I met Jeff after moving to San Francisco a few years ago and was able to enjoy his company on a few occassions, talking about sports, music, etc. I remember having an epicly long conversation about headphones that I wish had been transcribed.
One of the last times I hung out with Jeff was for the Primus NYE Drum Spectacular show from 2014. After I had purchased my ticket, we found out my wife was pregnant so she couldn't make it to the show. I knew Jeff was a big Primus fan and I asked if I could tag along with his crew. He, of course, said yes and I got to hang out with him and his friends for the show.
At one point in the show there was a guy dressed up in a Monkey outfit who was causing a commotion in our general area, knocking into people, flailing around, and just not someone you wanted in your vicinity as you are watching a show. While most of us were telling the Monkey guy to chill out or else get out, Jeff showed the patience of actually talking with the guy and getting him to calm down by showing kindness. It was a genuine and surprising way to go about it but it was the right way and it was Jeff's way. He calmed the guy down and we all had a great show.
I know that Jeff was a big Primus fan and had seen many of their NYE shows. This show was perfect for Jeff, being a drummer, as it was a "Drum Spectacular" with an entire second set featuring dual drum kits with Tool's drummer being the second drummer. I could tell that he was in heaven watching two master drummers playing Primus songs (plus a Hot for Teacher Van Halen cover right after it hit the new year).
I wish I got to spend more time with Jeff when he was here but at least I got to share that night with Jeff where he opened his arms to someone flying solo at a show and able to calm crazy monkey costume guys.
Jeff, you are sorely missed and we had a few cheers for you this past weekend to celebrate your 40th.
I know that you are sitting on the big drum kit in the sky.
Respect,
Al K.