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My Dad and Bryce together for eternity

June 23, 2023
Today I mark the 7th year since my beloved, Bryce, passed away in my arms.
My Dad, and best buddy of Bryce, passed away March 7th of this year.
When my dad was in and out "of it", he once said to me to that I needed to relax because Bryce is okay.  And my Dad said Bryce was waiting for him.
I find comfort in that for both of them but my grief feels horribly compounded by the loss of the two most important men I have ever loved.  That said, they better BOTH be waiting for me when it's my time.
February 4, 2023
I had rowed on a crew team with Bryce in my first year at Redwood High School in Larkspur, CA during 1976/77. The old boathouse was near where Larkspur Landing is now and yards from where Clint Eastwood jumped from a railroad trestle onto a hijacked school bus in the movie "Dirty Harry". Our coach was a retired Scotsman named Robert Cumming. The new boathouse - relocated to the other side of Highway 101 in the 1980's - is named after him.
Bryce and us other freshman were "novices" on the crew team and we sometimes rowed in a "shell" of 4 rowers and a coxswain or 8 rowers and a coxswain. We learned how to row together as novices and the older and more experienced Redwood High Crew rowers would usually look down on us novices as 'wet behind the ears'. I always rowed "starboard" - meaning the oar was on my left side. I recall Bryce being near me in the boat sometimes so that means his oar was on the right side - "port". For rowers it was difficult to switch sides once are muscles got used to rowing on one particular side - day after day, month after month.
     Bryce was not taller than average but I felt he was stronger than me. On the other hand his attitude was that of a gentle and kind person.That was in contrast to the 'tough guy' talking and swearing that many of the other rowers exhibited at the boathouse. Bryce must've felt secure in himself to stick to his good-hearted nature. During our practice I remember once he got annoyed by some equipment problem that made the rowing more difficult for him. Instead of showing anger he noisily exhaled, smiled and laughed a little. That left an impression on me! When I think about that now I realize he must've had a good upbringing. I'm glad there was a friendly person like Bryce to talk to at the boathouse.
     Workouts finished around 5:30pm or so. Sometimes somebody would have a car and we could get a ride home. I remember Bryce lived in a beautiful area in the redwoods called Madrone Canyon near downtown Larkspur.
     When I found out that Bryce had passed away through our high school website it 'hit home'. After my sadness the good memories of Bryce returned. I realized I was lucky to have known him in my early years. As I read more about Bryce I felt uplifted because he was able to share some of his life with his family - Lori, Hannah and Skyler - as well as his other family members.
Great memories of Bryce to remind me what kindness is about!  
 

Happy Birthday!

December 6, 2019
Happy 58th birthday, Sweetie!
This photo was taken during one of our trips to Disneyland for Bryce’s birthday.  We had just checked in at the Grand Californian (thank you Disney Vacation points) and he collected his hand-designed Disney birthday button and a cast member handed him a bunch of balloons. 
That big beautiful smile is the one I got to see and feel every moment we spent together.
So happy birthday to my soul mate, my best friend.  I most sincerely honor you every day but today is your special day.  It was the day you were born so that one day our lives would finally cross and eyes meet and we’d begin our love story.
Baking cookies for you today so hang around!
I love you more than everything and only you forever.
June 23, 2019

On June 22nd three years ago,I found Bryce had fallen ill after returning home from work.  And a few hours later, June 23rd, 2016, everyone who gave a piece of themselves to Bryce had their lives changed permanently by his sudden passing.

Bryce’s laugh is contagious so I am grateful to have videos I can watch when I need to hear his voice.

I read our love letters to help my heart when it’s aching.

But his touch; his bear hugs; his whispers across my ear; his ever-present hand on mine when we’re driving...  those special moments are hard to capture with my imagination.

Bryce is the father and daddy to our children; a son and a brother; an uncle.  And a friend to so many who remember him with such wonderful and kind words.

Bryce and I are a genuine love story and my heart shattered into so many pieces I thought I would be joining him.  There are days I still do.

He’s with me; watching over me; holding me; and loving me.  The tears have never stopped; I’ve just learned to hide the pain so others aren’t uncomfortable.

My grandma Ruth sent me a clipping.  Although she never met him personally, she knew the goodness he brought to others.  Please read the quote and reflect on your memories of Bryce.

Today, June 23, 2019, just give Bryce a little hello and say thank you.  He deserves nothing less.

❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️  ~ Lori

June 23, 2018

I am forever finding shiny pennies along my path.  When I am desperate for a hug or "stronger" affirmation that Bryce is with me, I'll find a dime.

On one such occasion, Hannah, Skyler and I were at Disney's California Adventure.  Skyler more or less entertains my notion that the pennies are Bryce's way to reach out to us.  On this trip, I explained to him about the dimes.  I told him I find them when I am especially lonely, or really excited and wishing Bryce were truly present to share in the excitement.  Skyler remains cynical, but that's okay with me.  It does not change the connection I feel with Bryce when I find pennies or dimes.

We all had ridden a ride and had walked a few minutes to another ride when Skyler realized he left his cell phone in the underseat basket of the previous ride.   He was visibly upset and said his mom was gonna kill him because it was her way to reach him.  I tried to calm him saying "it's just a phone" and "really, if it's gone, then we just figure out how to get a new one".

I told him we'd walk back to the other ride to ask if someone turned it in.  We walked down hill about twenty feet and right in the middle of the pathway, where dozens had already walked, lay a shiny dime.  I did not notice that dime when we walked up the hill and considering the amount of time and the numbers of park visitors that already passed by it leaving it there, convinced me it was from Bryce.  I stopped and yelled for Skyler to come back and pointed at the dime.  I said "see, there's your dad telling us it's going to be okay".  He collected the dime and we continued walking back to the ride.

We spoke to the ride attendants who instructed up to go through a back entrance to the theater we sat in.  It was challenging swimming down stream against all the people leaving their turn from the ride.

We opened the door and Skyler saw a light.  It was the ride attendant checking the seat where Skyler has been and the next light was the screen on the phone.  Skyler was ecstatic!   He could barely say thank you (though he did when I turned him back to the person).

Dime or no dime, it was all okay.  But with the dime, it somehow affirms Bryce is there enjoying the day, helping us with troubles, holding our hands on the rides and watching the shows, too.

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