ForeverMissed

This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Barbara Preston who was born on October 21, 1949 and passed away on March 1, 2008. We will remember her forever.

As the third anniversary of Barb's death approaches, I wanted to create something more lasting for her memories.  I do miss her very much.  I think about her and our childhood as well as our recent pass.  I am planning on adding photos, video and stories about Barb.  I hope others who knew her will do so as well.  Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

 

BARB’S MEMORIAL in Ohio July 2008 given by her sister Pat

        

          I find this memorial harder to do than the first that we had in Seattle.  Barb’s death was such a total shock I don’t think the reality had sunk in.  But now at times I find it much harder. She is missed by so many. We received so many e-mails, cards and phone calls from family and friends after her death.   Her friends have kept in touch and several have come today from Ann Arbor, Boston and Las Vegas.  They held remembrance events in Rochester and Ann Arbor in addition to our service in Seattle.  Their responses helped so much to get us all through such a difficult time. 

 

 When I am really feeling down and missing her as I do often, I rely on the same source of comfort that I found in Seattle.   Her photos albums-  the hundreds of pictures she took when traveling, for family events, of her nephews and niece and all of her friends and their families. 

           

As I look through them I feel as I did then that she is with me and we’re traveling through those events again.  She really had a good life and did so much.  She traveled all over the world.   She came to visit Chris and I in England just after we were married after hitch hiking across Europe.  She said she wasn’t afraid to travel on her own as she would stay at youth hostels and meet up with other students and then travel with them.  She traveled to Russia before the fall of the Soviet Union and brought back photos, video and souvenirs of her travels, which she always did.   She traveled to Turkey and met a Turkish student on the train who invited her to visit his village and attend his cousin’s wedding.  She did and had a wonderful time.  Her photos show her dressed in traditional costume at his village.  She maintained contact with the family once she returned home. 

She traveled to Cuba, the Dominican Republic and Costa Rica.  She documented her travels with photos and often with written descriptions of her travels which are very interesting.  I came across one of her early trips to visit us in Yuma.  It was great and I made copies for both my kids to save. 

 

Barb loved to dress up and encouraged her nephews and niece to dress up.  We had several murder mystery dinners in which everyone played a part and dressed up in the appropriate costumes.  Barb would take the kids to the Salvation Army and buy pieces for the costumes.  The kids loved it when Barb would come to visit, particularly when they were younger and would ask us (the parents) to go places and do things we weren’t quite up for,  they would always say wait until Auntie Barb comes she’ll do it with us.  We

have loads of pictures of Barb in costume.  She would dress up at Halloween and pass out candy to the neighborhood kids or participate in a haunted house event.   

 

            She loved animals.  She had her cat Raskol for twelve years and missed him very much when he died.   She taught him tricks and he performed on local Rochester TV.  She gave a grand birthday party for him in Rochester and invited friends.  She made special invitations,  a special catnip cake, had champagne.  All of her Rochester friends remembered it well.  She volunteered at the Seattle Humane Society.  She house sat and

took care of cats, dogs and even horses when she was in Seattle.  Her friend who owned the horses said she even road them as well.

 

            Barb loved to take photos and especially videos at our family reunions.  She would interview people and try and get them to tell stories about when they were young or funny stories about other family members.  She loved to hear Milton tell his jokes and we have videos of those events. 

 

            She loved her nephews and niece and was very proud of her new grandnephew.  Barb was able to visit at Thanksgiving just after Jude was born.  She also got to come and see him at Christmas time.   She loved children and enjoyed being with them.  Her friends’ children remember her as do her niece and nephews.  

 

            In Seattle I said that we would be passing down stories about Jude’s great Aunt Barb and we will so that he will know and remember that he had a truly great Aunt who made friends and was loved by so many people who miss her dearly and will keep her memory alive.  We won’t forget you Barb.  

 

Posted by allison stieber on October 22, 2020
Barbara and I used to take rides in the country or visit various places in order to take photos. She was very disciplined in setting up her shots, while I was a complete amateur. Over the last six years, I've been taking camera lessons and have improved a lot. It would be so great if I could send Barbara links to my recent photo galleries so I could find out which pics she liked and why. I'm sure she'd have observations that no one else would. Just one of the many ways I miss her.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 22, 2020
I can,t believe you would have been 71 this year. We all still miss you. We,re at Heather,s and helping Lucy and Mateo get ready for Halloween. Halloween was always one of your favorites. You loved dressing up. I'm not sure you would be enjoying 2020. But I'm sure you would have been out marching with Bill because there are so many causes out there, including covid 19 and Trump and the election. I continue to remember you always. You are part of me.
Posted by Joyce Nakada on October 21, 2020
I think of Barb every Halloween -- my least favorite holiday and one she loved...She would have done something very creative this year, and found some humor between the masks and isolation and Halloween. It occurs to me that Barb would have despised Donald Trump even more than I do -- perhaps it was good she was spared having to endure his presidency...
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2020

Today, March 1, 2020 is the 12th anniversary of your passing. I can't believe it has been so long. You are constantly in my thoughts and will be remembered always.
I most miss you when I am with the grandkids. They had so much fun this past Christmas. We all got together at our cabin in the mountains of AZ. It snowed on Christmas Day. The kids had their sleds, they went sledding down the hills back of the cabin. They built snowmen and had snowball fights.  I thought about you very much and know you would have loved it. You are in our memories always!




This post was from Oct 21, 2019, your birthday. Barb today was your 70th birthday! We are going to drink to your memory tonight. We miss you always but think sa bout you especially on your birthday. And because it"s almost Halloween. We think about how much you enjoyed dressing up and encouraging the kids to dress up.
This year Heather and family are dressing up as characters from Little Mermaid. Lucy, who is 3 now, will ge the Little Mermaid, Mateo, who.is 15mos will be Sebatian, the crab. Heather will be Ursula, the octopus and Mario will be Prince Eric. We are helping make the costumes. Uou would love it. We will be thinking of you as we make them and go out on Halloween. You have left us with so many happy memories. You are always with us.
Posted by allison stieber on March 1, 2019
In the 11 years since you've been gone, no friend, old or new, has filled the void left in my life. I wish I believed I'd see and be with you again some day. Lacking that faith, I continue-- always -- to treasure memories of fun times, great conversations, and close companionship.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2019
Just to say you are always remembered. Your friends text me with memories of you. You are remembered at our family reunions and when I tell your great nephews and nieces stories about you. You will forever be missed and never forgotten. I imagine you with Bill sharing stories and fun times like Rockabillies. No you are not forgotten.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2018
Can't believe you would be 69 today. Just to let you know you are truly missed. I wish you could be here to see your great nephews and nieces. You have a new grand nephew Mateo. Heather's newest. They are getting ready for Halloween. They have been to the Pumpkin Patch to get their pumpkins and are planning their costumes. They remind me of your love for dressing up and I encourage them to continue your tradition of dressing up and having fun with costumes. Your nephew Dennis has a one-man show of his works in Crete going on right now. You would be proud. 
You will always be remembered and loved.
Posted by Joyce Nakada on March 2, 2018
Just returned from a trip to Cuba, completely legit, with a tour group, unlike Barbara's Cuban adventure. Thought of her ditching her Cuban cigars at the airport store...Really miss being able to share stories with her.
Posted by Donna Silverman on March 2, 2018
I think about Barbara when I am out in nature taking a walk, looking at flowers or watching the Winter Olympics as I did cross country ski with her at Webster Park. I played tennis with her when she lived in Rochester at the tennis courts near her Maplewood Ave. apartment. She was a remarkable and unique personality that appealed to her many friends. She was naturally beautiful on the outside and mostly inside. We looked at her photographs, listened to music at her home, and enjoyed each other's company. Barbara Preston is deeply missed every day by her family and friends. Often, I find people who remind me of her. She was simply fun to be around. Her parties were so memorable and very creative! I loved everything about her and will honor and treasure our friendship and fond memories for the rest of my life. I will remember her voice and her beauty.
Posted by allison stieber on March 1, 2018
Thinking of my dear friend, not just today but today especially.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2018
We are all missing you and will continue to do so. I have your pictures near me. Linda calls and talks about you often. I wish I could tell you all about your newest niece and her expected new nephew. All your nieces and nephews know about you and I will continue to tell them about you.
Bill won't be leaving a tribute today but maybe he's telling you himself. I hope so."
Posted by Bill Preston on March 1, 2017
Another year but still seems like yesterday. Always thinking of you.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2017
Barb, You continue to be missed by all your family and friends. You would love your little niece Lucy, Heather's baby. She is adorable and happy. She loves to take the I love Lucy DVD's off the shelf. I know she recognizes her name. She is 10 mos. old and very smart, of course. Wish you could hold her. Anthony's son Zane will get down on the floor and crawl with Lucy. Hope they will be good friends. Jude is 9 now and Natalia is 7. Miss talking to you, always will.
Posted by Bill Preston on October 24, 2016
Happy birthday, Barb. I'm late as usual, but never forget.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2016
Can't believe you would 67 this year! Still missed very much. You have another niece, Lucy, Heather''s daughter. She is great. Very pretty happy baby. We do picture walks around Heather''s house and I identify you. She has lots of pictures of you at her house. I always mention your love of Halloween and dressing up in costumes to your nieces and nephews.
Always missed.
Posted by Joyce Nakada on October 21, 2016
Thank you to Barb's good friend Marlene Gordon for pointing me to this website. It has been a comfort reading so many tributes to Barbara. I still miss her and feel robbed that she had to leave us so early.  I especially think of her on Halloween. When she learned we were having a haunted house at our local Y, she became one of the scariest witches ever, for a number of years. I so miss her energy and enthusiasm, her quirky sense of humor, her generosity and caring...
Posted by Bill Preston on March 1, 2016
Hey, Barb. Another year. Wish you could see the boys. Alan will be 21 next month. Wow. We're missing you.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2016
You are still missed and thought of often. You would be so excited to know that your niece Heather is expecting a baby girl in April after waiting so long!! I still think of you every day as I exercise remembering exercising with you and Heather and the Pilates video! You would love how well your niece and nephews are doing-so cute and sweet. They ask who is that in our family picture and I tell the about their great!-aunt Barb. Always remembered.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2015
On your birthday I've been thinking of you a lot. It's getting close to Halloween and I remember how much you loved to dress up. We have photos of you in your witch costume with your tray of kittie litter and Tootsie rolls that would cause kids to freak out when you would pick one up and eat it! You were always such great fun and you are always missed. You have a great nephew who will soon be one year old and will go trick or treating with his big sister and big brother. Keeping up your traditions!
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2015
You have a new great nephew. He's adorable. He'll ask about you as your other niece and nephew do when they see your picture. I tell them you loved children and loved to dress up in costumes and teach your cat great tricks. I just thought I'll copy the Rascol tricks you filmed to a DVD and show them. You are not forgotten.
Posted by allison stieber on March 1, 2015
Remembering and missing other cloudy winter Sundays when Barbara and I would talk on the phone for hours.
Posted by Bill Preston on March 1, 2015
we still have all of Raskol's old costumes, so I have uploaded a picture of Scratchy wearing Raskol's cowboy outfit. Doesn't seem like 7years.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2014
This would have been your 65th birthday. I can't believe it. You are still missed and thought of every day. You will be in my heart forever. You need to know you will be having another grand nephew. Anthony and Rocio are having another baby boy. You are remembered by your niece and nephew and often and stories about you told to your grand niece and nephew. They ask about you when they see your picture. You are not forgotten.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2014
I continue to miss Barb. I want to be able to talk to her and tell her whats happening. She would so love to see her great nephew and niece they are growing so fast. They love to dress up in costumes just like Barb. Natalia really thinks she is a princess and has lots of costumes. Jude thinks he is a Ninja warrior, or superman or spiderman depending on his mood. They are certainly carrying on her traditions with costumes. I love to look back in her albums and always have a photo of Barb nearby. Where ever her spirit is I hope she feels all the warm thoughts from all those who remember her today and always.
Posted by allison stieber on March 1, 2013
Not sure who coined the saying "Time heals all wounds"; it doesn't, as I continue to miss Barbara constantly. But I am comforted in the knowledge that my life is richer for the close friendship we shared for almost 30 years.
Posted by Bill Preston on March 1, 2013
Five years is a long time, but it seems not so long ago. We still have many things around the house we kept from her apartment, so we see her every day.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on March 1, 2013
March 1 2013, I continue to miss you Barb every day. I wish you could see your grand nephew and niece. They are growing bigger every day. Jude asks "Who is that" in our family picture and I tell him about his great Aunt Barb. Natalia surely takes after you. She loves to dress up. Many times a day to her mom's chagrin. I think about you as I play and talk with them. You are there.
Posted by Marlene Gordon on March 1, 2013
I think of Barb every day as I carry the black and red tote with the native design which she brought me from Seattle and when I pat my cat, Raskol P. (Preston) Gordon. Raskol came to me two years ago; he looked so much like Barb's Raskol - what could I do but honor the original trickster and his Mom? I miss Barb so much - our travels together, her wonderful spirit and friendship.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2012
I thought of Barb first thing this morning. I have just talked with her friend Allison about her and shared how her niece and nephews are doing. I know Barb would be pleased to know they are doing well and that so many people think of her on her birthday.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2011
We are establishing a scholarship at University of Michigan in Barb's name. I will post more information as soon as the final paperwork is completed.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 21, 2011
I miss Barb every day and especially today, her birthday. I would love her to see the most recent photos of her little nephew and niece, she would have loved them so much.
Posted by Linda Snide on February 23, 2011
I still miss Barb and I guess I always will. I have her Buddha sitting on my dresser and see it every day. I have different accoutremont (nothing so mundane as scarves) that I change according to the day or mood. It makes me feel in touch. I wish I could catch up with her and walk a ways for a while. I'm sure she is still traveling. Always, always remembered.

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Posted by allison stieber on October 22, 2020
Barbara and I used to take rides in the country or visit various places in order to take photos. She was very disciplined in setting up her shots, while I was a complete amateur. Over the last six years, I've been taking camera lessons and have improved a lot. It would be so great if I could send Barbara links to my recent photo galleries so I could find out which pics she liked and why. I'm sure she'd have observations that no one else would. Just one of the many ways I miss her.
Posted by Patricia Sumner on October 22, 2020
I can,t believe you would have been 71 this year. We all still miss you. We,re at Heather,s and helping Lucy and Mateo get ready for Halloween. Halloween was always one of your favorites. You loved dressing up. I'm not sure you would be enjoying 2020. But I'm sure you would have been out marching with Bill because there are so many causes out there, including covid 19 and Trump and the election. I continue to remember you always. You are part of me.
Posted by Joyce Nakada on October 21, 2020
I think of Barb every Halloween -- my least favorite holiday and one she loved...She would have done something very creative this year, and found some humor between the masks and isolation and Halloween. It occurs to me that Barb would have despised Donald Trump even more than I do -- perhaps it was good she was spared having to endure his presidency...
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Remembering Barbara Preston

Shared by Donna Silverman on March 1, 2016

I have so many foind memoires of Barbara.  Her parties were so creative as she made the decorations, the costumes and her creative side was unique.  I attended her toga party with white toga sheets, grapes, and lots of photos!  She had parties for her beloved cat Raskol with cakes stacked with wet cat food mountains, and fountains flowing!  I used to play tennis with her at the tennis courts near Maplewood Park.  I cross country skiied with her at Webster Park.  I just enjoyed visiting her as she played wonderful music by Linda Ronstadt, and her friends and parties were beyond compare.  She had an infectious laugh, brilliant wit, seductive smile, and she was a socialist all the way, and fought for civil rights.  I think she would have been a Bernie Sanders fan today.  Barbara Preston will be in my heart and soul for the rest of my days here on earth.  She was a woman of the earth, loved nature and explored the beauty of many lands with a wonderful photographer's eye on the splendor of life.  I am richer to have known her as her friends were lucky to experience Barbara Preston's being.  She was larger than life, yet very humble, beautiful inside and outside.  She will live with me forever.  I love and miss my gentle friend, Barbara Preston.  

Raskol II

Shared by Marlene Gordon on October 21, 2015

Just want you to know, Barb, that I think of you every day, as my black kitty, Raskol P(Preston) Gordon, is alive and well, as rascally as ever.  The bag from Seattle you gave me is getting pretty raggedy, but I still use it almost daily.  Miss you so much - your intelligence, curiosity, creativity, kindness, fun-loving spirit and, of course, your passion for social justice.

Love you and miss you.

Marlene

Raskol is remembered, too

Shared by Bill Preston on March 1, 2015

Brab used to dress her cat Raskol (short for Raskolnikov (from the character in Dostoyevsky's Crime and Punishment) in all sorts of outfits, just as she used to like to wear costumes. I'm not sure Raskol enjoyed it as much as Barb did. But we still have all of Raskol's outifts, and sometimes we dress up Scratchy (a stray that adopted us a few years ago). Scratchy is no more enthused about clothing than Raskol was, but it's the least they can do for all the room and board we provide.