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Barbara Ann Goodman, RN (née Straw) died peacefully after a short illness in Owasso, Oklahoma on October 1st, 2016 at the age of 80. She was surrounded by loving friends and she inspired them until her last breath and beyond. If you are taking the time to read this, Barbara would thank you and ask you to “Touch each shoulder - That’s a hug from me.” 

Barbara is survived by her daughter, Kelli Goodman, and by her five grandchildren; Matthew Weker, Jeremiah Rice, Isabella Capiro, Andres Capiro, and Thomas Dietrich. Barbara is also survived by her cousin, Sydney Miller of Dallas, TX, who helped her move from Florida to Oklahoma for the last 6 months of her life, and by her son in law, Alex Capiro, who helped her with her affairs.

She leaves behind many more loving family members and friends. Other dear ones include two she considered sisters, Barbara Johnson and Jane Lyons. Barbara and Tom often referred to neighbors and long-time friends, Revs. Barbara and Phil Johnson, as their “pastors”. Also included is the Johnsons’ grandson, Cooper Phillips, considered a grandson by Barbara, and Jane’s daughter, Heidi, a longtime friend and a helper during her last month of life. She leaves behind many more beloved family members and friends scattered all over the country.

Barbara is preceded in death by her husband of, as Barbara would say, “56 years, 2 months, and 1 week”, Dr. Thomas Allen Goodman, 12/28/31-2/21/13. She is also preceded in death by her youngest daughter, Jennifer Goodman Dietrich, MD, and by her middle daughter, Katherine Goodman Capiro, RN.  Those who love her like to think of the four of them together in Heaven; happy, healthy, and sending blessings to all those they love, with special Angel kisses for Kelli and the grandkids.

Barbara Ann Straw was born on 7/12/36 in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma to Viva and James Straw. She graduated from High School in 1954 and began college. She married Tom Goodman, her college sweetheart, completed nursing school, helped him through his Psychiatry Residency, and completed 27 moves over his career. Tom’s career included working as a psychiatrist in the Air Force, getting a law degree, becoming an accomplished painter, and a long and stoic battle with cancer. Tom exhibited a great compassion and love for people throughout his life. He understated his accomplishments, loved to learn, and adored his wife, children, and grandchildren.

Their marriage was exceptionally happy and close and they enjoyed 56 years together before Tom passed away in 2013 after a 23-year battle with cancer. Tom used to say that one of the secrets to a happy marriage is “learning to fuss with each other well”.  That meant never saying anything mean that you can’t take back, and working things out quickly so no grudges are kept. 

Barbara worked as a nurse in a large orthopedic unit, in an adolescent psychiatric unit, and in many other capacities. Barbara and Tom had three brilliant and amazing daughters, Kelli, Kathy, and Jenny.  Their surviving daughter, Kelli, remembers her Mom as a hard working mother who taught her children to think for themselves, and who encouraged them to pursue their goals. Kelli said,                                                                                                                                                                                                                          "She had faith in me and in all of us. She held true to family until the end with love and kindness.”

Barbara encouraged everyone she knew to overcome adversity and accomplish their goals, and she prayed for each of them during her daily devotions. She was funny and fiery, and could elicit a belly laugh from almost anyone. She was generous and passionate about making the world a better place, doing countless thoughtful and often anonymous things for those she cared for or with whom she came in contact. She believed wealth was a tool for good and supported many charities, including the Oklahoma Baptist Homes for Children in Owasso and St. Jude Children’s Research Hospital.

An interment of Barbara’s and Tom’s ashes is scheduled for 10:30 AM on May 7th, 2017 at Rose Hill Cemetery in Oklahoma City, Oklahoma. They will be laid to rest beside their two beloved daughters who preceded them in death. Barbara’s dear friend, Reverend Barbara Johnson, will officiate the ceremony. All are welcome to attend and celebrate Barbara’s life. Afterward, everyone is invited to join the family for lunch at the Cheesecake Factory and share stories of Barbara and Tom.

Condolences can be sent to Kelli Goodman, 1133 Portland Place, Apt. 218, Boulder, CO  80304.

As Barbara often said, “It’ll be OK, Darlin!” Then she would send you off with “An Angel on each shoulder”.

October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
I continue to miss all of the Goodman’s. Time has passed yet their influence on my life never lessens. I am fortunate to have been part of their family. Tell Katherine I miss and love her
October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
Dear Barbara, I remember you with so much love and gratitude on this 7th anniversary of your passing. I know you and beautiful Barbara Johnson are together laughing up a storm! Love you and miss you both.
August 22, 2022
August 22, 2022
Barbara touched our lives because of her great capacity to love. God is love.
She knew the Savior, Jesus Christ, and His amazing love for all of us. We can see each other again in eternity if we receive the love and forgiveness of Jesus as our personal savior and follow Him. I pray that all of Barbara's family and loved ones will come to know the love of Jesus and meet us in eternity with the one who inspired our precious Barbara's love. P.S. Does anyone know what happened to the photo album given to Barbara shortly before her trip to Oklahoma?
July 12, 2022
July 12, 2022
Love you forever, beautiful Barbara! You were a true beauty, inside and out.
October 1, 2021
October 1, 2021
How have five years passed since you left for your heavenly home? You are such a blessing!
July 12, 2021
July 12, 2021
A wonderful woman and great mother-in-law. With good people words always fall short. This is certainly the case with Barbara. I miss their whole family, it's hard to digest how disease destroys deserving people. I am an atheist, but I hope their is a way to see Katherine, Barbara, Jennifer and Tom again. I miss them and that will not change.
July 12, 2021
July 12, 2021
Happy birthday in heaven, Barbara! Thinking of you today with gratitude. ❤️❤️❤️
July 12, 2020
July 12, 2020
Happy birthday, Barbara! This year you get to celebrate with your bestie, Barbara Johnson! Thinking of y’all with such gratitude and wonderful memories. Keep the Angel blessings coming, please! Love, Heidi
July 12, 2019
July 12, 2019
Barbara, I am thinking of you with gratitude. Today you would be 83! Love you!
October 1, 2018
October 1, 2018
I miss your long-distance hugs, my dear cousin!! You're often in my thoughts and I continue to miss you and our delightful conversations. However, I know you're in an absolutely amazing and breathtakingly beautiful place, surrounded by your family and friends who passed before you. Keep smiling, Barbara Ann!! Love and miss you always! 
October 1, 2018
October 1, 2018
Missing you, Barbara! I’m so grateful for your presence in my life! Please keep those Angel blessings coming. Sending love to all of you Goodman Angels!
July 14, 2018
July 14, 2018
Hello Dear Cousin!! You remain in my thoughts and prayers very often. I miss our phone conversations and the laughs and tears we shared together.  I will always consider you one of the biggest blessings in my life. We will meet again some day, when I cross over and begin my "new life". Love to you always, Barbara
October 1, 2017
October 1, 2017
Dearest Barbara, I am thinking of you today and feeling grateful for how you enriched my life with prayers and encouragement. I'm also grateful for those I met through you who loved and cared for you so well. All blessings to you, Tom, Kathy, and Jenny. Love, Heidi
October 1, 2017
October 1, 2017
It's been a whole year now since you left us and went to your Heavenly home where you were joyfully reunited with Tom, Jennifer, and Katherine. I still miss you every day, miss our phone conversations and our times of laughing together. Rest happily, my precious friend; and know that we deeply appreciate how you left our world a better place than it was before you arrived. Like the great Apostle Paul once wrote to his friend, I say, "I thank my God every time I remember you."
July 12, 2017
July 12, 2017
Happy Birthday in Heaven, precious friend! I think of you every day, and see your fingerprints on so many blessings in my life. You are deeply missed. You left this world a much better place because of all the love and kindness you shared while you were here. Touch each shoulder, dear Barbara, and that's a hug! xoxox
May 15, 2017
May 15, 2017
Barbara Goodman was one of the most lovely people I have ever known. She was kind, generous, loving, smart and funny. We spent many times on the phone praying and laughing. I met Barbara through my parents and her daughter. My parents knew Barbara and Tom while in San Francisco. Years later Katherine Goodman and I attended nursing school together and were suite-mates. Katherine and I had many wonderful times and made many memories together. Barbara, Tom, and Jennifer came to celebrate birthdays, capping ceremony, and finally Graduation. After graduation, Katherine and I worked in the emergency room together. We celebrated Katherine's bridal shower and wedding to Alex Capiro in South Pasadena. Barbara became a friend to me through Katherine. Funny Barbara-isms: "Smile and wave" "Touch each shoulder and that's a hug from me". One of my happy memories was seeing how much my parents enjoyed time with Barbara and Tom Goodman. I will miss Barbara and her daughter, Katherine, but am looking forward to seeing them in eternity with Jesus.
April 25, 2017
April 25, 2017
Barbara Ann was one of my cousins, actually closer in age to her uncle, my late father, Buck Smith, than me. However; after the death of my son, Barbara Ann reached out to me and the two of us reconnected long-distance via telephone. She was a wonderful woman, with good advice coming from a heart full of love. I always enjoyed my conversations with her, and likewise, she enjoyed talking with me. I am saddened by her passing, yet, I know Barbara Ann is in a beautiful place now, whole and healthy once again, and back with her late husband, and two of her daughters. Through Barbara Ann, I connected with a second-cousin whom I'd never met, her daughter, Kelli, with whom I maintain contact via telephone. Barbara Ann touched so many lives during her life, and I will always remember her looking as beautiful as she did in her nursing school graduation photo. I continue to have my angels touching each shoulder, dear, dear cousin, and you will remain forever in my mind and especially my heart.
April 18, 2017
April 18, 2017
What a wonderful, God-given friendship we shared with you, dear Barbara and Tom. First many years as neighbors, and always ever after you moved away. You were there as I went through breast cancer, as Phil had five-bypass surgery, and as we adopted a 2 year old at-risk grandson when Phil was 75 and I was 59. What encouragement and positive input you and Tom provided. We will be eternally grateful beyond words to express the big part you have filled in our hearts. God bless and keep you forever in His loving care. We will see you again someday, and will never again have to rush through a conversation and can laugh again together as loudly and as long as we want!! Always in my heart, you two. xoxox Barbara (and Phil)

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October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
I continue to miss all of the Goodman’s. Time has passed yet their influence on my life never lessens. I am fortunate to have been part of their family. Tell Katherine I miss and love her
October 1, 2023
October 1, 2023
Dear Barbara, I remember you with so much love and gratitude on this 7th anniversary of your passing. I know you and beautiful Barbara Johnson are together laughing up a storm! Love you and miss you both.
August 22, 2022
August 22, 2022
Barbara touched our lives because of her great capacity to love. God is love.
She knew the Savior, Jesus Christ, and His amazing love for all of us. We can see each other again in eternity if we receive the love and forgiveness of Jesus as our personal savior and follow Him. I pray that all of Barbara's family and loved ones will come to know the love of Jesus and meet us in eternity with the one who inspired our precious Barbara's love. P.S. Does anyone know what happened to the photo album given to Barbara shortly before her trip to Oklahoma?
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January 19, 2020
I first met Barbara& Tom in 1990 when Katherine and I were dating and she took me to Tulsa to meet her parents.  Barbara was the talker and Tom the observer.  She was struck by her beauty, beautiful smile and energy.  She treated me with kindness and honesty.  Katherine and I married in 1991 and she was a positive influence in our lives.  She really loved her daughters and constantly sent them small gifts as reminders of their familial bond.  When Jennifer was diagnosed with cancer she was by her side, in fact their psychiatry practice almost failed dure to their attention to Jennifer’s health issue.  This was repeated with Katherine’s diagnosis,Tom and Barbara were attentive to her needs.  They were loving parents yet respectful of the nuclear family each daughter had developed.  Barbara also had to deal with TOM’s cancer diagnosis and treatment.  To be honest the last 20 years of her live were a struggle and was only bearable due to her indomitable spirit and love for her family.  She suffered greatly but somehow took care of everyone. As her son in law I loved her greatly even though we fought at times.   She permitted Katherine and I to have a great marriage by not interfering as many in laws do.  She also permitted me to take care of Katherine during the cancer treatment when I’m sure she wanted to actively participate in the difficult decisions that had to be made.  She always showed me respect and loved her grandchildren.  After Katherine’s death we spoke often and I really saw the grit and sorrow she endured.  She was bright, well read and upbeat considering the events in her life.  I  am an atheist , but if I’m wrong, I know Barbara, Tom, Jennifer and Katherine are in heaven.  They were truly remarkable people, each of them made a positive contribution to society and were a pleasure to be with.  I miss them all.  Katherine who was very similar to Barbara taught how to be man by patience and having a strong moral compass. I miss them all



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