Harold T. Walsh has passed away.
I happened to be finishing the novel, Death Comes for the Archbishop by Willa Cather, about the time Hal slipped away. In the story, the Archbishop looked to those in his household as if he were sleeping. But, really, he was fondly remembering times from his youth and young adulthood. I was hoping that Hal was doing the same.
Hal was the kindest and best of men.
He was a philosopher, a teacher, a chemist and physicist, a silver smith, a poet, a classicist and a chef, and he was all those things to me personally. The first time I spoke with him was in the hallway of Morrill Hall at MSU. I had a question about his class, and he saw that I was studying Greek. He was delighted. We talked for a few hours that afternoon, and we spent the next 40 years intermittently in long conversations about everything under the sun. He talked me through broken romances, shitty job situations, and life choices. He even wrote me a poem once, too. When I stayed at his place for a few days years ago, he made luscious dinners every night. Later, he sent me two tins of fudge. In one tin was a piece of paper with the symbol for a man, and in the other the symbol for a woman. It took me a moment to realize that the fudge in one tin had nuts and the other tin didn't.
I have been grateful since I met him that he outlived any reasonable prediction of his life span. He had physical ailments all his life and smoked for 50 years or so, which shot his lungs. He grew up poor in Chicago, the youngest of three during the Depression, served in Germany at the end of the war eating little, which ruined his teeth. He was 6 feet 2 inches tall and never weighed more than 130 pounds. He and his wife, Carol, had planned for her to be taken care of, but in a cruel twist, she died in her 50's of cancer. He was crushed, but bore her loss stoically and returned to his typically self-contained self.
It was Hal I called in my darkest moments, both because I knew he would help and that doing so wouldn't burden him. Once, in my 20's, the future looked to me like a long, dark tunnel of suffering that never ended. When Hal answered my phone call, I asked him why people go on living. After two hours, he had me laughing and looking forward to spring semester.
Hal met my parents one summer. They thoroughly enjoyed him. He supplied some of the lilacs from his garden for my sister's wedding, and he knew and loved my brother.
Hal loved me, too. Most importantly for me, though, he believed in me. He never had an unkind or impatient word and thought I could tackle any challenge or solve any problem. He was my faithful and unrelenting cheerleader. I often felt an imposter when he sang my praises, but his confidence in me helped shore up my own and made me want to be the person he thought I was. What a gift he was!
I am ever so grateful to him for his undying kindness and friendship, and even though I'm all grown up, I'm having a hard time imagining life without his ready support. I loved him more than I can express and miss him something terrible.