You are in our thoughts today as we remember your birthday. Continue to rest in His grace. We continue to pray for grace for your loved ones.
This memorial website was created in memory of our loved one, Olubukola Osinusi Fagbamiye (Buky), born on December 8, 1975 and passed away on August 18, 2016.
Thank you so much for your outpouring of love and support since Buky’s passing. Though we are saddened, we thank God for her life. Buky was a loving wife and mother; a caring daughter and sister; a loyal and devoted friend
She will be greatly missed by all.
You are welcome to share your stories, photos, thoughts and memories of her.
Tributes
Leave a tributeYou are in our thoughts today as we remember your birthday. Continue to rest in His grace. We continue to pray for grace for your loved ones.
Gbolahan Obajimi
Happy posthumous birthday. Continue to Rest in Peace. Forever missed.
We thought of you today.
But that is nothing new.
We thought about you yesterday.
And all the days since you left us.
We little knew that morning five years ago that God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly.
In death we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you.
But, you did not go alone for part of us went with you that day God called you home.
Your memory is our keepsake and your love is still our guide.
And though we cannot see you, you are always at our side.
Our family chain is altered now and things don’t feel the same.
But, as God calls us one by one the chain will link again.
Until that time, God has you in his keeping and we have you in our hearts.
Yes we will have to remember
The times and tides of life
With which this life is rife
However, we are still consoled
That for you--you really souled out
Though it seemed so short
It was a big shot
And for this, we will not shut it
We are relieved as we relive with you today
Knowing there is still hope to meet again
It is our most blessed hope
Yes it is
Adieu, Bukky
Tosin was my classmate and I remember how protective he used to be of you back then.....Shame we never got to meet again as adults before you left.
Reading the other tributes on here, its quite very glaring that you lived a good life but rather left too soon. But I suppose solace can be found in the fact one after the other, we shall all depart this world. I pray the lord almighty grants your departed soul eternal peace and rest.
Good night.
Time really flies but the memories of your smiles and life in UCH and beyond lives on with us.
May God grant your lovely family, the continued strength and fortitude to bear this great loss and always cherish the time you shared with them.
You are forever missed..........
I knew you as a lady with a gentle smile and a blessed soul but I know you're in a much better place now. With the passing of time, God will strengthen, protect and preserve those you left behind - your husband and your daughter.
It is well.
- Yemi Adesanya
It's one year already .. can't believe it. God has been awesome though. His grace has been sufficient for those you left behind.
You can Rest In Peace .., knowing you will rise in glory and we shall see you and our savior when the time comes.
I'm still shocked.
Anyway, all the beautiful comments here only testify to the loveliness of your character.
The good thing is...you're now in a better place.
I pray your family would continue to be strengthened in Him to bear your loss.
Time flies but thankfully not memories.
You are fondly remembered always.
May the Lord continue to comfort your family and friends.
We wish that all the love we all feel for you and that we maintain despite your passing away can reach up to heaven for your birthday.
Happy birthday in heaven.
Bubu, Books, Bookstar, Bukastic, Dr Bukola, Ore mi to sure, Ore mi owon... all my endearments for you. We shared so much over the years, from our adolescence to womanhood - the unmatched intellectual discourse, laughter, tears, fears, adventure, prayers, hope. Your wry sense of humour and quick wit were so distinctive and showed through even in the most challenging situations. Every conversation with you was sincere, without guile and left me feeling smarter and wiser.
Words cannot express how unique and special you were to me. I miss you, Buky.
You had such a courageous spirit and were uncompromising in your principles and values. Your decisions were always selflessly guided by your deep love, vision and affection for your family and close friends. Most important of all, you knew God and served Him and that is all that matters in this short life
I am truly blessed to have known you and comforted by the knowledge that you fought the good fight of faith and finished your race in Christ. I know you are now resting in peace with the Lord and freed from the hustles of this life. We will surely meet again to rejoice in the presence of God.
Till then, the Holy Spirit will continue to comfort and guide Oluwadara, Ayokunle and your entire family just as you prayed that He would. Your legacy and memories of you will remain forever in our hearts.
Rest in peace Bubu, love you.
One of the first people I heard from was a cousin that lost a parent some years back. What he said really resonated with me. He said when you lose someone you’re close to, you should expect to go through cycles of emotion; times when you will be filled with sadness and times when a memory brings a smile to your face. He also said, take the time with family and friends to remember and celebrate all the things that made Buky a special part of your life.
In the spirit of celebrating Buky, I want to write about “Strength” and “Love”, two traits that Buky showed throughout her life and even more so after she became ill.
I once read that whenever you face a difficult or even frightening decision/situation, your response can either be based on fear or it can be based on love and strength/courage. When Buky got her diagnosis, and throughout her illness, she faced several incredibly difficult decisions. I thought she always faced those decisions with strength and courage, as well as with love. Love for her daughter (before and after she was born), love for her husband and love for her whole family. She always wanted to make the decision that was best for all concerned. And even though these situations were frightening and I know that she was scared, she did not allow the fear to control her. I think that is the true measure of strength: being able to be courageous even in the face of fear. She approached the illness with dignity the entire time; mustering the energy when she had very little to take care of herself and even take care of her family, still cooking and cleaning whenever she had the energy to do so.
Buky always cared and worried about what was happening in the lives of her friends and family. She shared the load of their burdens or challenges like they were her own and she genuinely celebrated their victories like they were hers.
In addition to her strength and the love she always showed me, I will miss her advice, her sense of humor, and how she always helped me to maintain perspective and focus on the things that were truly important.
Can't believe you're gone now.
Thank you for sharing your self with us, and leaving us the legacy of your friendship. You fought well the good fight. Rest well now, Buky.
I remember her poise, grace..
Sleep well...
May the good Lord console her husband, parents, sister, Bless and Envelope Dara with his presence and Love.
Amen.
Words fail me at this time. I was hoping someone will tell me this not true. I'll remember your love for life, gentle smiles and that one can always count on you.
I pray the Lord comfort the family & friends you left behind.
Rest in peace dear friend till we meet again.
You are such a rare gem,so simple hearted being,highly humbled,not egocentric and never wanting anyone sad around you.Though I never saw since we left med school some 16yrs ago,your memories are still as fresh as ever.
It was just this last year I asked after you from Kemi at N.M.A and she said you were doing fine in the U.S.i never thought we will never see again.i was hoping to see you again in any of our set reunion.We love you but God loves you more.Sleep on till we meet on the resurrection day.Goog night sister
You will be fondly by our entire set
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You are in our thoughts today as we remember your birthday. Continue to rest in His grace. We continue to pray for grace for your loved ones.
Gbolahan Obajimi
Tribute to my sister Buky
I am Buky’s younger sister and though she was only 17 months older than me, she really felt like a big sister. She was my only sister and my best friend for as long as I can remember.
If anyone had told me a couple of years ago that I would be giving a tribute at Buky’s funeral, I would not have believed it. Where do I begin?
As a little girl, I really admired Buky, I admired everything about her. Her looks, how well she did at school, the fact that she had so many friends. As a matter of fact, not only did I really want to be like her, I wanted to be her.
Buky was always very generous to me. When she was about 13 years old, she had her first job at a photocopy and print shop own by our mum’s friend in Old Bodija, Ibadan. Whenever she got her N20 salary every other Friday, she would count out N10 and give it to me. Even when we grew older, she would never hesitate to give me nice gifts. Whenever I had a major expense coming up, she would consider it her expense too and would often offer to split the expense with me. She was especially generous to my children with her time, her money and everything she had. This generosity was not just with me but with a lot of her friends and other family too.
Buky was fiercely loyal to her loved ones. Any friend of mine was a friend of hers and she was very clear about that……and woe betide anyone who tried to take advantage of me or treat me unfairly. She would face them head on and stand up for me….always.
Buky had a kind and simple heart. She was pretty easy to read once you got to know her. She wore her heart on her sleeve and there were no airs about her. When she was worried, you knew, when she was happy, you knew, when she was sad, you knew. And no matter how times she was hurt by someone, she always forgave them and never put up walls around her heat. Buky was not afraid to be vulnerable, she did not hide her feelings or pretend to be someone she was not.
Like Lanre said during his tribute, Buky carried the burdens of her loved ones as if they were her own. No matter what she was going through, she cared so much about others and what they were going through. I’ll give you an example: Buky’s daughter Oluwadara and my son Iremide were born 10 days apart in the spring of 2015. I was in California, Buky was in Seattle and my parents were with her. Buky worried constantly about how I was coping with my baby and older son without my mum there to help me. At the same time, Buky herself was dealing with her illness, the treatment and its devastating side effects and of course a newborn baby of her own. Another example that comes to mind is when we were growing up in Nigeria and my parents would go out of town to Lagos or Ijebu or any town or city a couple of hours drive away. If they were not back home before dark, Buky would go and sit outside by the gate and wait for them and no one could convince her to come inside or have dinner until they came back home.
I could go on and on about how wonderful, kind, generous and loving Buky was but instead let me say a few things I will miss about her:
I’ll miss her frequent face time calls with me and my boys. We would often face time with her when I came home from work and my older son would say “ lets call Abiki” (that’s what he called her).
I’ll miss her sense of humor – Buky was very sharp and witty
I’ll miss the great advice she gave me about everything from career to fashion to family life
I’ll miss having her to talk with and sound things off of – she was a great listener
I’ll miss her sense of style I’ll miss her warmth and caring spirit
I’ll miss our long telephone conversations
I’ll miss her medical advice for my boys – she was not only their Aunt and my first son’s godmother she was also their honorary pediatrician
I’ll miss our little get-aways: I remember Puerto Rico, Las Vegas, London, Lagos and oh-so-many weekends in New York City to see broadway shows
Lastly, I’ll miss just knowing she’s there for me to reach out to.
As younger women, we often talked about raising our children together, how our husbands would be good friends and how our kids would grow up together. She often joked that she would send her kids over to my house for lunch or dinner whenever she did not feel like cooking.
When I first met my husband, Buky was so excited. Whenever he and I were to go on a date, she would insist that I got all dressed up and looked really really nice. I on the other hand figured its was alright to go on a date in my natural, everyday look, afterall, if we ended up together he would see a lot more of my day to day look than my dressed up look, right? I’m glad I took her advice though, I might not be married to my husband today if I hadn’t.
When we were in medical school, she let me walk in her footsteps. At the beginning of each rotation or before any examination, she would tell me exactly what and how I needed to study to do well based on her own experience the previous year.She always wanted things to be easier for me than they were for her and for me to do better than she did.
So today, my heart is heavy, no I should say my heart is broken. Someone close to me said “Kemi, don’t worry, I’ll be your Buky from now on”. Another person said to me “ now you have to be both Buky and Kemi to your parents”. But they don’t understand, Buky was one of a kind so no one else can be my Buky and I can’t be Buky for Mummy and Daddy, I can only try.
I know things can never be the same again but I do know that Buky is in a better place and that things will get better for those of us she left behind as time goes by.
I love you Buky, I always will. I believed till the very end, even as you took your last breath that you would miraculously be healed. I guess it was not meant to be. I do know, however, that someday we will meet again to part no more.
Bukola, caring sister and daughter, loving wife and devoted mother.
Olubukola mi, Oluremi mi, Agbeke mi…..
Omo alakatanpo
T’o se bi obo o gbon
Obo gbon t’inu obo l’obo n se
Omo t’ibi t’inu omo Aderonke
Omo elesin meta ni ‘Jebu Ode
Omo r’epo omo t’epo
Omo olori se se se Sun re O….. Buky Sun re O