地球还在转,日子还得过,安好!
2022.1.6wan
hui
1)在梨城乡邻的大力支持下,圆满完成为Houston Food Bank募捐的目标
(转眼又是一年,无尽的思念都化作平凡的琐事。 带来闻德这个寒假的所作所为以及来自亲友们对他的关爱,只是想告诉你,我们过得很好。)
The window near my desk cracked exactly the time you left us. I wanted to keep it that way as it may mean something I could not understand well. But I have to replace it today as neighbor reminded me or complained about it in the name of safety.
BTW, Wende and I will revisit the Orlando DisneyLand, Sea World, and Universal Studios this Spring Break.
We miss you and we are doing fine.
成年人做事难免要回答“Why, What, How”,今天就在这里说说我为什么跑马吧。
我不讳言我起先是因为你才开始长跑的。你原来喜欢快走喜欢在微信运动圈晒步数,即使两次入住MD Anderson之后也如此。处理完你的后事之后,经伯能推荐,我开始了长跑,作为一个纪念方式和运动习惯的传承。你知道的,在我学习开窍之后,在学校里我唯一犯怵和补考过的就是体育了。很多事情如果你需要做就去做,无论喜欢与否都无妨,过一阵子有进步了自然也就会喜欢了。我第一次跑是2017年1月30日伯能带着我跑,20分钟2.6公里,累得半死不活的。那个时候我静息心率也很高在85-90,经过11个月的认真训练,现在静息在55-60,这次半马也很不错。可能是个人训练一段时间都可完成半马,成绩好于1:56:31的也多如过江之鲫,但在首半马前提出目标并高质量完成的,实在不多。你常说我灵动有余沉稳不足,长跑(以及木工)是很好的磨性子的活动,我想告诉你的是,如果需要,我可以像你一样沉稳的,并且我会一如既往的可靠的。
练习长跑这一年,最幸运的是我无病无伤,连伤风感冒都没有过,也没有初跑者经历过的小到水泡、灰趾甲,大到肌肉拉伤、跑步膝之类。另外我的尘螨过敏也明显好多了,说不定再跑一两年就彻底好了。
我跑步的另一个理由是为闻德而跑。为人父母者理所当然地应是孩子的role model,但我在这方面做得不算太好,包括我的职业选择。他有次问过一个比较tough的问题“why you need a PhD to be house flipper or something?” 我当时的回答是“I don’t. But with a PhD I have the freedom to be anyone I can be to balance the work load and family responsibility but not forced into something to make a living” 我一方面高兴他思考这方面的问题,另一方面也觉得他这个问题和䅗大紧的“清华vs蓝翔”的论调有异曲同工之妙,同样也有“何不食肉糜”的成分。我当时如果给他说“如果没有PhD你娃现在多半还在与我共饮沱江水呢。我可能在养鱼,闲时喝茶打麻将,那样的生活我未必不能过,但你今天参加spelling bee比赛明天打Nintendo Switch 的新游戏可能性就不大了”,他多半理解不了。对闻德这孩子身教比言传好,说教不太好使,中文讲深了他不懂,英文讲深些可能还讲不过他。我这一年的长跑训练他是看在眼里的,我只想通过这个例子告诉他,设立一个可实现的目标(半马破二而不是全马破二),并持之以恒地为这个目标而努力,有多少汗水就有多少收获。相信他会慢慢体会到。
接下来,我明年希望完成一次高质量的全马,了个心愿,再往后可能花两三年提高速度,每年参加一两次半马检练一下训练成果,再以就纯粹为跑而跑了。
假如人生能够留下
可以延续的记忆
我一定选择感激
如果在我临终之前
还能发出声音
我一定会说一句谢谢你
如果生命之重可以
用我双手托起
你定是我生命的精灵
如果爱能让我们
永远在一起
我一定对它说句谢谢你
谢谢你
你搂着我的伤痛
抱着我受伤的心
在迷乱尘世中
从来未曾说放弃
你牵着我的手
走进明天的风雨
不管前路崎岖你从来坚定
谢谢你
让我可以在平凡世界
发现我自己
不管是否有阳光照耀
我依然美丽
你让我明白爱你
就是爱我自己
你让我学会珍惜生活里的
点点滴滴
转眼就是半年,坟头已长新草。我和闻德都挺好的,他以前的饭量和你差不多,现在基本上和我差不多了,也越来越懂事了。我累积跑步有700公里了,也算慢慢入门了,报了明年1月休斯顿的半马,你以前总说我做事缺长性,但是这个慢跑我肯定会坚持下去的,计划每年跑一个休斯顿的半马。
Call me the April Fool who dared to try a 20-kmish running without enough preparation. When your speed dropped quite a bit, it is your body telling you" Easy, buddy". It is a signal to stop. Therefore I stopped at 16.61 km. There are two many reasons to finish the first half-Marathon today, the first Qingming in memory of the beloved, two weeks after her burial, first accumulated 200-km, you name it. However, keeping saying "Run Forrest, Run" won't land you there. Marathon is a sports which requires respect, energy storage, and right training. It is the biology, one of these things you can not resist in the universe. It is pretty good to push youself out of comfort-zone a little bit, though. I will reach that point soon.
From ashes to ashes, from dust to dust.
You'll rise again, in this I'll trust.
You're in our hearts, 'till the end.
We will meet again, depart my friend.
You may be gone, but I know you're near.
In my heart, I hold you dear.
My only hope, in peace you'll rest.
I still miss you, I bet you guessed.
I'll see you soon, it's a must.
Ashes to ashes, dust to dust.
By Kev Elmer
闻德昨天参加学区的Quiz Bowl(比赛分两部分:general trivia和super quiz),他参加的是general trivia,拿了个人的年级第一,他所在的小组拿了学区的第二名;另外他们班拿了super quiz 的年级第二名;他们学校拿了个今年学区quiz bowl的总分并列第一, 可以进入下个级别的比赛。
我也不知道quiz bowl翻译成中文是什么,大概可以叫百科知识竞赛,general trivia不限定主题,super quiz会限定主题(去年和今年的主题是第二次世界大战WWII)。比赛形式general trivia比较简单,每位参赛者100个选择题,四个人一个小组,最后以个人和小组成绩决定名次;super quiz以8人一个小组,每人5题,每题限时10秒,最后以小组成绩决定名次;如果俩个小组成绩一样,加赛决定胜负。
他昨晚上比赛结束回家,第一件事就是去跟景春说,“妈妈我今天去比赛,拿了两块奖牌回来,你开心吗?” 妈妈自然会很开心的。
景春享年45岁,有45位来宾参加她的追思会, 摄影师返回的他自认清晰的追思会照片也是45张, 真是巧合啊。
45位来宾中,有几位我不得不单独提一下。1)景春生前癌友潘先生夫妇,他们真不该去的, 他们这段时间应该在家休息的,我劝过他们,花篮到了,心意到了就行了,他们到场让我不禁热泪盈眶,也心存感激和愧疚。2)闻德学校GTA team 的老师们,我提前给她们说过这是Mandarin only 的追思会,送个花篮就行了。结果除了一位老师出差,其余5位一起来了。因为住院,景春没有机会和这几位老师有任何交集,但她们来是想告诉景春,闻德有我们照看,你安心去吧。
景春,安息吧。
你是我最苦涩的等待
让我欢喜又害怕未来
你最爱说你是一颗尘埃
偶而会如戏剧的飘进我眼里
宁愿我哭泣 不让我爱你
你就真的像尘埃消失在风里
你是我最痛哭的抉择
为何你从不放弃飘泊
海对你是那么难分难舍
你总是带回满口袋的砂给我
难得来看我 却又离开我
让那手中泻落的砂像泪水流
风吹来的砂 落在悲伤的眼里
谁都看出我在等你
风吹来的砂 堆积在心里
是谁也擦不出的痕迹
风吹来的砂 穿过所有的记忆
谁都知道我在想你
风吹来的砂 冥冥在哭泣
难道早就预言了分离
风吹来的砂 落在悲伤的眼里
难道早就预言了分离
We made a fun road trip to great smoky mountain in Oct, 2010, together with Zhixi's family. We played pool, cooked breakfast, hiked beautiful trails, and had a lot of laughter like a big family. These memories will never fade.
I recently read a book, chasing daylight. In the book the author elaborated his thoughts about life, family and career during the last few months of his wresting with terminal brain cancer. One of his cherished virtues is commitment. The same quality applies to Sunny who demonstrates this virtue in her daily life. She is an outstanding example of persistence and fortitude, and exhausts her strength to live up to the best of life.
I worked as a junior colleague with Sunny in the early days after their relocation from Virginia. I witnessed her commitment to her career and family. Too often I saw her working over the weekends, either cracking codes or writing papers. We were invited to her home where kids flocked around and Sunny always took well care of everyone. She was a model of a loving mother, caring partner and helping friend.
We had a lunch together after she moved to Houston. Sadly that’s our last cross of our paths, but as usual she was strong, positive, and warm hearted. We mourn the loss of a dear friend, a well-respected scientist, and a beloved wife and mother. But I choose to believe she lived her full life, and she is watching us in a better place. Sunny, RIP.