGH on November 1, 2020
Kya kahu ?
Tum sab jaante ho
It is your bro ‘s birthday tomorrow
He will be 24 tomorrow .
Plse always ensure that he is safe and sound . Protect him from anything which is dark and negative.
Love you so much my baby . See you sooner than later .
Posted by ENU SINGH on September 27, 2020
I called you
It says YOUR CALL CANOT BE CONNECTED AT THE MOMENT.PLEASE TRY AFTER SOME TIME .
So when should I call again?
Posted by ENU SINGH on September 26, 2020
It has settled deep under my skin, into my bones
the love
the loss
the joy
the pain
Posted by Enu Singh on September 4, 2020
I was looking at the family pics today and still it has not yet sunk in that you will never be part of the pics again . Wish the pics were complete with your presence .
Posted by ENU SINGH on August 19, 2020
Sometimes I canot find a reason why you are not there
Sometimes I turn to look back to find you ,
With thought that I would like to share
Posted by Vanda Bubear on August 12, 2020
Always in my thoughts. I wonder what you are making of this world today, and the dreadful state it's in? Look after your mum and family and show her lots of signs. I will meet you one day xxxx
Posted by Cindy Baumann on August 10, 2020
Thinking about you Enu and sending a hug and healing prayers.
Posted by ENU SINGH on August 9, 2020
I will always talk about how you brought that specialness to my life
Posted by ENU SINGH on August 9, 2020
I wish I could hug you and keep hugging you till my soul melted with tears.
Posted by ENU SINGH on August 1, 2020
Zikr tera hawaon se jab bhi kiya karte hai...
Yaado me teri khushbu ka hum Ehsaas karte hai !!!!
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 30, 2020
Door Hokar Bhi Door Tum Nahi Ho ..... ‍❤️‍
Paas Ho Lekin Paas Kyu Nahi Ho ......
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 29, 2020
I will love you
Forever
I will miss you forever
I will speak your name forever
I will remember you forever
I will carry you in my heart forever.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on July 29, 2020
Be close to your mum in these messed up times Abhijeet. Hold us close as we struggle to continue on here amidst the chaos. Love and light xxx
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 28, 2020
Looking at your pics these days
All the growing up years
From a cute lil bundle of joy to the young and handsome.
The mental picture of you lying on the beach is still so strong though .
Sending you love . Loads .
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 21, 2020
The day of your departure from this earth is approaching. All days are same but still new tidal waves of sadness engulf me every time . I just wish that har Khushi ho vaha , tu jahan bhi rahe. .
Posted by ENU SINGH on July 19, 2020
I keep wondering how you would have taken  these trying times of pandemic. I am kind of sure you would have been somewhere posted in some Cantonment.
Miss you always and every time my son . God bless you wherever you are
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Posted by ENU SINGH on January 1, 2022
Happy new year to you my son .
Wherever you are , may you always be loved and understood
Be joyful always .
Posted by ENU SINGH on November 4, 2021
My love
My heart longs to see you , hold you in my arms and never let you go .
Sending you all my love . May you have a great Diwali bash wherever you are .
May peace be yours .
Posted by ENU SINGH on November 3, 2021
Another Diwali without you .The pain gets unbearably sharp during festival time .
I send you all the love that I can hold in my heart . Trust me you are in a better place .
Hope to see you sooner than later .
Recent stories
Shared by ENU SINGH on September 24, 2021
— You Don’t Just Lose Someone Once —
You lose them over and over, 
sometimes many times a day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up, 
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every time you open your eyes to a new dawn,
and as you awaken, 
so does your memory, 
so does the jolting bolt of lightning that rips into your heart,
they are gone.
Again.

Losing someone is a journey,
not a one-off.
There is no end to the loss,
there is only a learned skill on how to stay afloat,
when it washes over.

Be kind to those who are sailing this stormy sea, 
they have a journey ahead of them,
and a daily shock to the system each time they realise,
they are gone,
Again.

You don’t just lose someone once, 
you lose them every day, 

for a lifetime.

Shared by ENU SINGH on August 10, 2021
 I  miss my son today. That goes without saying, I suppose, since I miss him every day. But on this day the pain is particularly sharp, the ache especially deep. I miss my friend, I miss my brother, I miss my protégé. I miss the son of my youth, the delight of my heart. I miss seeing him and hugging him, I miss teaching him and learning from him, I miss the sound of his voice and the cackle of his laugh. I miss having a son at all. I just plain miss my son . 

The time between now and when he went to heaven has passed so quickly, yet so slowly. It often feels like it was just yesterday that we received the phone call, just yesterday that we endured the cremation , just yesterday that we watched your body being claimed by orange yellow flames and the  pervasive smell of death.
 But at the same time it feels like it was a lifetime ago. We were different people back then, a different family with different desires, different assumptions, a different understanding of life and death and the God .
And just as the time between now and when my Son went to heaven has passed both quickly and slowly, I expect that the time between now and when I go to heaven will pass both quickly and slowly. This life is a dash, a blip, a vapor, yet just as truly a slog, a marathon, a long and wearying pilgrimage. I have often observed that while the brevity of life is best seen in retrospect, it’s the slowness of life that tends to be felt in the moment. It may be brief as we look back on it, but it’s long as we live it.
And it feels long today. It looks long today. It looks long as I gaze into the future and see a road laid out before me that may well lead through months, years, decades. It looks longer still as I consider the heavy burden of grief God has called me to bear. I am confident I can carry a great weight for a short distance, but far less confident that I can carry it for many miles or many years. I just don’t know how I will bear up under this sorrow if I have to carry it all the way to the end.
And just so, while God has called me to bear my grief for a lifetime, and to do so faithfully, he has not called me to bear the entire weight of it all at once. The burden of a whole lifetime’s grief would be far too heavy to bear and the challenge far too daunting to consider. But the God who knows my frailty has broken that assignment into little parts, little days, and has promised grace sufficient for each one of them. My challenge for today is not to bear the grief of a lifetime but only to carry today’s grief  that he has spread out before me.My  God-given task began this morning and extends only until tonight. Then, when I awaken with the dawning of a new day, I will awaken to new blessings, new strength, and new grace that will allow me to be strong  through that day as well. 

Shared by ENU SINGH on January 21, 2021
*I sat with you today*

I sat with you today you know,
I sat right in your chair, 
I know I could not see you, But I knew that you were there...  

I couldn't hear your voice at all, 
But I heard every word that was spoken,
I sat with you today you know,
Calm, but yet so heart broken...

I know you follow me around,
I have known it from the start,
But sometimes I am afraid to look,
So heavy is my heart...

I often feel you touch my face,
Or think I feel you near,
But when I try to see you,
It's like you just simply disappear...

I love you more and more each day,
And beg for you to know,
I find it harder everyday
Just to let you go...

I sat with you today you know
I am sure that was your scent
I cannot understand it though,
How you just suddenly went...

I will sit with you tomorrow,
If that's okay with you,
Sometimes it feels the only thing,
I still know what  to do...

I love you