Yesterday was Brandon's 19th birthday and not one person in our family called or left a message on face book to wish him a Happy Birthday. I guess I should be used to it by now being the outsider in this family and world I always have been but why should Brandon be treated the way I get treated he didn't do anything to any body. I took Brandon out for supper to Applebee's in Lafayette and a Lady walked in that looked just like you glasses and all and Brandon did a double take and asked me is Aunt Debby alive? I said no honey she is in heaven that lady just looks a lot like her, he just looked down and said Oh. You could see the dissapointment on his face. I think he hoped he had gotten a birthday gift from heaven. I just wanted you to know that Brandon and I both missed you yesterday. I miss you every second of everyday sis. I just wanted you to know.

Hi Sis, Well today arrived weather I wanted it to or not. I don't feel it is right for me to be the same age as you and if I make it to next year I will really be sad to become older than you. I just don't feel it is right or fair that I am the same age now as my big Sis. I hope you and dad and mom and grandma and matt are celebrating for me because I just am having such a hard time with this. Tell Matt I said Happy 30th Birthday tomorrow. I really do miss his silly ass running around making everyone laugh. Most of all I miss my phone call I would have gotten from you today wishing me a happy birthday!!!! Only family member that remembered me to day was Amanda and Cliff said he reminded her. Wow how things have changed since you left. If I could have one birthday wish today it would be to talk to you and give you a big hug and tell you how much I love and miss you with all my heart. It wasn't supposed to be this way, we were supposed to grow old together now I am doing that alone. I hope your at peace sis I love you.

Hey sis, Hope you had a wonderful Birthday in heaven. I sent 12 balloons and a Birthday Crown your way did you see them? I hope so I wanted you to see that I was thinking about you and miss you with all my heart. Life just keeps sucking since you have been gone. I am in constant pain and meds are not helping. I really don't know what to do anymore I just feel so lost and out of place since you left. No one talks to me anymore or asks if I am ok or how I am doing, I am just here and that's it. Hope you and mom and dad and all our family in heaven had a great time on your birthday sat. I keep hoping to see you someday. Love and miss you with all my heart.

Hey sis, Just wanted to say how much I missed you and love you and I am sure you know that Brandon was voted unanimously by his class mates to be Prom King it was a wonderful night and the girl that was voted Prom Queen looked just like you and I just couldn't contain my tears. I felt you with us that night and I wish we could have watched it all in person together I know you would have loved to have been there. Brandon just Graduated May 30th from high school and I know you would have given anything to have been there to watch it but you were there in sprit and I wore my necklace with your ashes in it so you could be there. I know you were smiling big as he received his core 40 diploma. I wish other family members would have been there but since you left I have no one now so it is just me all alone now. There is so much you have missed and wish you could still be here but I know you are much happier now and I know you are very loved in heaven. Just know we all miss you down here. Love you sis.

Well sis, it's been two years today that you left me behind and went home. I have missed you so much and it has been so very hard with out you. I have so much I want to share with you and so much you have missed since you've been gone. Brandon is graduating next month and I wish you were here to watch it with me, it is because of you that he is here to do that. If it wasn't for you Brandon would have died the day he was born and because of you I got to keep him. You will never believe what has happened. Brandon was elected by his classmates to be on the prom court and he is up for Prom King. I know I am so proud of him and I keep telling him how happy that you would be for him, I really hope he wins I think he will. I got him fitted for a tux for prom and he looks so good I knew you would have wanted to go with me and watch it all happen. I can honestly say if was a lot faster and cheaper than a girl. It has been so hard this past two years since you went home. I still sleep a lot and I have no motivation at all. I just don't know how to get it back. I had you to push me and make me do stuff and now I have no one. Amanda has moved away and it is just Brandon and I now and I get very lonely with no one to talk too. I miss you sis and May 30th I will really miss you at Brandon's graduation. I love and miss you sis.

If I never told you sis, You were my Hero!!!! I love and miss you so much. I miss you the most at night calling me to say you love me and tell me goodnight. It is so hard for me to keep going forward with out you but I try for Brandon, he is about to start college and I have to see that through and it is going to take all of my will and concentration to see it to the end. Please sis help me through this and help me make the right choices for Brandon. I love and miss my big sis.

Hey Deb, I have something I want to share with you. Brandon made something in his Ceramics class for you. He made it with the hopes I could sell it and make some money for your headstone fund but after seeing it and crying I told him that it was so beautiful I just couldn't sell it. I told him that if you were hear that you would love it so much that you would cry also and give him a big hug and you would be so touched at how much he loves and misses you. I will find another way to raise money for your stone. I wish with all my heart that we could give this to you bowl/vase he made for you with the breast cancer ribbon on it.

Two year ago last night matt took his life and I knew sis your fate was sealed and there wasn't a thing I could do to stop it. I prayed that god would let you stay with me anyway and give you the will to push forward but you just gave up the fight when he took his life and broke your heart. I still believe it was an accident or a stupid stunt gone wrong but matt didn't have a clue what he was going to take from everyone that night and I don't think he knew how connected his life was to so many people and the devastation that the loss of his life was going to bring. I don't know if I have quite forgiven him yet for me loosing you or all the family connection that left me too but I'm working on it sis I really am. I really did love him I always have from the first time I ever saw him and I really do miss his silliness. I love and miss you both.

HAPPY NEW YEAR!!!!!!! Sis, I love and miss you so much. I hope your having a wonderful time in heaven you are so missed.

Sorry for your loss. I hope she's having a joyous time in heaven!

MERRY CHRISTMAS Sis, I miss you so very much. It's not Christmas with out you.

I miss you sis, I'm just sitting here at 4am by myself crying and thinking about you. I'm so lonely with out you life is so hard to live now that your gone. When I dream of you we are always having fun or I'm looking for you and even once I saw you with a beautiful crown on your head and you had a beautiful smile on your face and the prettiest wings I had ever seen and you looked so happy and healthy. I want so much to give you Christmas gifts I even bought a few for you even though I know I can't give them to you. I find no joy at all at Christmas and I know you loved it you and your charlie brown christmas trees. It is so hard to deal with all the sadness in my heart since you left, Please help me sis, because no one cares about me but you. I hope you matt and mom and dad and gradma have a Merry Christmas in heaven. Know you never leave my mind and I'll be thinking about you. I love and miss you so much Deb.

Hey Sis,
I bought two silver eternity rings that have sister's forever engraved in them one for me and one for you. I can't help myself, buying you Christmas gifts. I want so bad to be able to give them to you but I know I can't so I will keep them. Just know I haven't forgotten you at Christmas. I have even thought about putting up a charlie brown tree just for you and cover it in bears. I love and miss you so much sis, the world is such a dark and empty place with out you.

Happy Thanksgiving sis I really miss you today.

Hi sis, yesterday was so funny it is days like yesterday that I wish I could call you like I used to and tell you what happened and hear you laugh, I miss hearing you laugh, sometimes when I laugh I hear a little bit of you. I took Brandon for a haircut yesterday and it was cute he was poking at me and laughing and flicking me in the arm and I would tell him, No hurting the mama and he would laugh. Last Night we were feeding the cats and Samantha gave Sabrina the ultimate payback. Amanda went to get Sabrina’s dish to put food in it and Samantha had pied in it. I laughed so hard and I wish I could have called you I know you would have gotten a big kick out of it. Amanda she was just grossed out. I miss you so much and it is very lonely without. I know you have beautiful wings now and I hope someday I get to see them. Love you sis.
Tina

To all that visit this page, I am asking please help me put a headstone down for my big sister. I can't do it on my own and I am begging for help. I know people are short on cash but only if it is 5 or 10 dollars it adds up and with enough help I can give her a headstone. It bothers me my beautiful big sister is in an unmarked grave. Debby was a beautiful and giving person and she deserves more than that. I promise that the money will go toward a stone for her. Please go to my link and donate for my big sister. Thank You!!!
http://www.gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love

http://www.gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love
Please help by donating.
Thank You!!!!

Very lonely without you sis. I love and miss you!!!

I miss you Deb, I dream about you all the time. I never thought that you and I wouldn't grow old together. I never dreamed for one second that you wouldn't be able to fight the cancer and win, I believed in you and I believed that god wouldn't take you away from me. I guess you had a greater destiny than we both knew. Just know I miss you so much and I love you.
Tina

I miss you sis, I watched Heaven is for real today and I just sat down and cried. How beautiful it must be there and how completely happy you must be now. I have so much I want to share with you but I know you already know everything. Take care of my baby boy til I finally come home to hold him for the first time and tell him I love him so much. Life has been so hard with out you but I know you are happy and how loved you must feel now. I miss you sis and love you with all my heart.

Hi Sis, I just thought I'd tell you I love and miss you so much. Don't forget about me. I'll be waiting for you.

Hey Sis, today Brandon turned 18, can't believe it myself. Wow, the years have flown by and the sad thing about today is your not here to see it. You were with me in the room when Brandon came into the world and I was so hoping you'd be here when Brandon Graduated from high school. Just know sis we miss you tons and will be thinking about you today.
Love You
Tina

Hey sis, I dreamed of you yesterday morning. I dreamed that you just suddenly appeared and I was so happy to see you, we talked and then suddenly we were in a kitchen maybe grandmas or dad's at the cottage and we were cooking this big meal and talking about stuff and I knew in my head you were gone but my heart was so happy you were back but I decided that I would take your hand and show you your grave and ask you do you remember dying and did you know how lost and hurt I would be with out you, but I never got a chance to ask you those questions because I woke up. I was so close to asking you and getting answers. I dream of you almost every single night and I hate it when I have to wake up knowing your not going to be there when I wake up. Just know how much I miss you and I will get your headstone for you it is a sad shame no one wants to help me. It just goes to show you that you and I were and are not valued. guess were used to it.
Love you sis
Tina

Another birthday is going to come and go without you here and I can hardly stand it. I feel so guilty that I am here to have another birthday and ur not, just doesn't seem fair. I miss everything about you even our stupid fights. Cliff will never be you in an argument you just made sence and he doesn't. I know you want me to be happy and move on with my life but I just can't see life without you. I love and miss you debby.

HAPPY 49TH BIRTHDAY SIS, I miss you so much. I hope you have a wonderful Birthday in heaven know I will be thinking about you. Kisses sis.

Hey sis, Just wanted to tell you how much I love and miss you. I have so much to tell you but I think you already know. I am so proud of Amanda, she might have a job using her degree and making really good money. If this goes good for her she will be designing something just for you. I am sad another birthday of yours is going to come to pass and your not here. I miss the get togethers at your house and watching the fireworks with you. All of that is gone now I just miss spending time with you and I miss my great nieces but nothing I can do about that. I hope you have a beautiful birthday in heaven sis, just don't forget about your little sis I will be waiting for you when it is my turn.

Hey sis, I got lucky after work yesterday. I stopped for a drink and a couple of scratch offs and I asked God to bless me big as I was scratching off the ticket and I won 100.00 dollars. I laughed and cried and thanked God for the hundred dollars. I am now a hundred dollars closer to getting you a headstone. I told you I wouldn't stop until I got you one.
I love and miss you
Tina

Just wanted to say I love and miss you Debby. Happy Mother's Day I hope you and mom and Grandma have a beautiful mother's day in heaven. Ride a cloud for your little sis.

When I went out to walk the dog and put my son on the bus the sun was coming up and it looked just like the bright pretty morning it was a year ago today when my big sister passed away and my whole life and world as I had always known it ended and a world of pain began for me. I would have taken her place if I could have. Debby would have taken this so much better than I have, she would have grieved for a while and got on with her life because she had three beautiful granddaughters who needed her so much. I have spent the year crying my eyes out and asking why did she have to go and I had to stay, That is why I have tried so hard to get a headstone for her so that her three granddaughter's would have a spot to go and grieve there grandmother and their father. I don't think people realize that those girls didn't just lose my sister, their grandmother but they lost their father as well and with all of his problems the one thing he was, he was loved very much by his three little girls. I talk about my big sister a lot because I loved her, who else could I fight with and in the end no matter what they would still love me and have my back no matter what. I am so happy that she is happy and healthy in heaven but I am so sad and lonely down here without her

Kiss, Kiss I love and miss my big Sis.

Wow what a day, it was a very long hard one and a very sad one. A year ago tonight I left work to visit my big sister for the last time. I washed her up with the help of my wonderful nephew Eric and changed her clothes and laid her back into her recliner for the last time. I gave her a hug and a kiss and I told my big sister I loved her for the last time and begged her not to leave me. A few hours later she was gone. I don't think anyone has any idea how hard it was for me not to cry today. I really miss you sis. Tues. It will be a year since you left and I still can't stop crying.
Every day and every breath I take Sis it is such a struggle with out you, did you know how empty I would feel with out you here to hold my hand. I wish I could have taken your place so you could have stayed here with your granddaughter's who needed you. I know your healthy and happy in gods arms but those of us down here with out you are struggling with out your light and wisdom. I love and miss you so much your lil sis.

"I am pleading and asking for anyone to donate what ever you can so I can put a headstone down for my big sister. I hate asking for help but I have had a lot of hardship since her death and have no other choice but to ask people to help me to do this. I hate that she is in an unmarked grave, she was my big sister and my world. I loved her and even though she is gone I still love her. Please help me give her one last gift, so she won't be forgotten.
http://www.gofundme.com/a-little-sisters-love

I am asking anyone who comes to this page if you can afford to donate money please help me by donating what ever you can to help me to buy my big sister a headstone for her grave. I have had a great deal of hardship since her death and can not afford to buy her one on my own so I have to ask friends, and strangers for help. For my big. Sister I will do anything even ask strangers for help. Please go to gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love and donate.
THANK YOU!!!!

Hey sis, I was dreaming of you this morning and cried all the way home from work tonight thinking about you. There are some days the sadness is so great from missing you I just can't hold it back and I have no choice but to let it out. I try to not show sadness in front of people because they think I should be over my grief by now. I miss you so much, I miss our talks I miss our laughing at each other I miss my big sister holding my hand and telling me its all going to be ok.  I just don't get why no one will help me get you a headstone. I won't stop sis till I get you one. I love and miss you so much deb.

what does it take to get help from friends and a community that my sister helped. I lost my best friend my life long friend my hero. Pretty damn sad that no one would want to help even if it is only a few dollars... let's u know who your friends really are.. Don't worry sis, you know I won't give up on this. I know if it was me you wouldn't give up either. I love and miss you every single second of every day and night.

I miss you sis, Deb, did you know that when you died how much of an impact your loss would be? I still say god took the wrong sister, I know god doesn't make mistakes but I still say the wrong sister left. When I lost you I lost so much, I lost my first and best friend, I lost my confidante that I confided all to. I lost my family and a place I thought of and called home. I am no longer welcome in your home or the life of your children, grandchildren. I lost a lot when I lost you. I know if you were here you'd be kicking asses and taking names. I miss you so much every second of every single day. I go to sleep thinking about you I dream about you and I wake up thinking about you. I have asked for help from friends and people to get a headstone for you but no one wants to help. I guess I just have trouble understanding why no one would want to help get this for you when you did so much for everyone. I can see people not wanting to help me but this is not for me it is for you. I know if it wasn't for my kids I wouldn't even be here I would have joined you by now. I guess God had really big plans for you because he took you and not me. I miss you Deb, it's so lonely here without you. My father in law Cliff the one you called Mr. Magoo has lung cancer and their not giving him long to live so he will be joining you soon. I guess Cancer isn't done wrecking my life just yet. I was so hoping this was going to be a better year, I guess not just more tears and pain for me. Please help me sis I feel like I am fighting a losing battle I sure could use a hug from you. I miss you so much. I love you!!!!

I'm trying really hard Sis to get people to donate money to a fund to buy You and Matt and Grandma a headstone but for some reason only a few people have wanted to help. Don't worry sis I will sell some stuff and do what it takes to get you one, I know you'd do it for me. I love and miss you deb and I won't let this go until I have got this for you. I won't forget you, I love you your little sis.

I have set up a page for donations to get a headstone for my big sister and her son and our grandmother who are all buried together. If you'd like to donate towards that click http://www.gofundme.com/5y3qhg or http://www.gofundme.com/A-little-sisters-love 

Copy and paste this to the top of your page and it should take you right to her donate page.

Hey sis, I love and miss you so much, but I know that you already know that. I hated the thought of Christmas with out you, I fought it all the way but you know that too. Since Matt and you went home to be with the rest of our family things have just kind of fell apart and I have really had a hard time with the fact that your not here. If it hadn't been for Cliff saving Christmas there would have been none because I bought almost nothing, I just wasn't in any kind of gift buying mood for anyone plus other reasons I know you already know about. I just wanted nothing to do with Christmas because I couldn't buy you a gift and see you smile when I gave it too you. I am still struggling with the fact that I can't see you or talk to you anymore. People have grown tired of me talking about how much I love and miss you so they ignore me or say hurtful things like I need to let get over it and move on. I don't know if I will ever be able to let go or say goodbye to you. Yes, we fought for years like cat's and dog's but we are sister's and that goes along with it and we knew it and accepted this. I never will have anyone that will match you as a friend, I will never have another sister so I will never stop missing you or grieving for you. I hope with all my heart that you had a beautiful Christmas in heaven with all of our family and know that not a moment goes by that I am not thinking about you. Again sis, you know I would have taken your place if I could have the world would have been a better place if you could have gotten to stay, now it has to suffer with me in it. I love and miss you every moment of every day, but I know your finally happy and your healthy and your in the arms of Jesus and your safe. Give my baby boy a kiss for me and tell him momma loves him. Love you always your LiL Sis.

My first ThanksGiving with out my beautiful big sister and it was quiet and in the words of my son "with out Aunt Debby it SUCKED. I missed spending the day talking about everything with you to day sis, you were missed a lot. You were the glue that held this family together now no one cares about anyone or anything. What a lonely day it was with out you. I can't wait till you and I can talk and have our sister time together again. Love you and miss you tons. LIL SIS

My fav memories of Debbie are working our 12 Weekend Shifts together at the Manor. She often talked about other facilities that she worked at, such as the Epithean Home. She scared me with ghost stories about that place! She talked about her family and how much she loved all of four kids. She struggled to do what ever her youngest needed, taking her from one doctor to another. She also talked about her family growing up and about her sister, Tina. She told me about carrying her baby sister with them everywhere because she couldn't walk until after age five. She was a wonderful caregiver and friend.

I have thought about you all day today sis. I miss you calling me and asking me what I am bringing to Thanks Giving Dinner at your house. I am going to miss the get together's at your house, your grand kids running all over the house and you laughing at them and watching you love on them. I loved having get together's at your house because to me your house felt like home to me when you were there, kind of like going to Grate Aunt Joe's at family gatherings it just felt so natural. I have cried so much today because I miss you so much. You were my only comfort after mom left and went home. Give mom and dad and grandma and my son a kiss for me hope you have a wonderful ThanksGiving in heaven with everyone. Please don't forget me sis I still need you.

. Debby, I know this is going to sound kind of stupid to most people but Sunday when the storms were so bad and tornados were everywhere I was worried about you hoping and praying that you and grandma and matt were safe and that nothing would come tear up your grave. I know you are happy and whole where you are now but I miss you. Please tell me how heaven is, I knew it was going to hurt really bad when you left me but I didn't even have clue as to just how debilitating the pain would be. Please Deb, tell me how can I be a little sister now that my big sister is gone? I am here and I am alone now no one calls me or talks to me anymore not sure why I even bother to keep a cell phone anymore now that you can't talk to me. I dream of you 24/7 because my heart miss you so much it just refuses to stop looking even though it knows your gone. I love you sis and I miss you too

Partner: Penny Jones of Frankfort, 1 Son: Eric Martin of Frankfort, 2 Daughters: Cassi Martin of Frankfort, Britney Martin of Terre Haute, 1 Brother: Mike Wilkinson of Crawfordsville, 1 Sister: Tina (Cliff) Knight of Colfax, 3 Granddaughters: Dezi Martin of Frankfort, Amelia Martin of Battleground and Kaylin Martin of Frankfort

. She was a member of the Assembly of God Church. Deborah enjoyed gardening, traveling and especially spending time with her grandchildren.

Deborah J. Martin 47 of Frankfort, IN, died the morning of April 29, 2013 at home. Born July 4, 1965 in Lafayette, IN to Lewis Wilkerson & Jean Neff. She was married to Dennis Slaughterbeck. Deborah attended Lafayette Jefferson High School and lived in Lafayette, Colfax and for the past 16 years in Frankfort. She provided child day-care and had also worked as a nurse’s aide for Wesley Manor.

I hope I don’t disappoint you or let you down. Thank You for trusting me and letting me take care of you right up to the end. Just promise me that when my time comes and I hope I don’t have to wait 20 or 30 years, that you will be the one to come and take my hand and lead me home. Please take care of my son til the day I can come home to meet him. Kisses sissy I love you so much

We both understood what it meant to be sisters and to stand up for each other and defend each other and that only we were allowed to pick on each other. Thank You for letting me be an Aunt and a Great Aunt, I promise to always be there for your children and grandchildren if they need and want me

You were my rock and my strength, you taught me to stand up for myself and take no crap from anyone. We fought many times and didn’t talk to each other sometimes but, I always knew you loved me and you were always there weather I wanted you to be or not. Thank you for teaching me how to forgive and that God is real and that he loves me too

To my Big Sister Debby, I love you more than you ever knew I just don’t know how I am supposed to live without you. I just don’t understand as bad as you wanted to stay that you’re gone and I have to stay. You were there at the beginning of my life and I was there at the end of yours Thank You for being my big sister and my Best and only friend in the whole world