"We're Better Together"

- to all my children in Spirit - William, James, Suzie, Terrence, Reilly, Peter, Sam and Cai xxx
  • 19 years old
  • Born on September 27, 1991 in Llandrindod Wells, Wales, United Kingdom.
  • Passed away on March 13, 2011 in Bath, Somerset, United Kingdom.

I created this memorial page on 1 May, 2012, in memory of my precious son, James, brother to William, Amy and Hannah, who is in our thoughts each second of the day, and will forever be in our hearts.  The world has suffered a great loss, James, but this world's loss is heaven's gain, and I know we will meet again one day.  I know you are now with your big brother, William, who I also miss so much, although I was not able to create many memories with him, as he only lived here with us for 5 days. I know too, that you have now met up with your half siblings, Suzie, Terrence, Reilly and Peter ❤

Thank you to everyone who has left such beautiful tributes, and memories of James, on this page.  It uplifts us to realise just how many lives he touched, both those of people he knew and those who never knew him alike.  We're very proud of him, and through your memories, we've come to know a side of James we never knew before.

James' Facebook Pages also contained many memories and messages left for James. Many thousands of people gathered together on those pages to offer their help and support in the few weeks my son was missing, and this great outpouring of love towards a common aim will never be forgotten by any of us, his family. 


To my dearest family some things I'd like to say
But first of all to let you know that I arrived today,
I'm writing this from Heaven. Here I shall dwell with God above
Here, there's no more tears of sadness. Here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight
Remember that I am with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through
God picked me up and hugged me and He said "I welcome you.

"It's good to have you back again,
you were missed while you were gone,
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly, you are part of my plan
There's so much that we have to do to help our mortal man."

God gave me a list of things that he wished for me to do
And foremost on the list was to watch and care for you
And when you lie in bed at night, the days chores put to flight
God and I are closest to you . . in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth and all those loving years
Because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears
But do not be afraid to cry, it does relieve the pain
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

1 wish that I could tell you all that God has planned
If I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand
But one thing is for certain though my life on earth is o'er
I'm closer to you now than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb
But together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
When you're walking down the street and you've got me on your mind
I'm walking in your footsteps, only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go . . from that body to be free
Remember you're not going . . you're just coming here to me.

Posted by Vanda Bubear on 14th February 2019
Happy Valentine's Day, James, for 2019. Loved and missed as always. I'm thinking of you this day, my son With sadness that's unspoken As I mark another Valentine With a heart forever broken {-----{------@
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 31st December 2018
Happy New Year James. 2019, and you're 27 years old. Forever 19. Love and miss you xxx
Posted by Donna James on 27th September 2018
Happy birthday James, lots of love ❤️ xxx
Posted by MaryLou Stripling on 27th September 2018
Happy Heavenly Birthday Sweet James. Enjoy that beautiful party in heaven and send a loving sign down to your family <3
Posted by Iris Kizler on 27th September 2018
To my beautiful grandson, my Special Heart. Love and miss you always, and forever in our thoughts. I look forward to meeting you again one day. I will make you that apple pie again. Lots of love and hugs, from Nan xxx
Posted by Michael Bagan on 27th September 2018
Happy 27th Birthday James, thinking of you and your family today.xx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 27th September 2018
Happy 27th Birthday in Heaven, James. Love and miss you ❤
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 1st September 2018
Say Happy Birthday to your grandad, James xxx He is also sorely missed and loved with all our hearts. To think it's been 21 long years since we last saw and heard him. He is, and remains, a hero to us all, and a wonderful man, the best role model you could ask for. Taken far too young at 71 years old. He should have had many more years spent with my mum, growing old together. Love and kisses to you all up there - throw a good family celebration and think of us. We'll be there in Spirit <3
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 15th July 2018
I lost my child today. People came to weep and cry, as I just sat and stared, dry eyed. They struggled to find words to say, to try and make the pain go away. I walked the floor in disbelief. I lost my child today. I lost my child last month. Most of the people went away, some still call and some still stay. I wait to wake up from this dream. This can't be real. I want to scream. Yet everything is locked inside. God, help me, I want to die. I lost my child last month. I lost my child last year. Now people who had come, have gone. I sit and struggle all day long, to bear the pain so deep inside. And now my friends just question, Why? Why does this mother not move on? Just sits and sings the same old song. Good heavens, it has been so long. I lost my child last year. Time has not moved on for me. The numbness it has disappeared. My eyes have now cried many tears. I see the look upon your face, "She must move on and leave this place." Yet I am trapped right here in time. The song's the same, as is the rhyme. I lost my child......Today
Posted by ENU SINGH on 4th April 2018
James, Today is a dark day for us for having lost such a beautiful person from the face of this earth. Such a beautiful person is heaven “s gain. I so deeply wish you were here to illuminate this earth with your lovely personality and made this a better place to be. Lots of love to you wherever you are. Keep shining precious one.
Posted by Iris Kizler on 4th April 2018
Happy Memories of a beautiful grandson. My candle is lit, precious James. My thoughts are always with you, my grandson so sorely missed and such a shining light in our hearts <3 Love you always, precious heart. Nan xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 4th April 2018
Today marks another year, James, since they found you in the river. You had been missing for 3 weeks. I remember your sister Hannah picked up the phone, at about 6:00 am, and I could see her face visibly crack up as the police explained what had happened. Not able to believe it, I asked whether they were SURE it was you. Yes, said Hannah, because they could still see the blue make-up on your cheeks, even though you had been in the water for 3 weeks. The make-up you had worn for the masquerade ball. I remember my mum getting out of the car that morning, visibly shaking, and calling out in the street "No, no, not my James", over and over again. I remember my brother having seen you in a very lucid dream that very morning, walking down the road towards him, and telling him you were coming home. And come home you did, on that very morning.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 30th March 2018
Happy Easter James xx You would have loved all the chocolate. And the Capri Sun. Memories of so many happy Easter times past, spent walking up in Fairyland, dipping in the brook (weather allowing) and easter egg hunting. I know you can do all these things up there on the ranch, and in that lovely house by the sea. Send us some signs - let us visit you at these places so we can see for ourselves. Love you and miss you, more as the years go by xoxoxo Mum
Posted by ENU SINGH on 13th March 2018
James, I have been thinking about you with lot of fondness while looking at your lovely pictures. I will always think about you just like my own son Abhijeet till I live. And just like your mother I too hope to see you on the other side. I send you all my love and hugs to your mom
Posted by Barbara Paronto on 13th March 2018
James, I think of you every time I hear "Halo". You will always be remembered... Even those of us who never actually met you, remember you.
Posted by Marian Flagg on 13th March 2018
James.. sending love to you and your family xx
Posted by Moya Griffiths on 13th March 2018
Love & thoughts with all your family on your Angelversary James, continue to fly high young man resting in Love xxx❤xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 13th March 2018
A bright light doused too soon. So much promise never realised. You would have been a light to this world. Now, more than ever, we need that light. So many wicked things going on, and so many good people passing over to Spirit. Keep an eye on us all, James, and say hi to all the family over there. I'll meet you tonight in my dreams xxx
Posted by Donna James on 13th March 2018
Dear James, sending lots of love to you and your family to help support you all especially so during this anniversary time. Xxxx
Posted by Michael Bagan on 13th March 2018
Hi James thinking of you and all your family today.Lots of love to you all.xxx
Posted by ENU SINGH on 9th March 2018
Hi James I don’t have words enough to express that you are so loved by me. I know you so much that I will recognize you without a doubt as soon as I see you in heaven. Keep doing all the great things you are doing and keep sending some exxxtraaa love to your Mom
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 12th February 2018
The gates of memory will never close .. we miss you more than anyone knows. With tender love and deep regret .. We who love you will never forget. HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY JAMES xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 8th February 2018
25 years in Heaven little James Bulger. Rest peacefully little Angel who suffered so much ❤
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 6th February 2018
Thank you for my star, James. A wonderful experience. It made me smile, widely. Because somehow I know it was you. As I know it's you when my little Robin comes up to me on cold winter days angling for some food. Looks me right in the eye, follows me around the garden, even runs the gauntlet of barking mad Jasper the dog to get my attention. He's always there. Love you and miss you forever. Forever 19. Forever young.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 21st January 2018
Welcome to 2018 James Sorely missed and forever loved. Treasured memories xxx
Posted by Iris Kizler on 25th December 2017
To my Special Heart, my grandson James. Miss you every day and think of you all the time. I often look out the window, the way I used to, expecting to see you walking up the road from school, coming to have a drink and a sandwich at your nan's. Such wonderful memories will stay with me forever. I shall be coming over to see you soon, and you will be able to show me around. Love and hugs from your Nan xxx Give Grandad Mike a hug from me x
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 25th December 2017
Merry Christmas James, and to every one of our loved ones over there: Nan and Namp Dad William and James Susie, Terrence, Reilly and Peter Sam and Cai Bobby and Lucy The two Davids Uncle Cyril and Aunt Joan Uncle George and Aunt Agnes Uncle Tom and Aunt Grace Uncle Arthur and Aunt Joyce And all my many pets who have gone over to Rainbow Bridge over the years ... You are always so sorely missed, so very much loved, and thought of every second of each day. Till we meet again, when the party will be amazing (can you imagine?) XXXOOOXXX
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 2nd November 2017
To my William. Almost 31 years ago, on Bonfire night, you were born at 27 weeks - 13 weeks too early. You were a good weight (3.5 Ibs) but you weren't meant for this world. You fought so hard to be free of the tubes and ventilator in the SCBU. You used to pull out the tubes by flailing your little arms about. "Leave me be. I'm not meant to be here long". And I knew, as only a mum can know, that you weren't for this world and I would never get to take you out of that hospital. Five days later, on 9 November, we got the dreaded 2.00 am call. Your little lungs gave out. The doctors were in tears. A priest was already there by your incubator. And we were allowed to hold you, finally, without all the tubes. You had on a preemie babygro that swamped you. And what was so obvious to me was that 'you' had gone from that lifeless wee body. The real you was now somewhere else, somewhere safe. Home. Now, 31 years on, you have your brother up there with you. I know you're great buddies. I know you would have looked like Hannah. I know you would have been severely brain damaged and possibly blind, had you lived. The autopsy revealed a large haemorrhage in your brain caused by the anticoagulants I was on for a blood clot while pregnant. I know a lot of things. Most of all I know I'll always miss you. Always love you. Always wonder how you would have looked, what you would have become. A lifetime squeezed into 5 short days. All those lost cuddles. See you soon buddy xxx Mum.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 23rd October 2017
It seems like only yesterday I rocked you on my knee, With dreams about the future and What you were going to be. You were so bright and happy Such a precious little boy, You gave your love to everyone And filled our hearts with joy. Strangers would admire you And stop to say hello, "He'll break a lot of hearts," they said, "In twenty years or so." But less than twenty years from then, What they said came true, As we were forced against our will To say goodbye to you. A life so short and unfulfilled, With so much left to go, "Why, oh why?" we ask ourselves, When we all loved you so. Life shows us many options, But whichever path we take The destination's still the same Whatever choice we make. So many questions flood our minds, "What if, and Why and How?" If we had done things differently, Would you still be with us now? I don't know what the lesson was That you were sent here to learn, But now your purpose is fulfilled It's time for you to return. When I hear the phone ring I expect to hear you say, "Alright Mom? What're you doing, Can I come 'round today?" But you don't need to ask now, You're with us every day, Within our hearts, our minds, our souls, Your memory will stay. No fear, no pain or sorrow, Can touch you anymore But the love you've left behind, Will live with us forever more. ~ Jan Andersen
Posted by Banu Mouli on 27th September 2017
James Its as if i have known you all my life Me and yr mom are very good friends now Hope you and kiru are also together along wid all our orher angels Have a blast James
Posted by Marian Flagg on 27th September 2017
Dear James, Happy Birthday ....best wishes to you and your family xxx
Posted by Iris Kizler on 27th September 2017
Happy birthdayTo my special heart grandson James, I will always miss you, you are in my thoughts every day, love you always Nan xxx
Posted by ENU SINGH on 27th September 2017
A very happy birthday to you James . As you celebrate your birthday in heaven today , do not forget to hold your mom tight today and always . You will always be remembered and always missed but I know you are there , just there where we will find you some day . Can't stop wondering how you would have looked today , what you would have become ♥️♥️♥️
Posted by Donna James on 27th September 2017
Happy birthday to you James. Thinking of you and yours especially today. Lots of love xxxxxx
Posted by Michael Bagan on 27th September 2017
Hi James Happy 26th birthday my friend, thinking of you and all your family today lots of love to you all.xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 26th September 2017
Happy 26th Birthday to my beautiful son xxx Miss you more than ever. Love you eternally. Look after your nan, your sisters and your two little nephews. Don't forget to call in on your mum occasionally. Hope you have THE best party ever up there. One day I'll be there to celebrate with you. I feel like a little lost soul wandering around endlessly searching for that missing part of me. Until we meet again James. Give your brothers, sister and grandad a big hug xxxx
Posted by Banu Mouli on 29th July 2017
Hi James I recently came to know abt kirus friend who shares yr days of birtj anf year and month too It made me shudder. Thinking of you and yr mom
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 12th July 2017
Your tree is growing so big James. So much so I asked the council to take the stake and tree guard off. Now its standing tall on its own. It's the first time I've been able to clean up the plaque and treat it with wood stain. Well we can still put flowers there because I've tied the little jug to your tree! Love and miss you more as the years pass. Can't believe its been over 6 long years since I last saw and heard you. Forever in my heart, and in my thoughts each second of each and every day. Love Mum xxxx
Posted by Iris Kizler on 30th May 2017
You were the centre of my world A grandson held so dear But now that world is shattered And you're no longer here But all you need to know today Is all the joy you brought You brightened every moment Though your life was far too short You were loved completely From the day that you were born And no-one could imagine Such a dreadful day would dawn But memories are wonderful And though they still bring pain They give us hope and keep us strong Until we meet again Precious James <3
Posted by Enu Singh on 4th April 2017
Dear James. It has been six years since you acquired your wings. Your loved ones miss you every moment of every single day . They have learnt to feel the love for you in an eternal infinite way. Plse let them know in all ways that you can think of that you are there exactly where you were. You will always be loved. Always.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 4th April 2017
Six long years, James, since they found you in that horrid river :( and not a second goes by when I'm not thinking about you. Still. All these years later. And so it shall continue. So sorely missed and so deeply loved. Such a loss to humanity, at a time when the world really needs good people, intelligent people, like yourself, who stand a chance of making things better for future generations. All the good ones seem to be leaving us, so we will be left with all the selfish ones, the greedy ones, the corrupt ones ... and what legacy will they leave to our grandchildren? It does worry me. I know you will do all you can, from where you are, to help. You have always helped me when I have asked, which is many times. From making things a bit easier in this life, to simple things like finding our car keys ... you're always there to lend assistance, big or small. I hope you're getting to do everything over there that you might have done over here, had you not been snatched away from us that cold March night in 2011. Ever the joker, the sarcastic wit, the trembling lip, the keen tennis player, athletics prodigy, singing Etta James, or acting out Jerry Springer sketches with Amy in all those southern accents. We remember the games of Balderdash where your own offerings, always hilariously funny in a very 'British' way, still managed to convince all the other players yours was the true meaning of whatever it was. We remember the games of 'Consequences', both the written and drawn versions, where your contribution was, again, hilarious. What are we missing since we lost you? Everything. Nothing less. And the world has lost someone who would have contributed greatly, to the laughter, to the wisdom, to the knowledge and, most importantly, to the love. God Bless you son <3
Posted by Moya Griffiths on 13th March 2017
Thinking of you James & your family Sending love to the gateway to Heaven For you
Posted by MaryLou Stripling on 13th March 2017
Thinking of you James and your family upon your angelversary today <3
Posted by Iris Kizler on 13th March 2017
to my precious heart grandson James, it's been six years since you passed over and I miss you every single day I know I will see you again one day, please look after Auntie Joan, lots of love and kisses from your Nan xxx
Posted by Enu Singh on 13th March 2017
Hey James Six years since you have moved ahead on your journey. I don't know you , but I have thought about you ever so often . This day , I wish you all the happiness wherever you are. Give lot of signs to your mom and all your loved ones. You will always be loved, always missed.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 13th March 2017
Love and kisses from Mum xxx Love and miss you more with each passing hour :(
Posted by Michael Bagan on 13th March 2017
Hi James my friend,my thoughts are with all of you today. Lots of love to you all.xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 12th March 2017
Love and miss you my beautiful young man, forever 19. Six years have gone by since we last saw you, or heard your voice. Yet not a second goes by when I'm not thinking of you. The pain never ends. The longing increases with time. There is no let up for me, nothing that I can do to make it all better. My only source of comfort is knowing you live on, and that you still exist, in a place that's better than here. I know you look down on us, sometimes in frustration, mostly in love, and that you help us through the difficult times. Oh what lessons you have taught me. Always so bright and clever, so quick-witted and sharp. Why on earth did I ever let you go to Bath, to that awful place? A place where, STILL, young men are being taken by that river, despite everything. No lessons learned. No shame. Love you always and forever. My special heart. My son.
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 14th February 2017
Happy Valentine's Day James xxx Hope you have a wonderful time on the ranch - BBQ and barn dance, perhaps? I hope Aunt Joan is rested enough to join you there. She's been gone a week, and to us it feels like a lifetime. Where is the Boss of the World? She is now Boss of Heaven xxx
Posted by Vanda Bubear on 9th February 2017
Rather than mourn the loss of the flame Instead celebrate how brightly it burned

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