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This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Dr Ben J Wilson, 94. It is our hope that many will enjoy the images and stories about Ben's life, and active participation is encouraged.

July 28, 2017
July 28, 2017
Dr. Ben Wilson was my gramps. I never knew about alot of his accomplishments. I'm happy to hear about them now. He always was a gentleman. He became very disappointed in me towards the end of his life and refused to talk to me. I understand this. I will always love him. And I'm extremely sorry I failed him. I hope now he can forgive me.
February 15, 2017
February 15, 2017
Two years have passed and I think of you every single day. I miss sharing our love of nature together..............I wish I could call you.
  I love my Daddy-o !!!
February 14, 2017
February 14, 2017
Dad, it's been two years since your passing. I still think of you, things you did, things you taught me, experiences together that I realize now are so precious and endearing. I will always think of you - time will not steal the memories I have. You are truly forever missed.
September 13, 2015
September 13, 2015
Happy Birthday, Dad. Oh man do we miss you! You're in our thoughts and conversations every day. I'm still going over your memoirs, poems, photographs and writings. I'm getting them organized and preserved to pass along to our bloodline. You were a truly great person, but more importantly, to me, DAD. Love you.
March 21, 2015
March 21, 2015
For those who might wish to hear Ben's prepared speech given at the I Stand for Parkland fundraising event honoring the Giants of General Surgery, you can go to the YouTube link: http://youtu.be/CrkKljZ2F7A
March 14, 2015
March 14, 2015
i met Dr Ben & wife Nancy as a member of our Writers Group in Ahwatukee, AZ. He was as impressive as his son stated above!
The best doctor, rancher, sculptor, writer, scuba diver, conservative, wrestler, poet and story-teller ever! I know this because I listened to his stories & read many of his hand written memories. He will be missed
February 26, 2015
February 26, 2015
a true giant of surgery--the best surgeon and teacher ever. my number one mentor.  donal steph, intern and parkland resident 1953-4 and1956-60
February 26, 2015
February 26, 2015
I met Dr. Wilson at a Parkland event when I was accompanying my Dad, Dr. Donal Steph. I went with my Dad, mostly so he could have someone beside him and because it was fun for me, at age 20-plus to go to cool places.

That's where I met Dr. Wilson. He was amazing, and more fun to talk to than anyone there…I think I fell in love with him a bit; and maybe he with me. Or maybe he just always made you think so…. He was one of the coolest men I've ever met. Could talk about everything -- love and life. And we did. When I was in my 20s, i was one of those people who asked a million questions; he always answered, and with great thoughtfulness.

We became instant friends and talked for hours that night and on many other occasions when he would visit....I saw him many times afterwards, and we had long discussions regarding art, medicine, life, etc...He was an amazing man and I looked up to him always, yet also thought him as my friend.

I was honored to write about him when I worked at UT Southwestern in the news department…. I saw him last, maybe a year ago (when he came to Dallas for Parkland Hospital's unveiling of its new soon-to-be hospital)….I hugged him like crazy. I could tell he was not doing as well as before; having trouble hearing; but he knew me and we laughed and hugged.

I loved him….

What an amazing man!!!

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July 28, 2017
July 28, 2017
Dr. Ben Wilson was my gramps. I never knew about alot of his accomplishments. I'm happy to hear about them now. He always was a gentleman. He became very disappointed in me towards the end of his life and refused to talk to me. I understand this. I will always love him. And I'm extremely sorry I failed him. I hope now he can forgive me.
February 15, 2017
February 15, 2017
Two years have passed and I think of you every single day. I miss sharing our love of nature together..............I wish I could call you.
  I love my Daddy-o !!!
February 14, 2017
February 14, 2017
Dad, it's been two years since your passing. I still think of you, things you did, things you taught me, experiences together that I realize now are so precious and endearing. I will always think of you - time will not steal the memories I have. You are truly forever missed.
Recent stories

A Magnificent Honor

May 16, 2015

Recently, my wife, Carol, and I returned to Dallas, TX where Dad was being honored as being one of 18 "Giants of General Surgery" at Parkland Hospital. A very special wall was being dedicated in the New Parkland Hospital on the floor where surgery suites were located. This particular hall is to be used by doctors and staff only so those people would be able to see their past generations of mentors and physicians upon whose shoulders they are now working. The whole memorial was very impressive - some photos and videos have been added to this story so that all may see. 

We also toured the New Parkland hospital prior to public opening which is to take place this August. To say that it is impressive would be understating its magnificence. It makes a son very proud to know that my father was instrumental in the creation and sustaining greatness of such an institution. He would have been extremely proud to see the New Parkland. 

Pictures of our visit to the wall dedication have been added to Gallery > Photos and videos added to Gallery > Videos. The hall was somewhat narrow and was hard to capture a panoramic so I walked by with iphone video recording to get the entire width with words close enough to be read. 

No title, authored by Dad in 2014

March 24, 2015

 [I found this on his computer in a file entitled "Ideas for Memoirs". He had never told me this story, it's amazing]

Bonnie and Clyde Barrow were killed on May 23rd, 1934 by a posse of State police from Texas and four other southern and southwest states where Bonnie and Clyde had teamed up with local gangs to rob banks and murder thirteen people including nine police officers. I was 14 years old at the time and like everyone else had followed the extensive news of their wicked cruel exploits reported on radio, newspapers and Pathe movie news.

 

This 80th anniversary story reminded me of an ER visit at Parkland Hospital in 1949 when I was resident in charge of ER. One night when I was on duty and after a very busy night, had finally gone to a bunk in sleeping quarters for on call ER residents about 1:30 am.  Thirty minutes later, Johnny the evening ER orderly who had been doing his job for years (everybody loved the low key elderly light skinned black man), knew how to handle grouchy residents who were sleep deprived when he had to awaken them again after a short nap. He gently shook me and I responded to say that I was awake. He said I was needed in the ER, and turned to walk away, but I fell back asleep before I got up. Johnny expected this and had waited in the hall for about three minutes before coming back to wait for me to rise to my feet, then we  went together down the elevator to the ground floor ER to see a police escorted patient named, Baldy Whatley, a widely known drug addict, murderer, gangster and habitual criminal who had killed Clyde Barrow’s mother. He had been  sought after by a local gang for revenge. 

 

Baldy did not have a life threatening injury. He had been shot through the gastrocnemius calf muscle, and was sitting on the exam table, whimpering, coddling with both arms his shot leg bent at the knees. I needed to examine him, and asked him to release his hugged leg and lie down, so I could determine whether the through and through shot had injured bone, nerve or blood vessel. He did not respond except to continue baby-like whimpering about his pain and asking for a shot of morphine. I repeated my request three times without any response, finally said to him that I wasn’t going to be able to help him until he allowed me to examine the wounded leg. Lack of sleep had shortened my patience, and his cowardly behavior had disgusted me, so impulsively I did something I had never done before, or since, to a conscious aware patient in his right mind.  With my wrestling background, I forced him into a pinfall, his back flat on the table with his leg extended flat on the table, wrested his arms loose, so I could see the wounds, then asked the nurse to have the police come in to hold him while I examined the extent of injury. ( I should have asked for the police first, but reflex action had dominated.) In today’s mores and regulations, I would have needed his signature of approval for the exam, and if he refused send him out without treatment. That would have violated my ethics code, and never entered my mind.

 

Examination showed no evidence of injury to bone, vessel or nerve, so with local anesthesia, I debrided damaged muscle adjacent to the bullet track, inserted a rubber drain into entrance and exit wound after thorough irrigation with saline solution, applied a dressing and sent him to the ward for observation where he would be under police guard. I wrote orders for a non-narcotic pain medication prn, and watch him for withdrawal symptoms.       

 

I hoped for the next few days that I had not become a figure for revenge from a gang descended from one that the notorious couple had formed in the five states they terrorized. Clyde Barrow’s sidekicks were still angered at Baldy for Clyde’s Barrow’s mother being shot.

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