He was like a part of my family. I can't help but mourn him and wish it was different...
July 7 1996--November 16 2015
Cyclamen veins on the petal, pink and white,
like the veins of your translucent temple-
fragile, so tender, remain in my mind
as I remember you now.
And the lustre of your young blue iris,
bursting with promise and intelligence...
How can it now be stilled?
How can it now be gone?
I wish you had stayed your hand,
on that cold day in November
when the warm blackness of a final sleep
seemed preferable, and you who
could not continue, explained
you were “tired” and must go.
I wish you had stayed your hand.
But you didn't and we are left in this void,
to remember the boy you used to be.
The young have tunnel vision,
and often cannot see past what they focus on.
It’s likely you were no different.
Lost in an eternal now, you couldn't see,
the faint light at the tip of your drifting shadow.
you couldn't climb out of what it was
you had wandered into.
But it is your youth and innocence,
that protect you.
You didn't know. You just didn't know,
to what extent the pain would travel
and to whom it would mightily touch
and transfigure.
If there is a God, he holds you now,
safe and hidden. I want to believe that.
I want to believe you have no memory,
of this world, of the stark cold want
that permeates this undulating planet,
but only of those of us who loved you.
I want to think of your smile and laugh
as the defining feature of who you used to be.
I want to recall how happy you were,
when Amelia and I came over for visits.
How you would fly down the stairs,
your little feet so quick as you pattered
across the dining room, to take a flying
leap onto the couch, that big smile
on your face, as you held your blanket
grinning, with a finger in your mouth.
I want to recall the holidays spent with you,
and your parents and many siblings
how your giggle made me smile, and I would
tousle your blond head in affection.
More than anything, I want to know,
you are safe in the confines of the cradle
of this universe, that the soft brush of
each chill wind does not possess you
but that you have moved on-
your innocence forgiven
to develop into something else
a blossoming, a flowering
like Cyclamen veins on the petal.
Rest in peaceful, warm sleep Conner,
You are home now.
--Theresa Kennedy-DuPay