Darlene Kay Neilsen Paulette, (1958 - 2010) - ForeverMissed.com Online Memorials

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51 years old
Born on November 2, 1958 in Springfield, Vermont, United States
Passed away on September 20, 2010 in Claremont, New Hampshire, United States

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This website was created in loving memory of and as a tribute to the life ofour beloved, Dar. Although Dar is not with us physically, she remains alive in our hearts. We miss her each and every minute of each and every day.

Our hearts ache as we try to carry on life without her dry sense of humor, the laughter and irreverance she brought to every situation, her love and devotion to family, and her tireless energy.

If you never had the good fortune to be a part of Dar's life, then you truly missed out on knowing a remarkable person who was one-of-a-kind!

If you did know Dar, well then, you know how lucky you were and you share in our sorrow.

Take a few moments to view the photos in the Gallery, read about Her Life and the Stories that have been posted.

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January 24, 2019

Listening to Paul Simon on Vermont PBS and it just overwhelms me with memories of you...of us...of days gone by...and oh, so many good times. Miss you "Al" XOXO "B

January 24, 2019

Ahhhh,
your music REALLY hit the spot this morning!!!
THANKS BARB!!! :) :)

January 24, 2019

Hey girl, I MISS YOU!!!!! Not much time to "chat" the kids will be showing up SOON but I wanted to say Hi and GOD I MISS YOU!!!!! Uh oh here comes the first kid. Gotta go... Luv & Miss Ya MUCH!!!! xoxo Nanc

January 19, 2019

Hey girl, I know it's been a long time since I've "chatted" with you here but we "talk" every day in my heart. I couldn't write anything down because I really was afraid I couldn't write anything that would be okay to be on here. As you know I've had a rough time this past year and I know other people read this so I didn't want anyone to know how truly bad I was feeling. But I think I may be okay. I know I'll still have bad/sad days but I feel like I just might make it! Kim is starting to have some get togethers and I was kind of nervous about going back to your house and being around everyone but I think it might really be good for me to be with them. Anyway, I just wanted to come by and say hi and that I LUV & MISS YOU MUCH!! you are NEVER forgotten xoxo Nanc

December 2, 2018

So, you and Blanche will be together once again. She passed away Saturday morning...as you know. I have no doubt that you will run towards her with open arms. She has wondered where you've been ~ she missed you. You two have some catching up to do!

November 22, 2018

I'm not gonna lie, I'm pretty excited to be going to your house for Thanksgiving this year... I hope you like your new background music. I miss you so much it hurts sometimes...hence, this song seemed to hit home when I first heard it. XOXOXO "B

November 2, 2018

Happy birthday mom! I love you and miss you daily xoxo

November 2, 2018

Hello Darlene. I'm sending all our love to you and your family from Wales, UK. I hope you have a wonderful birthday over on that side of life. Give my children a hug if you run into them xxx we think of you and your little 'gang' all the time - our beloved children, sisters and brothers in Spirit. Leave us lots of signs xxx

November 2, 2018

Happy BIrthday, Dar! Today you'd be 60. To celebrate, me and Nanni are going to a comedy show tonight at REMIX...of course, it will be nothing like your 40-something in Boston, now, THAT was EPIC! No purple hooter shooters and certainly no sailors! (haha) still, it will be a good time. So, Cheers!

October 23, 2018

Hey girl, BLAH!! Winter is on it's way!! You KNOW how I feel about that!! I am already dreading, stressing and freaking out about it!! I don't really know how to organize my thoughts and feelings right now so I really don't know what to say but I wanted to come "visit" and hang with you for a bit. Just needed some "DAR" time :) Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xoxo Nanc

September 20, 2018

Dearest Dar, you will always be in my thoughts ❤❤❤ Kris

September 20, 2018

I miss you mom... I love you and think about you daily. I recently had a friend died tragically and unexpectedly. I wanted to tell you about it, about her. She has a daughter who just started high school. She’ll never have her at her wedding or when she has her babies and my friend will never be there for it either. I’m so grateful that you got to experience all those things with me. Please give “my Jenny” Reed a hug and kiss for me - she’s great, have fun with her, she’s one of the good ones. I love you mom and miss you!

September 20, 2018

Hey girl, Well, of course you know what's going on with my life!!! All I can say is that Chuck is lucky you are not still here cuz I KNOW you would have a few choice words for him!! HA HA. Anyway, I survived and am on my way to my next and new chapter. I miss you more than I know how to put into words! I know I don't "visit" here as much as I should or even want to but you are NEVER forgotten and you are remembered each and every day!! Send a butterfly to us this weekend!! Luv & miss ya MUCH xoxo Nanc

September 20, 2018

Dearest Dar, in a few minutes it will have been 8 years since we said Good-bye. A lot has happened - hopefully, you've been able to view it all from wherever one hangs out between here and Heaven. The Six in the City: 10K Memorial Walk is this Saturday. I doubt we'll have as many turn out this year. Everyone seems to be doing Run/Walk events. I miss you more than words can say. Not a day has gone by that I don't think of you. Hailey and Tyler "know" you and ask about you. It is because of you that I have been able to answer their questions about death, dying, and Heaven. Who better? I Love you and, if you're ever in the neighborhood, you are welcome to visit me in my dreams. xoxo "B

June 11, 2018

Hey, Dar. So, we're gearing up for this year's Memorial Walk. Changing things up a bit and using REMIX as our home base. How cool is that! Hailey and Tyler talk about you a lot as they are being exposed more and more to death and dying. You are the reason they are comfortable talking about it, asking questions, and trying to understand...who better? I miss you always and haven't for one day forgotten you. I wear my necklace and "Dar ring" every day. The kids say "Hi Dar" when they notice and both of them are competing for who gets them when I die (lol). Butterflies are EVERYWHERE this year...and, again, the kids know that it's your way of participating in our lives. Sorry I haven't shared picks as they've grown - but they grow so fast! Have you seen Nat and Curt? WOW! Adults now! But, of course, I'm sure you've been watching. Well, I need to get back to work, but I needed a few minutes with you. XOXO "B

June 5, 2018

Hey girl, PLEASE give my neighbor and friend Teresa a BIG hug for me!! Sometimes I feel like the whole world is going crazy. Every time I turn around either someone is doing something REALLY stupid and cruel or someone else is being diagnosed with some type of cancer. :( On a brighter note.... Natalie is graduating next week!! I'm SURE you're watching from your beautiful spot up there! And..... drum roll please... I am going to my 40th high school reunion!! I am so excited!! Gotta tell you, this get together came at the perfect time, I really need to connect with some of my old friends for a bit. Anyways, I just wanted to stop in and say hi and "chat" for a bit but kids are showing up so I'll say bye for now and I'll talk to you soon. Luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanci

April 3, 2018

Hey there!! Yup, I'm still hanging in there!! I just wanted to pop in and say "Hi" before the kiddos get here. Altho I "talk" to you every day, I wanted to "hang out" with you here for a minute. My life is CRAZY right now, as I'm sure you know, so keep looking out for me, K? I luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

March 24, 2018

Hey, Dar. Boy, am I glad to be able to "chat" with you tonight. I'm sure you've been watching me deal with internet struggles trying to access the Reg's website. I was thinking that maybe my computer was headed for big trouble, but since I'm able to visit with you, I'm thinking that it's the Reg's website afterall. Sure hope they fix it "toot sweet"...I got work to do! I Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY xoxoxo "B

March 8, 2018

Hey girl, I know it has been quite a while since I've written to you and I'm sorry about that but as we both know I "talk" to you every day, so it's all good!!! :) I don't even know what to write I just wanted to be here with you. So, I'm gonna sit here and browse and listen to your music for a bit. Sure do miss hanging out with you "for real" and in person. Thanks for letting me hang out with you! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc

December 27, 2017

Merry Christmas, Dar. How the holidays have changed since you left. We tried getting together the way we used to, but it was hard on everyone...the heartache, scheduling get togethers with in-laws and extended families... One thing that has never changed is how much I love and miss you and wish you were still here. I watched Long Island Medium the other night and the gal said that the spirits of our loved ones never really leave...I truly believe that. Maybe it IS true that we don't immediately go to Heaven. It certainly warms my heart to know that you and Dad are able to watch our lives continue...see the kids grow up...share the good times as well as comfort us in our sorrow. Would love another visit when you get around to it (*wink*wink*) Love You Always, "B

December 25, 2017

Merry Christmas Dar! I have so much to say but can't find the words. You know my heart and how much I miss you so I'll leave it at that for now. Love and hugs to you on this Christmas morning. Xoxo nanc

November 2, 2017

Hi Dar. Uncle Dick will always miss and love you.

November 2, 2017

Missing you today as I do every day... When I discovered that little note from you in my keepsakes, it brought a flood of questions: when was this written? did I respond? how did I respond? BUT, it also brought me an answer: I finally know EXACTLY what tattoo tribute I want. Regardless of my failures and shortcomings, I keep reminding myself that you DO know that I have always loved you with all my heart. Happy BIrthday, Dar, "Love You Always" "B

November 2, 2017

Happy birthday to you...
Happy birthday to you...
Happy birthday dearest mommy...
Happy birthday to you...
Love and miss you every day
❤️Dolly

November 2, 2017

Happy Birthday Dar!! We love and miss you so much! ❤ Kris, Hailey and Tyler

September 20, 2017

Hi Dar, I talked to the kids here at Kids With Spirit about you and what today is and all about the walk. It still amazes me how sensitive some kids can be. They truly were empathetic and caring yet excited for me and the walk. I miss you more than I could EVER express so I just believe that just like God can hear and understand unspoken prayers, you can understand the depth and intensity of my missing you. You are NOT forgotten and NEVER will be!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! xo Nanc

September 20, 2017

7 years, mom. I think about you every day and miss you every day. I love you❤️

September 20, 2017

Dearest Dar, 7 long years and not one day has gone by that I didn't think of you. There's a saying that the hardest part of losing someone is not saying good-bye, but learning to live without them...always trying to fill the emptiness that's left inside our hearts after they have gone. Well, now, THAT pretty much sums it up. I try and I try...but nothing and no one will ever fill that emptiness. I know you're in a Good Place and that brings me comfort. Sharing who you are and what you mean to me with Hailey Darlene and Tyler warms my heart...they feel like they know you. And, of course, I never tire of reminiscing about the times we had when you were here with anyone who will indulge me. I Loved You Then and I Love You Still ~ Always Have and Always Will. XOXOXO "B

September 15, 2017

Hey Dar. I made Grapenut pudding the other night...ate a big bowl and thought of you the while. We're gearing up for this year's Walk. It doesn't look like we have as many participants, but we do have some new faces...sharing the love and support. Still trying to put together my pre-walk talk...anything in particular you'd like me to say? Send me a sign... Love you and Miss you EVERY.SINGLE.DAY. xoxoxoxo "B

August 2, 2017

Happy Sister's Day, Dar! You've always been my BFF. I miss you so.
I love that Hailey Darlene and Tyler ask about you and want to know about you ~ it gives me a warm and fuzzy feeling ~ they know you hold a special place in my heart....and you always will.

July 28, 2017

Hey girl, Missing you like crazy!! I plan on going to REMIX next Friday for a comedy show and of course that just made me remember the show we went to and the AMAZING memories that brought back! What can I say except I miss you terribly but you know that you will NEVER be forgotten!! You are so special to so many people and I hope you know that! You are missed by MANY!!! We love you LOTS!!! Nanc

May 26, 2017

While it may seem a while since I've left you a note, you KNOW I think about you every single day. Yesterday I had to go to Cheshire probate to check on a file. Not having a plan for dinner, I decided to stop by Panera and get a bowl of broccoli/cheddar soup and an asiago cheese bagel. Thought of you with every bite. (No, I didn't get it in the bread bowl...I poured it over a bowl of fresh-cooked broccoli instead). Nanni and I will be visiting the cemetery this weekend to honor Dad and spruce the space up a bit.

April 4, 2017

Hey girl, Ahhh what can I say?? besides I miss you. There are so many times that something will happen and I just think, Oh Dar would know how to deal with that "toot sweet" or I will just imagine your sassy remark that you'd give in a certain situation and I just smile. I know some people don't believe that you go to Heaven right off, and that's okay but I truly believe that that's what happens and that you are there, happy, pain free and loving every minute of it. I know you're lookin out for me but I sure would love a visit too :) Just know even tho I don't get here as often as I'd like, you are NEVER forgotten... EVER!!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

March 9, 2017

Hey Dar,
I'm really having a hard time today missing my Sister. I know that you and Gram and Gramp are there to watch out for her. You were always the mother hen. As the years go on you forget things. And as I was getting on here to write you, I realized I am older than you were when you left us. And that makes me very sad to realize how young you really were. And scares me how fast our lives can change. Or fast time goes by. Because it doesn't seem like it has been that long ago since you left us. I love you Dar. Give Gram, Gramp, and Jennifer a hug and kiss for me. And keep one for yourself.

January 27, 2017

Hey girl, Let me just start out by saying I MISS YOU!! I don't know what is going on, it seems like every time I turn around more people have passed. They all seem to be about our age, it's crazy to me!! Anyway, I keep trudging on day after day but I can feel I've lost my spark. I can't figure out how to get it back. I KNOW you'd want me to, I just can't seem to find it! I miss my silly carefree self that I use to be! I won't give up tho, I WILL keep trying to find it because I DO know you'd want that!! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv & miss ya MUCH!! Nanc

January 1, 2017

Happy New Year, Dar.

December 25, 2016

Merry Christmas, Dar. Missing you today and every day...you are never forgotten. I hope you Heavenly Christmas is beautiful in every way. XOXOXO "B

December 23, 2016

Dar, I'm sure you've been watching and I feel you smiling. Your Foundation was able to show some compassion this week to two families who are lovingly caring for a family member in their final journey. I tried to follow your lead...discreet, no fanfare...and offering to help in any way we can to relieve some of the strain on their resources. One request I couldn't fulfill: the wife asked if I could find a gift card for some sleep...

December 23, 2016

Dar, two ladies I know have just passed recently. Joi Woodman was a classmate and a tireless go-getter...a lot like you. Deb Clark was one of my tax collector friends. Outspoken yet loving...she fought cancer for many years. Please give them a warm greeting up there. And, as always, I still miss you each and every day. XOXOXO "B

December 21, 2016

Hey girl, I know it has been a while since I've been here to talk to you but me being me, I wanted to find just the "right" thing to put on here so I kept looking and waiting. Of course I "talk" to you in my head and thoughts EVERY day but I wanted something SOOO special to put on here for you but I still haven't found that one thing that POPS out at me!! :( Anyway, I think about you ALWAYS and like I've said before, sometimes the memories make me smile and laugh and sometimes they make me so sad because I miss you so very much!!! Who knew things would be so unbelievable different without you here!! I mean seriously EVERYTHING has changed! Anyway, I haven't given up looking for that something special for you but I just couldn't wait any longer to come here and listen to your tunes and say HI. Just know that you are not forgotten and never will be!! Luv & miss ya MUCH!! XOXO Nanc :)

November 18, 2016

Hi mom...I may not post here very often but, I post thoughts, memories, and what's happening to my internal "momory" page in my head and heart daily, sometimes multiple times. Today, I had to post here because our lil Natalie Peanut got her drivers license today. All I wanted to do was to tell you. Of course, I text dad the good news, along with B and Kristel, but I wanted YOU to know most. I love you mom and miss you to where I can't even put it into words cuz I get a lump in my throat and can't speak. I love you mom
Love, your dolly

November 9, 2016

Hey girl, are things CRAZY down here or what??? I just don't understand why people have to be so mean and rude and insulting! We teach our kids good sportsmanship (or at least I hope people do). and then they don't show any respect or ANY smidgeon of good sportsmanship or kindness! I had a good talk with the kiddos today about how to handle yourself (win or lose) and that team work, working together and being kind is so important. I just wished the adults would realize the kids are watching and listening to the way they are acting and speaking! Ok, end rant! Keep lookin out for me, K? Luv and miss ya MUCH! Nanc

November 2, 2016

Happy Heavenly Birthday, Dar. Still miss you each and every day. It's nice that both Hailey and Tyler "know" you. Hailey has a lot of questions about Heaven, God, Jesus, death... it isn't scary to her because when I answer her questions, you are a big part of explaining it to her.

November 2, 2016

Happy Birthday!! The kids here at Kids With Spirit asked about you today and I told them it was your birthday so they all said... "Happy Birthday!" I am not sure why they asked about you TODAY, but I've learned to just go with the flow of these mysterious happenings. Makes me think we are more connected still than I even realized. :) I didn't know the youth pastor from Claremont but LOTS of people did and loved him, sometimes I wonder how it all happens .... do you ALL know when someone new arrives? or just the people you know? Or once someone arrives you all instinctively know one another. I guess it doesn't really matter, right? WOW, I miss talking to you! and seeing you! and hearing your voice and sass! I MISS YOU!! Anyway, Happy Heavenly Birthday, sending big hugs to you!! Luv ya! Nanc

November 2, 2016

I've thought of you many, many times. When your mom is visiting us we reminisce about you a LOT! My prayer is that Freeman and I will join countless others in reuniting with you when our LORD returns.

September 20, 2016

Hello Darlene, Just thought I would stop by and leave you a note. Your sisters did another fantastic job with your memorial walk this year. I can tell they miss you so much. It was a perfect day for the walk and so many people came out. I still think of you everyday too, the glass heart paperweight you gave me one Christmas still sits on my desk. It's so hard to believe it's been 6 years. xo

September 20, 2016

Hey girl, I know it's been a while since I've "chatted" with you here but we both know I "chat" with you each and every day in my car. I still miss you and ALWAYS will but I'm happy to say that I can think of you and smile more often now instead of crying. There will always be a missing piece in my heart and in our family where you belong and sometimes it is obvious but other times it is SO heart-wrenching because I can just hear a "comeback" that you would have said and it's just not said. Oh yea!! I miss your sass and attitude so much, no one has the same "tude" as you, fer sure!! :) The Walk was great again this year and we even made it into the paper!! I hope you can see us as we do the walk and know that this all started because of YOU!! We miss you and love you more than words can say!! And even if I don't make it here as often as I'd like, just know; you are NEVER far from my thoughts and you will NEVER be forgotten!! xoxo Nanc

September 20, 2016

Oh yea, forgot to say we went to the cemetery after church and Mom got to see your spot and what we've done lately. We're gonna get over and "winterize" you and Dad soon. :) xoxo Nanc

September 20, 2016

YESSSSS! Ta-Da! I did it! I finally was able to upload Bruce singing to your Gallery of videos. Enjoy! I just LOVE it and I know you will too! XOXOXO "B

September 19, 2016

Well Dar, we had the Walk Saturday. We had a really good turn-out...a lot of new folks this year...Chaunee's sisters, daughters and grandsons and a few other families who had recently lost someone. Me and Nanni went to church in Springfield Sunday and got to hear Bruce sing. Oh, just you wait! One way or another, I'm gonna upload that solo for ya. Well, tomorrow will be six years since you went away. I can't say it gets easier, because I still miss you and think of you every single day. But, I am proud to say that Hailey Darlene and Tyler James know who you are and how special you are to me...and they think you're pretty darn special themselves. XOXOXO "B

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February 4

Hey, Dar. I finally caught you up to the winter scenery. Been a bit preoccupied with Skip's never ending issues...but, of course, you know that. And, you also know that you are never far from my thoughts...ev-er. SO wish we could hang out a bit like the old days...I could use the light-hearted laughs. More than anything, now that the kids are getting older...I know, I haven't posted pics of them in YEARS! (sorry!)...I KNOW that they would get a real kick out of your take on life. Dang! They're missing out on really knowing someone really special to me, to Kristel, to Nanni... sucks. Kristel started a little book club with Kimmy, me, and Nanni...it's good when we get a chance to all be together for an afternoon...and we all wish you were there too. I'll never stop missing you. XOXOXO "B"

January 9

Hey girl, Well, first off ..... sorry I didn't come chat sooner!!! Although I was here "hanging out" I couldn't quite get my thoughts together enough to "chat". So, here's a VERY late Merry Christmas to you and Happy New Year!!! I made it through the holidays and now the snow has arrived!! I should be glad it held off this long and I am, I just know that now my anxiety had tripled!! Ugh!! On a good note... I am really excited about our new book club. I had to miss the first one because of snow but hopefully I'll make the next one. I need to stay in touch so I don't feel so detached. Well, I suppose I should go get ready for the kiddos. Give Mom and Dad a big hug for me!! and Keep looking out for me, okay??
Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

December 7, 2023

Hey girl, Me again. Just wanted to hang with you for a bit and chat. Again, I have nothing good to report but I wanted to come say hi and browse through your page and pics and listen to your music for a bit. I miss Mom but she isn't afraid or in pain anymore and she is where she has been wanting to be for quite a while. So I am actually happy for her, it's just an adjustment for me. Well, the kids will be here soon so I'd better go. Luv & miss ya MUCH!!! xoxo Nanc

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Thinking of you Darlene. Missing your Walk this year. I still have this paperweight you gave me

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I'll Always Remember Us This Way

November 22, 2018

ALWAYS REMEMBER US THIS WAY

by Lady Gaga

That Arizona sky burning in your eyes
You look at me and, babe, I wanna catch on fire
It's buried in my soul like California gold
You found the light in me that I couldn't find

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Lovers in the night Poets trying to write
We don't know how to rhyme but, damn, we try
But all I really know - you're where I wanna go
The part of me that's you will never die

So when I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way

Oh, yeah
I don't wanna be just a memory, baby, yeah

Oooh……

When I'm all choked up but I can't find the words
Every time we say goodbye Baby, it hurts
When the sun goes down and the band won't play
I'll always remember us this way, oh, yeah

When you look at me and the whole world fades
I'll always remember us this way.

May 10, 2017

Happy Mothers Day!!
I know I'm a little early but I have a busy weekend and may not get to a computer so I wanted to chat and wish you a Happy Mothers Day now so I wouldn't miss it! I still miss you like CRAZY and trust me, you will NEVER be forgotten!!
I luv and miss ya MUCH!!! xoxoxoxo Nanc

September 20, 2015

Here we are Dar!!! Our 5th Annual Six in the City Memorial Walk!!
You are loved and you are missed more than I can say!!!

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