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This memorial website was created in the memory of our loved one, Chuck Cole, 79, born on May 29, 1934 and passed away on November 5, 2013. We will remember him forever. 

I don't think there ever was a bigger personality...certainly not that I have ever met. He was the "spark plug" of our business, every activity, every gathering, and every single day of our 28 year marriage. He was a natural born leader. He was also a great teacher. Breaking down difficult concepts and teaching those concepts to others was his greatest passion and fulfillment. He had an intense desire to help people. There was nothing he would not do for a friend in need. There was absolutely no better person to have beside you in a crisis. It will be a challenge to live up to his example. I can honestly say, I am a much better person for having known him.

Chuck lived his life with three mottos that many of you will remember him saying. He had these written down in his office when we first met and was still referring to them throughout our life together:

"Life is an apple. Take big bites."
"Moderation is for monks."
"Anything worth doing is worth doing to excess."

Chuck's counsel, his caring, his commitment to his friends and family, his fun-loving spirit and over-the-top enthusiasm will be missed by so many.  This little poem, author unknown, speaks to how I feel and maybe it will to you.

"Gone yet not forgotten, although we are apart, your spirit lives within me, forever in my heart."

Chuck's friends extend across many states and even foreign countries. Some of his friends and relatives are not so mobile these days and would find traveling to Pahrump difficult or impossible. Thus, in lieu of a traditional service or "celebration of life," I have created this website memorial. I also decided that a website was the best way to give him a big audience, and you know Chuck always loved a big audience.  

Please share your memories, feelings, and stories about Chuck here at this site. Think about his impact on your life and please feel to share. If you have a tribute, there is a tribute section below. If you want to write a story about Chuck, please use the "Stories" tab above. If you have photos you'd like to share, you can upload them directly or send them to me and I will put them up. If you'd like to flesh out his life story, especially in the years before me, let me know. 

The best way to view the photos is to click on the "Gallery" tab, then "photo" and run the slideshow. Try it. Many of you will see yourselves in the pictures.  I chose a Frank Sinatra song as Chuck was a huge fan of "Ol' Blue Eyes." Not to mention, if My Way doesn't represent Chuck's life, I don't know what song would. If you get tired of the music, there is a "sound" button at the very top of the page that toggles the music off and on. I have set this up as a lifetime memorial so it won't be going away any time soon.

And finally, thank you for loving him too. 

                                                                                          Donna Carlson Cole

November 5, 2016
November 5, 2016
I can't believe three years have passed already. I'll forever miss Chuck's enthusiasm, energy, and passion for every project he took on. I miss the way he spent so much time and effort keeping in touch with his/our friends.
November 6, 2014
November 6, 2014
The world is a lonelier place without Chuck. He used to call me up every month or two and we would work on some problem or just invent one. I miss him.
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
What a beautiful memorial, Donna. I just learned of Chuck's passing - what a shock. My deepest condolences go out to you. Chuck was a very fun and hospitable man. I'm glad I had the opportunity to go on that wild and crazy ride with him on his new Cat - whew! May he rest in peace.
June 11, 2014
June 11, 2014
Nice tribute page Donna. Sorry to here of Chuck's passing. Just stumbled across this today. (06/11/14)

We had a number of good times and experiences, until that unfortunate Nevada office debacle. Sorry it had to separate us, but so goes life. 

I'm preparing to sell my last business and spend my last few years, as they too are drawing short, in my motor home traveling this great country and revisiting many old places and friends.  www.jrwhipple.com
January 16, 2014
January 16, 2014
I'm a little late to post here but have finally rounded up some thoughts.

Chuck & I have been friends since about 1959. We met at Ampex Corp where we were both working on a project that Ampex referred to as the 'Carmel Project'. Chuck was a newbie engineer and I was a technician. Ken Thompson has remembered this era in his tribute.

Chuck moved on to a new job at Vidar Corp and subsequently recommended me for a job there too. It turned out to be good for me and I remained there for 23 years.

Chuck & I have flown in his PT19, raced go karts, ridden dirt motorcycles, water skied, and repaired a whole host of things together.

We traveled, camped and just hung out together.

One of the memorable repair jobs that we did was to repair the brakes on his Ford 8N tractor as they would scarcely work at all and he could not use them to assist in turning (important for a tractor).

As usual Chuck wanted the BEST of everything for this job. So we took it all apart and found that it needed brake shoes and drums turned. And we found that the axles need to be built up with welding and re-machined . We wanted to have the brake shoes 'arced in'. This was just at the time that asbestos was being phased out of everything and all of the brake shops we went to would no longer arc the shoes as this would generate some dust which might have some asbestos in it.

Finally someone told us that there was a guy in the back of a motorcycle shop that might do it. We found him and sure enough we got the shoes arced and when the tractor was back together the brakes worked perfectly.

This sort of illustrates Chuck's bent on perfection. Donna mentioned Chuck's three 'mottos' for this:

"Life is an apple. Take big bites."
"Moderation is for monks."
"Anything worth doing is worth doing to excess."

But there was another to add:

'Too much is just enough.'

Whenever we were working on something and he would want something better than we could find we would trot out these maxims and laugh about it.

Motorcycling (dirt bikes) was big activity for us. A favorite place was Clear Creek (now closed) in Central Calif. Chuck would select a date and inform everyone he knew and most of us would show up for a few days of riding , camping and fun.

I'm missing all this fun already and I am going to miss Chuck too. How can you say goodbye to all of this?

Paul Moyer
December 26, 2013
December 26, 2013
We met Chuck and Donna shortly before Chuck's passing and we are eternally grateful for the time we spent with them. Chuck was a wonderful man with a great sense of humor and his love for Donna was so very evident. Donna, you were very privileged to experience the love of a great man and he was very free to express that love to all. Keep Chuck close in your heart and he will be with you always.
December 4, 2013
December 4, 2013
Beautiful tribute for a great guy and fellow facilitator, Donna!

I remember Chuck from my early days with the HR Training Division at the City of Tucson. Those were my 'green' training days. Chuck's courses helped me with my own facilitating skills, and definitely changed the lives of many a City of Tucson employee.

Thanks for doing this!
November 28, 2013
November 28, 2013
WOW.
Donna what an Absolutely Beautiful Memorial Tribute to Chuck.
I was so Happy to know you Chuck and enjoyed your sense of Humor.
I Will MISS YOU.
Donna my Heart hurts for you. I'm glad that you have so many Beautiful Memories. I enjoyed the Gorgeous pictures. 
Sending My Love.. Susie .
November 25, 2013
November 25, 2013
Chuck was certainly a man who stood heads above the common man. His intelligence oozed out of him as he taught hugely complicated financial aspects of his and Donna's investment business. I have known a lot of College Professors who could have learned teaching methods from him. Aside from this brilliant side, Chuck was fun-loving and always happy to see his friends, He has left a huge hole in our hearts and we will miss him forever. Donna knows how much he loved her and we know she feels blessed for the time she had with him. You meet many new friends in this nomad lifestyle we have, but only a few become as special as Chuck and Donna. Peace to you, Donna. We love you and hope to see you soon.  Earl and Virginia
November 25, 2013
November 25, 2013
Chuck was one of the first friends I made when I moved to California, so many, many years ago. His warmth, intelligence, and seductive humor made him a friend for life. He will always be there as a loving, supportive, and wonderful friend to remember. I will miss him.
November 24, 2013
November 24, 2013
Goodbye Chuck,
You have touched many folks throughout your life. From way back (the 60s) I remember how you and a friend befriended a young autistic teenager, Jim. Jim lived in a closet at home in Los Altos, CA, not communicating with his family but self teaching himself electronics.

You brought Jim into our startup company, Vidar Corp, where you were our first Marketing and Sales Manager. We employed Jim as a electronics technician, and he could do the job. With your guidance, Jim not only improved on the job, but became a more complete young man.

I remember one Company all-hands meeting in the cafeteria, Jim raised his hand and asked a question about the Company's business.

The world will miss you, Chuck.
November 23, 2013
November 23, 2013
Chuck, he was an extraordinary a man. Always positive and always smiling. He was so extremely intelligent and a superb teacher. His love for Donna was so apparent and beautiful to watch. I often spoke of him to my friends as an example of a miracle case regarding his victory fight over the evils of cancer. His positive "CAN DO ATTITUDE" and his well sought out medical treatments helped him to enjoy many many more years of life with his beautiful and loving wife, Donna. Chuck touched so many lives and we are all richer having known him. He is sincerely missed and loved.
November 20, 2013
November 20, 2013
Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
Chuck Cole was a terrific guy.
But that you already knew!

Just finished looking at the photos. When I stop crying, I'll say something worth saying. Dale and I have but one regret, we only knew Chuck for less than two years.

What a fine person he was. He could have been called Mr. Positive or Mr. Possibilities, always smiling and happy. He loved people and having friends over. He made you feel so appreciated.

Chuck was a true patriot in the finest sense of the word. He loved this country for its greatness and nobleness. He felt like a patriotic soul mate to me. His kind is not replaceable. Chuck was one of a kind, especially here is Pahrump. Dale will always remember the fun he had working with Chuck.

Chuck has truly left a hole in our lives, but we will remember his friendship and his business acumen that allowed us to retire when that seemed impossible. I wonder if anyone is aware of what they mean to their friends.

Good-bye Chuck. We hope to see you again someday and continue our warm, wonderful friendship.
November 20, 2013
November 20, 2013
Wow - what a ride and "My Way" is so appropriate.
Chuck's path and mine crossed in 1985 and we walked together for a few short years. Some people make a lasting impression and form unforgetable bonds. They never age, they never change and they are never far away in your mind no matter how many miles there are between you. Few people have made a greater impression on me in my 70 years than Chuck Cole. I won't really miss him as he will live on in my memories. Thank you Donna for the slide show and this great memorial. Tim
November 20, 2013
November 20, 2013
Many people touch our lives, but only a special few become dear to our hearts. We will miss him and think of him fondly.
                      Moe and Dolores
November 19, 2013
November 19, 2013
Donna, what a great memorial tribute to such a great man. I had never met him face to face (just internet correspondence), but I sure wish I had. I am so glad you had such a wonderful 28 years together--you both sure lived life to its fullest. So sad he is not with you anymore, but so happy for the great memories he left you with.
November 19, 2013
November 19, 2013
To the most professional, fun and exhausting first client. You taught me so much and was always here for me after losing my love,friend,and husband last year. Thanks
November 19, 2013
November 19, 2013
Chuck was a tribute in himself, to his way of life, his appreciation for perfection and his expectation of the very best of outcomes in his endeavors. It was edifying to see him progress from pogs to Parumph and always maintain a focus on where he wanted to be and the best way to get there. He demonstrated a determination to succeed in every endeavor and found the time to enjoy life to the fullest.
Well done, Chuck Cole.
November 16, 2013
November 16, 2013
I've lost my life's companion,
A life entwined with my own,
You're still mine to remember,
A husband I was proud to own.

I can say with total certainty, I loved...and was loved with a depth and breadth many women only dream of.

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November 5, 2016
November 5, 2016
I can't believe three years have passed already. I'll forever miss Chuck's enthusiasm, energy, and passion for every project he took on. I miss the way he spent so much time and effort keeping in touch with his/our friends.
November 6, 2014
November 6, 2014
The world is a lonelier place without Chuck. He used to call me up every month or two and we would work on some problem or just invent one. I miss him.
June 21, 2014
June 21, 2014
What a beautiful memorial, Donna. I just learned of Chuck's passing - what a shock. My deepest condolences go out to you. Chuck was a very fun and hospitable man. I'm glad I had the opportunity to go on that wild and crazy ride with him on his new Cat - whew! May he rest in peace.
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Memories of Chuck Cole

May 29, 2014

I first met Chuck Cole in June, 1934. Chuck had just been born at the  hospital in Auburn, California. The United States was in a deep depression. In 1934, times were tough and a  few bucks could be made mining for gold in the Sierra Nevada Foothills. Chuck’s mother, Alma Josefina Hellgren Cole, owned the Amazon mine. The Amazon was located near  the small village of Kelsey, not far from Placerville, California. I believe the  Amazon Mine had produced gold back to the Gold Rush days. She had a crew of two or three men working the mine. They probably worked for a bunk to sleep on, a  little grub, and a share of the gold from the mine.

Alma cooked for the mining crew and needed help so she could take care of  Baby Chuck. Her kid sister, Hulda Elizabeth Hellgren Sorensen, lived in San  Mateo, California, and owed Alma a few favors, so was called upon to come to the mine and cook.

Well, that was okay, but Hulda had two kids, my sister Betty and me. So we  had to tag along. I remember that my Dad (Chris Sorensen) drove us to the Ferry  Building in San Francisco, where we took a ferry across the Bay to Oakland. In  1934, the Bay Bridge was about half finished. The towers were up; the big cables  were spun; and the suspender cables were in place. As a six year old kid, I was  fascinated by all the boat traffic on the Bay. Without most of today’s bridges, a lot of people and goods were moved around by boat.

About half way across the Bay, a poor fellow decided he had enough of the  Depression and jumped overboard to end it all. I remember seeing his hat on a  bench with his suicide note in it. The ferry captain was fit to be tied. It ruined his schedule for the rest of the day. As for the jumper, when he hit the cold water of the Bay, he started swimming and was picked up by a life boat lowered by the Captain.

The ferry left us off at the Southern Pacific Mole in Oakland. The Mole consisted of a myriad of wood-pile ferry slips with piers connecting them with the rail lines on shore. Here Dad put us on a train that took us to Auburn where we visited Alma and Chuck in the hospital. Alma’s husband, Chester Cole (Chuck’s  father), picked us up in his 1934 tan Chevrolet coupe that had a single bench seat for the four of us. After visiting Alma, we took Highway 49 to the mine. It was a very winding road, and Betty got car sick on the way, a little awkward  considering the crowded conditions.

I’ll relive Betty's and my experiences at the mine to give you an idea of where  Chuck spent most of the first three or four years of his life.

I believe the mine was on about 40 acres of land. There must have been at  least three “cabins” on the property - none of them very substantial. The  largest was where Alma, Chester, and Chuck resided. One was for Alma’s brother, David and his wife, Irene. And one was probably a bunk house for the crew.  When Betty and I were there with our mother, we would take an occasional bath in a four-foot galvanized tub that was set outdoors in the sun to heat the water.  I believe the toilet was an outhouse. Mom and Alma had bedrooms in the house.  Uncle Chester slept at one end of the covered porch in front of the house, Betty and I at the other end.

Occasionally we would hike a mile or so to the Madsens, our neighbors. We  were warned to look out for rattlesnakes on the way. Uncle Chester kept rabbits  in hutches and we would sometimes have rabbit for dinner. I imagine weekly trips were made to Placerville for provisions. I suspect we ate a lot of venison, but  didn’t know it. They were afraid the kids might blab about deer being shot out  of season.

I recall that the mine shaft went down a couple of hundred feet at an angle of about 45 degrees. Betty and I were absolutely forbidden to go near the mine  shaft. I would call that an invitation, wouldn’t you? Betty says she remembers  that we grabbed hold of a metal bar that hung from above and swung out over the shaft.

The mine did produce a little gold for the Coles. I recall our Uncle Dave showing me a small vial filled with the yellow stuff. The rock tailings from the  mine were used for a gold-panning exhibition at the centennial celebration held  in Placerville in 1949.

I believe that Chuck finally split the mine property into parcels and sold  them.

The summers were very hot and dry at the mine, and Alma and Chester would  rent a furnished flat in the San Francisco tenderloin district to escape the heat. It  also give Alma a chance to play poker, a game she loved to play.

When it got close to school time for Chuck, it was time to move closer to good schools. Alma was a gambler and investor at heart. When San Carlos was  being subdivided, probably in the twenties, Alma had invested in two  beautiful creek-side lots. In 1938 or so, Alma’s brother, Dave, built a three bedroom house for Alma and Chester on the lots and this is where Chuck finished growing up. Alma was a wonderful cook and became a professional chef. She was the chef for the Gymkana Club (for horseback riding) in Menlo Park. She also prepared special meals for people. For example, she would cook Christmas dinners for Mr. and Mrs. Davies. He made billions on Indonesion oil. Mrs. Davies gave away millions on things like Davies Symphony Hall in San Francisco

I don’t know too much about Chester’s early life. I know that the Coles go  back to the early days in San Francisco. He worked as a stage electrician (handling spotlights, etc.)  As a result of his working around the stage, he had  a great love of music.

Chester was in the Army during World War I and served in France. He came  down with tuberculosis that virtually destroyed his lungs. He received a  full-disability pension for the rest of his life.

Chester loved watching baseball and football games. He watched the  neighborhood kids play baseball at the local park. He attended all of the 49er  games while he was still mobile... first at Kezar, then at Candle Stick.

Chester had a son, Bob, from a previous marriage. Bob sold carpets for a  living. Chuck once tried to help Bob by buying some carpet. Unfortunately, Bob took the money but didn’t deliver the carpet. So much for helping out a brother.

As youngsters, Chuck, Betty, and I, were always very close. I would like to  close with a few vignettes of things we did together.

When the movie, “Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs,” first came out, it was  shown first in San Francisco at one of the big movie palaces. This was about  1940. I was about twelve and Chuck about six. I talked Alma and Chester into  letting me take Chuck on the Greyhound bus from San Carlos to the City to see  “Snow White”. Well, we were having a great time and it was still pretty early, so why don’t we take the street car to Playland at the Beach (a large amusement  park, now long gone) and enjoy some of the rides. We were way late getting home.  Uncle Chester was furious (one of two times I ever saw him angry).

When Chuck got his first motorcycle (I think he was about fourteen) he rode it from his family’s home in San Carlos to my family’s home in San Mateo and  wouldn’t leave until I rode it. I have to admit I really enjoyed it.

Around 1948, Chuck had talked his Dad into giving him their old 1939 four-door tan Chevy when his dad got a new car. He then talked his parents into letting him, a fourteen-year-old, take the car to Yosemite with a friend. Well, they approved the trip if I would provide a little adult guidance. I was twenty at the time. I guess they got some “adult guidance” from me, except for the three days I took off on my own and hiked from Tuolumne Meadows (where Chuck had  dropped me off) down to Yosemite Valley.

Around 1941, Chuck and I built homemade coasters together. For some reason  Chuck was staying with us in San Mateo. We called them “Skates” and “Scoots.”  “Skates” was a wooden apple box nailed to one end of a two-by-four with a  two-by-two nailed to the top for handle bars and with salvaged roller-skate wheels. “Scoots” was a little larger. Probably a wooden orange crate on a  two-by-four frame with wheels salvaged from an old wheeled toy. I remember it  even had a brake that sort of worked.

Our two families were always very close. We usually spent Christmas Eve  together. Alma would usually cook dinner for a wealthy family on Christmas Day.  For example, she cooked Christmas dinners for Mr. and Mrs. Davies, the wealthy couple referenced earlier.

As youngsters, the bond between Chuck and my sister Betty and me was much  closer than typical first cousins. To me, Chuck will always be my kid brother. 

I really miss him.

One of many enduros riden together.

November 24, 2013

The pictured trophy was from a Motorcycle Enduro riden in Lake County near Lake Pillsbury. Chuck discovered the lake when fying over it in his WWII open cockpit Ryan Trainer. We had been looking for a less crowded lake for water sking and away from the new comers. The lakes in the Bay Area and in the valley got too crowded and with new restrictions.

Chuck was so excited to find the new destination type lake with no through traffic. A few weeks later we were off to spend a Friday night in Ukiah and to attack the unknow the next morning. The lake was so much fun that we kept going back. It became the Thompson's Summer place to be at. We boat camped on USFS property for 12 summers, with us workers going home during the week to work, do laundry get supplys and return Friday night. Chuck show up when he could. He also showed up to checkout the Ultralight I built on pontoons to fly off of Lake Pilisbury for 9 years. 
We now have Two Cabins on one acre of lake front on privite property in the Mendincino National Forest.

All of this because of Chuck Cole and his fly over Lake Pillsbury.    

How we met.

November 22, 2013

There were two jobs open in the summer of 1956 in Ampex's Instrumentation Division, Application Engineering for College Engineering Seniors. Chuck Cole from Stanford got one and I (Ken Thompson) from San Jose State got the other.

In the picture, Chuck is standing in the dark coat. I am sitting next to Ampex's Founder. We have been friends ever since. We have done may things together, like Water Sking  after work in the Redwood City Yacht Harbor and the Belmont Sloughs. We have won off road motorcycle events together, as a few examples. 

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