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This memorial website was created in memory of my daughter, Dana Joan Clay, born on May 7, 1964 and died after suffering a heart attack (a complication of alpha-one/COPD) on March 5, 2017, at the age of 52. She was my only surviving child.
Dana Joan was a caring and generous friend to all those who knew and loved her.
During the last few years of her life, she accumulated hundreds of friends on Facebook, charming them with her buoyant spirit and positive attitude, her caring and generosity. She posted many images of gorgeous scenery, beautiful people, and enchanting vistas of fantasy. She always gave encouragement to her friends and even helped them financially, although she could scarcely afford it.
Dana never knew how much of an inspiration she was to others.
Dana was careful to keep her terminal illness secret from her friends, and with the few who knew about it, she underplayed her suffering. She never complained about her trips to the ER, the constant pain, the panic attacks due to the lack of oxygen, or about her struggle to walk, to even breathe comfortably. In her words, "I don't want people to feel sorry for me." She wanted to be a positive influence in the lives of others, making them laugh, making them happy.
"I hope when I die," she once told me, "all my friends will have a party. I don't want anyone to be sad. When I die, I want everyone to to celebrate my passing, and be happy for me."
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Happy Birthday In Heaven
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You will always be in my heart & I love you.
Miss you until we reunite eternally.
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die."
Love you, honey, always.
PS: Dana DeLoach - please keep in touch - FB disabled my account in Oct. and the phone #(s) I had for you are no longer in service apparently. I am on Twitter now - https://twitter.com/GeorgeSchmidt67 or email me : gpschmidt67@gmail.com
Miss you
Love, Mom
Happy Birthday dear friend
"I shall not die, but live,
and declare the works
of the Lord."
- Psalm 118:17
She died with that wish, that meant so much to her, unfulfilled.
As a friend and loved one of Dana Joan, would you please consider adopting a kitten of your own, if you have room in your heart and home? To give a kitten or cat a "forever home" would be a beautiful way of paying tribute to her. She would bless you for it.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muAHWWFKG_E
I received this note yesterday from Gina whom I had spoken to over the phone recently. She wrote: "Dana had a huge heart and she was always trying to help whomever she could. She would come down to Activities and ask what she could help me with. We became pretty close. She will be missed."
I shall miss you my friend however I am comforted by the fact that you are no longer suffering or in pain.
R.I.P. Lil Angel
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![Dana Joan at three years old.](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/2895027_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![The smile that lit up a room](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/1140437_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![Dana with one of the Michigan physicians who treated her](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/1140364_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![Her dimpled smile](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/1140320_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![With flowers in her hair](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/0995065_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![Me, my adorable daughter and beautiful mom](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/0994262_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![Miss in a mini](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/0994261_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![At two-and-a-half, on the corner of Polk Street and 8th Avenue in Gary.](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/0993769_235x235_fa65cd.jpg)
![IMG_0056](https://photo.forevermissed.com/lst/d/a/dana-joan-clay/p/0971081_235x235_526d17.jpg)
Past life memories...
Dana believed in spirits and in previous lives. When she was a toddler, just learning to talk well, she told her aunt that she had a friend no one else could see, and he was her protector. This happened at a time long before she knew about her family tree, and years before she had ever heard of the fictional character called "Lone Ranger." Her imaginary friend she called 'Tonto.' He was an American Indian, although at the time she didn't understand what an Indian was.
As a young girl, she learned about her Native American branch of the family tree, and immediately identified with it. She felt out of place as a white girl, and felt a deep affinity with the original Americans. For a while, as an adult, she lived on an Indian reservation in South Dakota, which she described as one of the happiest times of her life. She told me that the Chief recognized her as a spirit of light, and a part of the American Indian culture.
A few years before she passed away, she told me more about her past-life memories, which involved a male warrior who was her mate, who went away with other men to fight the enemy. With tears in her eyes, she talked about how people came to the camp and hurt the women. The men wanted to know where her mate was, because he was a powerful leader they wanted to kill. They were cruel men who tortured her to the death, but she refused to give up her lover. "I died for him," she said.
And when Dana temporarily "died" in the ER a few years ago, she experienced what she called "heaven," a quiet and beautiful place along a stream, with woodlands nearby. She was an Indian maiden, standing by the stream, watching it flow, listening to the rushing water and the bird songs. "When I die, I want to go back there," she said.
She found her paradise, I'm sure, and her place in the past, and the future to come. She found her 'Tonto' waiting for her there, and she'll live again—a happier, healthier life, I hope, filled with beauty, harmony, love and joy.