Looking back at photos and hearing stories of mom brings much comfort.
It has helped me remember and appreciate even more than ever the kind, sweet, fun and amazing woman she was.
Mom was all about family, friends and community. She showered all with love, smiles and food, especially perogies and remembered names of so many that would frequent the Bayridge.
She loved to celebrate occasions, any occasion...not just the big ones. Halloween, Grey Cup, Boxing Day even the Oscars. She loved coming to music festivals, plays and concerts with me.
If you look back at her life she has lessons to teach....right up to the end when it was difficult for her to remember.
-She taught me beauty is important. But not just looking pretty but growing flowers, making wonderful displays of meals, creating a comfortable home. It was all in the eye of the beholder. She saw beauty in everyone & everything.
-I was told no one could make me have a good time, only I could do that.
So keeping the right attitude and remaining positive and cheerful, despite any challenges that may come.
-We are all equal. She would help and treat everyone who came into the store as a valued and respected customer.
-Family. Both Nan & Papa Don were the closest extension of family we could ever have desired. Jordy, Sage, Logan, Sam and I were in and out of that home next door on a daily basis. Always welcomed, always loved.
-Strength. When life's challenges came quickly at mom. She still wanted to look beautiful, be cheerful, love everyone and cherish more than ever her family.
I travelled with mom and Darlene, Jordy's mom to Fernie when Sage was due to have Murphy. I felt the importance of this connection of women to be there for one another. It was the most meaningful and important trip I had ever taken. Support and teachings for the next generations.
Mom had a poem that I found.
I don't know if she actually wrote it or copied it.
Nevertheless, it goes like this.
Being sick has a mental part.
So use your head to soothe you.
Thinking good thoughts is the way to start.
And smiling works, I assure you.
Don't let the gloomies win.
A happy soul will comfort you often.
And right now is the time to begin.
Just a couple of days before mom passed I had a dream of her.
She said to me, "You will always be my girl."