ForeverMissed
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This memorial website was created in memory of our beloved daddy, father and grandfather, Reverend Benjamin Oladiran Olarewaju, born on 22nd May 1933 and passed away on 17th January 2019. We will remember him forever. 

The memory of the righteous is blessed ........ Prov 10:7

Posted by Victoria Olarewaju on January 22, 2020
Dear Daddy, Revd Benjamin Oladiran Olarewaju, though this mortal body has perished and all earthly activities ceased yet the memories of your love, warmth, hard work, counsel and commitment to God, your family and all around you lives on. They are testimonies that you lived a Godly and fulfilled life and surely, we all shall resurrect and reign with Christ. Sleep on dearest grandpa, we miss you.
Posted by Toyin Olarewaju on January 20, 2020
It's a year gone already, Grandpa, i appreciate God for your life well spent, particularly because you met with God. Tomisin dreamt some time ago and she saw you in a flowing white Agbada. There is no doubt! you made it, thank God for his mercy and favour. Heaven is nothing compared to this world .By God's grace we shall all meet again at a fulfilled and appointed time when we shall part no more. Rest in peace daddy. 
Posted by Olusola Olarewaju on January 18, 2020
Reverend Gentleman Ti kii paro,ti kii jale(GONE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN)
Just like yesterday in the 80s on our long trip to&fro OYO ALAFIN,the memories of our encounters with Nigerian Police expecting to receive bribes and your humorous manner of response to correct the unfortunate menace in the society generated the slogan,,,,,,,I AM A REVEREND GENTLEMAN TI KII PARO,TI KII JALE.
How do I describe this great icon who despite his humble background made tremendous and remarkable impact in his generation.He had a great sense of integrity in a perverse world of corruption,his sense of punctuality was second to none and his ideology on the relevance of education was immeasurable.He had an incurable sense of humor to give hope to hopeless situations,he consistently lifted up those around with kind words,funny jokes and humble ear.Reverend Gentleman was the most sincerely altruistic person I have known with no attachment to material things,he preferred to build his children instead of mansions,he invested in the kingdom business instead of frivolities.His life,his influence,his energy is inextricably linked to mine and I take solace in that.Hummmnn,,,,,we shared great moments together,Reverend Gentleman was intelligent ,his attention to detail was infectious ,taught us many tricks to solve mathematical problems while growing up.
YOU ARE ALWAYS ON MY MIND DAD!!!!!!!!!!!
Posted by Odunayo Olarewaju on January 18, 2020
You loved us all, you took me personally as your own. You believed in my dream. What a privilege to be associated with you. On your death anniversary, I ponder on the height of your love for me and the way you cherished me even though I am your son's wife. Rest on grandpa. The times we shared together, the jokes, the intimate discussions we both had are coming fresh in my mind and I will always press on to fufil the dream you had for me.....
I believe you are resting on and I know we will meet where we shall part no more.
Missing you is an understatement for me. You are irreplaceable in my life and immediate family.. Continue to Rest in peace sir.
Posted by Dele Olarewaju on January 18, 2020
We remember you today daddy, one year has gone so fast and so quickly like a flash of light. The memories of your fatherly but firm, tenderly but uncompromising love still live with us today. 

We remember those values and core principles of faith, discipline and self control which have become priceless and ageless legacies that we hold in very high esteem to your credit, which we also endeavor to pass on to our own children.

We believe you are resting peacefully and comfortably in the bosom of our Lord Jesus, with whom you committed the last days of your life serving diligently until death took you away from us.

Rest on daddy, we love you so dearly.

From Myself, my wife and our lovely children.
Posted by Odunayo Olarewaju on March 28, 2019
Revd gentle man as I fondly call you. You were a man full of integrity. Your love for academic excellence and the things of God cannot be overlooked. You loved God and most especially, you loved me specially.
I will live to remember your contribution to my success in life. When I took a bold step of relocation, so many condemned me, but you fully supported it.
I've missed you and I'm still missing you. We use to sing together even on phone, distance was not our barrier.
Our song written by Tope Alabi:
Igba ti mo to o, ise iyanu re laye mi, moripe oga, moripe oga, moripe oga Baba !2ce.
You were truly a father to me not a father in law. I will make sure I do all what you told me about living a life of impact.
My children and I love you, but God loves you more.
Rip loving grandpa!
Posted by Toyin Olarewaju on March 27, 2019
My dear father-in-law, you are a great man that is knowledgeable,intelligent and hardworking. I thank God that you dedicated your latter end to know God and you were always conscious of the fact that one day you will be with the lord-as you always say in your prayers "that before we see death let us see Jesus" Indeed i believe you saw Jesus and you are resting in the bosom of the lord because this was my prayer for you on your sick bed for God to grant you eternal rest,if it is time.
we will greatly miss your frequent calls,stories and good sense of humour. we love you Daddy . Adieu ! we shall meet again in eternity where we shall part no more.
Posted by Temitope Olarewaju on March 12, 2019
A RARE LEGEND - REVD. B.O OLAREWAJU
Daddy, you came, you saw and you conquered. There can never be a father with such a great impact to his generation like you !!!
January 17th 2019, the day I dreaded most finally came when I received that call you passed on.
I cried with all the memories of your love and sacrifices towards your children and particularly me. We were great allies. We conquered together,you taught me all I know today
I cried with all the memories of your discipline, hardwork and truthfulness. You made everyone fall in without pressure just by leading by example
I cried with memories of how you bore the torch of education and inspired many family and friends to attain education. You saved so many generations from abyss of ignorance,regret and intellectual failure
I cried with memories of your humility and liveliness. No dull moment with you... all our friends and folks always want to be around you to learn,be happy and appreciate life
I cried with memories of your selflessness,sacrifices and leadership spirit in times of despair. You gave everything even when you don’t have anything. At least you give hope when it seems there is nothing to offer
Finally, I rejoiced and full of gladness because you knew Christ. You achieved ALL by his Grace. You fought the good fight of Faith and there lays before you a Crown . Am so proud to be your son!
I celebrate you my ‘Reverend Gentleman’...A rare legend you were and will ever be.
Posted by Dele Olarewaju on March 8, 2019
To everything under the sun there is a season. A time to be born and a time to die. An iroko tree has just fallen and the entire forest feels the vibration of its fall. I cried all day long after receiving the sad news of my father’s passing; I was constantly checking my phone and hoping to receive another message saying my father was alive again.
I was home alone with my little children when I heard the news and they were wondering what has suddenly gone wrong? They asked me; Daddy are you alright? Daddy please play with us, daddy can I get you some water? When they come of age, I will tell them the special story of a unique grand-father who showered me with an overflow of care and abundance of love. 
Daddy, you loved me with passion and I will forever be grateful for your love. I studied very hard at school, so I could pay back some of your love and make you feel proud of me because you were also very passionate about my education. Today, my career and every other accomplishments are all products of your investments in me.
Rest in peace daddy. Until we meet again at the feet of our Lord Jesus Christ, I love you beyond measure. You are a legend in my heart. Legends don’t die, they continue to live on in our minds and thoughts.

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Posted by Victoria Olarewaju on January 22, 2020
Dear Daddy, Revd Benjamin Oladiran Olarewaju, though this mortal body has perished and all earthly activities ceased yet the memories of your love, warmth, hard work, counsel and commitment to God, your family and all around you lives on. They are testimonies that you lived a Godly and fulfilled life and surely, we all shall resurrect and reign with Christ. Sleep on dearest grandpa, we miss you.
Posted by Toyin Olarewaju on January 20, 2020
It's a year gone already, Grandpa, i appreciate God for your life well spent, particularly because you met with God. Tomisin dreamt some time ago and she saw you in a flowing white Agbada. There is no doubt! you made it, thank God for his mercy and favour. Heaven is nothing compared to this world .By God's grace we shall all meet again at a fulfilled and appointed time when we shall part no more. Rest in peace daddy. 
Posted by Olusola Olarewaju on January 18, 2020
Reverend Gentleman Ti kii paro,ti kii jale(GONE BUT NEVER FORGOTTEN)
Just like yesterday in the 80s on our long trip to&fro OYO ALAFIN,the memories of our encounters with Nigerian Police expecting to receive bribes and your humorous manner of response to correct the unfortunate menace in the society generated the slogan,,,,,,,I AM A REVEREND GENTLEMAN TI KII PARO,TI KII JALE.
How do I describe this great icon who despite his humble background made tremendous and remarkable impact in his generation.He had a great sense of integrity in a perverse world of corruption,his sense of punctuality was second to none and his ideology on the relevance of education was immeasurable.He had an incurable sense of humor to give hope to hopeless situations,he consistently lifted up those around with kind words,funny jokes and humble ear.Reverend Gentleman was the most sincerely altruistic person I have known with no attachment to material things,he preferred to build his children instead of mansions,he invested in the kingdom business instead of frivolities.His life,his influence,his energy is inextricably linked to mine and I take solace in that.Hummmnn,,,,,we shared great moments together,Reverend Gentleman was intelligent ,his attention to detail was infectious ,taught us many tricks to solve mathematical problems while growing up.
YOU ARE ALWAYS ON MY MIND DAD!!!!!!!!!!!
his Life

The Passing unto Glory of a Rare Gem

Throughout the history of mankind, gemstones are considered to be precious and treasured jewels. They are therefore treated as such because of their extra ordinary qualities. Rarity is a characteristic that lends value to a gemstone. These days, gemstones are often used as symbolic of courage, passion, love, intuition and creativity just to mention a few. Our daddy, Rev B.O. Olarewaju, certainly encapsulates all of these rare and unique qualities of a gemstone.

Daddy was a rare gem by all ramifications. He is a legend by all dimensions. He is our true hero. He left behind a lasting legacy that will remain evergreen in our hearts and also deserving of immortalization.

Our daddy was certainly not born into any earthly royalty. Neither did he even enjoy the luxuries of a privileged background, he was not born with silver spoon in his mouth. As a matter of fact, his growing up experience was a complete opposite to all of these; He became master of his own destiny at a very young age. Yet, by the time of his demise, he had touched so many lives and gave so much to the service of humanity. Today, as we honour this rare gem of a dad, my super hero father, I boldly confess that “he fought the good fight, He finished the race, he kept the faith. Now there is in store for him the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to him on that day and not only to him, but also to all who have longed for the appearing of our Lord Jesus Christ”. (2 Tim 4:7-8)

Rev Benjamin Oladiran Olarewaju was born into a polygamous family. Having lost both of his parents at a very young age, he was confronted with enormous challenges and suddenly had to fend for himself in the wilderness of life. He quickly learnt to be emotionally and intellectually independent. Even though he had every valid reasons and all legitimate excuses to justify a lifetime of failure and conformity to a certain norm, he nonetheless refused vehemently to let circumstances relegate him into an underdog status. Daddy chose to take the high roads at all times, raising his banner very high and recognizing that an appointment with destiny was definitely not for comfort seekers. He followed his parents to farm for most part of his childhood, he was later enrolled into Oke-Ese Methodist primary school, Ilesha, at a very matured age. Probably the oldest boy in his class and possibly taunted and called all kinds of ridiculous names by classmates, who knows? Nevertheless, he rose above every obstacle, believing that impossible was absolutely nothing!

Daddy believed in the same philosophy as former World boxing champion, that Impossible is just a big word thrown around by small men who find it easier to live in the world they've been given than to explore the power they have to change it. He believed that Impossible is not a fact. It's just an opinion. Impossible is not a declaration. It's a dare. Impossible is potential. Impossible is temporary. Impossible is nothing

His academic brilliance at school quickly earned him an immediate recognition. He was offered employment as a teacher in the same primary school where he studied. Ironically, those who probably laughed at him being the oldest man in class soon began to show some respect. Being a go-getter that our daddy naturally was, he continued relentlessly in the pursuit of a better future for himself and also a decent family that he once envisaged.

He wouldn’t settle down far too long at the same spot in his life’s pursuit but continuously ensuring that if he couldn’t fly then run, if he couldn’t run then walk, if he couldn’t walk then crawl, but whatever he did, daddy made sure that he kept moving forward. He was saving money and leveraging constantly on every previous success to further his career growth.

My father’s approach to his own self education and self-empowerment is an encouragement to many of us today. He was absolutely determined and fully committed to paying the price and getting himself a good education. Until his death, my father was always encouraging, facilitating and influencing academic or moral development in the life of everyone around him.

In his late 40s and early 50s, a time when many people in that mid-life age group would rather belittle themselves as being intellectually done for any further studies, our daddy was still breaking new grounds and attaining even greater heights. He enrolled at the Emmanuel College of Theology in Ibadan for diploma courses and subsequently became an ordained priest of the Methodist Church Nigeria. We later nick-named him “The Reverend Gentleman” and we would all laugh about it around the house. Daddy was always full of humor, it was fun hanging around with him, yet so strict and very uncompromising with child discipline. As if that was not enough, our Reverend gentleman also went ahead to enroll again at his alma mater, the University of Ibadan, for post graduate studies. He later graduated in 1982 with Masters in Guidance & Counselling.

I have just lost a mentor of a dad. He was my life coach. Many of his words, warnings and instructions have become my life’s blueprint. Daddy was a living example of hope personified, perseverance, persistence, self-discipline and Contentment. Through the prisms of his own life experiences, I could relate quite easily to many of the biblical principles that he preached to his congregation on Sundays. One of the lessons learnt from his tough but fulfilling challenges in life was a realization that hard-work truly pays. The only antidote to poverty, my father always says, is education.

Success without a successor has always been a major concern in the lives of many great people in our society today. My father left behind a strong team of successors in children, cousins, neighbors, students, friends and everyone who passed through his training. I am one of the successors that my great dad left behind. My father was able to discipline himself to delay short term gratifications in order to enjoy long term rewards. In today’s world, we are confronted with obsessions and pressure for instant pleasures which most times, rob us of our God given potentials to fully mature with grace. Consequently, we end up with a belligerent society of matured toddlers and pre-matured adults. They are petulant, impatient, grumpy, short-temperedand always blaming others for their own self-inflicted misadventures.

Daddy went through the storms of life without developing any complacency towards life. He was confronted with sad and unfortunate realities of survival at a very young age after losing his mum, dad and very close step brother (my uncle) but he approached life with an uncommon courage. He was hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed (2 Corinthians 4:8)

Daddy retired as a Methodist clergy from the Oke Ese Methodist Church in Ilesha Osun State Nigeria. He was very passionate about methodism and everything that the Methodist church Christian community represented. Founded by John Wesley, the great English cleric, theologian and evangelist, the Methodist church was at the very core of everything my father believed in. He dedicated his entire life in the Methodist ministry to tentmaking, preaching the good news and overseeing smaller parishes (circuits) without receiving any salary in returns. I remember a discussion with him sometimes ago, concerning people jumping from one church denomination to another. He told me that it would be a taboo for him to relinquish his Methodist faith for anything else. He said he was fully committed to live and die as a Methodist regardless of any circumstance. He told me that even if the presbyter (pastor in charge) flogs him with ten strokes of cane daily, he will rise up and say “thank you Sir” and he will return back to his seat. This summarizes the depth of my father’s loyalty to the Methodist church. He was very generous to the church and gave freely without any grudging.

Asides from Methodism, our daddy was also an erudite scholar, a seasoned teacher and an icon of knowledge. After 35 years of meritorious teaching service, he retired as a senior civil servant with the Federal Ministry of Education. His final place of assignment before retirement was at the Federal Government Girls College (FGGC) in Oyo, Oyo State Nigeria. He was a guidance counsellor with the college and also a teacher of Bible Knowledge (BK) which was later known as the Christian Religious Studies (CRS).

Daddy was very passionate about the educational wellbeing of any child. He loved children very passionately. He believed that every child is God’s perfect creation; They are beautiful, awesome and deserving of a good education. He offered free, voluntary teaching services to public secondary schools where teachers were lacking in CRS, preparing students for the West African Examinations (WAEC) exams without receiving any financial benefit from either students or the school authorities in return.

I am full of gratitude to God Almighty for blessing me with an earthly father whose accomplishments I will forever relish with a sense of pride. We will ensure that his legacies are well preserved in our schools and homes to raise awareness about the hidden potentials on the inside of every individual to change the world around them.

Our daddy lived a very fulfilled life. Though starting very small but he finished his race on a very large and convincing note. His areas of influence in terms of people who went through his training, transcends his place of birth and extends far beyond the Atlantic and Pacific oceans.

My father passed away peacefully on 17th Jan 2019. When my children come of age, I will tell them the loving story of a caring grand-father who truly loves everyone.

Adieu daddy.

Written By : Dele Olarewaju

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Happy Posthumous Birthday to Rev. Gentleman (Alufa ti kin jale, ti kin paro)

Shared by Oluremi Adegboyega on May 22, 2020
Happy Posthumous Birthday to Rev. Gentleman (Alufa ti kin jale, ti kin paro)
Good people are remembered long after they are gone, but the wicked are soon forgotten.  Prov10:7
Thank God for the uncommon grace in the life our dad and the precious life he lived on this planet earth. 
I missed him so much, always refer to him from time to time, even yesterday  when my husband was sharing one of his favourite jokes of ‘good good x7 and yah yah x7 - gudugudu meje, yaya mefa’ with one of the children. 
May the almighty God Continue to fill any vacuum you left behind in our hearts IJN 
May the husband of the widow continue to uphold our Mummy IJN
God is good and His mercies endures forever!

What an Irreparable Loss!

Shared by Tokunbo Abugan on March 10, 2019

What an Irreparable loss your demise has caused! I came to know you in the early nineties. It was the early stage of my adult life, that formative period of life when I was building the personal principles that would ultimately become the pillars upon which my actions and character rest today. You contributed to building those principles. You helped in shaping them. 

As an adult, aged as my biological father, it was very easy for you to humble yourself and come down to my level. You joked with me. We played "opon ayo" together. Even my friends were amazed by your humility and how you were able to easily mingle with younger minds. Due to familiarity that playing with younger ones can bring, we erred as kids will always do. Yet that did not stop you from sharing your time with Tope Akinsola and me. 

Those moments you let us share with you were golden and will become evergreen in my memory. You will be missed a great deal!

Tokunbo Abugan