Two years ago today in our temporary Montreal apartment we had a sweet ceremony for Bri, honouring her graduation with a Master’s in Education. It was a tribute to Bri’s determination, hard work, and passion for teaching and social justice that was enabled by her dear friends Leah and Eleanor who had made arrangements with McGill, along with Bri’s wonderful nurse Fiona, who had advocated for Bri both at McGill and the Quebec department of education. The scene was so typical of Bri’s life—surrounded by friends and partners and family, some physically surrounding, hands and arms touching, and some holding her from afar.
At one point in the ceremony, Bri whispered “I need words,” a heart-breaking message from a woman who was so articulate, who would so thoughtfully listen, then come forth with just the right words. So on this day, Bri, we will all give you words. We will give you words and images and the felt sense of joy and curiosity and love and compassion and courage that you brought to the world.
We will hold those words and spirit in our hearts forever.
Here is a poem that seems to breathe the loss of Bri.
The Still Life
By Mark Sanders
Now—just at that silent place,
Between sadness and gratitude,
wind-worn balances we all weather—
a cardinal leaps from a bare trim limb,
its red bloom lingering. The sun down
in deepening darkness
where night clouds consume it,
evanescence of orange and purple.
How moment passes how memory
holds. The heart must break
if it has ever felt joy. The heart must
break because diminished things matter,
and having mattered hold, still.
You were here. For us. Then break, heart.
Your fingers lie upon the pulse of our days.