I drank champagne on your birthday last night.
I drank champagne on your birthday because had you lived just a few months more, we might be celebrating your 50th birthday together. This wasn’t part of the plan.
I drank champagne on your birthday because I remembered all those birthdays before. How many were there? I watched you grow from boy to man.
I drank champagne on your birthday because since we met, all those years ago, you always told me the hard truth. Even when it hurt. And sometimes you’d make me cry.
You told me I was a smart girl, only pretending to be dumb. So I went to college.
You told me that I needed a man who was “Yay Crista.” So I dumped my boyfriend and found a better one.
You told me that I was an artist. So I stopped selling other people’s art and started making my own.
You told me to write.
I drank champagne on your birthday because whenever you looked at the choices I was making with my life you fell into despair, “Crista, what will become of you?” And that always made me laugh.
I drank champagne on your birthday because when that horrible call came, that you were gone, I went numb. It was dark outside and the rain fell hard. I walked along the banks of the River Thames without an umbrella. I let the cold rain hit my face, trying to feel, trying to wake up from the fog.
And then I heard your voice. You giggled, in that way you do, “Crista, look what’s become of me!” And I knew it was you.
We spoke as I walked along the river that night. And comforted one another, so sad that this was how our story would end. But you promised me a new chapter, vowing that you’d always be there.
“Where?” I asked. And then I heard that laugh again. I heard you laughing.
As the dark river continued to rumble and crash below, I climbed the concrete stairs back to the busy street above. My heart was still heavy as the traffic and bustle of the city street came into view.
But there, right in front of me, stood a giant sign with your name on it. EVAN. And you whispered, “Here. I’ll always be here for you.”
I drank champagne on your birthday because you are still here. And when I fall, you still pick me up. You still slap me hard with the truth.
You still make me cry. You still make me try. Happy birthday, Evan.