In 1984, I was a very young and inexperienced lawyer. For reasons only known to Alfred and Celine, they asked me to take a look at some of their planning needs. That first meeting developed into a 30 year friendship of love and admiration for a couple who I often think of as poster children for that special bond that only a few marriages cultivate to perfection. And their kids are pretty neat, too.
When Celine passed, Alfred found some comfort in their Rowayton garden. My husband, Magnus ("Bud") and I offered to help a bit with clean up as we fancied ourselves as gardeners and we enjoyed being with Alfred. There was always something life-affirming about being with Alfred. We always left Pennoyer Street feeling as if we were getting the best end of the visit! I will never forget the look on Alfred's face when I "pruned" the clematis growing alongside the shed. I checked with "organic gardening.com" to make sure that I was doing what was appropriate to clear the flowering vine for its Spring visit. The article said : "It's the confusing advice about pruning that deters so many people from growing clematis. But take heart: "You cannot kill a clematis by pruning it, and there is no wrong time," says Linda Beutler, curator of the Rogerson Clematis Collection in West Linn, Oregon, and author of Gardening with Clematis. "The worst that will happen is that your clematis will bloom later than normal." No, Ms. Beutler, the worst thing that will happen is that you manage to KILL Alfred and Celine's 50 year old clematis. Alfred still spoke with me, but enlisted others to aid with the garden.
Just before Alfred moved to be with Malvina and Tom in Indiana, he permitted a garden raid unlike any other. We took whatever our helpers could carry in their pick up truck. I dug up everything imaginable and transplanted all to our New Canaan home and our Catskill farm. Alfred and Celine will always be with us, and I have a special smile reserved for the alliums that Alfred brought to me to brighten my office day one September, years ago. Those alliums bloom now in my garden, and are pictured this site. Before Alfred came along, the allium were called "purple spikey things". I miss my friend. I am honored to have the opportunity to try to keep his garden legacy.