Gabriel Mares was an amazing man – kind, loving, curious, brilliant, accomplished. When he died unexpectedly, he left a hole in our lives that can never be filled. We never imagined this could happen when he was so busy and apparently so healthy. We treasure every moment we had with our remarkable and beloved son and will grieve forever the loss of all that might have been.
"When he shall die,
Take him and cut him out in little stars,
And he will make the face of heaven so fine
That all the world will be in love with night
And pay no worship to the garish sun."
Un día llegaste a mi vida
un día te fuiste
Vivir con tu ausencia
es morir cada día
Ya no hay otro día
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Leave a tributeThe death and loss of a child are frequently called the ultimate tragedy. Nothing can be more devastating. Along with the usual symptoms and stages of grief, many issues make parental bereavement particularly difficult to resolve. And this grief over the loss of a child can be exacerbated and complicated by feelings of injustice — the understandable feeling that this loss should never have happened.
The relationship between parents and their children is among the most intense in life. Much parenting centers on providing and doing for children, even after they have grown up and left home. A child’s death prevents you from carrying out your parenting role as you have imagined it, as it is “supposed” to be. You may feel an overwhelming sense of failure for no longer being able to care for and protect your child, duties that you expected to fulfill for many years.
It must be remembered that bereaved parents can mourn the death and loss of a child of any age and that it feels unnatural to outlive a child. It does not make a difference whether your child is four or forty-four when your son or daughter dies. The emotion is the same. All bereaved parents lose a part of themselves.
#1) 67 credits on 15 games publishing label by, developed by, published by Xbox Game Studios between 2002 and 2017
#2) 59 credits on 12 games published by, middleware by Microsoft Corporation between 2002 and 2017
#3) 46 credits on 8 games developed by, additional development by Turn 10 Studios between 2007 and 2017
#4) 44 credits on 8 games with additional graphics by Glass Egg Digital Media Ltd. between 2007 and 2017
#5) 44 credits on 8 games with additional graphics by Dhruva Interactive between 2007 and 2017
#6) 18 credits on 6 games with sound engine by Firelight Technologies Pty. Ltd. between 2011 and 2017
#7) 15 credits on 6 games developed by, additional programming by, additional development by Playground Games Ltd between 2012 and 2017
#8) 7 credits on 5 games distributed by Microsoft S. de R.L. de C.V. between 2007 and 2017
#9) 32 credits on 4 games with additional graphics by Valkyrie Entertainment, LLC between 2007 and 2013
#10) 17 credits on 4 games with additional graphics by ACME Digital Content between 2009 and 2017
#11) 13 credits on 3 games with additional graphics by Kaarbo Design between 2009 and 2013
#12) 13 credits on 3 games with middleware by Epic Games Tools LLC between 2002 and 2017
#13) 10 credits on 3 games developed by, published by Graphsim Entertainment Inc. between 1997 and 2005
#14) 8 credits on 3 games voice production by, additional sound by Side UK Ltd. between 2012 and 2016
#15) 6 credits on 3 games additional development by, developed by Sumo Digital Ltd (Sheffield) between 2014 and 2017
#16) 11 credits on 2 games with additional graphics by RABCAT Computer Graphics GmbH between 2009 and 2012
#17) 7 credits on 2 games with additional graphics by Virtuos Ltd. between 2013 and 2017
#18) 7 credits on 2 games with additional sound by Audio Guys Limited, The between 2013 and 2017
#19) 6 credits on 2 games with additional graphics by sample & hold Ltd between 2012 and 2016
#20) 6 credits on 2 games with motion capture by Audiomotion Studios Ltd. between 2012 and 2016
On the day he started 8th grade this year, my grand-nephew declared he wants to be a video-game programmer. I’m sure the talent is in his genes!
It's easy if you try
No hell below us
Above us only sky
Imagine all the people
Living for today
...
Imagine there's no countries
It isn't hard to do
Nothing to kill or die for
And no religion too
Imagine all the people
Living life in peace ... John Lennon
How could I have known that you'd ever say goodbye. And now I'm glad I didn't know the way it all would end, the way it all would go
Our lives are better left to chance. I could have missed the pain
But I'd of had to miss the dance
--Tony Arata (sung by Garth Brooks)
Yet all experience is an arch wherethro´
Gleams that untraveled world, whose margin fades
Forever and forever when I move.”
Ulysses – Alfred Tennyson
— THE TEMPEST
So glad that in Gabe's little life he filled it with so many wonderful things and knew so many awesome people.
What good memories of Gabe and Danny, Nathan, Tonya and Kristin - grubby little kids with muddy feet, always having a good time. Hope you are doing well and enjoying your grandchildren.
Laughed at the tribute about concert in Dallas, leaving the engine running!
He was a great guy, and I'm very sad to see that he's not with us any longer.
Birthdays don’t really count after you die, but what would have been Gabe’s 50th birthday counts a lot to the family he left behind. In the last six years he could have seen Abigail turn into a teenager and start high school. He could have seen what a great student and graceful dancer she is. He could have seen her ride bikes with her Dad. He had her pictures on his mantle and really enjoyed interacting with her. He could have enjoyed Santa Fe and the gorgeous views of clouds, mountains, and sunsets with us. He could have taken more amazing photos and composed some more music. He could have programmed more exciting games. He could have entertained his co-workers with his insight and humor. He could have seen his “little” brother and his sister, Daniel and Pat, take up “’lectric biking” to explore Norman and vicinity. He could have called us almost every day and told us about good movies to watch. He could have, and would have, kept everything in perspective with his ”first-world problem” reminders. There has been only one real tragedy in our lives and it was losing Gabriel.
My thoughts are with you so very often. Many, many times the kids and I will have a fun memory of the good times together.
Please know that we all care. The pictures are helpful, showing happiness and a good time. Love you!
Nature’s first green is gold,
Her hardest hue to hold.
Her early leaf’s a flower;
But only so an hour.
Then leaf subsides to leaf.
So Eden sank to grief,
So dawn goes down to day.
Nothing gold can stay.
-William Shakespeare
"I knew what it was like to lose someone you loved. You didn't get past something like that, you got through it."
- Jodi Picoult, Change of Heart
Oh I know, I know, I know
We're only human
But we're capable of kindness
So they call us Humankind.
--“Humankind” by Coldplay
Oh, when you love somebody
When you love somebody
Got to let somebody know
So when you love somebody
When you love somebody
Then it hurts like so
To let somebody go
…
But you're still with me now, I know
--“Let Somebody Go” by Coldplay & Selena Gomez
Genesis (2007)
It seems in a moment your whole world can shatter
Like morning dreams they just disappear
Like dust in your hand falling to the floor
Oh, how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since you've been gone
It's all too easy to take so much for granted
But it's so hard to find the words to say
Like a castle in the sand the water takes away
But how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since I've lost you
Oh, now you'll never see
Oh, you'll never know
All the things I planned for you
Things for you and me, oh
I held your hand so tightly
That I couldn't let it go
Now how can life ever be the same
'Cos my heart is broken in pieces
Yes, my heart is broken in pieces
Since I've lost you
That everyone you know someday will die?
And instead of saying all of your goodbyes
Let them know you realize that life goes fast
It's hard to make the good things last
You realize the sun doesn't go down
It's just an illusion caused by the world spinning round
--Do You Realize by the Flaming Lips
“It’s easy to be thankful for the things you’ve got.
It takes guts to give thanks for the things you’ve lost”
-from “No Hell” by Cloud Cult
"Time is but the stream I go afishing in. I drink at it; but while I drink I see the sandy bottom and detect how shallow it is. Its thin current slides away, but eternity remains.” -- Henry David Thoreau
opponent. There is some hope now that Joe Biden can bring us together, although almost half the country may not think so.
I've been looking so long at these pictures of you
That I almost believe that they're real
I've been living so long with my pictures of you
That I almost believe that the pictures
Are all I can feel
--"Pictures of You" by The Cure
“Each [victim left] behind a family that will never again be whole. I think I know what you’re feeling. You feel like you’re being sucked into a black hole in the middle of your chest. It’s suffocating, your heart is broken and there’s nothing but a feeling of emptiness right now. For most of you, you weren’t able to be with there when you lost your beloved family member. … I know there’s nothing I or anyone else can say or do to dull the sharpness of the pain you feel right now, but I can promise you from experience, the day will come when the memory of your loved one will bring a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eyes.” We remember Gabe with a smile and laughter although the tears still come.
TURN AGAIN TO LIFE
If I should die and leave you here a while,
be not like others sore undone,
who keep long vigil by the silent dust.
For my sake turn again to life and smile,
nerving thy heart and trembling hand
to do something to comfort other hearts than mine.
Complete these dear unfinished tasks of mine
and I perchance may therein comfort you.
By Mary Lee Hall
My music is not what you liked, but the lyrics of Argentine folklore, especially the Chalchaleros, can bring some tranquility to anyone. Here's part of one of their zambas that can apply to the loss of a son:
"La noche trae su nombre
el viento trae su voz.
Muchas lunas cruzaron el río,
detrás de la ausencia lo busca mi amor
Agua que pasa no vuelve a pasar
dice un viejo cantar;
el instante perdido no vuelve,
la estrella que muere
ya no brillará;
el camino me roba su sombra
me grita su ausencia,
me da soledad"
Translation: The night whispers your name, the wind sometimes sounds like your voice, many moons have crossed the river since your absence looking for your love;
Water that streams by will not do so again, as an old song says, the moment that passes does not return, the shooting star will never shine again. The road steals even your shadow and cries out your absence, it fills me with loneliness.
You are missed.
663 days from your death to this "imaginary" 46th birthday. You don't age when you're dead, but had you lived you would have been able to enjoy the 863 days, 15,912 hours, 954,720 minutes, 57,284,200 seconds of your life unlived. Alas, it's gone and we have endured those millions of seconds missing you as if it were your first second of eternity. “We are all alone, born alone, die alone, and—in spite of True Romance magazines—we shall all someday look back on our lives and see that, in spite of our company, we were alone the whole way. I do not say lonely—at least, not all the time—but essentially, and finally, alone. " (Hunter Thompson). We are but a small flame burning between two infinities. We miss your flame.
You were born into a strange world.
Like a candle, you were meant to share the fire.
I don't know where we come from, and I don't know where we go.
But my arms were made to hold you, so I will never let you go.
Cuz you were born to change this life.
You were born to chase the light.
You were born...
from "You Were Born" by Cloud Cult
August 30 should have been Gabe’s 46th birthday, but he only had 44 years to live his life. He was a loving, gentle person who immersed himself in his work and his interests in music, math, nature, history, the universe. He did a lot in 44 years, but also planned to do so much more. His sudden death is a constant reminder to me that none of us can take today for granted. Before he died, I thought I had a reasonable handle on the transient nature of life, but was I ever wrong! I remember at age 35 thinking I probably had at least that many years ahead of me; same at age 44. There was no urgency to get everything done because I had so much more time to do it. There is no time guaranteed to any of us. Today better be what I want my life to be because I might not get another chance tomorrow. My baby should not have died before I did, but there is nothing to do but accept it and be thankful for the 44 wonderful years we had.
It's easy to be thankful for the things you've got
It takes guts to give thanks for the things you've lost
-from No Hell by Cloud Cult
I laid my mind down in the creek,
and watched it float to nowhere.
Now I’m thinking of you everywhere.
I gave my bones back to the trees.
so when you hear the breeze, you...
you know I’ll never leave you.
And though your hand I’ll never get to hold,
Just give me one more chance to say,
“I love my baby so… Come home.”
-from Come Home by Cloud Cult
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PAUL , PATRICK & GABE
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Just a blip from the internet
Nowadays I just watch other people play DCS or whatever else and upload their replay on Youtube. Just happened to see what I could find on google tonight under 'mac efnet #hornet' and a google discussion (or maybe usenet) post from Gabe from a long time ago was in the results. Decided to google the name and here I am.
Condolences to family and friends of Gabe.