E-mail exchange excerpts between Cindy Hagen Lukas and Arvin's sister, Karen Christianson:
CINDY (April 29, 2015)
I "cried on Alden's shoulder" yesterday [Arvin's brother, on a long-distance telephone call from Fargo to Williston, ND], because I was so sad. I've been in Fargo for almost two weeks and have gotten emotionally worn out. This transition has been very difficult for Dad, so it's been hard for me, too. After a good night's sleep, I'm leaving Audra's house, stopping at Dad's, then will be on my way back to St Paul...One thing I've discovered is that Dad believes life-size baby dolls are real and bring out his most tender, caring side. He talked to, sang, and cradled it.
KAREN (April 30, 2015)
We are coming through on the 15th and back through the 16th when
we come down for Matt's graduation from law school. We won't be able to stay long either time, but really look forward to seeing Arvin again. He was SO good on his birthday and I am having trouble imagining that he has failed so much in 3 weeks. It is scary to me, but hopefully he can get adjusted and do better again. Love you, Aunt Karen
CINDY (May 3, 2015)
To be honest, Dad may not last that long. Allan called me tonight and I'm heading back to Fargo tomorrow. Dad's quit eating and drinking. It's possible that things may turn around, but it's probably unlikely. Being dependent on others just isn't how he wants to live. Sorry I don't have better news.
KAREN (May 6, 2015)
Your mom called Monday evening, so guess I am not expecting positive changes. I would love that more than anything, but know that that is not my choice. We return on Saturday and hopefully I can come on Sunday to just sit and talk to him if he is still with us. Love him so much! Love you, too. Thanks for keeping us updated. Your mom didn't say he had quit eating and drinking, but did indicate it probably wouldn't be long.